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5 Sex Tips For Married Couples

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Fact or Myth: Married couples have 25% to 300% MORE sex than their single counterparts depending on age.

Believe it or not – that’s a fact! Contrary to popular belief, married couples actually have quite a bit of sex! So why are all the married couples trying to improve their sex lives? That’s because it’s about quality, not quantity. Married couples often have less satisfying sex than their single counterparts because things simply get boring. Here’s how to make all that married sex count!

  • Make Time For Great Sex. Sure, you’ve heard it before. You might be thinking, “Not bloody likely!” But with the every day demands that we face, such as work and children, sex with our spouses often gets put on the back burner. Well, you’re going to have to make time for sex if you want a better, more satisfying sex life. And not a quickie – chances are, that’s what you’re already doing. Make time for good sex.
  • Resolve Your Conflicts. Every married couple has conflicts. But when you and your spouse argue outside the bedroom, those feelings of anger, hurt and frustration often get carried into the bedroom. These feelings can affect your sex life in numerous significant ways. Spouses who have regular conflicts with each other don’t feel as emotionally close to their partners, making it difficult to totally open yourself to great sex. Resolving your conflicts with each other before getting busy can help you to feel emotionally and physically open to your partner, often resulting in mind blowing sex!
  • Exercise Together. Exercise is a great boost for the libido, and exercising together? Even better. Not only do you get to spend time with your spouse that you ordinarly may not have been able to do, you also get to see them all hot and sweaty…well, you get the picture. In addition to the sexy, sweaty fun, exercising regularly (and eating a healthy, nutritious diet) will help keep you fit and attractive to your spouse.
  • Flirt With Each Other. Remember when you and your spouse first started dating? There was lots of flirting going on, and neither you nor your partner were sure what was going to happen next. That fun, exciting feeling of having no idea of their next move often gets lost when you get married, mainly because you know exactly what is going to happen next. You can improve your sex life by bringing that flirty, fun feeling back into your relationship. Go to a bar with your spouse and exchange some witty banter and see where it heads.
  • Be Completely Spontaneous. For the same reason flirting can often revv up the quality of sex in a marriage, so can a healthy level of spontaneity. Instead of going home for the night, just keep driving and see where it leads you. Surprise your spouse with a hot hotel room for the weekend, or wear a new, sexy pair of undies. If you usually wear boxers or panties, try wearing a string bikini or a thong. It doesn’t matter what you do, just be creative and break out of the norm. Surprise your partner with something totally unexpected, even if it’s something small.

7 Ways To Rekindle Your Girlfriend’s Love For You

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Are you you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had? Scared this may affect or eventually end your relationship?

You’re not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can make things stale and lose the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

Send Her A Unique Gift At Work

Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart.

Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

Have Fun With Water

On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your girlfriend and then have a huge water fight. If you’re lucky (and you probably will be) your lover will want to to take advantage of the fact that you’re both wet and turned on! Find a good hiding place and get your public sex on.

Bring Back Childhood Memories

Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example, if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted.

Become Kids Again

If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give her a ride. Might bring back happy memories from childhood.

Organize A Backyard Picnic

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

Show Her You’re Grateful For Her

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”

Spice Up Your Lovemaking

Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try new sex positions, learn to give your partner an erotic massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the power these little things have on a relationship. If things are rough in your relationship don’t wait for your significant other to do something. Take action. Make the first step towards mending your partnership. It’s all about passionate love. Show it.

The Secret to Lasting Love – Better Than Flowers And Chocolate

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After you’ve been together for a while and the initial euphoria wears off, it’s easy to keep finding faults and to focus on the problems and bumps and forget the wonderful things that made you fall in love in the first place. Here’s the best way to keep the love and romance alive in your relationship, no flowers or chocolate required!

Gratitude Journal

When things get rough in your relationship, it’s important to remember what made you first fall in love with your partner. Chances are, the reasons you love your partner are still the reasons you love your partner but day to day stresses have just gotten in the way. It’s easy to focus on little annoyances when things aren’t going your way and this can often put a lot of strain on the relationship. Instead of going over and over why you’re mad at your partner or what they’re doing that really irks you, try focusing on what you love about your partner. Start a gratitude journal. Every day, write down five things that you love about your partner, or that made you fall in love with them in the beginning. Do this for thirty days and you’ll find that all those little annoyances aren’t such a big deal anymore and its easier to remember why your partner is important to you.

Create A LoveBook

A LoveBook is a great option for putting your gratitude journal into something you can give as a great gift and keep for years to come. Sign up for a free account online and start making your LoveBook right away. Pick between a hard or soft cover and choose your cover art. Then, pick from pre-made pages of things you love about your partner or create your very own page. Each page has an illustration on it to help bring the book to life. Once you’re finished putting it all together, order your LoveBook and have it sent to your home. Now you have something to look back on when you’re feeling frustrated in your relationship or give as a perfect romantic gift for birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day or just because.

LoveBook Gift Ideas

A LoveBook is a great gift for your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend or partner. This is originally what the LoveBook was designed for, and you simply can’t get any more personal or original with your gift. Forget the bland “flowers-and-chocolate-or-dinner-reservations” gifts and get your partner something really special instead. LoveBooks also make great gifts for parents and grandparents to let them know how thankful you are and how much you appreciate them in your life. Make a LoveBook for your child on their birthday or on any day to let them know all the reasons you think they’re a stellar kid and why you’re proud of them. If you use your imagination, you can give a LoveBook to just about anyone and let them know why they’re important to you and why they’re a big part of your life! Of course, giving a LoveBook to your partner is super special, and it’s so easy you can make one every year to let them know how your love for them continues to grow and grow.

Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea – Gettin’ Kinky

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Make this Valentine’s Day hotter than ever by doing something totally exciting and unexpected in the bedroom! Instead of doing the same old, boring thing that you do every Valentine’s Day, try something new and fun. This is the perfect time to get a little kinky, and spice things up for both you and your partner. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

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Vibrators

Instead of your traditional vibrator, try wearing some vibrating boy shorts all day to get you hot and ready for the big night! Put them on while your partner pleasures you in different ways, to increase y0ur orgasmic potential. Also, boy shorts with a larger sized remote control vibrator puts your pleasure in your partner’s hands! Give him total control over your body, even from another room. Wear them all day and let him surprise you with pleasure again and again.

Bondage

If you’re into bondage with a willing prisoner, splurge a little on some inexpensive japanese bondage rope or handcuffs specifically designed for the bedroom. Scarves work well too, but rope from the boat, car or garage just won’t do. You want something soft, stretchy and made for bondage to do the job. Japanese bondage rope is an easy to use, soft “rope” that actually tightens a little when you try to resist. Another great toy is an under the bed restraint – this restraint actually “threads” under your bed and provides you with soft, velcro cuffs at all four corners of the bed for each of your willing prisoner’s arms and legs.  The under the bed restraint also features adjustable straps that you can tighten or loosen at your discretion. Take some turns trying out your new toys and being prisoner and prison warden for a kinky Valentine’s night that you’ll never forget!

Kinky Valentine’s Day Treasure Chest

A great way to spice up your Valentine’s night with some fun new toys is to get a “grab bag” with lots of stuff inside. The Fetish Fantasy Series bondage gear box is like a treasure chest full of fun things to use on Valentine’s Day – and afterwards! A red, fuzzy, heart shaped paddle, velcro cuffs with heart chain links and warming massage oil are among the many suprises in this fun treasure chest. You and your partner will have a blast seeing what’s inside! Take your toys to a hotel for an even hotter Valentine’s night, or simply stay at home and lock the door. Just remember, Valentine’s Day is about trying something new and different to spice up your sex life. Keep an open mind and a great attitude!

Check out Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Sexy Games For Couples and Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Fun In The Tub for more great ideas on how to make this Valentine’s Day rock!

5 Signs Your Man Is Cheating Or Just No Good

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Signs that your man is cheating (or is just no good for you) are usually fairly easy to pick out. Most women can tell when there is something wrong with the relationship or when a guy is hiding something from them. If you have taken stock of your current relationship and realized that things just aren’t adding up, you might have a cheater on your hands. Guys have an uncanny ability to hide things from women, but with just a few things to look out for, you will easily be able to determine if you have a sneaky cheater or a great guy.

Here Are 5 Signs Your Man Is Cheating.

#1 He Cringes When You Reach For His Phone

This is probably one of the biggest cheating red flags out there. A guy’s phone is much like your phone: it’s his lifeline. If a guy is cringing or panicking every time that you try to use his phone, he’s probably ding something. If he’s cheating on you, the phone is the first place to look. One of the things that you will find about men is that they hate deleting texts, pictures and emails from other women. They tend to keep them as trophies. So when a guy is in a panic over you using his phone, he has something to hide. Confronting him about it doesn’t have to be a screaming match. Ask him why he has a problem with you using his phone. He might just turn it over for you to look through it. If he refuses, there is something wrong.

#2 He Panics When You Reach For His Computer

Very similar to the phone, the computer is a very private thing that men use all the time. Whether he doesn’t want you to find his secret porno stash or he doesn’t want you to see the email that his ex sent, there is something wrong if he doesn’t want you to use his computer. Everybody gets a false sense of security with their computer.

It’s usually password protected, you can delete the history and you can close out email windows. But when a guy hasn’t covered his tracks, there’s going to be a problem with you using his computer. You will get a feeling of uneasiness when a guy is afraid you’ll find something. When you touch on this emotion, consider what he’s hiding and how bad it could possibly be.

#3 He Doesn’t Acknowledge The Relationship

We live in a digital age of social networking, smartphones and a bunch of other gadgets that can show off our relationships. If you have been in the relationship for a while and he hasn’t really acknowledged it outside of the two of you, it might be time to get worried. Facebook relationship statuses aren’t really a big deal until he refuses to change it for you. There are only two reasons that a guy will change his Facebook relationship status: he’s embarrassed by you or he’s cheating and doesn’t want other people –women, friends, family- to know about it. This is a big problem and you should reconsider the relationship if it persists.

#4 He Doesn’t Plan For The Future

There comes a time when you have to put up or shut up. Now, that doesn’t seem very romantic, but women want a guy that is going to plan for the future. A relationship is about sharing a life and you can’t do this when one piece of the relationship is only considering their own future. If your guy hasn’t mentioned anything about marriage, children, or even a summer vacation together, you might want to take a very hard look at what you’re in. Guys that don’t plan for the future do not see a future and you should prepare yourself for this inevitability.

#5 He Only Makes Time For You When It’s Convenient

This is another big one. There are guys out there that lead very busy lives. Whether he’s a lawyer, a doctor or even a student, if he’s only seeing you when it’s convenient for him, he’s definitely no good. One sided relationships never end well. If you think that you’re in a one sided relationship, ask yourself when the last time your guy rearranged his schedule to accommodate you. Now, he shouldn’t always be doing this. That would show desperation. However, he should make time for you when there is something important happening in your life or you need his help during an emergency. If he’s not dependable, you should go ahead and give him the boot.