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8 Basic Strokes For Erotic Massage Down South

Erotic massage doesn’t have to be limited to her back. Instead, make your way to her vulva and massage her down there to get her totally aroused!

Here, you assume the role of a giver. For best results, place a pillow or two under her buttocks. Position yourself beside her or between her legs, in such a way that you have maximum access to her vulva.

These strokes deal largely with the Labia majora, and to the giver, it may seem there’s not much difference among strokes – but to your lady, whose eyes are closed, fully intent on savoring every minute, the trivial variations become different adventures. You’ll be amazed at how simple modifications alter her experience significantly.

You will also notice that none of the strokes intend to penetrate the vagina.

1. “Hello” Technique

Always start with this one. It’s not really a stroke as it is a way to get things rolling. Position your hand like a panty covering her vulva and cup your palm to her shape. Do not move your hand. Not yet. Feel the heat emanating from her. Add eye contact for better results.

“Hello” has a two-fold purpose. One, it’s a getting-to-know-you time. You gain familiarity of her curves & musculature, her soft and fat parts. Molding your palm on her equipment affords you prudence later in the erotic massage. Two, it’s a comfort building technique in that it introduces your hand to her thing. Remember that you’re about to man-handle what women consider as their core, the innermost sanctum of their being.

2. Palm Circulars

Maintaining the “HELLO” position, move your palm in circular motions. Think: Karate Kid “Wax On, Wax Off” motions. Easy, isn’t it?

Here are a few things to consider:

You may go Clockwise or Counterclockwise. (She may prefer one over the other)
Palm circulars go at different intensities. The soft variety is when your palm merely hovers around her vulva, the hard version is when you grab the fleshy parts and move it in circles.
Regarding speed, start the erotic massage slow. Most women prefer RHYTHM over jerky movements, so let your circles flow.

3. Palm or Thumb Glide

Spread your lady’s legs and see how the slit divides her vulva into a left and a right side. Place your palms on her labia majora. If they’re too big, use your thumb or any of the fingers instead. They have the advantage of inducing more focused strokes.

If in the previous technique you were concerned with circular movements, the Palm Glide is all about UP and DOWN movements. (Glide UP even as high as her belly area, and DOWN, near the anus.)

4. Spread & Squeeze

This time, it’s TO THE SIDES.

The Spread & Squeeze part of the erotic massage teases the vulva to open up. You may use your palm, thumb, or any of the fingers for this. Slowly spread the vulva by stroking to the sides, away from the central slit. Stroke to the sides, (not too far or she’ll feel vulnerable and self-conscious.)

For the Squeeze, go the opposite direction by slowly gliding towards the central slit. Let the two inward strokes meet at the center as if mending a torn dress. Join the two sides of her majora.

Now, with your thumb and forefinger, pinch and hold, then release. The ladies would appreciate a gentle pulling or tugging at this point.

5. Thumb Circulars

This is one of those erotic massage strokes that really get women going. Using the flat of your thumb, employ circular strokes while gliding UP & DOWN her Labia majora. The combination of 2 movements results into spiral strokes on her vulva. Nice!

Vary the size and direction of the circles you make.

6. Finger Walk

Use the flat of your fingers to walk around the vulval zone. Point to an area and then PRESS… and RELEASE. Then repeat. You’re not just brushing or tapping but generating pressure. Imagine you’re playing the piano and you’re masterfully pressing her keys.

A variation is the Finger Moonwalk. Do the press, but before releasing, add a slide element to it. Slide your fingers back towards the wrist, continuing the pressure as you do. Your fingers make possible different variations, experiment and do random press and slides. The multipoint stimulation would make her purr like a cat.

7. Pinch & Slide

This one’s not recommended for sensitive vulvas.

The fleshy areas or those skin folds are homes to the Pinch & Slide. Assuming you’ve employed ample lubrication, pinch an area using your thumb and pointer finger. Hold for a second. That’s the ‘pinch’ part. The ‘slide’ happens when you do a little bit of pulling. As you pull, let the patch of skin or flesh slowly slip from your grasp and pop to freedom.

After releasing, target another area and repeat.

8. The Labial Tug

Her Labia minoras will always be screaming for action during an erotic massage like this.

Using your thumb and pointer finger, tug on her minoras. Not too much but with enough force so she can feel the pull on her clitoris. Tug at different directions and find out what angles work for her. Release by letting it snap off your grasp.

TUG, then RELEASE. Repeat as desired.

After acing the massage, look at your woman and notice how horny she already is. Give yourself a mental pat on the back and proceed to Phase 3 – stimulating the clit itself.

Foreplay Moves That Girls LOVE!

By dicksinthecity

Foreplay is essential for a woman to enjoy sex, so you’ll want to make sure you’re doing things right. Check out these foreplay moves she will really love! Girls are complicated creatures. Unlike guys, girls take a bit more time and work to get all hot and bothered. Yet, if it is done right AND LONG ENOUGH the payoff of having a woman begging for you is well worth it. Here are some moves that can help get her fire going.

What She Said About Foreplay:

1. Tease Her

Seduce her. Take your time with a woman, even though you may be hard and ready to go, she may need to warm up. So don’t head for her boobs or clit right away, work your way there. Start with kissing her neck and shoulders also rub your hands along side her body. Pay attention to how excited she is getting and go slow.

Spend minutes, note MINUTES, not seconds on her neck, then spend MINUTES on her legs, then spend MINUTES kissing her back. Spend time lots of time on her. Think of her body as a treasure map but before you get to the buried treasure, you need to work your way there. Caress her legs and arms and kiss her everywhere. Make it a game to not touch her near her clit nor on her boobs and see how super excited she gets. This is foreplay!

2. Repeat #1.

Seriously, do what you just did all over again. Even though you may feel like you spent “forever” kissing her, she needs more foreplay. She needs more touching all over her body.

3. Mix It Up

Keep doing the above steps but vary your touch and pressure and use more tongue. Now would be a good time to add massage oil and rub her down.

4. Talk To Her!

While doing foreplay steps 1-3 talk to her. I am not saying you need to have a full blown conversation, nor do you need to get all poetic or dirty talk on her. I mean tell her how sexy she is, how hot you are getting, how you can’t wait to feel all of her. Tell her how fantastic her body is and how you are the luckiest bastard in the world that you get to see her half naked or you get to kiss her.

Praise her whole body with your touch and your words. I know it sounds corny but in the heat of the moment shit like that can really get a girl going!

5. Repeat!

Seriously, do it all again until she is begging you to have sex with her. And if you really want to score major points, tell her that you want to focus all on her. So if she starts to go down on you, stop her (if you can), and tell her you want this night to be about her.

What He Said About Foreplay:

1. Take The Scenic Route

Look we all know where this going. You want to have sex of some variety, but women love foreplay moves that aren’t shall we say as direct. Pay attention to the parts of her that men rarely notice, like the elbows, or the navel. Start to make a beeline towards the boobs or the vagina, then make an abrupt turn to the right and start to work your way away from it, then go back, coming just a little bit closer, but still not making contact with the target. Repeat this, until she just can’t stand it. Then do it again.

2. Tell Her No

Men are usually all about hitting it, getting off and then going to bed. Do number one until she’s literally begging for you to have sex with her. Then don’t. Until you feel like she’ll put a gun to your head unless you sleep with her. If you can do this right, you will own her and she will love you for it.

I have two friends who are masters of this. Some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen are falling all over these guys no matter if the women are single or married, or if the guy’s in shape or not. One of my friend teases women he meets at work to a tee. He’s a bartender and he’ll pick up a girl at the end of the night and take her home. He’ll engage in foreplay and tease her until she just can’t stand it and to where she’s on the verge of having an orgasm just off the anticipation. Then he’ll say “You know what? I’m really tired from work. I’m going to bed. Maybe we’ll pick up where we left off in the morning.” Then he actually goes to sleep. This drives the women nuts.

They literally can’t process it. He always gets laid when he wakes up and often then start molesting him as soon as the sun comes up.

Another friend does a similar move, he’ll tease, please a bit, stop, tease some more and then say “Okay, that’s all you get for now. You’ll get more later, if you’re good.” Then he cuts them off. This drives them nuts and this kind of teasing women love.

Dirty Talk Phrases You NEVER Want To Use!

By dicksinthecity

Dirty talk can really spice up your sex life, but there are just some things that are off limits when it comes to talking dirty Never use these phrases! Dirty talk is a must have in any hot and steamy sexual encounter, from a quickie to a long term relationship. A little dirty talk can go a long way, but the wrong dirty talk phrases can take the relationship straight to nowheresville.

What She Said About Dirty Talk:

There are some sick and twisted people out there in the world that like the raunchiest, dirtiest, nastiest phrases. There are also some super sexy, highly sexual people who do not say a word during sex. I think dirty talk is something that should be explored in little steps to gauge what your partner is into. Moans are always a good way to start and then you can move on to describing what you want done or what you want to do to your partner. If all this seems to make the sex hotter then by all means take it up a notch (if it gets you hot too). But, there are a few grey areas when it comes to dirty sex.

These grey areas are lines that when crossed can make hot dirty talk turn terribly disgusting.

For starters, a dirt talk phrase that I would never want to use or hear is anything “family” oriented. This is any use of the nicknames “mommy,” “daddy,” “brother,” “sister,” “grandpa”. ICK. It’s one thing to be joking while out and call your man “Daddy.” But is something entirely different when you do it while he is banging you. There are a handful of guys who do get off on that but most likely these are also the guys that like to wear adult diapers and want to be breast fed.

Speaking of diapers, and sort of baby talk or goo-gooing is defiantly a no no. There is nothing sexy about a guy talking to you like he is a baby or like you are a puppy dog.

On the flip side, you don;t want to use dirty talk phrases that are too clinical sounding. I would steer clear of any phrase like, “Stick your penis in my vagina.” or “Lick my mammary glands” Ok, I know these samples are extreme but just in case you are a moron and don’t know any better don’t sound like a 7th grade Sex Ed class. But do feel free to role play some naughty catholic school girl and dirty principle fantasies!

What He Said About Dirty Talk:

The first dirty talk phrases you should never want to use are the ones that are deal breakers for your partner(s). Some women may be okay with being called a slut. Some may punch you when they hear that. You typically will have to have a sit down (clothes on) to negotiate the dirty talk phrases you will use. She may want to call you think you may not like and vice versa. Some compromise and give and take will happen. Sort through all that first and foremost before you do anything else.

After that, I would say the next dirty talk phrase you want to avoid using is anything that makes her feel to used and vulgar. A lot of people are into that, but you’ll want to make sure that after you’re done getting naughty she doesn’t feel cheap or used or like a whore.

While you’re doing it, that’s totally fine and even expected and healthy, but afterwards if she’s feeling like a piece of meat, that’s not cool. When she puts her clothes on, she should feel good about what you all just did and super eager to take them off again.

Also, avoid dirty talk phrases that sound like they came from a raunchy teen sex comedy or porn. You should avoid the former because they’re usually uttered by characters who don’t know what they are doing sexually and this is heightened for comedic effect. You also want to avoid comments used by the latter because there are things you can say and do in porn that just have no basis in reality whatsoever.

If you’re going to bust out your dirty talk in the heat of the moment instead of negotiating them first, I would suggest starting small, and relatively safe and less naughty. Try it and see what he/she does and how they respond. You never want to go big and bold too fast. The dirty talk phrases you never want to use are the ones the ones that will get you cut off and cut out the sexy fun time for good.

5 Sex Games For Scorching Hot Foreplay

By loveandsex

Foreplay doesn’t have to be the same every time. Check out these sizzling sex games for a new twist on before sex fun!

Everyone loves scorching hot foreplay. Everyone loves sex games. What is the connection between the two? Does scorching hot foreplay and kinky fun sex games really have to be separate? Not by a long shot. Playing sex games is a great way to have amazingly hot and naughty foreplay that will burn your house down! Here are some really naughty sex games that will guarantee you’ll have all the amazing foreplay you can possibly handle!

1. Time Dash

Get yourself a timer and set it for say 10 minutes. You can play it several different ways after you set the timer. You can, for example say: for ten minutes, we’re only going to make out, or you have to let me give you oral sex for ten minutes nonstop. Or you can just say, we’re going to do everything but have intercourse for ten minutes and stick to that time dash, no matter what.

You’ll have to be firm on that, no pun intended. When that timer goes off, you’ll more than likely go straight to hard core intercourse, anal sex or whatever it is you’re into from that point on, but it’s super important to stick to the time limit no matter what.

2. Foreplay Truth Or Dare

Cliché, yes. Effective? You bet your ass. Sometimes times the classics still work. Truth or dare is pretty simple. You know the game, basically, without me telling you. The main thing to keep in mind is to set up some ground rules. You want to push the erotic envelope and get partners out of their sexual comfort zones, but you don’t want to force them to do something they aren’t down with for one reason or another. Finding the balance between the two is key to having ample amounts of scorching hot foreplay.

3. Naked Twister

I have never finished a game of naked twister. Come to think of it, I don’t know how you actually finish a game of naked twister, but you get the idea. Just a matter of minutes into naked twister, you’re going straight into oral sex, if not outright intercourse. Oh, if I had a nickel for every time I had a 69 on a twister mat, I’d be rich.

4. Slave For A Day

It’s not exactly a board game, but it’s hard to go wrong with “slave for a day” or night. It’s pretty simple: you are your lovers sex slave for a day, or if you don’t want to do the whole day, or you can’t do the whole day, just do it for an evening. Start by stripping naked and getting them naked. Then do whatever your master wants you to, no questions asked (it’s always good to have a safe word as well).

Being submissive to their dominant “master” is usually pretty hot for both people, especially if you are usually in the opposite role in the relationship. The permission and trust it takes to be master or slave creates erotic energy you can cut with a knife. That’s a recipe for scorching hot foreplay if ever there was one.

5. Naked Yoga

Maybe not a game per se, but you should totally do it. You can’t go to a studio to due naked yoga, but you can totally do it in you living room. There are plenty of yoga DVD’s out there and there are now many websites that are offering on demand, streaming yoga classes.

This is awesome, and multitasking at it’s finest. You both get a work out in, and you’re gong to get hot, sweaty, horny and loosened up, all of which will be a great primer for sex.

Seeing each other naked, is hot. Everyone male or female who has gone to a yoga class undoubtedly has fantasized about seeing the person doing downward dog in front of them doing it butt ass naked. Why not give your lover the gift of making that a reality?

It’s super important to finish the entire 90 minute class. Why? The anticipation will send you out of your mind, which you probably saw coming. But regular yoga practice makes men last longer and helps women have orgasms more easily and intensely. And it preps you for sex by loosening up your muscles, tendons and ligaments.

You won’t have any tight spots, no aches and pains at least for a while after you do yoga and that will help you have better sex for longer and all of this is nothing more than scorching hot foreplay. You finish that yoga DVD and you’ll be ready to go straight to the intercourse, no more foreplay needed, but if you wanted to do some foreplay, it’ll be the hottest foreplay action you’ve had in a while.

8 Sizzling Foreplay Techniques

By loveandsex

Foreplay is a must for incredible sex, but it’s important to mix it up. Check out these super hot foreplay suggestions for a night of amazing passion!

1. Cup Her Vulva

Using the heel of your palm as your guide, place it on her mons so that the upper palm (the inside of your lowest finger knuckles) is directly over her clitoris, and your fingers curl down over her lips. Just this light pressure should feel very good for her and the warmth from your hand may be enough to begin to arouse her.

You can take it one big step further from here with a light massaging motion. First, press with the heel of your hand, then the palm, then the fingers. This stimulates her mound, clitoris and labia in a continuous wave. Explore different pressures and speeds to gauge her reaction.

2. Beat Of The Drum

From the same position as described above, raise your palm up and slide the heel of your hand back just a bit so that it rests on her pubic bone. With your fingers curled, drum your fingertips gently along the mound without touching the clit or labia directly.

The vibrations from your light tapping will stimulate her entire vulva and wake up her skin, sending a signal to her clitoris to prepare for the more intense vibrations to come. Hopefully, this elicits some sighs or moans from her, but if not be sure to keep an eye out for signs of swelling, redness and lubrication to indicate her arousal.

3. Rumble In The Jungle

This impressive move could literally convince her you’ve brought a vibrator to bed, especially if she’s blindfolded – and is likely to be a favorite for getting her close to her first Big O. You might even be able to take her right over the edge with this, so if she is multi-orgasmic (or wants to be) you should try this one on for size.

Based on the last two moves, this is an extra intense technique that you may not be able to do for very long at one time, so make sure she’s already turned on before you whip this out.

Once you are in the cupping position described above, you are going to keep light pressure throughout your whole hand and wriggle it back and forth. You can start slow, but you want to warm up to a good speed. Don’t move your arm at all. Your hand should move very little and if you aren’t used to the muscle movements, you may tire out quickly. To avoid cramping up, practice your moves beforehand so you have an idea of what muscle groups you are going to be working out and how long you can keep it up.

4. Her Easy Button

Turn around to face her. From between her thighs, you have full access to her genitals and can bring her to orgasm with a great view! This first move might not be enough to bring her to a clitoral orgasm, but it will stimulate the shaft buried deep inside and help open her up for penetration. If you want to try for a vaginal or combo orgasm, this is a great way to get started.

Without opening her lips, reach your thumb between them and find the clitoral hood, at the top of the cleft of her inner labia. With your thumb above the clitoral hood you should be able to feel her clitoris through its protective covering.

If she is very turned on, it might swell or pulse under your touch. Briefly, but firmly, press the pad of your digit directly on top of the clitoris, for no more than four seconds or until she starts to squirm or squeal. Release and give her some time to recover.

The building pressure under your thumb stimulates the internal stem of the clitoris.

5. The Metronome

Playing some sexy beats in the background can be a big help during sex, especially for techniques like those I’ve already mentioned. It works particularly well for this one as well. Regular rhythms allow her to tune in to the resonant frequency of your movement and ride it all the way to orgasm, so when you are tapping, drumming, pressing or pumping at regular intervals, use some tunes to keep rhythm, so she can really get into your groove.

This particular tip involves tapping on the clitoris with the index or middle finger, rather than pressing with the thumb.

6. Wax On, Wax Off

A great way to ease into parting the vaginal lips, so as to get a closer look at the clit, is with labia massage. Curl your hands and rest the backs of your fingers against the cleft of her inner thighs. Turning your hands slightly, slowly stroke the entire length of the outer labia, back and forth,using the pads of your thumbs along.

As she becomes lubricated, you can blow lightly on her vulva, cooling the wet areas with shocking pleasure. If she doesn’t get lubricated enough to wet her inner lips and clit, use your tongue to get her nice and slick, before giving her a puff of intense air to send a shiver down her spine.

7. Ring Around The Rosie

You can try this vulva massage technique using your thumbs, or your index and middle finger together like a little wand. Massage in an oval around the top of her mons, which will stimulate her clit, then down one side of her outer labia, across her perineum (don’t penetrate her just yet) and back up the other side of the labia.

The second time around, imagine her vulva is differentiated like the face of a clock, and at each “number” along the way, pause and make three small circles. Try again with more circles and see if you can determine where – say 2 and 10 o’clock – she really responds to stimulation. This is the perfect way to find her hottest spots for touching later, with fingers or tongue.

8. U-Turn

The U-Spot can be an incredibly sensitive spot, so you don’t want to go touching it with your bare fingers until she is well lubricated. Make sure you have some lube on hand if you want to try this technique.

Spread her outer lips apart from above while facing her directly. Use your other hand to gently separate her inner labia and look for her urethra, the small spot between her vagina and her clitoris. If you can’t see it immediately, lick her with just the tip of your tongue over this location, without touching her clit or penetrating her. When stimulated, this little spot may become erect, but if not you will be able to tell when you hit it by her squeals of delight!