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The Top 3 Most Wanted Sex Acts Women Crave From Men

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Despite the increasing awareness of female sexuality, a woman still wants a man to lead her in the bedroom. Except for a paltry few, women expect men to have more knowledge about sex than them, whether they admit it or not. It’s not surprising that so many men’s magazines have started adding real sex advice columns, and Q&A sections, cutting a big chunk of sexy photographs space. These men need all the help they can get their hands on when it comes to learning how to make women happy in the bedroom.

So, what is a regular guy to do if his hot girlfriend is in a cuddly mood and is expecting the best sex of her life?

Here are the top 3 most wanted sex acts women crave from men:

1. Making Her Feel Like a Goddess

Preparation time for a date is longer for women than men, so don’t make her think that she wasted her efforts to preen for you by ignoring her bling and scented wrists. Admire her shoes, because doing so means you’ve looked her over. You can stare at other body parts all you want but make sure that you talk to her eyes when you tell her something so she can see the wonder in them.

When you give her a small embrace, let your hands linger on her shoulders and waist long enough for her to feel the warmth of your palms. Abrupt actions and over all behavior might make her feel neglected and unappreciated. Flattery will make her float, if said sincerely and sexily. Whisper naughty things on her ear and make her giggle. Knowing that you’re hot for her as soon as you see her will convey the message of a very passionate night ahead.

2. Connecting with Her Emotionally Through Foreplay

You may feel very passionate and hot for her during your touchy feely date, but when you get her to the bedroom, make sure to take your time and linger on every part of her body that you undress. Trace patterns with your fingers gently across her heated flesh. Play little alphabet games with your tongue as you kiss her where she wants to be kissed the most. Knead rather than pinch and encourage her to moan for you.

One sexy tip is to talk about safe, mundane things while you make love to her with your hands and lips. Encourage her to play out her fantasies and let her return the favor. Be expressive while she makes love to you. When she goes down on you, never thrust too hard and just let her take control. Focus your efforts on making her feel that every move she makes sends waves of pleasure through you.

3. Giving Her An Orgasm (Or Two)

When she’s had her fun, let loose and give her the best orgasm she’s ever had. By now she will be sensitized and receptive (not to mention, delirious with lust). Few men know of the real secret to making a woman reach climax, but those who do certainly have very happy girlfriends. You will notice just how coquettish a woman gets when she’s thoroughly sated. The feeling of orgasm is addictive, mind boggling and overwhelming.

Giving her the gift of orgasm will bring you closer together. She will also look at you in a different light, and imagine what life will be in the future if you can make her climax that way over and over again.

How To Put On A Condom

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Whether it’s your first time or your three hundredth time, putting on a condom the correct way might still prove elusive to you. How do you put on a condom safely, how do you make sure the condom is still good and how do you take it off correctly to avoid spillage? Here’s answers to your questions, and more!

Dear Dan And Jennifer,

I’m a first time condom wearer – I want to be safe, but how do I put one on the right way? It seems harder than it should be! Do you have any tips?

–Terry, Washington

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Checking Your Condom

First, keep your condoms in a cool, dry place. Condoms that are kept in glove compartments, wallets and back pockets can break down more easily than condoms that are kept in a drawer or another safe place. Before opening your condom, make sure the condom hasn’t passed its expiration date – yes, condoms can expire! Open your condom gently to make sure you’re tearing only the package (not the condom) and check it for consistency. Make sure if it’s a lubricated condom that the lube is still moist, and make sure your condom is still in good, working condition. If it seems like your condom might not be ready to go, throw it out and get a new one!

Putting Your Condom On

You might want to put your condom on in a lighted situation – putting on a condom in complete darkness can lead you to possibly put it on the wrong way. Grab the built in reservoir on the top and roll the condom slowly down the penis, making sure that all of the air bubbles are worked out of the condom before you start. To avoid fluid contamination, be sure that both your hands and penis are clean before putting on a condom. Be very careful that no fluid from the penis gets on the outside of the condom before you begin intercourse, as this may lead to sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

Removing Your Condom

When you’re ready to remove your condom, pull your penis out slowly while gripping the base of the condom to avoid spilling any seminal fluid that is inside the condom. Turn completely away from your partner before removing it, and slowly roll the condom back up the penis while making sure that the seminal fluid stays in the built in reservoir. Take your used condom, wrap it in tissue and throw it away properly – they don’t flush! Wash your hands and penis thoroughly with soap and water before touching your partner again.

Tips And Pointers

If a condom breaks, pull out immediately and remove the condom, washing thoroughly before putting on another one. Make sure your condom fits properly – if it’s not snug, or there are air bubbles or it seems too loose, your condom might be too big and you may need to choose a smaller size. It can also be dangerous if your condom is too small or too tight – if the ring around the base of the condom doesn’t go all the way to the base of your penis, the condom isn’t the right size for you. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different types of condoms until you find the right one for you!

Condoms 101: How To Buy A Condom

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If you’ve made the decision to have safe sex with your partner – and good for you – it can still be intimidating to purchase a condom. There are so many options available when it comes to condoms, with different sizes, flavors and textures to suit almost anyone’s needs. So where do you start?

Dear Dan And Jennifer,

I want to have safe sex with my partner, but what kind of condom do I get? There are so many different types, how do I know which one is for me?

–Terrence, New Jersey

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Fun And Flavored

If you’re looking to have great sex while still being safe at the same time, you don’t have to purchase the traditional, latex-smelling condoms. Many different condom manufacturers make flavored and colored condoms that both taste and smell good, so you can have both fun and safety. Great flavors include vanilla, chocolate and mint and some condoms are even glow in the dark if you want to bring a little something extra to the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different colors and flavors to find the one you like best.

Different Materials

Condoms don’t come in latex only versions. There are actually quite a few people that are allergic to latex, so condom manufacturers had to create condoms that would be safe and effective without causing allergic reactions in some individuals. Polyurethane – a type of plastic – is a good option if you’re allergic to latex, with the exception that it doesn’t have as much “stretchy” give as a traditional latex condom. Lambskin condoms are also a choice for people allergic to latex, but they’re only effective at preventing pregnancy – they’re too porous to protect against sexually transmitted diseases.

What’s Your Size?

Condoms also come in a variety of sizes, and it can be difficult for a man to find out what size he needs. Many men feel they need a bigger condom than they really do, because almost 90% of the male population can wear a regular sized condom well. If you feel that a regular sized condom is too tight or too small, you can purchase larger sizes that might be more comfortable.

Texture, Texture, Texture

Many condoms are available in ribbed and studded varieties, helping to increase the friction between the man and the woman during intercourse, and can help increase pleasure for both partners.

Female Condoms

Ladies can also protect themselves with the female variety of condoms, although they’re not as effective as traditional male latex condoms. Unfortunately, although a female condom is a safer choice than nothing at all, it can feel a bit like having intercourse with a grocery bag inside of you.

Choosing condoms can be challenging, but it’s important to have fun with it and not be embarrassed about it! Try different types and varieties of condoms until you find the one that works best for you and your partner, and don’t be afraid to try new ones now and again. There are lots of places online to purchase a variety of condoms, or you can always stop by your local convenience store if you’re in a hurry. It’s always better to be safe than sorry!

Do I Really Need To Wear A Condom?

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Whether you’re new to sex or not, you might wonder if you really need a condom. You’ve heard they protect you and protect your partner, but do you really need a condom when you’re having intercourse, or is it all just hype? Are the condom companies raking in millions for no reason or is wearing a condom really the smartest way to go? 

Dear Dan And Jennifer,

I’ve heard a lot of people talk about condoms and some people say you don’t need them and that you can just pull out. What’s the truth – should I really wear a condom or is it all just rumor?

–Ted, California

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Do I Need A Condom?

Yes! Condoms can help prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. While animal skin condoms are too porous to prevent STD’s, they’re still effective at preventing pregnancy and traditional latex and plastic condoms are even better. What if your partner is on birth control? Do you still need to wear a condom? Yes! Birth control is effective, but can be made less effective by taking it incorrectly, taking antibiotics or being ill. When coupling condoms with birth control, you are doubly protecting you and your partner against pregnancy as well as preventing the spread and contraction of sexually transmitted diseases.

But I Don’t Like The Way It Feels

Just because a condom might decrease the sensitivity experienced during intercourse a little is no reason not to protect you and your partner. You can still have a lot of fun with condoms – especially flavored ones and those with warming lubricant – and still have a satisfying sex life while staying safe. For some men, condoms are an excellent way to help prevent premature ejaculation. If you tend to “go” too quickly, wearing a condom might help you last longer and some are even available with desensitizing gel or cream that will help you to keep from ejaculating too quickly.

But I’m Embarrassed To Buy Them

Don’t be! If you’re buying condoms, it means you’re having sex. That’s a good thing, right? You can buy condoms at any drug store, supermarket or convenience store and they’re incredibly inexpensive. If you’d like more privacy while purchasing your condoms or would like a wider variety of condoms to choose from, there are many online stores that offer flavored, glow in the dark, colored and other types of condoms that you and your partner can really have a lot of fun with! If you purchase your condoms online, they’ll come to you in discreet packaging and no one will know but you! In reality though, there’s nothing wrong with purchasing condoms from your grocery store, a gas station or even online – it means that you’re being safe and you’re getting ready to have a great time.

All in all, it’s important to be safe – it’s always better being safe than sorry, right? Don’t have sex without a condom – you might be in your doctor’s office getting a positive result on an STD test or finding out that your partner is pregnant, wishing you would have simply put one on in the first place. Have fun with condoms and be safe, and don’t be afraid to experiment with condoms and make them a part of your sexual routine instead of a nuisance!

What Is Great Sex?

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What is it about sex (besides that it’s fun and amazing) that makes it great? I mean, what is great sex to you?

All of us have different versions of great sex, each with different emotions that are conveyed during sex. Some people like dirty talk. Some people like romantic talk.

Connecting With Your Partner

I’ve got to tell you that to me, though, great sex is when you connect with somebody on all levels – emotionally, mentally and physically. Great sex is also when you feel so at ease with each other’s minds, bodies, and souls that you are able to explore each other totally and everything feels great. Really great sex involves both the anticipation of what’s happening in the moment and what’s going to happen next.

What is so interesting to me about the concept of great sex, is that in my lifetime I want to be able to continuously get to new levels with people. I don’t want the same sex forever. I don’t want the same type of relationships forever.

As I go through the cycles of life and the cycles of relationships, I get to know myself better and better over time. What that means is that I am going to be able to give more of myself when the right person comes into my life.

When it comes down to sex, I don’t want to experience the same thing over and over again. I want to feel things I’ve never felt before, and I want to experience a connection that’s deeper, more erotic and more passionate that I’ve ever had previously.

I don’t want the same, because nothing in life should ever be the same. Life should be about getting to new levels, getting deeper with you and getting deeper with your partner.

What Do You Like During Sex?

Some people say they like to kiss during sex. Have you ever kissed somebody during sex, though, where your mouths are so hungry for each other that as you kiss you feel like your whole body is connected from head to toe?

I’m talking about the kind of kiss that is so deep, so passionate and so hungry, that as you’re moving together the kiss is a truly bonding thing. It’s like your souls are so hungry to taste one another, that you just can’t control yourselves.

What is great sex for you? I know for me, it’s everything I’ve just been listing. I know what I want. What I want is the most incredible connection I can possibly feel.

Have you ever had sex with someone and after only the first few times, you can’t believe it’s only been a few times because you feel (in a really good way) like you’ve been having sex with them forever? You feel like you’ve been having sex with them forever because you immediately started learning each other’s bodies and really letting go, and you’re so comfortable with them that you feel like you’ve been connected with their soul and their body forever. At the same time you also know that there are so many other places you want to go with them.

Truly Great Sex

Truly great sex (the kind I’m describing) is something I don’t think happens that often. I think you can have a great and sexually satisfying experience with a lot of people, but I think it’s much more rare to have great sex – the kind where you souls are talking to each other – with someone.

So to me, truly great sex is where your souls are not only connecting, but you know deep down in your heart and soul that you are with a person with whom you can experience things that are more passionate, more erotic and more sensual than with anyone else you’ve ever been with before them. It is almost like you have saved a piece of yourself for this person.

It is like you waited to give that last bit of yourself until you found that someone who just blows you away on an unprecedented soulful and passionate level. The truth is that I think all of us should hold back just a little piece of ourselves until we find that person who has all the keys to unlock all of our secrets.

This kind of great sex is what I strive to have. As a matter of fact, I’m having it now.

What are you having in your life right now? This is what your journey to meet the opposite sex is really all about – this is why you’re learning how to flirt with members of the opposite sex.

You are doing it so you can float on a magic carpet ride. Have you ever moved somebody where every time you move, you feel their soul and their body moving with you in such a rhythm that you feel like you are floating while still 100% connected with that person?

Let’s open up the dialog today and talk about this. Let’s stay on topic, and let’s talk about great sex.