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Text Your Ex Back Review

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While the idea that you can save your relationship and get back together with your ex via text messages may seem a bit ludicrous at first, if you’re hurting after a break up and want your partner back, this is definitely something you’ll want to give a shot. Texting is rampant these days, with everyone and their dog having a cell phone.

Many people communicate with their phone through texting only, and others text far more than they actually talk to people on the phone. When you think about it that way, using texting to get your relationship back on track doesn’t seem like such a silly idea, now does it?

The Good

While using your cell phone to repair your relationship after a nasty break up seems way too simple to be true, Text Your Ex Back is actually chock full of great tips and resources. You’ll learn why your relationship went south, how you contributed to it, and what to do to get it back. And you can do all of this by just using your cell phone. Fancy that!

Perhaps the true meat of the guide here is not necessarily what buttons to push on your phone to make your ex magically appear back at your side (although you’ll get plenty instruction on what exactly to do), but the pearls of wisdom about how relationships and break ups work. To be honest, anyone who has ever gone through a break up will find a lot of use out of this guide. Even if you don’t have a cell phone and are using dial up internet. Really.

The Bad

Text Your Ex Back isn’t a terribly fun read. Chances are, if you’re even looking at this product, your heart is open and bleeding all over the floor already. The guide requires you to take a good, hard look at yourself and your relationship, and requires you to analyze all the different things that contributed to the break up. This. Is. Not. Fun. Period.

But it’s necessary – absolutely necessary – if you even want to have a prayer of getting your relationship back. If you’re at the place where you’ll do whatever you need to do to get your ex back, then this is the guide for you. If you’re still being cocky and blaming your partner for everything bad that ever happened in the relationship, you are definitely not emotionally developed enough to get any value out of this guide and you’ll likely put it down before you even get to the good parts.

But if you’re ready – really ready – to do what it takes to get your ex back, Text Your Ex Back is an invaluable tool. Nothing worth getting comes easy, and if you really believe that your ex is a person worth getting back, then the road to get there is not going to be easy. Take it or leave it, but that’s the way it is.

The Bottom Line

Text Your Ex Back is an excellent guide to getting your ex back – although it’s not the most “fun” read out there. You really need to be in a place where you can take some criticism and some self examination to heart and use it to better yourself and correct the mistakes you’ve made. If you’re not emotionally “there” yet – where you can admit fault, forgive yourself, forgive your partner and move forward – your cell phone isn’t going to help you one bit.

But if you’re ready, really ready, to get your ex back, Text Your Ex Back will get you going. It will take you from examining what went wrong in your relationship and how you played a part, to repairing your relationship using just your cell phone. In all honesty, this is one of the most unique break up advice guides. Even if you don’t end up getting back together (which is entirely possible, because the book makes no guarantees), you’re going to have way better relationships in the future because of this guide. However, the author’s understanding of relationships, break ups and the differences between men and women are your most powerful ally and chances are, if you do what the book says and give it your all, you will get back together with your ex. What are you waiting for?

The Full Text Your Ex Back Review

A break up is tough, but it’s a safe bet that you’ll experience a break up at some point in your lifetime. They suck pretty hard, even if you’re the one that did the breaking up. They especially suck if you’re not the one who did the breaking up. So what do you do if your relationship is over and you’re realizing that you most definitely do not want it to be over? Is there any hope of reversing the break up and saving your relationship?

Fortunately, the answer is yes!

You are not doomed to be alone for the rest of your life. The fight isn’t over yet!

Esteemed relationship and seduction guru Michael Fiore (you may have seen him showing off his mad texting skills on the Rachel Ray show) gives us Text Your Ex Back – a guide on how to use something as simple as text messages to bring your faltering relationship back to life.

But does it WORK?

Why Texting Is Such A Great Idea

The idea simply sounds too good to be true – a few simple text messages to each other and you and your  ex are back on track like nothing ever happened. Well, maybe it’s not that good, but Michael points out from the get-go why texting can be so darn effective if you’re trying to repair your relationship.

  • Texting is private and intimate, yet often takes place in very public settings. Texting is like having a secret conversation with your ex in the middle of your busy lives.
  • Texting allows you to talk to your ex without the pressure of confrontation. Confrontation can be disastrous, especially if the relationship didn’t end well. Texting allows you to talk to each other without the heat.
  • Texting allows you to build the intimacy and desire back into your relationship in the middle of your day to day activities. Everyone is busy with day to day stuff, and they don’t always have time for romance or even a decent conversation with someone. But with texting, you can converse with your ex in an intimate way, all throughout walking the dogs, taking care of the kids, working, grocery shopping, etc.
  • With texting, you are in TOTAL CONTROL of what you say to your ex. You can review what you’ve said before you sent it, edit it and make sure you’re saying the right things before the message ever gets to your ex. This can cushion the blow of the break up, because often after a break up, things are said that neither person means, or the tone is mistaken, etc. With your cell phone, you can send the right messages every time. 

Examining Your Break Up

The first few chapters of Text Your Ex Back are pretty tough. You’ll learn why you and your partner broke up and what caused the relationship to go sour in the first place – and there’s almost always more than one, singular cause. If you have any feelings whatsoever, you’ll be able to admit fault and use this section as a tool to realize what mistakes you made in the relationship and how you contributed to the break up.
You’re probably not the only guilty party, but realizing the hand you lent to the demise of your relationship is the first step to repairing it. If you’re not ready to take a good, hard look at yourself in the mirror yet, Text Your Ex Back is not for you and you’re probably not going to get your ex back at all. Good luck with that!
Yes, it sucks to have to admit fault. If you were the one who was broken up with, figuring out what you did wrong can be like rubbing salt in an open wound. But it’s completely necessary if you ever want a shot at getting back together.

What You’ll Learn In Text Your Ex Back

  • Why your old relationship is dead and why you’re never, ever going to get it back (but you can STILL get your ex back!)
  • How to forgive your former partner and how to forgive yourself
  • How dating other people can help you get your ex back (it’s true!)
  • What to say – and what not to – during your first few text messages
  • What kind of texts to avoid at all costs! 

Text Your Ex Back even goes into so much detail as to prime you for what to say next depending on what type of response you get. Michael Fiore makes it so easy, you really can’t go wrong! The texting part is easy – so if you can make it through the beginning of the book, the rest is a cake walk. There are also tons (TONS!!) of examples you can use, which is excellent for people who get stuck thinking about what to say or how to say it. Tailor the examples to you and your former partner’s personal experiences and it’s in the bag. While Text Your Ex Back makes no absolute guarantees that this method will get you back together with your former love, it does guarantee that if you put the effort in, you’re going to be better at relationships and a better person over all. How could you possibly lose?

How To Have Romantic Sex On Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is all about romance, and it should extend past dinner and a movie and into the bedroom. Here’s how to have romantic sex on the 14th!

Sex can go a lot of ways. There are women out there that like their sex to be really dirty and there are women out there who love romantic sex. There is a time and a place for everything. Having romantic sex can bring you closer to your girlfriend or wife and really keep the relationship fresh. It’s also a great way to have sex on Valentine’s Day! This is much different than breaking out the sex swing or an arsenal of silicone toys on February 14th. If your girlfriend or wife is stressing the need for more romantic sex, here is a short guide to help you out.

Leave The Sex Toys At The Door

Romantic sex is all about the two of you, not the vibrating piece of jelly in the drawer. When you’re having romantic sex you want to incorporate your body as much as possible. Vibrators, dildos, cock rings and anything else that you purchased from a sex shop should be left out of the equation. Protection and lubricant are the only exceptions to this rule. A toy can easily take away from your ability to please her. She can always whip out the vibrator when she’s in a jam, but she can’t always have you there. Having romantic sex means that YOU satisfy her needs.

Set The Mood

Setting the mood is one of the biggest things with having sex. You don’t have to have music, but it helps. Choose something with a slower beat if you are going to use music. Pick up around the bedroom before you start in. Having dirty clothes, old cups or anything else that could detract from the deed is best when you want to set the mood. Close the curtains and light a candle or two if you have them. Decorate with Valentine’s Day stuff like balloons, confetti and champagne and strawberries if you have the funds. You want to make the room as calm as possible when you’re having romantic sex. This will put you and her at ease.

Take Her Clothes Off For Her

When you’re just looking for a quickie, you probably rip your clothes off and jump into bed. Instead of getting right down to it, take her clothes off for her and do it slowly. Start with her shirt. If she has a button down on then this can be even better. Unbutton each button slowly as you kiss her. Work your way down to her pants and take them off slowly. Take off her pants and her shirt before you go for the bra and panties. As you take one article of clothing off of her, she should be taking one off of you. This slows the process down and leads to very romantic sex.

Engage In Foreplay

Foreplay is very romantic, especially on Valentine’s Day. Not only will this give the event a quick shot of romance, it will give her time to warm up. When you’re in the foreplay stage make sure that you focus on her lips and neck. Run your hands up and down her body slowly to get her turned on. Remember that women are not like men. They don’t from soft to hard in a matter of seconds. You have to slow things down to bring them to the edge. A lot of foreplay will lead to some of the most romantic sex you have ever had.

No Crazy Sex Positions

Romantic sex should not involve crazy sex positions. The activity is about being close to each other, especially when you’re doing it on Valentine’s Day. If she has legs akimbo and a strain on her neck she’s not going to feel very romantic. Use positions that are fairly common, but focus on eye contact and intimacy. Missionary, girl on top and spooning are some of the best positions for romantic sex. Make sure that you’re staying as close to her as possible when you’re having sex so she feels connected to you. Hold her close as the two of you orgasm to make it even more romantic.

Romantic sex can be one of the best remedies for any relationship, and it’s exactly the right kind of sex to have on Valentine’s Day. Having the physical compatibility in the bedroom can translate to other aspects of your partnership. It’s important to remember that romantic sex should not involve toys or anything that you saw in a porno.

You want this to be an intimate affair between the two of you. Setting the mood can set a precedent for the type of sex that you’re going to have. When you use a lot of foreplay you can get bring her to the edge making it easier for her to orgasm. Following these simple rules will have you and your partner happy with the intimacy you’ve gained throughout your experience.

5 Sexy Homemade Gift Ideas For Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is approaching, and if you’re short on cash, homemade gift ideas are your best bet. They’re sweet and romantic, without breaking the bank. Plus, a homemade gift is much more special than any store bought one. Here are five you don’t want to pass up on.

Chocolate Covered Strawberries

No, you don’t have to make a trip to your local gourmet chocolate store and spend a ton of money to get a nice box of chocolate covered strawberries. These are easy to make at home and can be easily dressed up for Valentine’s Day with an inexpensive box and some tissue paper.

If you do have some money to spend, you definitely want to go quality here. Get quality, organic strawberries and high quality melting chocolate. Simply dip the strawberries in the melted chocolate and set on a piece of wax paper. Refrigerate until they’re hardened and then arrange them in your decorative box. Voila! Way better than any box of chocolates you buy at the store.

If you want to get creative, look up some recipes on how to use white and milk chocolate together. When you gift them to your partner, make sure to include eating them sensually with a bottle of inexpensive champagne. That’s the best part of all!

Budoir Photos

Get your digital camera and take some sexy photos of yourself in lingerie and then again, in various stages of undress. If you have a friend that you trust to do this, employ them to help you so you can get some better quality photos. Upload them to a free online video editor (or a really good program if you happen to have one, but free editors are good too) and fix blemishes, add a filter if you like or even make it black and white for a really great look.

Once they’re done, print them out on a home photo printer (no, these aren’t ones you can send to your local photo developer) and either frame a few of your favorites or put them in a special book for your lover. If you don’t have a photo printer, make a digital collage and send it to him with a sexy email. He will love being able to look at you instead of porn when he’s feeling randy. Of course, he’ll still look at porn too, but your photos are likely going to be his special favorite.

Sex Coupons

Sex coupons are always in style and extremely easy and inexpensive to make for Valentine’s Day. You can grab some construction paper, markers and glitter from the store if you want to go all out, or you can simply type them out, throw a few cute clip art photos on there and print them. Either way, sex coupons are an excellent option if you don’t have a lot of funds for the big day. Just make sure you actually follow through whenever your man wants to redeem them.

If he wants to redeem a coupon for a 30 minute long blowjob and you say you’ve got a headache, it’s like you’ve taken his gift back to the store, just before he got to open it. So go through with whatever you put on your coupons, whenever your guy redeems them. Headache or not.

Cook A Delectable, Candlelit Dinner

You don’t have to go out to dinner on Valentine’s Day if you don’t want to brave the crowds or don’t have the cash for a decent reservation. Plan a meal that you can cook, and set the table. Most people actually don’t eat at the dining room table, so if you set the table with candles and everything, it’s going to seem almost – almost – like you’re at a restaurant. If you can’t cook, order out! Just make sure you’re sitting across the table from your beau without the distraction of the television, your phones, the computer, etc. To make it sexy, try cooking and eating while completely naked. Or, let him eat dinner off you.

A Sexy Treasure Hunt

Make your man go on a treasure hunt – with you as the treasure! Leave post-its with dirty messages on them, or rose petals leading from the door all the way to the bedroom. Use your creativity to come up with a fun way for him to find you, so long as you’re waiting for him either naked or dressed in something very, very sexy. He will love the suspense of looking for you, only to find you ready and waiting for him!

I’m Alone On Valentine’s Day! What Should I Do?

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Valentine’s Day is the most romantic time of the year. But what are you supposed to do when you have to spend it alone? Being alone on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a complete drag. When you’re with somebody you expect to have plans. When you’re alone and the depression starts to set in, it’s best to keep yourself occupied. There are a lot of things that singles can do when they’re alone on Valentine’s Day. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Get Together With Friends

Chances are not all of your friends have significant others. It’s a great time for couples, but it can also be good for singles. The majority of singles don’t want to be alone on Valentine’s Day. Get together with your other single friends and head out to a bar or nightclub. You will probably find other singles that are trying to escape from the fact that they don’t have anybody. Enjoy yourself and don’t let the holiday get you down.

Go To A Movie

Movies are one of the greatest escapes. Being engrossed in a movie can take away any thought of being alone on Valentine’s Day. Don’t choose a romantic film or something that is too harsh. An action film or a thriller is your best bet to keep your mind at ease. Check your local listings and choose a movie that starts a little later. An 8 o’clock show is perfect because you will probably need to be there by 7:45. This will take up your entire evening. Before you know it, the evening will be gone.

Go To A Party

So your friends are having a Valentine’s Day party and you don’t have anybody to go with. Usually you would just blow it off because it’s going to be filled to the rim with couples. Go anyway. Yes, there will be a lot of couples, but there might be singles. Single people tend to play third-wheel with their couple friends and some rely on them to find their next relationship. You could meet a friend of a friend and end up spending Valentine’s Day with a new flame.

Take A Short Trip

Is there a concert going on in the next town over that you would like to see? Even if you have never heard of the band, take a short trip. This is a great way to change up the scenery and get you into a different mindset. This works great with art exhibits or craft shows also. Grab a copy of your local paper and look at what is going on around your area.

Spend It With Family

If you don’t have any single friends and you don’t want to spend the whole time alone, shack up with some family. Family will never tell you to butt out so hitch a ride with them and have dinner or go to a show. Even if your family is not doing anything special, you can just spend it catching up. Your family will be understanding of what you’re going through and can lend a shoulder to cry on or even put a smile back on your face.

Work Through It

Work has the ability to take your mind off of anything. If you have a big presentation coming up or you really need to get a jump start on a busy week, go ahead and work through it. Your mind will be off of being alone on Valentine’s Day and can get you through it without a major breakdown.

Join An Online Dating Site

If you’re completely tired of being alone and Valentine’s Day is too much to handle, join an online dating site. You can spend Valentine’s Day online dating and looking at potential dates for the future. Just thinking about a new relationship could be enough to give you perspective. When you join an online dating site, make sure that it’s one you like. There are a lot of free options out there, but a paid dating site tends to have more sophisticated clientele.

Being alone on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be depressing. There are a lot of activities that you can do to help you get through it without a mind-melt. Hit some friends up to go out or take in a great movie. Work can take your mind off of the event, but your family will always have open arms.

Romantic Date Ideas For Shy Guys

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Romantic date ideas are essential for every guy. This includes shy guys. Shy guys can do really well with women because they don’t come off as aggressive, cocky or arrogant. The problem with being shy is hiding emotions. Romantic date ideas are great for women, but shy guys might have problems getting through romantic dates. If you are a shy guy that would like to take a girl out for a romantic date, don’t fret! Here are some romantic date ideas for shy guys.

Jazz Concerts

One of the best romantic date ideas for a shy guy is to take a girl to a jazz concert. Jazz concerts might not be your thing, but the slow beat of the drums and the improvisation is very romantic. As a shy guy, you might not want to be the center of attention. A jazz concert is perfect because it’s usually in a bar or small nightclub. You can sit at a table with your girlfriend in the back of the venue and have a conversation or just listen to the music. Either way, the setting will do most of the work for you. Put your hand on her leg and keep the conversation low so she has to come close to you when she talks.

Art Festivals

Romantic date ideas don’t have to involve traditional dinners and expensive wine. You can take your girl out for a romantic date at an art festival. The best thing about art festivals is that they are usually free. Local art shows also offer a variety of things to browse. Hold your girlfriend by the hand as you go from booth to booth. If you find something that you think she might like, buy it for her. It doesn’t have to be a grandiose painting or anything, but a small piece of jewelry can be very romantic.

The Movies

The movie theater can be a great romantic date idea for you and your girl if you’re a shy guy. The movie theater is dark and allows you get close with her. Put your arm around her or hold her hand to keep the scene romantic. Choose a movie that she really wants to see. Even if this is a terrible romantic comedy you will get points for going with her. Women find romance in a man that does things for them that he really doesn’t want to do. Going to a movie with her is a romantic date idea she will love.

Family Events

Women love a guy who takes her to his family events. If you have a parent’s birthday coming up or an anniversary party, take your girlfriend with you. Bringing your girlfriend with you to a family event is a great romantic date idea because she will start to see herself as part of your family. When she sees herself as part of your family she will feel that there is a future between the two of you. Family events are also good because they can bring you out of your shell a little bit. Who knows you better than your family? Take your girlfriend to your next family event for a romantic evening.

Double Dates

Double dates can be very romantic for shy guys. Get together with a friend who is dating somebody and plan an evening out together. When you are around a friend that has known you for a long time you can be comfortable. Feeling comfortable can make all of the shyness disappear. Get dressed up and make a night out of it to add to the romance. Keep engaged with your girlfriend as well as the other people at the table and put your hand on her thigh throughout the evening to keep her feeling special.

The Ballet

I know. It’s definitely not something that you will want to do, but she will love it. The fact that you’re doing something that she wants make the ballet one of the best romantic date ideas out there. The ballet can be very boring and tedious, but your girlfriend will love watching the grace on stage. Hold her hand throughout the evening and she will definitely feel the romance. If you get really bored, just think about what she will give you afterward.

Being a shy guy doesn’t mean that you can’t take your girlfriend out on a romantic date. There are romantic date ideas for shy guys and you should follow these suggestions to give your girlfriend the romance that she wants. Relationships are about give and take. This is your chance to give.