Dating Tips – Page 9

The REAL Reason You’re Single

Dating tips are often more like a band-aid than an actual solution to your dating problems. Here’s the reality about why you’re still in the singles group.

I’m going to ask you all a tough question today.

Are you dating based out of need because you don’t want to be alone or are you dating to add somebody to your already wonderful life?

I want you to re-read that once again and ask yourself if you consider things to be wonderful, amazing, and incredible.

“I really think everything is going to be much better this year. I want to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I really truly believe that my life is going to be more complete when I have somebody. I want to go on vacation but I’m not going to go on vacation until I get somebody because I won’t have fun unless I’m with somebody.”

Do You Love YOURSELF?

Are you tired of being single? Do you think about it everyday? Here’s the deal – you’re already complete and nobody else is going to ever complete you. If you believe that you is going to be more complete with somebody in it, then basically you’re not practicing the biggest lesson that I ever teach anybody when it comes down to dating – self love.

Why Needy, Clingy Dating Won’t Work

If you don’t love and respect yourself and if you don’t enjoy your own company, then you’re going to go out dating in a very needy way. You’re going to meet other needy people, and when two needy people get together, they have a relationship that is based solely on need, solely on two lonely people meeting each other.

It becomes dysfunctional. It becomes very co-dependent. And a co-dependent relationship is not healthy in any way, shape, or form. Co-dependency is one of the reasons why so many relationships end up unsuccessful.

Enjoying Things As They Are

If you’re serious about meeting somebody great this year then you need to start embracing the beauty of your own life right now. You need to make a list of all the things that are amazing about your life. You need to start writing down all the things that are amazing about you as a person. More importantly, you need to make a list about how amazing it’s going to be when you finally feel all that with somebody else.

We’ve all been dating wrong for so long. It’s not about needs. It’s not about wanting. It’s about how you feel when you’re around somebody and when you’re around yourself.

The Law Of Attraction

Ever since I started really going out there and loving myself and doing the things that I love, I’ve learned the ultimate attraction. I learned the law of attraction. I started attracting great women into my life because I was doing everything that I love. I was going out. I was eating in places that I liked. I went to places where I had things in common with people. I was my own best friend.

Once you master this, you’re going to start bringing all the right people into your life. It’s like magic, and it works. But you need to trust it. You need to believe that people are going to be coming into your life. You need to start having fun, whatever you do, because that’s what attracts everything else.

Have you ever gone out with your arms folded, angry and pissed off? Guess what? Nobody wants to talk to you. Nobody wants to meet you when you behave that way. You’re giving off a very unattractive energy.

It’s time to change the way you think about dating. And it’s time you change the way you thought about meeting people. Learn the law of attraction and life will be so much better.

How To Ask A Girl Out – The EASY Way!

By loveandsex

Dating tips will help you keep from making mistakes and choking on your words. Never again will you flub up! Here’s how to do it EASILY!

Ask a girl out once and you should be able to do it a million times, right? Although it may seem simple, various aspects of asking a girl out can rattle a guy to his very core. Concepts like approach anxiety are common with a lot of guys.

It doesn’t matter if you’re shy, nervous or you feel like she’s out of your league, it doesn’t have to be a catastrophe when you ask a girl out. At one point or another you’re going to have to step up your game, and be bold. Here are a few dating tips to get you through the process.

How To Approach Her

Approaching a girl that you like is one of the most difficult aspects of dating. As a guy, you’ve been cursed with the expectation to always initiate contact with the girl. For women, approaching a guy is liberating and can show confidence.

However, the threat of rejection is enough to cripple most men. When you are approaching her, make sure that you have a smile on your face. No girl wants to be approached by a guy with a frown. Don’t rush over to her like a hungry dog looking to be fed. Move a little slower than normal so you draw her in with your approach.

Starting A Conversation

There are a lot of dating tips out there that will tell you to use a specific routine. While these might work for some guys, they aren’t recommended. Routines are a “one size fits all” game that rarely works with girls that you’re actually interested in. Most of these routines are made to get girls to have one-night stands with you.

Simply saying “Hello” or “Hey can easily start a conversation with her. Introduce yourself, but don’t offer a handshake. This is a mistake that a lot of guys make when they approach girls. A handshake is not romantic; it’s business oriented. Wait until you can break the touch barrier before you actually touch her. Keep the conversation to questions about what she does and where she went to school. Judging by her body language, you should be able to tell whether or not she’s interested in you.

Breaking The Touch Barrier

The touch barrier is essential when you’re trying to ask a girl out. The touch barrier is basically the first time that you touch her. This doesn’t mean that you’re going to get to second base, it simply means that you touch her on the arm or the hand. If the approach has gone well then you should have her laughing. Breaking the touch barrier is not very difficult if you are good at flirting.

There are a lot of guys that know how to flirt, but don’t know how to approach. If you have her laughing, she might break the touch barrier before you get a chance to. Wait for her to start flirting back with you and then touch her shoulder or arm when she says something teasingly. Breaking the touch barrier is an essential of many dating tips when trying to get a woman to date you.

Ask For The Number

Asking for her number is much easier than asking her out. The best thing about asking for her number is that you aren’t definitely going to call. Although most guys do call when they the number, there is as much doubt in a girl’s mind as there is in a guy’s mind.

If the conversation is going well and she has broken the touch barrier, ask for her number. More than likely she will give it to you. Be ready with your phone when you do so you’re not fumbling with it while she’s trying to give you the number. A girl is more likely to give you her phone number than to agree to a date right then and there.

Prepare Yourself For Rejection

As with any aspect of dating, there is a chance that you could get rejected. When you go to ask a girl out, make sure that you are prepared for rejection. More than likely she will make up a story of a boyfriend or that she’s dating somebody rather than giving you a fake number. If she says that she has a boyfriend, brush it off and move one.

Don’t question her if she tells you that she has a boyfriend or if she’s not interested. You’re not going to change her mind and you’re wasting your time. Rejection is a part of dating and you need to be able to handle rejection in order to grow as a person.

4 Dating FAILS You Need To Avoid!

By bobbybradshaw

Dating doesn’t come without its share of failures, but you want as few of them as possible! Steer clear of these dating mishaps for guaranteed success.

Mistake # 1 – Taking Her Out To A Fancy Dinner

Yes, you read that right. A lot of guys think you need to take a woman out to fancy dinner in order to woo her. But I’ve actually found that it’s a HUGE mistake!

It’s one of those things that SOUNDS good in theory, but if you think it all the way through, it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. First off, women see dinner as a BIG time commitment. A super attractive woman leads a busy life. And it’s hard for her to justify giving up a night she could otherwise spend with her friends.

Because of this she is much more likely to say “No” when asked out to a dinner than she would be if you ask her out to lunch, or to grab a happy hour drink.

Or worse, she might say, “yes,” then flake on you the night of.

Why?

Well not only is it a night away from whatever else she could be doing, it’s also a lot of time to commit to spending with someone she barely knows. You see, since most guys are so LAME, she’s probably had a BAD dinner date in the past.

So when your date with her is coming up, she might remember a bad dinner date she had in the past, get cold feet and decide to flake on YOU! Ask any girl you know and she’ll tell you – this happens ALL THE TIME!

Also, if you offer to take her to a “name” restaurant, you look like you are trying to “lure” her into hanging out with you because of WHERE you are taking her, and not WHO she is going with! And yeah, some girls might say yes just because they want to get a free fancy meal, but is that what you really want?

So save the trendy restaurant for a night out with your friends, and offer to meet her for lunch, or for a quick drink at a cool, eclectic spot. You’ll not only save yourself from looking like you are trying too hard, you’ll also increase the chances of her saying yes, and the chances of her showing up! Not to mention saving some dough!

Mistake # 2 – Being Too Eager To Hang Out

There are few ways to turn a woman off faster than being TOO eager to hang out with her.

We’ve all seen the movie Swingers where the guy calls the girl the same night and leaves her 6 messages in a row (go see it if you haven’t!) but there are other less extreme ways guys do this that turn a woman off just as fast.

A few examples are:

Calling her or having a text conversation with her more than twice a week
Changing your plans around for her
Showing up at places where you know she’ll be (so many guys do this that women are totally on to it!)
Any type of behavior that says you will drop everything to hang out with a woman makes her see you as DESPERATE and turns her off instantly.

Mistake # 3 – Trying Too Hard Impress Her

Another MAJOR mistake men make that sends women running is when they try too hard to impress her.

Any type of bragging about your job, your car, your business, trips you’ve taken, or name-dropping just REEKS of insecurity. In fact, too much bragging can cause even a confident guy to look bad in a woman’s eyes! It makes her think that you don’t feel your personality is enough to attract her… which no matter how confident you are, makes you look absolutely not confident to her.

Not good!

Mistake # 4 – Being Too Friendly And Not Flirty!

We all know about the dreaded “friend zone,” but do you know what makes a woman put a guy there?

Well, it’s usually because he is too friendly and not FLIRTY! So avoiding it is simple – flirt whenever possible! The above example is a good one, and here’s a couple others:

If she asks you how your day is going, say, “Well it would be better if you and I were at a secret make out spot but other than that it’s okay.”
If she asks you what you are doing that night, say, “I’m going to XYZ restaurant – why, are you going to surprise me with flowers there?”

Don’t be afraid to be over-the-top! You’ll be amazed at just how much women love to play along with these flirty conversations – and best of all, you’re letting her know right away that she should see you as more than just a friend.

How To Meet Singles In YOUR Area!

By romymorgan

Singles are becoming more and more resilient and finding love. Going through traditional dating services, online dating services or friends are the primary means of finding a date fast. I

f you don’t feel comfortable with these means of getting a potential date, there are things that you can do in order to meet people in your area without having to reduce yourself to being set up by a friend or website. Here are a few methods of finding single people in your area.

Trivia Nights

Trivia nights are a big draw for singles and couples. Look through your local publications or through local websites in order to find out which bars and restaurants are having trivia nights throughout the week. Trivia nights are basically designed to allow teams to compete against each other through various aspects of trivia questions. Go to the trivia night and look for a friendly group of people that are assembling themselves as a team.

Tell them that your group of friends were not able to make it and that you need a team. More than likely they will welcome you with open arms and you can get to know them. You don’t have to be great at trivia in order to participate in these events. However, knowing different aspects of trivia can help you and your team win throughout the night.

Join A Sports Team

Sports teams tend to have a lot of singles. Whether you played basketball in college, tennis in high school or you were the captain of your intramural kickball team, joining a sports team is one of the best ways to meet other people in your area and find a potential date. Even if there are no single people on your team, everybody has friends and they might be able to set you up with someone nice.

As with trivia, you don’t have to be that great at a sport in order to join the team. Most adult leagues are more interested in having fun than winning. It is recommended to join a sports team where you have a little bit of experience so that you’re not the oddball who doesn’t even know the rules or regulations. You should be able to find sports teams within your area through local websites.

Clubs

Clubs are another great way to meet singles in your area. Do you have a green thumb? Do you know the ins and outs of the hiking trails around your area? Joining a club can easily put you in touch with single people in your area that have the same common interests. Local clubs are also notorious for having monthly or weekly events as well as their meetings. Being a member of a club can take your mind off of being single while also giving you a fun way to spend time with people who share your passion.

Websites like Meetup.com specialize in connecting people with common interests to form groups for events and get-togethers in your area. Remember that clubs might have monthly or yearly dues in order to sustain themselves so you should be financially prepared for this. Talk to the different club members to find out who is seeing somebody and who is not. If you meet somebody that you like, feel free to ask him or her out on a date.

Singles Events

Although this is one of the most obvious choices you can make, an event that is especially designed for single people can take some of the pressures off of knowing whether or people are attached. There are different singles events in your area through speed dating, Internet meet ups or business based promotions. Some businesses that specialize in people, such as bars or restaurants, will have singles nights during certain hours. For instance a bar might run a singles event from 5 PM to 7 PM.

One of the best things about these events is the fact that if you get there and you do not see anybody that you like you can pretend you are not even attending the event. However, meeting some of the people within the group is a great way to make new friends and find a potential date. Events for single people usually render people who have just moved to the area, people that work from home and normal people who may just be a little shy and have trouble finding somebody to date. Choose a couple of single events throughout the month and attend them accordingly. You never know who you might meet until you follow through.

How To Stay OUT Of The Friend Zone!

By loveandsex

Dating tips are essential if you want to keep yourself away from a woman’s friend zone. THIS is what you need to know if you want to date her, not be her buddy!

The friend zone is not a place that you ever want to find yourself when you are interested in a woman. This aspect of dating can easily change you from a potential date to a person that gets the occasional hello.

Avoiding the dreaded friend zone is essential to keeping the spark alive in your budding relationships. If a lady only wants to be your acquaintance, then you need to cut her loose. However, there are ways that you can keep yourself from falling into this familiar path in the future. Here are some dating tips to help you stay out of the hated friend zone in the future.

Accept The Fact That She Is Not Interested

There are women out there that will never be interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Accept the fact that she is not interested. While this is not something that any guy wants to do, it’s a one of the best dating tips out there for finding a woman that is interested in having a relationship with you.

If you are clinging to a woman who has put you in a friend zone, you are wasting your time trying to woo her back. This is one aspect of life where being a quitter actually has its advantages. Nip it in the bud before you start begging and pleading for another chance.

Work On Yourself

Do you work out? Do you eat healthy? One of the best ways to gain confidence is to improve yourself before you try to date somebody. If you meet a lady that you like and you really want to impress her, give yourself a couple of weeks to improve various aspects of your life before you pursue her.

Two weeks can do a lot to somebody’s physique and eating healthier can give you the energy that you want throughout the day. Having more energy will show through your personality and the way that you carry yourself. Feeling good about yourself is an attractive quality for women, so act accordingly.

Meet New People

Getting stuck in a friend zone can occur when somebody knows you all too well. If you have been chummy with a lady for a long time, she might not think of you as a potential date. There is a reason that a staple of the most common dating tips is to meet new people. Meeting new people is exciting and allows you to play off of your own mystique.

Going out and meeting newer women will get you out of the friend zone and put into the hot seat of being a potential long term relationship. If you know the woman you like really well, this could also make her very jealous. While you should not do this with mal-intent, it is an effective means of getting her to think about you as a date instead of a “bud.”

Learn To Flirt

Some guys think that flirting is something that you’re born with, while others think that it can be learned through certain dating tips. The friend zone is dependent on being able to flirt. Teasing her a little bit about things that don’t matter is a great way to flirt with her.

Don’t tell her that her eyes are too far apart, but picking up on something little could get her laughing. Start small and work your way up to making more sexualized comments. Once you have achieved this properly, she should be looking at you in a whole new light. Be bold with her and you will never end up as an acquaintance again.

Slight Touches

Slight touches can be a great way to emphasize that you are not looking for a platonic relationship. Touching her arm as you laugh with her or putting your hand on the small of her back as she goes through a door are some of the best ways to show that you are sexually interested.

If she does not respond to these methods or responds negatively, back off immediately. The last thing that you want to do is make her uncomfortable. If she touches you back then you’re in the clear. Women do not touch guys that they don’t want to date.

Being in the friend zone can be one of the most frustrating aspects of dating. Getting out of it is tough and some methods work better than others. Turning yourself from a platonic relationship into a date is not always easy, but it is possible in most situations. Follow these guidelines and you should start to see a vast improvement of her perception of you.