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How To Tell If Your Man Is Lying

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Relationship advice is important to have if you suspect your significant other isn’t being honest with you. Here’s how to know if they’re lying.

Something’s fishy, and not in good way. You think your partner isn’t being truthful, but you’re not sure, and you want to be. How do you tell if you guy is on the up and up or a dirty no good dog?

What She Said:

Guys get such a bad reputation for being liars and they fit the stereotype. Lots of men lie, but those same men are really terrible at it. If you are quick and pay attention, you can totally tell if your guy is lying to you. When you ask your guy a question and before he answers he hesitates, he’s probably lying.

That hesitation is him figuring out what the right thing is to say, instead of telling you the truth. Also when a guy is lying about something, he’ll put too much emphasis on what he says, and he’ll add too much detail. Lets say you asked him what he did last Saturday night. If he answers with lots of details, time, place, who he was with, what they drank/ate and he repeats his same story over and over again, there is a good chance he is lying. Guys are simple and not detailed like women, they can usually answer your questions in 3-4 words. Don’t believe me? Look at any text message you have gotten from a guy, I bet his responses to you are short and few words.

Now, if he is lying and trying to cover his tracks, he will have taken time to iron out details and make sure you know those details so it seems like it was the truth. So pay attention to him, not the details but in how many details he is giving you. That’s a sure sign that he is trying to save his ass. A man with nothing to hide will be able to simply answer your questions and move on to something else, like sports or beer.

What He Said:

My apologies to Ms. Johnny Cochran over there, but I think she’s on smack. You can’t automatically say that just because he gives you details he’s lying. Some people are detail oriented. Some aren’t. Some may be visual and can remember things well, others not so much. If the story is consistent, that’s probably a good thing. It’s when you ask the questions and the story changes or if he struggles to explain inconsistencies, that’s probably not good. Too many details can be a problem, that’s true. He probably won’t remember everything, you should probably hear “I don’t know” once or twice.

You, if you’re getting the truth, should hear direct answers, yes or no. If the conversation starts to sound like an oil executive testifying at a congressional hearing, then well, that’s not good. Also, demeanor and body language are important. Is he relaxed? Breathing heavily? Showing signs of confusion, frustration or fatigue?

He’s not going to like the whole interrogation thing, but if he’s anything other than relaxed and calm, you might feel your spidey sense tingling. Unless of course, he’s an actor, attorney, serial killer, used car salesman or elected official. Those people are trained liars and get off on doing so. You shouldn’t be having sex with them anyway. What is wrong with you woman? Seriously? Have you no taste? No sense of self worth? Why are you letting them pet the kitty? Aren’t there other people who aren’t professional douchebags who want to get naughty with you? Can’t you be attracted to them? No? You want guys who treat you like crap? Oh, okay. Who am I to judge?

Anyways…

You probably know your man pretty well. Or at least you should. So you should have a feel right away for whether or not he’s telling the truth. And at the end of the day, you don’t have to wonder about it. He will reveal himself. A persons actions do not lie, even though they may. Just wait, be patient. In time you will have the answers, whether you want them or not is another story.

Do you really want to know what he’s thinking or where he was last night? What will finding out do for you? It’s always good to make sure you really want to know. Sometimes when you find out that you would really rather not know. But you can’t go back once you do, so don’t ask unless it’s something you are prepared for. Sounds ominous, doesn’t it?

Is Your Relationship The Real Deal?

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Relationship advice is crucial if you want to find out if your partnership is on the right track. Have you actually found the one this time? Here’s how to know!

So you’re a girl. Who met a boy. And you “know” he’s the one. This time you mean it! Seriously though, new relationships are highly intoxicating. Puppy love and love feel eerily similar. Sooner or later, we’re all bound to fall in love. But how do you tell which is which? Is he really Mr. Right, or is he just a practice relationship?

What She Said:

At one point or another all women have dreamed of their perfect wedding. We imagined the dress, the flowers and the perfect man. But how do you know if the guy you are dating is Mr. Right? Most importantly, do you want him to be? Just having to ask yourself if he is Mr. Right is a red flag. And is cause to be alarmed. If you felt like he was Mr. Right, no article that you read or advice column is going to tell you. You will know it. But, since love is different for everyone, it might be hard to really know so you need to ask your heart and your gut some questions.

Does he support you emotionally, physically and spiritually? Do you want nothing more than to make him happy? Does he make you feel supported and safe? Is there still a spark between the two of you? When he walks into a room, does your face light up? These things sound super cliché, but there is so much truth to them. Another gut question to ask yourself is, his annoyance factor. In other words, does your man now do some of the things that your ex used to do that annoyed you but these things do not annoy you with your new guy? You might just have yourself a Mr. Right.

The last super major gut question to ask yourself is what would your life be without him? If a life without him makes you feel lost that’s a sure sign he is your Mr. Right. Again, these are just some questions to ask yourself, you know what you feel. Listen to your gut.

What He Said:

As the wise Chris Rock once said, “Love is like bread. You gotta love the crust. You can’t just love the white part of the bread. Everyone loves that part. It’s the crust. If you don’t love that, you don’t love him.”

Being a woman in love with a man means sooner or later he is going to do some stupid shit to piss you off. Is your love strong enough to put up with that? Your love can’t be based on his abs or sex or any one thing. All those things are important, of course, but they will ebb and flow over time.

For a man, relationships are about finding a level of insanity you can put up with. Don’t think you’re crazy? You have a vagina, don’t you? I’m not saying it’s wrong your crazy, but make sure Mr. Right knows how crazy you are and loves you anyway. If he’s seen you at your worst, and he still returns your calls, that’s pretty significant.

You can live without everything and anything except protein and water. So saying “I can’t live without him” is a lie. You can. But do you want to? That’s a better question. If you can and don’t want to, then you’re on to something.

Goosebumps are something he should always give you as well as effort. He shouldn’t stop doing the things he did to get you after he has gotten you. Women like that stuff. It’s important to you and he should know this and be willing to do this stuff for you, even if he doesn’t want to. Love is doing things you know you hate because he/she likes to do them. If he’s willing to do that for you, and he’s coachable on other stuff, like the love-making, then you’re really on to something.

If you’re asking yourself too many questions about him and where this is going, that’s probably not good. It’s good to be sure, and don’t go into anything blindly, but if you’re devoting tons and tons of energy to analyzing the relationship and wondering if he can pass a background check then, well, maybe it’s a “not so much” type answer to the “Is he Mr. Right?” question.

5 Signs Your Man Is NO Good

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Relationship advice is necessary if you want to find out if you’re really with Mr. Right or not. Check out these five red flags that your fella needs the boot.

Men are dogs, pigs, whatever you want to call them. If you think that you have met prince charming but there are things that you know aren’t right, you should always follow your gut. For the most part, having a feeling that you’re getting played or the guy is hiding something will come to light with your suspicions being true.

This is not always the case, but women have an uncanny ability to feel out situations. There are ways that you can easily tell whether or not a guy is right for you. Here are the top 5 signs that your man is NO good.

1. You Always Pay

There are only two reasons that you always pay when you go out. The first reason is that he doesn’t have any money. The second reason is that he doesn’t want his wife or girlfriend to see the credit card or banking statement. Now, if your guy is in financial straits and you know about it, this can be something that you have to overlook.

Knowing about your man’s financial situation is an honesty that is admirable on his part. However, if he has chiseled out an image of success, he should be paying. Leave your guard up if you are constantly paying for yourself or for the both of you on every date.

2. He Doesn’t Stay Over

Having a casual affair can be a lot of fun. However, there is nothing casual about a relationship. If your man leaves after every romp in the sheets, there’s probably something going on. Even if you’re not having sex and he refuses to stay the night, you have to start looking out for yourself.

Guys that don’t stay the night have a reason to leave. This could be that he has a wife or girlfriend waiting for him at home or that he is just afraid to get intimate with you. If you are having sex and he is leaving, he is probably afraid of commitment and needs to be confronted. Let him know that you’re not looking for something casual and see how he responds.

3. He Doesn’t Talk About The Future

Guys that don’t talk about a future with you aren’t planning on a future with you. This is very simple. If he’s not talking about the future then he’s probably no good. Guys are a lot like girls in relationships. They don’t want to keep things stagnant. They want to have something to look forward to other than watching TV on a Friday night.

If your guy isn’t talking about future trips, holiday plans or meeting your parents, get rid of him. You want a guy that can see himself with you for a while barring no immediate infidelity or hiccups in the relationship.

4. He Isn’t Considerate

Has a guy ever blown you off last minute to go hang out with his friends? If he has then you know how infuriating and hurtful it can be. A guy that is not considerate of your feelings or your time is not somebody that you want to be with. If you find yourself waiting by the phone on a Friday or Saturday night wondering if you’re going to have a date, you might as well break it off now or have a very stern talk with him.

You want a guy that is going to make plans with you ahead of time, stick with them and follow through. Never stay with a guy that takes you or your time for granted. Eventually you’re going to get tired of it and break the relationship off.

5. He Has No Ambition

A man without ambition is a man that you’re never going to respect. Traditionally, a guy is supposed to take care of the family. While there are different rules now that women have become liberated, a man should still want to be able to provide for his wife and children. If you find yourself with a guy that has no ambition, you can rest assured that he does not love you enough to provide the type of life he believes you deserve.

No guy should be held to the standard of becoming the next billionaire on Wall Street or a real estate tycoon, however, a life of never having to worry about bills being paid is something that everybody should strive for. If your guy is not trying to provide for you and an upcoming family, he’s not the kind of guy that will go the distance.

5 Secrets For A Blissful Relationship

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Relationship advice can help couples from all walks of live achieve a happy and satisfying union. Check out these five tips for love that is stress free!

Having a good partnership with your lover may seem impossible that point’s and easy at other points. There are a lot of struggles that couples go through, ranging from the financial disputes sexual expectations and other aspects of the relationship. However, great relationship advice will ensure you’re happy the majority of the time. Many people believe that having a marriage is very simple.

The fact of the matter is that it takes work and it will not happen overnight. If you are looking for a quick shot of intimacy, then you are in for a rude awakening. There are going to be bumps in the road, but you can combat this with love and understanding of your partner.

1. Have Trust

Trust is the foundation for all unions. This is perhaps the best relationship advice you’ll ever get! If you find that the trust has been broken,, everything will have to be mended from scratch. Trust is not something that comes easily. This has to be earned and that takes time. However, trust can be broken in a matter of seconds.

The trust that you build with your partner should be based on the respect that you have for each other. Within a marriage can easily be established through the commitments that you have made with the vow of being there for each other for a life time. For a less than long term relationship, it is important to remember the golden rule.

2. Create Financial Comfort

No, you don’t have to have Warren Buffet’s bank account, but being financially comfortable can take a lot of the trouble out of a marriage. One of the biggest sources for fights and lost sleep is money, or the lack there of. If you would like to have a great union with your spouse, work on becoming financially secure and staying that way.

Not having to worry about how a bill is going to be paid or how you can afford to go on a vacation once a year take away the majority of the pressures. No, money is not everything, but it can start a lot of fights when it’s not in order.

3. Do The Unexpected

Everybody loves surprises. If you feel that you’ve been losing intimacy with your partner, do something even though the both of you could benefit from. Surprising your partner with a weekend getaway or taking them to their favorite restaurant after a busy day at the office can go a long way.

Once you have done something for your partner, they will be more likely to do something for you. This is not a method for you to get something that you want, this is merely an icebreaker to putting your union back on the path that it has strayed from.

4. Spend Time With Your Friends

Even though you want things to be as good as possible, spending time with other people can also benefit you and your partner. Have you ever heard the phrase “absence makes the heart grow fonder?” This phrase sums up a great deal of what couples tend to fall into when they first get married or have been together for a very long time.

Spending all of your time together can make the both of you feel cut off from the rest of the world. There is no need to smother your partner or be smothered to try to force things to work. Spend time with family, friends or coworkers to give the both of you break every now and then.

5. Deal With Conflict As It Comes

Conflict is always going to be there. Whether you want to go see a movie that your partner doesn’t want to see where you are upset that they stayed out all night, problems are going to spring up any time. How you handle these problems is going to be indicative of how well your relationship will be in the future. Dealing with conflict with proper way can leave you both feeling good about yourselves. When conflict does arise, deal with it head on. Don’t beat around the bush and do not avoid it.

Conflict can actually improve your relationship. When there is a small problem and you deal with it effectively, you are essentially preparing yourself for when larger conflict occurs between the two of you. Learning how to deal with conflict the proper way according to how your partner deals with stress and anger is a part of life. Talk to them openly and with honesty about the conflict to build a future on a solid foundation.

How To Break Up The Right Way

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Relationship advice can help you avoid the pitfalls of a messy break up. Here is what real men and women are saying about breaking up the right way.

What She Said:

No Birthdays Or Text Messages

Breaking up with someone can get really messy.  Especially if you have been dating for a while.  If you want to end a relationship, one of the worst ways to do it would be via a text message.  If you text that things are over then you really are not giving someone the respect they deserve.  Even if your relationships turned out to be a complete disaster, it is important that you end things face to face.

Another terrible way to break up with someone is by using social media like facebook.  Changing your relationship status to single or worse, posting pictures of you with a new guy is just cruel.  Yes social media makes life easier but it should never ever show where your heart stands without telling the person first.

Another terrible way to break up with someone is when it is there birthday or a major holiday.  No matter how ready you are to move on, sometimes its best to wait a day.  If you end it on his birthday or an important holiday you will forever ruin that day for him and no one wants to have a bad reminder of his or her birthday or Christmas.

In a nutshell, if you are going to break up do not tell him all that he did wrong or high light is faults.  Break up and leave him his dignity.  Do not call him names, or worse, make mention to his penis size or bad bedroom skills.  He was once your boyfriend; respect what you had because there once was a time when you did care for him.

What He Said:

Run It Like A Business

Look, the fact of the matter is that the person on the receiving end is not going to like the rejection. There are exceptions to be sure, but this is a good general rule. Why is this important to realize? Because most people spend a lot of time and energy around planning their breakup speech because they want to be  nice or let the person down easy.

This is impossible.

If you know they aren’t going to like this, there’s no point in trying to plan it so that they will. Just make it fast and nasty. Tell them you don’t want to see them any more, then hang up. In person is good, but don’t do it during a meal or a typical date activity. No texting. No just disappearing, no avoiding their calls or texts until they “get it.” Just let them know and move forward.

This may sound harsh, and maybe in one way it is, but really it’s not that harsh. What’s harsh is drawing out or prolonging the process. The only real reason to do that is for your own ego, to make yourself feel better. That’s great and all, but making yourself feel better at the expense of others is not good.

So deal with it with the coldness of an IRS auditor or HR person. When you get canned, they don’t give you a big long flowery speech, they give you your last check and tell you to get your shit and go. They aren’t mean about it, they aren’t cocky they aren’t happy to do it, but they do it quickly and as painless as possible.

Run it like a business, bitches. If you have any of their stuff, make sure to give it to them in person when you do the breaking up. Don’t talk about the romance at the beginning or that you think they are a really, really great person and that they will find someone special soon or any of that typical breakup crap. Lying to them will prolong the process. Just end it.

It may surprise you, but they actually would rather you do it that way. They will feel relived, even if they don’t like the news they are hearing. They’ll move on and so will you.

Don’t Try To Stay Friends

And for the love of God, don’t give them that “lets be friends” crap. You’re not going to be friends any more, so why pretend? And for the other love of God, don’t stay Facebook friends with them. Sever all social media ties. They don’t need to know what you’re doing and vice versa. It’s over.