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Why Your Guy Thinks You’re Sexy

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Foreplay often means undressing in front of your fella – which can be nerve wracking! But he’s not looking at your cellulite. Here’s why he thinks you’re HOT!

Your Breasts

Breasts are often served up first during foreplay, much to every single guy’s excitement. Some men are really super into breasts while others just “like” them, but there are very, very few guys (if any) that don’t like breasts at all. The thing is, a lot of women think that men only like certain kinds of breasts. For example, a man might only think a pair of breasts are sexy if they’re the right size and if they’re perky.

This isn’t true at all – it’s simply the result of social conditioning by lingerie companies. Men actually love all breasts. Any size, shape, color – it doesn’t matter. A woman with very large breasts might be unhappy that her breasts sag when she’s not wearing a bra, but her man is most likely just enjoying burying his face in them and making motorboat sounds. A woman with small breasts might want them to be bigger, but her guy is most likely just enjoying tickling and playing with her perky nipples. Men love breasts and they love every kind.

Your Butt

Your fella loves your butt. No matter what your butt looks like – whether it’s big and smackable, or a tiny little thing that looks good in a tight pair of jeans. Guys love to look at butts when they have sex, they like to grab them, smack them and sometimes even bite them. They like to watch you parade around in your underwear around the house and give you a little smack here and there. He especially likes to see it jiggle a little bit – or a lot, depending on his preferences.

Very few men have looked at a woman and said, “Wow, that ass just looks terrible. Just terrible.” In fact, what usually goes through a guy’s mind when he sees a butt that he particularly likes is how great it would look served up to him doggie style. So even if you have stretch marks or cellulite, you can bet that your guy loves your butt. Period.

Your Skin

Good foreplay involves lots of touching of your skin. Your guy loves your skin – he enjoys it so much because women’s skin is almost always softer than a man’s. It always smells good, is usually hairless in the important places and just feels great to rub, stroke, touch and grab. He’s not going to notice your stretch marks. He’s not going to be scrutinizing the quality of your skin, trying to figure out whether it’s dry and ashy and if you need to use more moisturizer or what kind you should use. He’s just enjoying touching and feeling the skin all over your body. So let him and don’t worry about it!

Your Lips

Most guys aren’t into fake lips. Ones injected with fillers, or those with lipliner drawn on so scarily that they really do look almost like a clown. Nope. He loves your soft, natural, wet lips. He especially enjoys them when you’re kissing him, or when he can feel them wrapped around his penis during a blowjob. He doesn’t like it when you put on gobs of lipstick or lipgloss – he may enjoy the way that looks in a photo or something, but he doesn’t want to come away with red or pink lips when he kisses you. And it just frustrates him if you’re wearing a lot of lip color, because then he can’t kiss you. He likes to kiss you whenever he wants!

Brush your lips with your toothbrush when you brush your teeth to remove dead skin and make them super soft. Dab on some good, organic balm and you’re perfectly kissable. He’ll love it.

Your Enthusiasm

If you are INTO sex, he’s going to be INTO you. Period. It doesn’t matter if you have rolls, cellulite, acne, droopy breasts. Doesn’t matter at all. If you are enthusiastic, excited about having sex with him and genuinely into it, he’s not going to notice all those things that you spend hours in the mirror picking apart. He’s just going to be so excited about how excited you are to be doing it with him. So next time you go to get it on with your beau, strip your clothes off, let him feel your skin, kiss him all over, rub your breasts in his face and act like you’re having the best time in the world. He won’t know what hit him.


Keep These Foreplay Tips In Mind When Pleasing Your Girl Sexually!

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Foreplay isn’t always easy – use these easy suggestions in mind when engaging in foreplay with your lover to give her the most amazing orgasms!

Because you are entering the “full sex zone,” you will need to make sure you know just how to please your lady sexually. The more you go out of your way to ensure a pleasurable sexual experience the better. The following are some important tips to use for the sake of your lady’s sexual experience.

What Foreplay Is All About

When it comes to foreplay, think Monopoly: Before you can pass go and collect your $200, you have to make your way around the board (and hope you don’t get sent to jail along the way). So when it comes to your woman, don’t even think about touching her vagina or her breasts until you’ve made your way across her neck, breasts, stomach, thighs, and other less-intimate portions of her body.

When you do make your way to her vagina, if she’s not already wet, then lubricate the area with some personal lubricant or your own saliva. Once she’s fully aroused, her natural lubricant should kick in and make the vagina moist. However, this depends a lot on her age and what part of her menstrual cycle she’s in. So always be ready to apply your own lubricant if needed. Remember: do not use the massage oil as lubricant!

Also make sure to apply the three golden rules: Be gentle, go slow, and have a steady rhythm. Having a steady rhythm over a lengthy period of time (even if your touch isn’t perfect), will do you better than switching back and forth from one technique to another. Although she can slow down, speed up, and even stop to tease you, doing the same to her might just frustrate her enough to want to close up shop.

Fingering

Many women enjoy being penetrated with a finger (those fingernails need to be trimmed). Be sure to start with one finger and don’t add another until her vagina becomes more receptive through her arousal. Move your finger in and out of the vagina very gently. If your lady likes it deep and hard, be sure to do it slowly. Her vagina will be wet inside, so be sure to apply lubricant to her clitoris. Continue stimulating the clitoris while you penetrate her with your finger, dipping it in and out.

Many times you might find you have one hand working the inside of her vagina with your other hand stimulating the clitoris. However, when you have one hand free, use it to stimulate her nipples.

Many women thoroughly enjoy having their clitoris stimulated with the head of their man’s erect penis—a very sexy alternative, so keep this in mind!

Also know that when a woman is on the verge of having an orgasm, she will often grow very still, her body dramatically tense, butt cheeks tightly clenched, and as quiet as a mouse. This is the most crucial point, so it’s imperative that you continue doing what you were doing. Don’t stop or change a thing! While she’s coming, continue going but slow things down and ease up on the pressure just a bit. She’ll push you away when she gets to a point where she can’t take it any more.

Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make

Knowing how to provide your partner with a pleasurable sexual experience is one thing. But just as important is to know what can turn a good thing down the wrong road. The following are some common mistakes that men make.

  • You’re too rough. Regardless of age, being too rough is the #1 complaint among women when it comes to men.
  • You don’t read her body language and get offended when she tries to guide you. Look—it doesn’t matter how many women you’ve had, every woman is different. So if your woman guides you, don’t take it as criticism. She’s simply teaching you what she likes. When it comes to her body language, if she’s pressing against you, it means she wants you to apply more pressure. When she pulls away, it means she wants you to ease up and be gentle.
  • Inconsistent rhythm. Just as she’s climbing her way to an orgasm, you change your technique, sending her sliding back down to the bottom.
  • You rush and penetrate her with your fingers too soon. Be sure to stimulate the lips and clitoris first.
  • You stop at the worst possible moment. A woman’s orgasm tends to last longer than a man’s. Even when you think your lady is done, she could still be climaxing. If you stop what you’re doing when she’s still climaxing, her orgasm will continue but it will not be anywhere near as pleasurable and cause her to feel horribly robbed.

So keeping all of the above in mind, let’s explore the many pleasures of erotic massage techniques and really get her fire going!

Best Foreplay Secrets Of 2011

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Foreplay is essential for awesome sex for both guys and gals. If you skip the foreplay stage, or go through it too quickly, you’re going to have mediocre sex at best. If you want really explosive, orgasmic sex, you’re going to have to spend plenty of time teasing each other into a frenzy! Learn the most incredible foreplay tips of the whole year here!

Don’t forget to take a look at our all time favorite foreplay articles! Some of our best articles will teach guys how to turn a girl on and get her craving you without ever laying a hand on her and will teach women how to drive their guys absolutely crazy with desire before sex! If you really want to revive your sex life and make it hotter than ever before, you don’t want to miss reading these articles!

We’ve also spent some time this year working on finding you the BEST foreplay resources out there, so check out what we’ve found and find out which ones are worth getting!

  • Double Her Desire (a great resource on how to get your female lover turned on more than ever!)
  • Turn Her On Faster (learn how to get her turned on faster so you can both enjoy sex sooner)
  • Erotic Massage For Better Sex (learn the art of sensual erotic massage and she’ll be PUTTY in your hands! This one really is a keeper!)

 

 

Why He Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You

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You want to have sex and he doesn’t. You’re all over him, and he obviously looks like he would rather be doing something else – or at the very least, just not into what you’re doing. Why? You’re butt naked (or even wearing lingerie) and totally smokin’ hot – but he doesn’t seem to desire to have sex at all. How frustrating! What does it mean when he won’t have sex with you? Is there something wrong with you?

Not exactly. Yes, you could be contributing to his not wanting to do it right at that point in time, but there are also some other reasons that he might not want to have sex that are totally beyond your control. Here’s why he might not want to do it when you initiate it:

Lack Of Foreplay

While men often get the reputation of being able to get hard and ready for sex in seconds, this is not always the case. Men actually require foreplay too before they have sex (that is, if they want to get into it at all), although usually not as much as women do.

If you try to get it on with a guy before he’s had enough time during foreplay to get really aroused, you’re going to end up with one of two things – a guy with a semi hard on, or a guy who wants his and wants to get back to what he was doing before. This isn’t really a win-win for either of you. So make sure to include plenty of foreplay in your sex routine, before you ever get started. Oral sex is a great way to do this – often, just a ten minute blowjob will get him warmed up and aroused enough to really want to have sex.

Lack Of Interest On Your Part

A man doesn’t want to have sex with a blow up doll. Or a robot. If he wanted that, he could just go buy a blow up doll. If he’s even remotely interested in sex and makes a move – and you’re not interested or enthusiastic at all – he’ll lose his desire pretty quick. That may leave you wondering what’s going on, especially if you’ve been faking orgasm. A lot of guys can smell a fake from a mile away and that will turn him off faster than if you were dressed like his mother.

Whether he makes the first move or you do, make sure you show lots of interest in him and what is going on. Don’t be distracted by the television, the computer or your phone. In fact, shut all those things off and show your man that you want to pay attention to him and only him. This will get him perked up pretty much right away and as he sees you continue to be really interested in getting it on with him (especially if you’re one of those women who really enjoys giving your man pleasure), he’ll get more and more into it himself.

He’s Not Turned On

It happens to women all the time – even really hot women. For example, he’s watching the game and you bring him a beer. You notice that he has an erection. Your ass looks particularly fine in your jeans today, so it must be that. Or maybe it’s the seductive look you gave him when you sauntered in to where he is sitting. You hone in on him to get things started and he looks at you like you’ve lost your marbles. What? He’s got an erection! Doesn’t that mean he wants to have sex? Not always.

Just because he’s hard doesn’t mean that he’s actually turned on or that he wants sex right at that moment. Sometimes, his penis gets hard on its own, really for no reason at all. This happens throughout the day, but especially at night while he’s sleeping. So you may misread his erection as being turned on, when really, it’s just his body going on about it’s natural business.

So instead of feeling rejected next time you spring on him and he’s just not into it (despite the physical clues that he does), chalk it up to one of those random hard-ons and find something else to do. Try again when he’s relaxed and bring on the foreplay. Take your time, show him you really want him and let things take their natural course. With some effort on your part, it won’t be long before he changes his tune.

How To Seduce Her With A Leg, Butt And Lower Back Massage

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Erotic massage will make your woman melt if you use touch the right way. Here’s where to focus when you do the butt, lower back and legs.

How To Get Started

When beginning foreplay, start with your lover still lying on her front side with her back exposed. The natural progression will be to continue massaging down to her buttocks, legs and feet. To do this, make a nice transitional move by starting at the top of her shoulders with the palms of both of your hands facing flat down, and in a long slow smooth stroke, work your way down to her lower back, buttocks, upper legs, calf muscles, and feet, and finally to her toes.

Important Note! Because you will be including her buttocks in this portion of the massage, you will want to remove the covering you placed over the area at the start of the massage.

Now, reverse this move by continuing up from her feet all the way up to her upper back again and then repeat these same moves up and down again a few times more. You don’t have to follow the same path strictly every time, so make sure to vary it using your own creativity. You can try running your hands all the way up and down the sides of her body from just below her armpits or breasts to her feet, or try a combination of both described methods on top of her body and the sides.

Switch around a few times and see what works well for you and her. The main point in this transition is to make long stroking movements all the way from one end of her body to the other, with your last transitional stroke leaving you at her legs and buttocks so that you can begin teasing new areas.

Beginning The Leg Massage

When you are ready to begin massage her legs, you will want to start at her ankles. Focusing on one leg at a time, lightly grasp her on the calf with both hands just above the ankles and begin moving it upwards towards her buttocks as shown in the photo below.

Continue moving up and down her leg a few times in this way. You can also add a kneading motion by grasping in and out with your hands as if squeezing a soft foam rubber ball. Your thumbs can come in handy too. As you are running your hands up towards the top of her leg, use your thumb on the inside of her thigh while adding a firm pressure. It’s very relaxing and also very sensual for her to have your thumb getting in the proximity of her vagina. So don’t be afraid to tease her a bit.

The next maneuver is something that will feel delightfully sensual to your partner while massaging her upper legs. Just as you wedged your hand underneath her upper torso (in between her body and the surface she is laying on), do the same with her legs. This time, however, wedge your upturned palm underneath her leg and in between the surface it is laying on. Start at the upper portion of her leg near her hip, and then glide your hand all the way down the front of her leg to just above her kneecap. Next, with your hand completely wedged between her leg and the surface, glide your hand back up until you reach close to where her legs meet her hip. This will get your hands very close to her vagina, but remember to not yet directly touch her vagina, as you want to create a bit of anticipation and playful sexual tension first.

The Calf Massage

Proceeding down to her calf muscle, you will now be moving your hands back to the top of her leg again. When massaging the calf muscle area, be very gentle as this muscle can be quite sensitive to pressure on some people. Light to medium pressure works best.

To start, take your hand and lightly grasp her calf just below the knee fold area. Now run your hand down her calf until you reach her ankle, and then slide back up again. You can add a “kneading” motion as well to this as you travel up and down for an extra soothing feel.

Important Note! When working solely on her legs, place the cover over your partner’s buttocks. Not only will ensure her comfort, it will help to increase her anticipation for more sensual pleasure. With her buttocks covered once again, she will wonder when she will get to experience the delight of being completely exposed and having more intimate areas included in the massage.

With one hand now supporting her raised foot, take your free hand and run it up and down her calf a few times while applying a firm pressure. You can also add a light kneading motion to this as well for and extra soothing experience.