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How Erotic Massage Can Turn Up The HEAT In Your Sex Life!

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Erotic massage can connect you with your partner in an intimate way that you’ve never experienced before. Here’s how to make your love life HOT again!

Complete & Total Connection

Imagine the pleasure you’d feel in being completely connected with your partner in terms of physical intimacy. This is what erotic massage can do for you! No matter what stage or condition your relationship is in, sensual massage can help take your relationship back to a reinvigorated state of excitement, as well as bring it to a whole other level. By touching your partner through the art of sensual massage, you can encourage your partner to bond and open up to you like never before.

The History Of Erotic Massage

Both royalty and commoners alike have practiced erotic massage for several centuries. It was practiced in many countries, including China, Egypt, and India, as well as in a variety of cultures around the world, such as by the Greeks, Egyptians, Celtics, and Aztec Indians. Over the years, it continued to develop into a respected form of art through which partners express both love and passion.

The Benefits Of Erotic Massage

The art of touch through sensual massage provides many benefits, not only for the recipient, but the practitioner as well—benefits that can greatly strengthen the bond between lovers. For men who complain of a lack of sexual desire in their female partners, sensual massage can bring about a great deal of positive change in their sexual relationships.

Sensual and erotic massage helps facilitate communication between couples through the simple act of spending quality time together in a caring and sensual manner. This helps to build greater trust and intimacy. Although the act of sex itself is a form of touch and intimacy, the problem is that it’s often over too quickly. For a man, sexual intercourse often results in focusing on his own performance and pleasure rather than his partner’s. As a result, the woman is often left dissatisfied.

One out of three woman is having difficulty achieving an orgasm. Even more women complain of feeling dissatisfied with sex. The reason for this is often due to men not taking the time to set the mood for their female partners. Instead, men have a tendency to move too quickly. As a result, for many women, sex becomes more of a chore than a pleasurable experience.

Women Aren’t Wired The Same

What many men don’t realize is that women are wired differently than men. While men are biologically programmed with an instinctive desire to have sex, women need to feel sexually aroused before they will want to have sex. Although it is easy for a man to get aroused by simply thinking about or seeing his female partner naked, a woman needs much more than that to feel sexually excited.

Some men who have learned this important lesson about women have tried turning to massage as a way to sexually stimulate their female partners. However, a lot of men have failed to achieve their desired results.

This is because many men don’t know how to give a massage. Instead of relaxing and sexually stimulating their partners, they wind up causing unintentional pain and discomfort, often times leaving their women with more stress than they had before the massage.

Improve Your Relationship

Incorporating sensual and erotic massage into your relationship is a great way to meet your partner’s innate need for physical touch. The blissful benefits of sensual touch can help relax, soothe, and even sexually stimulate your partner to the brink of pleasure.

By taking the time to learn how to perform these special massage techniques, you will know just how to go about providing a sensual massage that unlocks your partner’s desire for sex, unleashes her wild and playful side, and helps her achieve those mind-blowing orgasms she so desperately wants and needs!

Getting To Know Your Girl’s Erogenous Zones

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Foreplay will make or break your lover’s orgasm. Learn your lover’s erogenous zones so you can work all the hot spots just the way she likes!

This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ.

And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you learn her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.

Erogenous zones are also important to use when you are giving her an erotic massage! So do you have any idea where your woman’s sweet sex spots are? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during an erotic massage.

The Breasts

Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do? First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC.

When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.

The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).

Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses,’ very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.

The Armpit

Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you, prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.

Do The “Dip”

From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip.” Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.

From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her vagina!

The Feet

This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.

Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!

The Butt

Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!

Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!

The fact that your bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.

Erotic Massage – Why Women Love It (And Why You Need To Do It)

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Erotic massage takes your sex life from lackluster to hot, heavy and passionate. If you’re not giving your partner erotic massage often, here’s why you should.

Erotic Massage Touches A Woman’s Emotions

Every great experience we have in life contains a powerful emotional association. And in contrast, every boring experience has very little. The powerful experiences are the ones you can easily remember because they contained so much “charge” when they were created and so as a result, they stuck in your head as permanent memories.

The same holds true with any great sensual, sexual, and erotic experience. The more we can feel the emotional energy of it, the greater the electrical current will be and the greater the sense of satisfaction we will get from it.

Women are powerhouses when it comes to expressing and feeling emotions—it’s no secret. Their ability to so easily express emotions also allows them to have mind blowing multiple orgasms that have them going out of body with delight. And this can all be achieved through erotic massage and its power of sensual touch.

She Wants A Strong – But Caring – Partner

Women want a man who can be a protector. A man who can keep them safe and out of harms way. It’s hardwired in them. She also wants a man who can protect her from herself – emotionally that is. When you are able to do this for her, she will feel more strongly to surrendering her heart, body and soul to you.

Women love, need, and crave intimacy and affection from their partners. The more they feel and sense it from you, the more sexually open they will become, and the more they will surrender their hearts, bodies, and souls to you. Taking the time to connect with your partner and meet her needs builds trust and safety; two very crucial things that women need to be able to say, “I can relax because I trust that my man is going to keep me safe and take care of me.” When a woman feels this way about her partner, she is free to let go of her inhibitions and explore new things with her lover.

Establishing An Emotional Connection Through Erotic Massage

Massage in itself is a great way of establishing emotional connection. It gets us focused on bodily sensations and at the same time gets us out of the busyness of our minds. Also, when we touch each other in a loving way, our bodies release powerful hormones that further encourage our desire for intimacy and physical touch. One such hormone is oxytocin.

This mysterious hormone is known as the hormone of love and bonding and is most popularly recognized as “the cuddle hormone.” It is directly related to the bonding that occurs between mother and infant during the early stages of life after childbirth. It’s also responsible for creating strong and deep connections between men and women during the early stages of their relationships.

As mentioned earlier, this same hormone is released during massage. So in giving a massage, the more meaningful your touch, the better the entire experience will be for both you and your lover. The key to giving your partner a sensual and erotic massage is to really feel the joy and pleasure you are giving to your lover while massaging her.

Get A Massage Yourself!

A great way to thoroughly understand this concept is to go out and get a relaxing massage yourself before you give one to your woman. This will get you in touch with your own feelings of pleasure, joy, and satisfaction from which you will more easily be able to relate to with your woman. Another benefit of getting a massage is that you can take notes on various moves, techniques, and strokes, as well as what feels the best to you. Doing so will help you to recreate the same pleasurable experiences with your lover.

Massage is an excellent way of establishing the bonds of trust and safety women look for in their relationships with men. Women tend to feel emotionally safe when a man is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy and authentic in his being. These are ways in which she wants her man to be with her and express his love.

It’s all up to you, now. So may you go forth and discover the many pleasures of erotic massage with that special someone in your life and restore the intimacy back into your relationship!

4 Ways To Drive Your Girl CRAZY!

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Foreplay can get your woman so turned on, she’s ready to orgasm at a single touch. Check out these four foreplay tips that will make your partner wild!

I’m sure you love to touch your woman. Scratch that, you love to grope your woman. She is so soft and malleable and has these amazing thing called breasts! If it were up to you, you would grab and squeeze her breasts all day long. Settle down, hoss, it’s not as cool for her when you man handle her soft tissues.

That’s not to say that she doesn’t like it when you touch her. In fact, she loves it when you touch her. She’s just wants it a bit gentler most of the time, not to mention more variety. Below are some ideas for how to touch her that are slightly classier than the breast grab.

Feather Light Touch

Touch her as lightly as possible. This is also referred to as tickling, but I don’t want to give the impression that you should actually tickle her. Slowly run your finger tips all over her body. Barely touch her as you stroke her, and it will have all her nerve endings standing on end. You’re not limited to just your finger tips, you can use your lips, or even the head of your penis, for some added intimacy.

Touch Her With Different Objects

Find household objects you can use to stroke her with. Feathers and silk are the obvious choice, but feel free to be creative. It’s less about what you use, than it is how you use it. It could be a cork from the bottle of wine you just opened, or a pen, or even a credit card. Playing with temperatures is fun too. Rub her down with an ice cube ala 9 ½ Weeks. Whatever it is you use, if you oh-so-gently run it over her body, it becomes an erotic tool.

Use Body Tracing

Body tracing is a good way to get to know your partner’s hot spots. With this it doesn’t matter what stroke her with or how much pressure you use. The only rule is that you never lose contact. If you are tracing her collar bones, and you want to move down to her knees, you get their by running whatever you’re using to touch her with down the length of her body. She will be completely attuned to your touch, and you’re bound to find ticklish spots you never knew about before.

Communication Is Essential

How ever you go about stimulating your partner through touch, communicating with her is key. Whether it’s paying attention to her body language or asking her outright, she is the only one who can let you know what she likes. Don’t be afraid to seek her guidance, the only consequence is pleasuring her!

How To Give An Erotic Massage In The Bathtub

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An erotic massage will make a woman so relaxed, she’ll want to do anything with you! Here’s how to give her a great rub down in the tub.

One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really give her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.

How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what type of aromatherapy or scented oil you used.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles okay? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the erotic massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the erotic massage.

Sexual Massage Moves In The Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.

Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of an erotic massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Get In The Bathtub Too

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part – massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!) You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her clitoris.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot.’ Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her orgasm but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!