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The Worst Dating Advice EVER!

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Dating advice can be both good and bad. Here is some of the most awful dating advice you can get – so be sure to steer clear of these!

What She Said:

For women, the worst dating advice is anything that has to do with the book “The Rules.” There should never ever be rules when it comes to dating. When you allow rules and try to have them you just end up not being yourself and you end up playing games. Last time I checked, we aren’t in elementary school, so stop it! If you want to ask a guy out, do it! If you want to call a guy, ext a guy or sleep with a guy, DO IT! Pay no attention to what you think others thinking you should do Dating is fun, so have fun!

For guys, I think the worst advice is the idea that they should be super sweet. Yes, you should be a gentleman but don’t let her control the date/relationships or make all the decisions. That being said, don’t be super cocky either. Respect her but respect yourself first. There is a fine line between dorky and cocky. Hopefully you are man enough to know how to be yourself.

What He Said:

Worst dating advice ever? Anything ever said on Oprah, or anything ever written in a book by women. Ever notice that most women who write dating books are single and or have a strong “I hate men” vibe to them? Well, you should’ve. Cause they do. Not only that, they have no idea what they’re talking about.

They’re trying to make sense of men from a female perspective. That’s stupid. Those “the rules” chicks are man hating evil demons from hell. I’m being too nice, I know. I should really say what I think, but seriously. They should be stoned to death by women everywhere, because they make men run like hell. We’re not afraid of commitment, we’re afraid to committing to those women.

Know what else is stupid, all those sell out men, who are lying to women under the guise of “telling it like it is (Steve Harvey and that “Men Are from Mars” dude, I am looking your direction.) They make us seem like dogs and that we need to be trained or fixed, or whatever. It’s not true. You don’t need to fix anyone, and you shouldn’t wait an arbitrary number of dates in order to get a guy to stick around or be faithful. That’s the worse dating advice ever heard.

Truth is, you should have sex with someone when you feel like it. When it feels right is when it’s right to sleep with someone. Could be seven dates in, could be seven minutes in. When it’s right, it’s right. There’s some sort of myth out there that if you withhold sex from a man, somehow you’ll get him to stick around longer. That’s like saying starving people will stay somewhere where they know there is no food.

The opposite is true. The sooner you sleep with a dude, the better in terms of keeping him around. Maybe he won’t stick around, but that is on him, and has nothing with when you sleep with him. If he’s going to bolt, he’s going to bolt and why not get some anyway? He might be really good at it, and it’s never really that bad.

For guys, don’t buy into feminism. There’s nothing wrong with women earning more and being equal, but at the end of the day, it always boils down to “Me Tarzan, you Jane.” All women want to be led, whether they know it or not. That’s why they love bad boys, at least for a while. They take charge, they know who they are, they make no apologies for it, they are exciting and unpredictable. They usually wind up treating girls crappy, so don’t model that part, but model the rest. Women want a man to do all those things and rock their world.

They say you should be yourself. That’s loser talk. Nobody ever got laid “being themselves.” You can only get some “being your best self.” You should be true to yourself, but always be at your best, inside and out. Make it easy on yourself too. The worst dating advice a guy ever got is “it’s whats on the inside that matters.” Yes, that’s important, but she’s never going to see if it if you look like a morbidly obese serial killer. Get nice clothes, get your hair did, get in the gym, make your outside a reflection of the inside. Women love a great visual as much as men do. (Don’t believe me? Two words: Magic Mike. I rest my case).

How To Get Her Phone Number

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Dating tips are essential if you want to score with the ladies. Here are some excellent suggestions to snag any girl’s phone number you want!

There is a misconception that you must talk to a woman for a long period of time before you’re allowed to get her number. There is nothing wrong with asking women for their phone numbers after only a very short conversation. After conversing for five minutes you could pull out your phone and say, “What’s your number?”

Be Confident

Don’t say submissive things like: “You’ve probably got a boyfriend, right? No? Well, then can I maybe please have your number?”

You may be thinking, “If she really likes me she’ll give me her number, won’t she?” Well, no. As you may remember, women are always checking to make sure you’re the confident, masculine man you project yourself to be. It’s part of the “the test.”

FACT: Masculine men know what they want and know how to get it

Masculine men don’t beg or plead for what they want. They command respect and expect everyone to comply with their requests. The simple mistake of asking humbly for her number gives her hundreds of opportunities to avoid your request and to figure out that you’re not the man she thought you were.

Instead, when you expect her number, you communicate that you’re a man who knows what he wants, and knows how to get it.

What If She Doesn’t Give It To You?

When you start putting your new knowledge into practice you’ll make mistakes – everyone does. Resistance during the initial meeting is normal. When you start to use this information, by understanding the excuses women might give, you can be prepared with your own responses and possibly save many hours.

There are only two reasons why a woman would avoid giving out her number:

  1. She’s in a relationship.
  2. She isn’t attracted to you.

Understanding the reasons, let’s look at the four major excuses women use.

Excuse #1 – “Why You Don’t Give Me YOUR Number?”

Don’t buy into this common trap. Women almost never call men first because, as discussed before, men are supposed to be the leaders. They should control every step of the dating process. Continue to ask her for her number. If she doesn’t want to give it to you, don’t give her your number, because you’ll just be wasting your time.

A woman says, “Why don’t you give me your number?” To the misguided man this means, “She’s interested and will call me” But it actually means, “I don’t feel a connection to you and want to get out of this situation as quickly and as easily as possible.”

Excuse #2 – “I’m Really Busy With Work/School/Commitments At The Moment”

This can be her subconscious mind really trying to stay away from men she doesn’t know well or feel comfortable with. The best way to deal with this is setting up a date on the spot. Say something along the lines of: “That’s OK – I understand, I’m really busy myself, but everyone’s got 20 minutes for coffee, no matter how busy they are, haven’t they?”

Excuse #3 – “I Have A Boyfriend”

This excuse can mean two things. She actually has a boyfriend and is happy with her relationship, or she doesn’t have a boyfriend but wants you to leave her alone. This is usually a lose–lose situation, because if you persist in asking her out, it reinforces her choice by telling herself you have no respect for a woman already in a relationship. Take the excuse “I have a boyfriend” as a sign to thank her, have a laugh and move on, no hard feelings.

Excuse #4 – “Why Don’t We Swap?”

Why would a woman want your number in return? Most likely so she can see who’s calling and avoid answering the phone if she doesn’t find the caller interesting. Let’s say you successfully get the woman’s number, now it’s OK to give her your number in return, right?

Wrong! You don’t want a woman identifying your number. Although this may seem strange, the fact is a woman doesn’t need your number. If you call her three times while she was working she’ll see: “three missed calls from John.”

Letting her know that you’ve called three times doesn’t look too good if you want to appear as an independent, strong and masculine male. Instead it makes you seem clingy and desperate. Women would rather wait for you to call again. So remember not to offer her your number at all. If she asks for it, just say she doesn’t need it, or say, “Na, just give me yours.” It’s that simple. If you don’t want to give her your number – and I recommend you don’t – just let her know.

Women don’t really want to lie. But after years of experience with boys they aren’t attracted to, they’ve engineered an under-the-radar method to avoid socially awkward situations they’d rather not deal with.

While some of these dating tips seem tricky and complicated, just understand that what women say isn’t always what they mean. Identifying the common responses and resistances lets you know whether you should invest your time further, or whether she isn’t interested at all, but is just being nice to avoid an awkward confrontation.

How To Have A Great Date Night With Your Partner

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Dating tips just aren’t for singles – they can help couples improve their relationship and make their sex life hot again. Try these killer date ideas.

Date night – we all know they’re important for anyone in a long term relationship. Date nights are crucial to the overall health and success of your relationship. But how do you have a really, really great one? What dating tips do you need to take your date nights from good to great?

What She Said:

Having a great date night takes effort. If you are in a long term relationship, you never want to get too predictable or too comfortable. To avoid boredom on your date you need to do something expected at an unexpected time. For example. if you always go out on Saturday, why not switch it up and go out on a date on a Tuesday. Or maybe you can surprise them at work and bring them lunch. Little changes will surprise and delight your other half. most importantly, you should do something you know your man would love to do but it ight not be your first choice.

Get tickets to his favorite sports team. Or instead of going to a restaurant you always go to, find a hole in the wall pub. If he always pays, why not pick up the check and take him out on a date! Tell him the time and pick him up. Drive him to the place and pay for everything. Its a super sweet gesture that will make your man feel loved! But if you do take him out, make sure he knows that he is required to put out at the end of the date.

What He Said:

The most important way to have a great date night is to have a date night in the first place. Pick a night of the week, or month or whatever and make that date night in your day planner. Set that date night in stone. Let nothing get in the way of it. Not friends, not family, not kids, nothing! You must ruthlessly protect date night from all threats, foreign and domestic. Yes, it may seem extreme, but it’s for a reason.

There are many legitimate reasons you may think you should cancel or reschedule your date night. But if you wait to the right time for date night, it’s never going to happen. Life happens so fast and before you know it, skipping one date night turns into skipping several and then you wonder why your relationship is in trouble.

Don’t let it get there. Have date night, no matter what.

After you’ve established your date night routine, it’s important to break it. The biggest threat to date night aside from not having it at all is allowing it to get stale and predictable. It could be something big like a weekend trip somewhere or something simple, like driving to the fancy pat of town and having coffee.

Another great way to spice up date night is to go back to the beginning. If you’re in the phase of your relationship where you’re having “date night” it’s safe to say you’re past the honeymoon phase. That’s natural, but that doesn’t have to mean the relationship gets stale and boring. Think back to your favorite memories from the early days of your relationship.

Recreate them whenever possible, and if you really want to add fireworks, try combining them (think sex in the backseat of a car in public while on vacation, for example). It’s worth the effort and even better, you’ll find yourself creating new, exciting memories and adding spark and sizzle to your relationship.

Date night is like the booster rocket attached to your relationship. It will help your relationship break the atmosphere and take things to the next level. You don’t just have one booster rocket attached to your space shuttle of love. You have several. They each burn for a while, then they run out of fuel and fall off.

This will keep happening until you are out of rockets. Then you go to the space station of love, get some more rockets, refuel, take some vitamin e and ginseng and then you go back out into space, ready to explore and go deeper and deeper inside of the galaxy.

That’s how it is. You can never stop having date nights, and if you’re going to have them, you might as well do it right. It’s much easier to keep your relationship going that it is to go out, filter out all the losers, perverts, sex offenders and douchebags while looking for a new relationship. Keep the one you’ve got. It’s worth it.

3 Online Dating Rules You Must Follow

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Online dating can be harrowing at times. Don’t stress though – follow these simple guidelines and you’ll soon have online dating success!

While I highly recommend that you acquire the skill of approaching women without fear in real life, online dating is another way you can start meeting women without the fear and stress of walking up to them and risking rejection.

One great way to meet women is to join some dating sites – and with millions of people worldwide looking for that perfect match, why not? Here’s the beauty of online dating sites.

  1. You join a dating site
  2. You post a profile of yourself
  3. You watch the emails come rolling in

In the past I’ve used online dating sites with great success. It’s actually pretty easy to get women to respond to your profile. You can go along with your busy life and check your emails once or twice a week, and contact the women that have already shown an interest in you. It’s a great system and one I heartily recommend, especially for men just starting out.

  1. She sends you an email
  2. You check her profile
  3. You decide if she’s someone you’d like to meet

I bet you are wondering if there are any attractive women on these sites? You’d be surprised. The Internet isn’t just for techno-whiz people any more. Nowadays, millions of people are trying out online dating services – yes, even beautiful women. There are tons of beautiful women hiding out on these dating sites.

Now, from my past experience, there are a few rules you must follow if you want to succeed with online dating sites and meet interesting women.

Trust me when I say these 3 rules are a must for online dating. I would know – I once got 3 women (all rated above 9.8) to respond to my profile in 7 days.

1. You Must Get A Paid Account

These days everyone wants something for nothing. The same goes for online dating sites. Most men think they can join these sites for free, set up a personal ad and watch the responses come flying in. Wrong! To illustrate this theory, I once did a test with two different accounts. One paid. One free.

  • The paid account got more than 7 replies in two weeks.
  • The free account had 0 views. (That means that no one even saw my profile!)

The reason you need a paid account with dating sites is because they always list the paid accounts first. Then all the free accounts show up afterwards. In fact, you’ll be lucky to get a woman to even see your free profile, let alone reply to it.

2. Never Use “Adult” Dating Websites

Thou shalt not use adult-based websites. Okay? From my own experience, these sites are full of women that seem “really” interested, but once you send them an email, you never hear from them again. You just begin to get spam emails.

I’ve found a few of these sites that actually have real women on them. So which ones are the best? The two dating sites I recommend to all guys are www.Match.com and www.AmericanSingles.com.

Match.com

Match.com is simply the biggest and most established online dating site on the entire Internet. It’s professional and it’s affordable. What I really like about Match.com is the advanced search capabilities.

AmericanSingles.com

AmericanSingles.com is a really cool site. And no, you don’t have to live in America to use this site. (Anyone around the world can use it.) What’s great about this site is the ability to see how many people have viewed your profile, and actually search through and see who each person is. With this system in place it makes it really easy to test different headlines and aspects about your profile, and after a month or so you can see which changes received the most responses – a very cool feature.

3. You Must Include Photos Of Yourself

Always include a great photo of yourself when you create your profile. It’s interesting to see how different two photos can represent you.

The problem is, guys think they know which photos women will like the most. This is a big mistake. Only women know which of your photos look the best. So why not ask them? There’s a great little site that I’ve been using for profile photos called HotOrNot.com Basically all you do is create an account, upload your photo and watch women rate it. Over time you’ll get a great indication of your best photos.

A few guidelines when choosing photos:

  • Smile in your photos. If you check out HotOrNot.com you’ll notice that most guys in their photos aren’t smiling. Get a great genuine smile that really makes you glow and look like you’re passionate about life. Confident men smile.
  • Keep your shirt on. Please! Unless you look like a super model and have an amazing 10/10 body. Don’t dress down. Most women find this hilarious not sexy. I know, I’ve asked them.

3 Weird Ways To Flirt With A Guy

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Flirting doesn’t always have to be by the book to be effective. Try these odd flirting techniques on the next man you’re interested in – they WORK!

Flirting with a guy can seem like an easy task, but there are a lot of things that you probably don’t know when it comes to the way his mind works. A man’s mind works so differently from a woman’s that it’s difficult sometimes to anticipate what he’s going to react positively to and what he’s going to react negatively to. It’s no secret that every guy enjoys hearing compliments and getting little touches, but there are several weird ways that you flirt with a guy and have him wrapped around your finger in no time.

Men tend to respond different to different women. Not all women can pull off these techniques at first, but with a little practice you might be able to master them all. Throwing out clichés and overly done techniques is a must.

Most men know the tricks of the trade so you will need to spice up your repertoire to land somebody that you really care about. Here are 3 weird ways to flirt with a guy.

1. Dress “Flirty” (This Isn’t What You Think)

While this isn’t going to be direct flirting, a lot of women believe that they have to be dressed up in order to flirt with a guy. Men don’t like high maintenance women. Most of the time, a decent top and a ratty pair of jeans is enough to get him interested in you.

Women think that they always have to be wearing the latest fashions to have a guy interested in them. The fact of the matter is that men love a girl that can look great even when she’s just come from the gym. Don’t think that just because you have your hair in a ponytail and your forehead is riddled with sweat that you can’t be flirty.

Men are drawn to women that aren’t obsessed with how they look in public. This doesn’t give you a pass to meet his parents in your gardening clothes, but have confidence in yourself even when you’re not dressed to hit the town. Guys find this endearing.

2. Touch Him First And Then Pull Back

Don’t be afraid to make the first move if you like a man. Even it’s just a quick touch on the arm, touching him first is a sure sign that you’re interested in him. Most guys will try to break the touch barrier first. However, if you touch him first you will easily show that you’re interested.

You don’t want to seem over eager so follow the touch up with a snide remark. Make fun of him a little bit. Don’t call him out on something that is going to hurt his feelings.

Make sure that you’re doing this in a playful nature. Making fun of something that will hurt his feelings will definitely leave you in an awkward place.

Touching him and then making fun of him is called the “Push/Pull” method. This is typically used in the pick-up artist community for flirting with girls, but it also works well with guys.

Guys love a girl that gives them a little sass. You want the guy to wonder if you’re just toying with him or if you’re actually interested. This is builds mystery and tension.

3. Open Up Easily & Don’t Be Guarded

One thing that women try to do is put mystery into their persona. While this can work for a while, the last thing that you want is to have a guy wondering whom he’s dating after three weeks of knowing you. An easy way remedy this is to be open about who you are from the start. While you might not want to tell him things about yourself that could potentially ruin the future of the relationship, you should be as open and honest as possible. Don’t be afraid to be an open book, but do be careful about the type of things you discuss when you haven’t really gotten to know each other.

Telling him about credit card debt or a one night stand three years before is not the kind of open that we’re talking about. Let him know that you’re not a “game player” and that you’re interested in him. Being forward about what you want is sexy and guys love this. You can play coy for a little while, but you should let him know that it’s going somewhere.

Teasing him and then telling him that you would like to get HIS phone number is a great way to keep him interested right off the bat. Men like mystery, but not at the expense of knowing where or not they can trust you. Keep this in mind the next time that you are flirting with a guy and they will be enamored with you.