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How To REALLY Impress A Guy

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Dating tips for women aren’t something girls automatically “know.” Don’t bomb your next date – check out these tricks to really make an impression!

Knowing how to really impress a guy is one of the most important aspects of being a woman. When you meet a guy that you want, it’s fairly easy to fall into the trap of playing coy or hard to get. While these methods can work on some men, it’s not foul proof. Impressing a guy doesn’t take games or seduction methods. In fact, it’s really not that hard.

There are a several qualities that men find very impressive in all women, no matter what you look like. Here are some of the most desired qualities that will really impress a guy.

1. Have A Great Outlook On Life

Your outlook on life should always be positive. It doesn’t matter if you’re a liberal or a conservative, a positive outlook on life can a very long way with men. Even if you’re not the bubbly type that is always smiling, being content with yourself and where you going over the next 4-5 years can be enough to impress him.

Nobody wants to date a downer. Keep this in mind the next time that you meet a guy that you really like. He wants to be inspired by you and the only he can do that is if you have positivity and know what you would like out of your time on the planet.

2. Look Great (Yes, This Is One Of The Essential Dating Tips!)

No, you don’t have to look like a supermodel to impress a guy. The typical girl goes out of her way to look her best all times. This usually does not work. Guys that see a girl dressed to the 9s every time they step out of the house assume they are high maintenance. While there is a time and a place for getting dressed up, guys generally want a girl that can toss on a pair of jeans and still look great. This may take some shopping.

No girl is going to look sexy in a pair of ragged Wranglers, but you also don’t want to use your $200 jeans for yard work. Find clothing that is not very fancy or expensive, but still accentuates your best attributes. Once this is accomplished he’s going to wonder why you’re the only one that can turn him on by dusting.

3. Be Honest

Have you ever watched a TV show and wondered, “Why didn’t she just tell him that from the start?” Lies have a way of surfacing. No matter how small or how big, there will come a time and place when your honesty is going to be tested. No guy wants to be with a girl that he can’t trust.

Open up to the guy from the moment that you meet him and he will appreciate it. A relationship built on trust and transparency can always be mended. One of the biggest fears of a guy is that the girl he is seeing isn’t being honest with him. Good or bad, always tell the truth and he will be extremely impressed right from the start.

4. Handle Stress Well

There are a lot of women that curl up into the fetal position every time they get stressed out. Guys love a strong woman that is good at problem solving and won’t freak out every time there is a bump in the road. Guys notice how the girls they are with handle stress. Whether you avoid it or tackle it head on, be sure that he’s watching.

He wants to make sure that you’re not going to have a total mental breakdown the next time that a restaurant forgets your reservation. Being easy going is one of the best qualities that you can have when dating. While you don’t want to float through the relationship, you also don’t want to be dram queen.

5. Be Independent

Being independent is a quality that every guy wants from a girl. Yes, traditionally it is the man’s job to bring home the bacon. However, we’re living in revolutionary times. Women are CEO’s, business owners and are even running as the president. We can’t have it both ways. We either want to be taken care of, which releases our power over the relationship or leads to guilt, or we have to be considered an equal. You never want the guy calling all the shots.

If you have plans with your girlfriends, stick to them. Never cancel plans because a guy wants you to. If you would rather hang out with him over your friends, then make that clear, but don’t do it just because he wants you to. Being independent shows that you’re not going to cater to his every whim and allows you to be your own woman.

7 “Innocent” Words That Turn Women On

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And in this article, you’ll find out seven “seduction” words guaranteed to get a woman thinking about sex, how to use them and exactly what you need to say to make a woman wet her panties whenever you’re around. But first…

Watch this FREE video to find out how you can read any woman’s mind and immediately know exactly what she’s thinking about! (No, we’re not talking magic tricks or paranormal stuff here! This is cutting edge psychology combined with real-world application).

Seduction isn’t all action – a lot of what’s involved in seducing a woman comes from what you say. What if you could whisper a few simple words into any woman’s ear and then have her look at you with a big smile, grab you by the belt and drag you to her bedroom? Yeah, that may be a slight exaggeration, but the right word at the right time will turn her on quicker than roses, candy or even a romantic dinner for two.

Here are seven “seduction” words guaranteed to get a woman thinking about sex!

“Wet”

These aren’t things you whisper into her ear by themselves. For example, if you lean over to your woman and say “wet,” she’s not going to instantly have an orgasm. That’s not realistic. However, if you’re making strong eye contact, flirting a bit, and then she drips a little bit when she takes a drink of water, you can say, “Oh baby, you’re so wet…”

And her mind will instantly go to sex. Why did it work so well? Because of three simple ways that the phrases must be used:

Indirectly. When you say “wet” you don’t want to say, “Wow baby, your panties must be so wet.” That’s just crude. However, if you say, “Baby, you’re so wet” after she came in from the rain, she’s going to respond to your flirting. This is because women’s minds are just as dirty as yours. So when she hears the word “wet,” she thinks about sex and her vagina being moist, just like you do. Even if it’s hidden in the conversation.

Timed Correctly. You want to use an innocent “seduction” word right after she does something that makes sense. Wet is the easiest example. Use it whenever she drips water from a glass, comes in from the rain, comes out of a pool or talks about some time she got wet in the past.

With The Right Tone You don’t want to bring attention to what you’re doing. Instead, you want it to seem like a regular part of your normal conversation. So use the steady, low voice tone you use when you’re chatting to her instead of ANY emphasis on the “seduction words.”

“Deep”

When should you use “deep” in conversation? Whenever you’re talking about feelings, emotions or anything physical. Here are a few examples:

  • When you’re talking about something exciting: “And how does that make you feel, deep inside?”
  • When you’re on a roller coaster: “I’m so excited. Can you feel your heart fluttering, deep inside you?”
  • When you’re planning a date: “I can’t wait to see how you feel, deep down.”

And when you’re about the meet a woman for the first time, one of the very best words is:

“Come”

Get your giggling out of the way, because “come” is one of the very best ones you can use. It has so many different uses and applications! For example:

  • When you’re waiting for her to come over: “I can’t wait for you to come..”
  • When you’re talking about a vacation: “It’s going to be so exciting when you come.”
  • When you’re talking to a woman about meeting up with you: “It’s OK baby, just come now.”

So you can see how each of those examples a “charge” of sex to it, yet it doesn’t set off any of her “horny” alarms. Another one of the most “under the radar” words to use is:

“Hard”

Obviously, you know what this one implies. And you know the ways comedians use it in bits. However, you may not know that “hard” is a quick way to make her imagine sex and unbuckling your belt. Which is one of the quickest ways to real life sex, even on the first date. So here’s how to use this “seduction” word:

  • When she’s teasing you: “You’re making it so hard, for me to resist you…”
  • When she’s making a tough decision – especially about coming home with you: “Baby, it’s so hard.”
  • When she’s talking about a challenging thing she’s doing: “Do you like it when it’s hard?”

And from here on out, these phrased get more and more blatant about sex, so you’ll want to use them when you’re really ramping up for sex.

“Eat/Mouth”

These are great for anything involving food or drink and because eating and drinking are so sensual by themselves, they pack a powerful punch. Here’s exactly how to use them:

  • When you’re feeding her food, tell her: “I wanna watch you eat it.”
  • Also, when you’re feeding her food, tell her: “Here, just put it in your mouth.”
  • If you’re eating something she finds gross, tell her: “No, don’t look away. I want you to watch me eat it.”

Do you see how the things you say can carry sexual tension? Try adding them to your conversations, to make your first date into something much more interesting.

“Inside”

This is the easiest “seduction” word to use, hands down. You can put it in, whenever you want – if you catch the drift. Here are a few examples:

  • If you’re going somewhere together, say: “Baby, I can’t wait to go inside, with you.”
  • If she says something that makes you happy: “You make me so happy. I feel warm inside when I’m around you.”
  • If a hostess at a restaurant asks where you’d like to sit, say: “I like it inside.”

“Dripping”

Paired with “wet,” this phrase is a sexual powerhouse. For example:

  • Say she’s eating and a little messy: “Baby, you’re dripping all over the place.”
  • If it’s raining, and she didn’t have an umbrella: “Look at you, you’re dripping wet…”
  • If you have ice cream, and it’s starting to melt: “Baby, you’re dripping all over yourself.”

So you see how you can use innocent “seduction” phrases to make any woman feel naughty, like having sex, around you. And you see how easy it is to toss these into any conversation you have. The real payoff comes when you finally use them on a woman you like.

11 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Guy

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Dating can be complicated, but there are definitely some clear signs that the guy you’re dating should be kicked to the curb. Here are eleven of them.

So you’re dating this guy and things seems great but not that great. If its the beginning of the relationship, maybe you are holding out to see how things pan out, see if they get better. Or maybe you’ve been dating the same guy for a few years and things are not as great as they used to be. How do you know if this relationship is in fact a good thing or if you two are just wasting your time?

What She Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

1. You Don’t Look Forward To Being With Him

Whether this is a long term relationship or you’re dating a new guy, if you aren’t excited to hang out with this guy then you are defiantly with the wrong person. In the beginning of relationships everything should be exciting and you should be psyched to see him. If this is a long term relationship you should be looking forward to spending time with your man and still get a little giddy thinking about him. If these feelings are not there and you find yourself wishing you were hanging out with your friends, yourself of another guy then that is a huge sign that you are dating the wrong person. If this is a new relationship and you dread another date, or hanging with him then you are dating the wrong guy.

2. When You Are With Him You Still Feel Lonely

This usually can happen in long term relationships. After a while you guys get into a groove where you are hanging out (or living together) and can be sitting right next to the guy and feel like you two are miles away. Its a weird phenomenon but it happens when so much is left unsaid and so many touches are left un-felt If you start to feel constantly (like every time you are together) emotionally far from your guy, its a pretty good sign he is not the one.

3. You Cheat On Him

Red flag, sirens, alarms, cow bells, punch in the face!! Any sex outside of your relationship sex is a sure sign that you are with the wrong person! I’m not going to get into the moral ramifications of cheating, nor the right and wrong of it. I’m just saying there is nothing wrong with being attracted to other guys, I’m just saying that if you find yourself not only attracted to but then acting on that attraction with another guy then you are definitely not getting what you want from your man and he is not the right one for you.

4. Your Friends And Family Say You Should End It

These are the closest people in your life, they know you the best. If they think you could do better or are dating the wrong guy, listen to them. Always go with what you feel is right but don’t ignore the people that love you if they think you are wasting your time. In relationships we can wear rose colored glasses and sometimes it takes an outsider to see something we didn’t see. So listen to the people that care about you.

5. You Are More Friends Than Lovers

Sex is the glue that separates men and women from being friends or lovers. So if you are in a relationship and the passion has died then you are with the wrong person. Yes passion and sex can ebb and flow but if there is a huge lack of sex or libido and you are not happy about that then you are with the wrong person.

6. What You Once Loved Is Now Annoying

Maybe it’s the way he drinks a beer or the way he eats corn on the cob, there was a time when his little quirks and mannerism used to be so adorable to you and now they annoy the hell out of you. You once loved how he would snore in his sleep or maybe leave his coffee on the table half drank but now you are so angered by this and annoyed. It’s impossible to love everything that they do but if you are finding your self fed up with his mannerisms then you need to end it.

What He Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

7. You Don’t Appreciate Him & He Doesn’t Appreciate You

Taking someone for granted isn’t a good sign, but if you’re looking for signs that you should break up with your boyfriend, this has to be at the top of the list. Look, relationships have seasons, or cycles. You may want to rip his clothes off for a while, then not be sexual for while. Things go up and down, but if there’s more down than up, that’s a sign that either one or both of you don’t appreciate each other.

8. You’re Still In A Relationship But Have Stopped Dating

One of the big pitfalls for any long term relationship is getting too comfortable or getting stuck in the status quo. When you first start dating, everything is amazing and electric. Part of that is the new-ness of the relationship, and while the spark may fade a bit, it shouldn’t burn out. No matter how long you are together, you never ever stop dating. If you do, that’s when problems start. If you’re in a relationship with a guy, but not dating him, you may have a breakup sign and it’s one of the big ones.

9. You Don’t Want To Have Sex

Let’s face it. One of the main benefits to being in a relationship is the constant access to booty. Yes, companionship is great, but that’s what pets are for. You don’t just want companionship, you want some ass too. What’s the point without the intercourse? Not so much. If you could be getting laid and you don’t want to do the guy you’re with, that’s a red flag meaning it’s time to think about ending it.

10. The Things You Used To Like Piss You Off 

Everyone’s got their little idiosyncrasies  That’s just how we are. You know you’re into someone when you see a person’s little ticks and not only do they not bother you, you think they’re cute. When you find yourself suddenly pissed off or annoyed by them, then you’ve got yourself a sign it’s time to breakup. Everyone goes through phases, but if you find yourself consistently annoyed by these things and you just can’t stand them anymore, that’s a sign. Not a good one either.

11. You Try Sabotaging The Relationship

Ever find yourself picking fights with your partner for no reason? Ever ask “Why did I yell at him for that?” That means some part of you want to breakup with them and your subconscious is trying to get your attention. It’s saying “Hey! Get us out of here! You know you want to!” You may or may not be ready or willing to listen to your inner voice, but you should.

The main thing to remember about all these “signs” is that you need to listen to your gut and your heart. You know if you are not happy, you know if you are settling, you know if he is not the one for you. No list is going to give you the answer you already know. Now it’s up to you to do something about it.

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Guys Make When They Approach Women

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When you don’t know how to approach women the right way, you’re constantly missing out on opportunities. Very few guys understand how to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, interesting way that creates a compelling REASON for women to want to know them and take things further.

When you spot a hot girl, you can assume that the last 47 guys who attempted to approach her — whether it was at the bar, the supermarket, or on the street — sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her “force field” to go on high alert. At that point, she’s going to look for a reason to end the interaction as soon as possible.

She may indulge you with a few minutes of polite conversation and then blow you off gently (“It’s been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend…”), or she might shoot you down immediately (“Uh, I’ve got a boyfriend”). Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it’s very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere.

Don’t Make These Mistakes When You Approach Women

Here are the three deadliest mistakes that guys make when they approach women, and some tips on how to AVOID these traps and get the results you want.

Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Asking permission to talk to her

This means you must eliminate from your vocabulary phrases such as:

“Excuse me, may I know your name?”

“Hi, do you mind if I ask you something?”

“Can I buy you a drink?”

Opening a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. In her eyes, you are a random stranger and you WANT something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in.

Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you’ll expect in return: you’ll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When you offer to buy a drink for a woman you don’t even know, you’re basically attempting to bribe her into granting you some of her time.

Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Absolutely not. There’s a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it and it’s certainly not in the first 30 seconds.

One of the rules of effective conversation is for you to stay in control at all times. You maintain the “power position” and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to “invisibly” guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her passions, ambitions and talents) that she’d normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago.

This is when women begin to feel attraction, and you’re on your way to success.

The first key to maintaining this sense of power and control is NOT starting the conversation in a weak, uncertain manner. Asking permission is a surefire way to blow the conversation before it even begins. Don’t do it.

Deadly Approach Mistake #2: You must assume rapport.

When two people have “rapport” it means they’re comfortable with each other and have things in common. They vibe with each other in the manner of old friends — joking around, having fun, talking about topics of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview.

When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the “conversation” seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: “So what’s your name?” “Are you from around here?” “So what do you do for work?” He could be having this same conversation with his dentist!

On the other hand, the guy who is extremely good with women always assumes rapport. He doesn’t bother with the boring “getting to know you” questions. Right from the start, he’s joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination.

He makes her feel invested in the conversation, and she’ll want to show that she can keep up with him. Even in the first few minutes he’s showing her that he’s a fun, dynamic, interesting guy who leads an attractive lifestyle.

Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy.

Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to “open” her). Actually, what you follow up with is far more important — how you transition into the conversation and get it flowing.

From there, you’ll want to use techniques of mine such as Hypotheticals, Advanced Cold Reads, and Hooks & Ladders (my method for making sure the conversation NEVER runs out of steam).

After You Approach Women, What Comes Next?

In short, you’ve got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different “emotional buttons.” For example, building comfort is a crucial early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven’t made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important.

Next, once comfort has been established, you’ll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is “hard to get.” You’re going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they’re up to HER standards.)

Then comes the Escalation stage, and finally there is The Close. Depending on the circumstances, this could mean getting her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than ignoring your calls), or taking her home that night. So few guys understand how to “close” successfully.

Learning how to approach women and follow these steps means the difference between chatting with girls every time you go out but never sleeping with them – or seeing them again – and having the “rock star sex life” that most men can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with fun, beautiful women.

It means that literally anytime you leave your home – whether it’s to run errands, or to hit a bar or nightclub with your friends – you’ll look for opportunities to approach women and have fun interactions, instead of this being something you shy away from, or stress out about.

3 Rude Things To Say To A Woman You Just Met

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When flirting, do you have to compliment a woman you just met to successfully get a date? Not always. Do you think jerks, bad boys or the other guys she falls for tell her how beautiful and perfect she is?

They catch her attention by saying something “out of left field.” Sometimes it’s even downright RUDE! And in this article, you’ll discover three of these “Rude” things you can say to a woman to grab her full attention.

You’ll find out how to follow them up with a compliment or just small talk to win her heart. And you’ll be able to walk right up to a beautiful woman, grab her full attention in two sentences and be just one step away from getting her phone number. (Especially if you know her already)

Here’s exactly what you gotta say:

“Whoa. You Can’t Just Do That…”

Guaranteed to stop a woman in her tracks. You’d say this to a woman you see on the street, or sit next to on the subway, or even a woman you see shopping for clothes at the mall. You can use this flirting technique on women who are working, or women you work with. Even with college students or women you see everyday. The “trick” here is to follow it up with a compliment about something she’s doing. For example:

  • “Whoa. You can’t just do that.” “What?” “When you walk in here smiling like that, I lose my whole train of thought”
  • “Whoa. You can’t just do that.” “What?” “Your smile is too pretty to walk right by me without saying hi.”
  • “Whoa. You can’t just do that.” “What?” “Something about your energy is messing with me. I can’t take my eyes off of you.”

You get the idea, right? Of course – you’re catching her attention with a kind of rude sentence, then flipping it around to a positive compliment. You’ll have her full attention and the SURPRISE sexual attraction she gets when she meets someone truly charming.

“I Can’t Believe You Just Did That!”

You want to use this one after she DOES something. Your goal here is to make her think, “Wait. Did I just do something embarrassing or wrong?” And it’s OK to make her think this because you’re about to make her feel good with a compliment.

Here are some examples:

  • “I can’t believe you just did that.” “Did what?” “The way you looked at me made my heart skip a few beats. What’s your name?”
  • “I can’t believe you just did that.” “Did what?” “Walked right by me without apologizing.” “For what?” “For having such a great smile, I forgot everything I was thinking about.”
  • “I can’t believe you just did that.” “Did what?” “The way you move has almost a hypnotizing effect. And for a split second, every single person in this room was looking at you. What’s your name?”

And this time, we added a second step to the pick up line. Sometimes, this step was to ask her for her name. (This lets you transition into small talk easier) And once, you made the tension even greater, by adding another “rude” statement in the middle.

Now you’re starting to see how powerful this type of flirting really is.

“Are You Seriously Going To Do That?”

You know the drill by now – make her freeze up, then give her a compliment. So let’s see how you’d use this “rude” statement:

  • “Are you seriously going to do that?” “Do what?” “Walk right by me without saying hi.” (This one should be done with a smile and a playful, flirting attitude.
  • “Are you seriously going to do that?” “Do what?” “Walk right by me without saying hi.” She laughs “What’s your name?”

In this example, you “evolve” one of these rude statements into a conversation.

First, it’s just the “rude” statement and a teasing compliment. (This is like flirting, or bantering with her.)

Second, you ask “What’s your name?” to add some small talk. Third, you tell her your name, and then ask her what she’s up to. This way, you get her name (she’ll tell you because you told her) and you’re on a better small talk conversation.