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5 Tips To Get Girls Who Are A “10!”

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Most dating tips will help you get a “normal” girl, but what if you want a woman who is a FOX? Even if you’re an average looking guy, there are plenty of ways that YOU can get a lover who other guys could only DREAM of dating! Here’s the dating tips you need to date the hottest chicks.

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Confident Women Like Confident Men

Know who you want to be and be that guy. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, and don’t get down on yourself for being who you are. Take pride and have confidence in yourself, because women who are really good looking are confident too. If you believe in the product you’re selling (which is yourself), women are going to want to buy it. You’ve got to believe you have the ability to approach and date ANY woman you want, or it’s just not going to happen. If you truly believe that you have a lot to offer any girl, your confidence will allow you to do just that – and then you’ll have the pick of women in the bar or wherever else you go to meet women!

Any Guy Can Learn To Be Amazing With The Ladies

A common misconception about dating is that if a guy is shy, or is a “nerd” that he can’t be good with women. Quite the opposite is true – ANY guy can learn to be amazing with the ladies. It doesn’t matter whether or not you’re the most attractive guy in the room, because honestly, even some of the best pick up artists aren’t underwear model material (far from it). If you think you’ll never be great with ladies because you’re “average” looking or for any other reason, you’re really only limiting yourself. Shed the negative thinking and have the confidence to know that you CAN learn to be great with women.

Be the cool guy that other people want to hang around. Work on improving yourself and have goals and a game plan. Don’t get caught up in faking it, using the right “pick up lines” or any of those “dating tips” that rarely ever work. It’s all about believing you have something great to offer (because you really do) and knowing that you can have any woman you want!

Stay Away From Anything Weird

Again, you want to stay away from any dating props or cheesy pick up lines. If it’s not authentic, women are going to smell it from a mile away. There are no magic “lines” that will instantly make women attracted to you, nor are is there anything else that will help you ask a girl out. You’ve just got to build that inner confidence and start putting yourself out there!

What you do want to do is be personable – be friendly, funny and be yourself! Don’t try to be a guy that you think women like, because that pretty much never works. Also, don’t be afraid to consider getting a dating coach. People pay personal trainers all the time to help them to work out and lose weight, a dating coach goes along the same lines – you’re having someone help train you to get the women you desire! If you don’t want a professional, enlist one of your friends (that also happens to be good with women) to help you through the process.

Focus On Being A “10” Yourself

While looks certainly aren’t everything, if you consider yourself to be a “3,” you’re never going to get the hottest woman. So implement a game plan that allows you to work towards becoming the kind of guy that other women see as a “10.”

Have Fun Dating

It’s not always about “getting the number” or meeting the woman you’re going to have a long term relationship with or even marry. Have fun dating and meeting new people – it doesn’t always have to go somewhere. Also, don’t focus so much on meeting women, but also meeting new people in general – make new friends and find people who have similar goals. If you currently have friends that aren’t supporting you or are bringing you down, it may be time to get them out of your life and make friends that help lift you up and help you meet your goals.

Finally, you want to make the decision to become good at dating. Make the command decision to learn what you need to do to become more confident with the ladies and just do it. Put yourself out there and if you have the confidence, chicks who are a “10” will flock to you!

Pandora’s Box – A Man’s Guide To The Female Mind Review

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Dating tips that are worth their salt are difficult to come by – but Pandora’s Box makes it simple to go from being a dud to being a STUD!

Do you want a system for attracting women? Wouldn’t it be nice to have a foolproof method for getting the girl every time? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are in luck. Pandora’s Box is a new attraction system developed by dating coach, Vin DiCarlo. His product promises to give you the skills required to approach and attract any woman.

Vin focuses on categorizing women by type.  Knowing a woman’s type can give you an instant advantage over other men. The theory is simple: you must take different approaches for each “type” of women for attraction to spark. Pandora’s Box will help you achieve all this and more.

The Good

If you understand that not all women are the same, you can greatly reduce your chances of being rejected! When you use the right approach for the specific type of woman you’re interested in, then your chances of success will skyrocket!

Pandora’s Box goes into a psychological discussion over the difference between men and women with heavy emphasis on evolution, self-esteem, and social dynamic, and reviews some key insights on women’s role in society and their approach to sex.  It also provides detailed analysis on 8 types of women and provides the techniques to use with each type of woman – giving you a huge advantage over other men right out of the gates!

The Bad

The one big thing missing from Pandora’s Box is that it covers little about confidence building and other inner game skills.

Having a strong inner game is the foundation to becoming a great pick-up artist. In addition to understanding the information presented in this program, guys need to have the confidence AND social skills to utilize them.

The program also relies on a memorization system, and not all of us are good at that sort of thing. Some of the information can be difficult to understand.  It might take some time and practice to memorize all the strategies and put them into practice. I suggest starting with one or two, perfecting those, and then adding the next few. If you try to master everything at one time it may seem overwhelming.

The Bottom Line

Vin DiCarlo is an expert pick-up artist with years of experience under his belt. He knows his stuff and presents it well. The information is in-depth, unique, and never before seen in the pick-up community.

The ideal customers for this Pandora’s Box are guys with “some” confidence but lacking in pick-up skills and techniques. They are the ones who will have the balls to test the material and not worry about screwing up.

If you consistently implement the strategies given, and do exactly as Vin DiCarlo does, then you’ll be heading the right direction and seeing positive results within your next few interactions with women. Remember – practice makes perfect!

The Full Pandora’s Box Review

The Pandora’s Box package has two parts:

1) Core System: A Man’s Guide to the Female Mind

The core system has 10 videos, which lay the foundation of the Pandora’s Box method. The initial four provide an overview and reiterate older concepts from his previous product, “The Attraction Code,” while the next six videos introduce the new materials.

Vin goes into great depth about his new “attraction strategy,” and focuses on understanding the psyches of the modern women. The goal of Pandora’s system is total devotion where women of your dreams will do ANYTHING for you. He is very confident of the material and even issues two warnings: 1) Don’t abuse your newfound power. It kind of reminds me of the quote from Spiderman, “With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility.” 2) Don’t become disillusioned by how cynical some women might be in playing the game, also known as “Hate the game, not the player.”

Pandora’s Box goes into a psychological discussion over the difference between men and women with heavy emphasis on evolution, self-esteem, and social dynamic, and reviews some key insights on women’s role in society and their approach to sex.

Vin then introduces three conflicts of time, sex, and relationship, and two polar opposite strategies. For those good at math, it’s basically 2 to the third power, or 2x2x2 for a total of 8 different type of women, which reminds me a lot of a personality test.

Each video comes with its transcript in a PDF file, so you can choose your preferred learning format. The PDF is probably where you will learn the fastest, but video will provide more reinforcement.

2) PhD Program: 8 Types of Women

The PhD program has 32 weekly lessons that go further in depth of the 8 types of women. It supposedly will take you game to the next level. The interviews with women from each category, and the follow up analysis are the true value from this section. They help you to put a face to each of type of woman and done in a laidback and easy to understand manner.

It can get little confusing at first juggling with acronyms like NJI, TDI, NDI and more, but the goal is to eventually automatically identify the women very early in your interaction.

The PhD program concludes on week 33 with an academic looking certification of completion, which is kind of lame. It’s more for showing off to fellow pickup artists, then to display with pride to your parents, employers, or hot dates. There’s also a behind the scene look of the Making of Pandora’s Box.

Self Esteem

The one big thing missing from Pandora’s Box is that it covers little about confidence building and other inner game skills. Having a strong inner game is the foundation to becoming a great pick-up artist. In addition to understanding the information presented in this program, guys need to have the confidence AND social skills to utilize them.

It’s like handing the keys of a Ferrari to a 12 year old: they might fall in love with it, but that doesn’t mean they have the necessary skills to drive it safely. Likewise, teaching under confident men how to pick-up women might leave them worse off than before.

If your inner game (confidence) is not rock-solid, then you may want to get another course on building confidence first and then come back for Pandora’s Box as an advanced course.

Who Should Get It?

Not every guy out there will walk away from Pandora’s Box and be successful with women. Remember, each person has a unique style that works more or less. The ideal customers for this product are guys with “some” confidence but lacking in pick-up skills and techniques. They are the ones who will have the balls to test the material and not worry about screwing up. If this is you, then you’ll definitely benefit from this program.

Experienced pick-up artists will probably get it for refinement purposes. The 8 types of women will add more insight to their understanding of women.

Finally, Does the System Work?

Yes this dating tips system works. Vin is an expert pick-up artist with years of experience under his belt. He knows his stuff and presents it well. The information is in-depth, unique, and never before seen in the pick-up community.

Will you become a master seducer overnight with this material? Probably not, however, if you properly implement the strategies given, and do exactly as Vin DiCarlo does, then you’ll be heading the right direction and seeing positive results within your next few interactions with women.

How To Pick Up Girls – For Smart Guys

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Dating tips don’t always give you all the answers you need. It can be tough if you’re an intellectual fella – because not just any girl will do. Smart men need a woman who will be able to carry on a conversation with them, as well as stimulate them emotionally, mentally and intellectually. Women like that can be hard to find – and even more difficult to pick up! Here are some excellent dating tips to get women with brains!

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Difficulty Relating To Women

Okay smart men – you know who you are. You’re the science guy, the IT guy, the accounting and finance fella. You’ve got brains and you know that if any women really got to know you, they would fall madly in love with you! Here’s the problem:

Most brilliant men are so left-brained that they have incredible difficulty relating and talking to women! So how do you overcome this?

It’s time to get in touch with the right side of your brain! Some dating tips may give you pick up lines that promise magical things will happen as soon as the words leave your mouth, but that’s just not the case here. You’ve got to get more in touch with the right side of your brain, so you can learn to relate to women better. This is not going to immediately snag you a date with the smartest (and hottest) woman, but it will help you get better at relating to women on a larger scale.

Thinking Outside The Box

To get the right side of your noggin’ more involved, you need to find some creative hobbies that allow you to get into that mode and away from the super smart, super analytical side of your brain. Poetry and art are awesome ways to get that going, but pretty much any hobby or activity that allows you to think “outside the box” will do.

It might be uncomfortable at first, or you may feel out of place, simply because your brain doesn’t work that way. You’re not an artsy-fartsy guy! But if you get just a little outside your comfort zone and start doing things that help you develop an artistic nature or engage your creativity, you’re already on your way to meeting women and being able to relate to them well enough that you can pick them up!

Be Yourself

Being yourself always works better to attract women, simply because the ladies can usually spot a fake a mile away. A lot of guys don’t understand that women want to get to know YOU, not the guy you think they want to get to know. So many men put on a fake front because they think that will help them attract more women and in the beginning, it may. But it won’t be long before she realizes that you’re not who she thought you were and she’s out the door.

Be yourself and take pride in the fact that you’re an intelligent man! Ladies love this! They want to be able to have a real, amazing conversation with a guy! So have the confidence to put yourself out there – the REAL you.

Strong Masculine Energy & Eye Contact

Having a strong, masculine energy and having the confidence to make eye contact makes a big difference when trying to get a date with a smart chick. In fact, this is one of those dating tips that applies to pretty much any woman. Ladies don’t want to be with a wimp – and unfortunately, a lot of really brilliant guys come off as “wimps” simply because they’ve never had the confidence or practice to have a strong masculine energy about them. They may have grown up as “nerds” or were made fun of for being so smart, so they sink into that persona over time – without realizing that it IS possible to be uber-smart and great with the ladies.

Your Mindset Is Important

It’s very important that you have the right mindset when it comes to attracting intelligent women. Don’t think that these smart women are beyond your reach – they are just people too! A lot of times, guys are so intimidated by hot women, they don’t approach them – but in reality, these girls really don’t get many dates because men are too intimidated to approach them! Have the mindset that these women are real people and you can connect with them – just start that conversation! Hot women are often the most friendly, down to earth people you’ve ever met.

Don’t Focus On Looks

Don’t be so focused on a woman’s looks that you fail to see the amazing personality within. Have a conversation with her, ask her intelligent questions and give intelligent answers. Get to know who she really is! It’s critical to be open and real with a woman if you want a shot at having a true relationship.

Basic Tips For Talking To Women

  • On average, women say about 15,000 words per day and guys say about 6,000.
  • Make a goal to start talking more, period!
  • Learn to relax in social situations
  • Practice talking to women! Even if it’s not the girl you’re interested in, just get more comfortable talking to women in general.
  • Learn something new every time you talk to a girl! Women are people too.
  • It’s not a failure if you don’t get with a girl, but you learn something that will help you in the future.

The 9 Booty Call Commandments

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A booty call is a relationship and like all relationships, they have their own set of rules. Are you following these nine booty call “laws?”

What She Said:

Thou Shall Keep It Clear

The best way to have fun with a booty call is to clearly define your relationship beforehand. Booty calls, by popular definition, include sex without strings. It’s late night satisfaction – the fast food of sex. So make sure you’re not emotionally attached before picking up that phone.

Thou Shall Be Experimental

Take the opportunity to whip out the Kama Sutra and explore some new positions. When the two of you ultimately transition to other relationships, you’ll have some amazing moves to wow your next lover with.

Thou Shall Be Respectful

Booty calls are for legally consenting adults – so act like one! Though it’s a casual connection, the rules of etiquette still apply. You don’t need to exchange details of your day – but treating each other with kindness is a must.

Thou Shall Use Protection

Booty calls are fun and lighthearted. STD’s and unplanned pregnancies are not – use condoms.

Thou Shall Know When To Let It Go

There will come a time when you’ll need to wrap it up. Booty call arrangements are usually short-lived. If it’s not fun anymore – or one of you has met someone else – it’s time to call it a night.

What He Said

Thou Shall Have An Exit Strategy

These things will not last forever. It will be fun for a while, not a long time. Know this in advance and plan accordingly.

Thou Shall Not Expect Too Much

This isn’t going to go anywhere. Except to the bedroom. It’s not going to turn into something more. It isn’t a deep, profound, spiritual connection. If you go into a movie with super high expectations you’ll probably be very disappointed, why? Because you’re setting yourself up for failure. If you go in with lower, more realistic expectations, then you’re more likely to have a good time and really, really enjoy yourself.

Thou Shall Get Yours

Don’t expect the other person to care about your pleasure. This isn’t love making, this is f**cking. Period. It’s fast and nasty, down and dirty. The person on the other end of the equation isn’t concerned about your feelings or making sure you have a good time, more often than not. If anything, they are concerned about getting theirs. Take ownership of your orgasm and make sure you get it, and then some. Don’t wait for anyone else to make it happen. That’s on you.

Thou Shall Not Be Unrealistic

Yes, they are probably going to be having sex with other people. No, it won’t last forever. Yes, it will end badly (if you don’t end it first). What do you expect? It’s a booty call. You can’t accept a collect call from Cambodia and then be shocked when you get your phone bill. Take ownership and accountability. You made the call or at least you answered it. There’s an upside and a downside. Weigh the pluses and minus and act accordingly

How To Get Out Of A Dating Dry Spell ASAP!

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Dating doesn’t always mean you’re going to go out with person after person – some nights, you end up alone! Here’s how to get out of your dating slump NOW!

I’m in a dating dry spell. Big time. It’s been forever. I can’t seem to break it, no matter what! It’s beyond frustrating! What can I do?

What She Said:

Be open to meeting new people, having new experiences and be willing to put yourself out there – safely!

If you’ve been in a long-term dry spell, chances are, subconsciously or otherwise, you were abstaining from a relationship to keep yourself safe emotionally. Perhaps you went through a bad breakup that turned you off from dating for a while. The long and the short of it is, you were most likely feeling too vulnerable to date, so don’t be hard on yourself.

You’ve decided you want to end your dry spell, so that’s half the battle. Now that you’re open to dating again, you’ll most likely be putting out a vibe that interested parties are sure to pick up on! Setting an intention and giving yourself a goal is a powerful way to focus on moving forward.

Be creative. Ask friends to hook you up with their single pals. Register with an online dating service. Head to the park, the gym, the library, the bars. See who’s out there. Don’t be shy about striking up conversations. Have fun flirting! You’ve got nothing to lose.

The main thing, as always, is to be happy with yourself and your life. Your joy and confidence will attract similar people – and that’s a great way to start! Remember to have fun, enjoy yourself and trust that you deserve the best.

What He Said:

Well, the obvious answers are lower your standards and/or get a prostitute. Nothing says “slump buster” like hookers and ugly chicks/dudes. Aside from that, lower the stakes. It’s not that big a deal, and it’s not going to last forever. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.

Okay, maybe that’s not the inspirational quote that you’ll see on a Hallmark card, but it’s true. It’s not that big a deal. This too shall pass.

After that, you’ll have to figure out what to do next. If you have what you want, keep doing what you’re doing. If not, you will need to do something different. Try and find your patterns and break them. Or make a list of things you swore you’d never do (ask friends to set you up, online dating, whatever) and do them, no matter how painful or awkward. Doing things different will lead to different results.

Keep an open mind and be curious. Be interested but not invested. If something works, keep doing it. If not, don’t and try something else. Wash, rinse, repeat.

You could also give up and abandon all hope. That seems to work especially for couples who think they can’t have a baby. After they give up and make peace with the fact that it will never happen, it usually winds up happening. Funny how that works. Well, funny unless it’s you. Then, well, not so much. But still people will chuckle. Behind your back.

Being frustrated or angry isn’t good. It’s helpful to a degree in that it will make you get off your ass and inspire change, but after you get to that point, they really aren’t very helpful parts of the process. They’re like booster rockets for the space shuttle. They get you to a point and then they no longer provide fuel, so you have to jettison them.