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The 10 First Date Commandments

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The first date is crucial – it can determine whether you will be seeing this person again or not. Here’s the ten essentials you CANNOT ignore!

What She Said:

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1. Thou shalt not keep your phone on the table.

You need to give your full attention to your date.  Do not text, call or check your email.  If you must text a friend, do it in the ladies room.

2. Thou shalt ask him questions about his family

You are an extraordinary creature and so is he. Do not spend the whole date talking about yourself, makes sure you ask him questions and get to know him on a more personal level.

3. Thou shalt offer to pay half

Chivalry is not dead and its super sweet when a guy will pay for the tab but common sense isn’t dead either and you should never expect a man to pay.  Even if he did ask you out, a woman should offer to pay or buy a round of drinks or leave the tip.

4. Thou shalt not talk about your ex boyfriend

Or any past relationships for that matter.  A first date is a time to start new and fresh.  The guy does not want to hear how your past relationships went sour or hear you bad mouth your ex.  Past relationships is more 3 or 4th date material.

5. Thou shalt not get drunk

A drink or two might be just what you need to calm your nerves but getting smashed on a first date is never a good thing.  By all means, have fun but do not get to the point of slurring your speech or misplacing your items, keep it classy. Besides, few first dates that end in puking have a second date.

6. Thou shalt brag about oneself

There is a huge difference between being cocky and being proud of you.  A first date is a great time to share with him some of your accomplishments, career and socially.  Show him that you have a pride in yourself and what you are doing.  Also share what you hope to achieve in the future.

You don’t need to rattle off your resume, but you should be an alpha male.  A girl who has a passion for something is always a turn on.

7. Thou shalt not treat a date like a therapy session

Maybe your roommate is a slob, or your mom yelled at you or your co-workers are lazy.  A first date is not the time to vent all of this.  You want to keep the conversation lively and positive not negative.  You also don’t want him to think that he needs to somehow make things better or fix you.

What He Said:

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There’s only ten first date commandments in the article, and she takes six. Is that the most sexist thing ever, or is the most sexist thing of all time? You decide.

8. Thou shall not read into everything.

Yes, first dates are basically interviews. With alcohol. And sex appeal (hopefully). And while it is only natural to evaluate your potential romantic partner and be aware for red flags, it shouldn’t feel like they’re sitting across the table from an IRS auditor or a CIA operative.

Try not to turn this date into an interrogation.  Don’t let this feel like it’s a bank loan application, you know? You need to know a little about the person, not a lot. You aren’t filing taxes jointly, you’re just trying to figure out if you both want a second date.

9. Thou shall not be yourself.

Look, no one wants to date you. You can’t be yourself and expect to get laid or get a second date. You need to be your best self if you want the guy, the girl, and/or the booty.

Being your best self, doesn’t mean you’re lying to them or pretending to be someone or something you’re not, it means that you are on your best behavior, using confidence and at the absolute top of your game. If you’re not, why bother?

10. Thou shall not over-complicate things. 


Men are not women. They do not have a hidden agenda. They want to find out if they want to bang you, and if you’re cool enough to be around when they’re not, and if it’s going to be too much trouble or if they will have to jump through too many hoops to get in your pants. That’s it.

Women are slightly more complicated, so to speak, but you’re not building the space station here. You’re trying to evaluate the other person and see if you want to move forward.

It’s just a date. If it’s good, or bad, it’s just a date. Do not be afraid of rejection. It should be fun, above all else, and if this one doesn’t go well, there’s always the next one!

What Your Eyes Say To A Girl During Dating

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Dating is heavily reliant on eye contact. Many consider them as balls stuck in a socket, producing eye-crusts every freakin’ morning, and unable to modify shape. The eyes can’t even change color unless irritated. Far from being spectacular, they are simply there absorbing the scene.

But consider this – more than being instruments of vision, eyes have the ability to make somebody feel self-conscious and uncomfortable at a distance. Ever been slapped just by looking at a lady a certain way?

The Eyes Say It All

  • The eyes can betray a man’s lack of sexual confidence.
  • They reveal his cluelessness as to where her clitoris really is.
  • They can say, “Wow!” quicker than a dropped jaw can.
  • They reveal how his balls ascended up his throat after ejaculating inside fertile Amy.

Through the eyes, one can invoke serious sexual intent. You can gaze into her soul and proclaim the sensual pleasures about to envelop her body. Eyes reveal your ache for her breasts and curves, they announce your confidence, competence and awareness of what’s about to happen.

One woman required her partner to keep eye contact 85% of the time whenever they are having sex. That way, she doesn’t feel like a sex toy or a glorified giver of sexual favors. They want to be seen.

If you’ve ever been accused of being passionless, unaffected and indifferent in bed – simply increase the eye contact. There might be other goodies to scope on a naked woman, but looking at her eyeballs is just as important and pleasurable.

Increase Intimacy With Eye Contact

To increase and strengthen the bond between couples, there has to be an increase in the frequency and duration of eye contacts. Psychologists have learned that the more a couple gazes at each other, the more drawn and attracted they are to each other.

Moreover, closely acquainted individuals don’t talk through their mouths, but through their eyes. It’s the “I know what you’re thinking” bit. Through eye locks, you can actually be strangers but feel like you’ve been together forever.

Men who intuitively know the power of eye contact may have deliberately disconnected by avoiding them altogether. The absence of intimacy means less complications and an easy transition to the next one-night stand.

Increase Vulnerability With Eye Contact

Just as strong as the desire to be seen, is the fear of being fully known. Eye contacts make her very vulnerable. Actually, it makes both of you vulnerable) With deep eye locks, she’s not only exposing her face, pimples and everything, but her thoughts as well.

Her eyes will be screaming her thoughts. You can see through her, beyond the façade, and that makes her feel very vulnerable. But this is really good news. Believe it or not, vulnerability is an element of hot sex.

The Big Conversation Mistake 90% Of Men Make!

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Flirting can lead to big mistakes. The biggest mistake men make when interacting with beautiful women is talking in a monotonous, emotionless, dull “filling in time” way. While starting conversations with women seems hard enough, it appears even more daunting to keep a interesting, fun conversation going.

Don’t Change Your Behavior

When men hang around with their friends they laugh, make jokes, have fun and don’t take things too seriously. But for some reason, when a man finds himself interested in a beautiful woman, he usually becomes very reserved. He stops laughing. He stops making jokes. He stops teasing. He stops having fun. He stops being flirtatious.

When in the presence of a potential date, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe he has with his friends, he suddenly becomes boring. He won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, he won’t play around like he does with his friends, and he takes things way too seriously.

Why do men change their behavior around women? They usually don’t’ even realizing they are doing it. The reason is that men are so afraid of losing their only chance with a particular woman that they turn into “Mr. Serious.” Don’t mistaken this for confidence.

Men get so nervous talking to beautiful women that they lose all creativity and can’t make interesting conversation. Fearful that they might say something rude or challenging, they resort to boring “walking on egg shells” conversations, which results in no emotion.

Remember This Simple Law

While men can tell you that it’s important to not be boring when you try to meet women, they often don’t even realize when they’re doing it.

1. When you fear loosing a woman you become cautious
2. When you’re cautious you become serious
3. When you’re serious you become boring
4. When you’re boring women aren’t attracted
5. When women aren’t attracted you don’t get a date

Men have such a strong “I must have this girl” attitude that the more they have physical attraction to a woman, the more serious and boring they become in their poor attempts to date them.

Don’t Beg Her!

Although films and television strongly encourage the idea of begging women, it doesn’t work. These values are used to evoke emotions for the movie audience, and in people take it to heart and buy into the idea that this behavior will lead to success. It always seems like Mr. Romantic is doing the right thing by standing outside a balcony window every night singing love songs, reading poetry and bringing flowers until his dream girl finally falls in love with him.

While these actions may seem romantic and work in movies, we don’t live in the movies; we live in the real world. Women can smell manipulative men ten miles away and have no respect for their child-like behavior.

4 Qualities In A Man That Are IRRESISTIBLE To Women

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Flirting can be one of the most awkward situations if you are not prepared. These qualities – or traits – are things that girls will find desirable. If you project these qualities you will be more likely to attract women.

1. Confidence

The reason most girls are attracted to jocks, bad boys and other men that don’t seem to be “right” for them, is because these men usually act arrogant.

For this to make sense you must understand that women are insanely good interpreters. If a man says or does something, a woman will look beneath his comments or actions and ask herself, “What is he really trying to say?”

Arrogance is interpreted as confidence. And as you may know, confidence is the most important trait you can portray to a woman. Confidence alone will get you more dates than you could ever imagine.

The essence of flirting is based on projecting confidence around women. In addition, arrogance communicates “higher status” and an “I’m too cool” attitude, which appeals to most a girl’s need to climb the social ladder.

2. Dominance

A significant part of being what women call “a real man” is taking charge in all situations. Girls will often say, “I like a man who knows what he wants.” Unfortunately, this statement is baffling to most men.

A man who knows what he wants doesn’t ask for permission. He takes the leadership role in every situation and expects others to comply. The next time you are out in clubs or bars, watch as the dominant men control the situation when they ask a girl out, talking to them, taking them by the hand and guiding them through the club to another location.

These men expect women to follow their lead. They don’t politely ask – they just do it. You might think this attitude seems rude or careless, but what you need to understand is that women want men to act this way.

Why do you think men who ask, “What movie do you want see?” get responses such as…

“I don’t know.”
“I don’t really care.”
“You decide.”

Women want men to be the leaders. Men who ask women to make these decisions get vague responses because women want men to lead. The woman is offering the man a chance to affirm his manliness. An “alpha male” will make decisions.

It may seem daunting to maintain this sort of control, but as these behaviors are broken down into actions, the need for this will become clear.

When women say that they are attracted to strong men, they don’t mean physically strong men; they mean men who can control the situation.

3. Humor

Humor is a very powerful. Everyone loves to laugh, and people love to hang around those who make them laugh.

Humor is something that all women are looking for in a man. But what you may not realize is that humor alone isn’t enough to attract women. You also need to maintain eye contact when you are approaching her.

If you become naturally funny, you’ll be able to keep fun conversations going with women as long as you want. You don’t want your humor to come across too goofy, nor do you want to look like a “try-hard” when you crack a joke.

Humor combined with body language is a powerful conversational tool that everyone needs to develop if they want to succeed socially.

4. Higher Social Status (Be Cooler)

You must understand that along with physical attraction comes social status. Just think back to school – all the cool people hung out together, as did all the other social groups with their respective peers.

The advantage you have when meeting new women is your hidden social status. Most women make dozens of assumptions about you the minute they lay eyes on you, and this includes your social status.

Women want to hang out with guys that are cooler than them. When you talk to a woman who catches your eye, you must always portray yourself as being “cooler” than her, or at least “as cool”. This increases the likelihood of her being interested in a date.

So how do you accomplish this? You accomplish this by increasing your coolness quotient.

  • Don’t act insecure and always ask “Is everything Ok?”, “Have I done something wrong?”, “Do you like me?”, “What do you think of me so far.” Never say these things!
  • Dress in fashionable, comfortable clothes that you feel great in.
  • Be selective with the people you hang around, as well as which women you choose to date.

Now that you understand attraction, and what it is that makes women feel attracted to men, let’s discuss the basics of flirting. And after this, we’ll talk about how to incorporate these must-have qualities into your conversations.

The Secret Psychology Of Attraction

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