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3 Moves To Heighten Her Arousal

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake for a woman – here are some easy ways to increase your lover’s chances of having an orgasm during sex.

These next moves are specifically designed for increased stimulation when she has become aroused and lubricated, heading toward orgasm. If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube. Lube is definitely a worthy investment for these landmark moves.

If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube.

1. U-Turn Again

This move stimulates the urethra and prepares your wife for the possibility of a squirting orgasm. Spread her labia using the thumb and forefinger from above, and use your other hand to gently stroke a lubricated finger over the delicate spot between her vagina and clitoris.

Don’t stimulate her clit directly, unless she asks you to, and don’t penetrate her just yet either. You may have to use the thumb and ring finger of your other hand to hold her inner labia apart and spot her urethral opening. Once you do, you can use just the very tip of your index finger to tease and tickle the little bump and get her ready for intense orgasms.

2. Rollie-Pollie

Another great massage technique, this move is excellent as you get closer to penetration. It ensures maximum blood flow to her outer genitalia, which will help increase the overall stimulation levels that lead her to orgasm.

Using the pad of your thumb against the side of your index finger, grasp one of her outer labia in each hand and roll them back and forth. Work your way down from her mound to her perineum and then back up again. Vary your speed and pressure based on her response, and get ready for a wet and wild ride coming your way.

3. Heavy Petting

Turning things around again, this move is a great return to a position where your wife can pleasure your penis a bit as well, either with her hands or her mouth. Whether you are on your knees or lying on your side, face her feet, close enough to her groin that the heel of your hand can rest comfortably on the top of her mons.

This is a great follow up to the cupping, drumming and rumbling techniques above in this same position, but again, is best once she is lubricated, so use this as a cue to add a drop or two, if she isn’t already wet.

Let your hands drape down over her vulva and with your index and ring fingers holding her outer labia, slide your middle finger between them, and run it through the folds of her inner labia from top to bottom. Be sure to keep your hand on her pubic mound, and don’t be too forceful or exuberant with this one, unless she asks you to up the ante. Her inner lips are fine and delicate, so they will feel even the lightest touch.

What Is Foreplay?

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Foreplay is something many men have heard of, but some actually don’t know what it is! But foreplay is essential for great sex, so here’s what you need to know!

Foreplay is generally regarded as the set of activities couples enjoy before he mounts her and pump away. The list includes kissing, licking, sucking, biting, hugging, caressing, nuzzling, smelling, touching, slow dancing, eating off each other’s bodies, teasing, testing the limits of sex toys, kneading, scratching, oral sex, erotic massage, dirty talk and virtually anything inspired by the couple’s imagination that isn’t penis to vagina penetration.

(This list is actually endless.)

Women are suckers for these, it’s in their very nature to be so.

While men can do without such and still be happy, women are more engrossed by them. I’m telling you, investing on these sub-arts guarantees an unbelievable upsurge in your erotic affairs, adding oomph and pizzazz to your encounters.

What Is It For?

You thought foreplay was for heating her ovens, did you? It’s the all-too-common, “We’re gentlemen, so let’s get her hot & wet first”, where foreplay is seen as an opening act.

That mindset has tripped a man too many. When you consider foreplay simply as a preliminary, you will inevitably suck at it. For how can you rock when you’re already imagining how wonderful it would be to slide inside your lover? The finest foreplayers are the ones who are lost in the moment.

Yes, foreplay will eventually heat her ovens, create palpable tension and bring her to a rabid sexual flush – but these are only the side-effects. Getting her hot and ready doesn’t overshadow the fact that foreplay is an end unto itself, not needing any ulterior motive. Side-effects should not be confused with the sheer delight of doing it.

Foreplay was never meant to be just a preliminary and you won’t recognize the delights offered by its outstretched arms until you stop seeing it as one. It would be a great sensual waste, for example, if you kiss with the hope of it leading somewhere, and miss on the fact that the kiss in itself is full of savory, mouth-watering treats. Such a waste.

Think about this for a minute: For many women – foreplay is it. (Let me give you time to let that one sink in.) For many women, foreplay is the thing, it is the sex thing. It’s their reason for the deed!

It’s when most of the things she loves take place – all the kissing, touching – everything! It’s where she feels those emotional stirrings and ecstasies women desire. It’s when they feel most wanted, most needed, most beautiful – it’s when you’re kissing them and holding them, (not when you’re feverishly thrusting into them). Many guys miss this. It blows my mind how guys simply breeze through something as big of a deal for a girl!

Why Does It Work?

Why do you think foreplay works in revving her engines in the first place?

It’s because women are great fans of it! That’s why it gets them hot and ready to ride you. In a world where girls don’t appreciate F – it won’t work, you can caress and tease all day long, and still end up with a lady bored to death. But our women do appreciate F, it inflames and energizes them. And rushing through it doesn’t endear you to her, as you’re making light of things she loves the most.

Stop treating foreplay as an opening act, and you will be a top act. You will see possibilities when you forget intercourse for the moment, and deal with what is at hand – you’ll do a much more amazing job too!

When that happens, your partner will experience the kind of longing that you want. She will have a real desire to be penetrated, to have you inside her. She will ask, bitch and nag just so you finally do her. So wise up!

How To Drive Her INSANE With Soft & Hardcore Dirty Talk!

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Dirty talk can be done anytime during the sexual dance, but we’ll discuss it here as part of sex talk before intercourse.

Dirty talk gives an expectation, an idea or a come-on for your partner. Its purpose is to create naughty pictures and generate dirty thoughts in your lover’s mind. And you do this through highly descriptive, highly sensual language.

Your job is to create a picture she can almost see, hear, feel, taste and smell.

Dirty talk provides an avenue for rush. Civil society has always had a rebellious streak and it is human nature to feel a high engaging in something naughty, prohibited or frowned upon. It makes us feel so alive doing something we’re not supposed to. And the very idea of getting away with it, makes us feel superior, which makes it even hotter!

Be warned though – many find dirty talk hot, but not everybody is a big fan. Some find it inappropriate, lewd and down right offensive – like listening to someone dragging fingernails on a chalkboard. This is very important as the same statement can be effective or offensive, depending on your skill, timing and the woman you’re with.

Sensual Softcore

It’s the world of Double Meanings & Sexual Innuendoes – a good set-up before the step up, perhaps something to get her warmed-up at the office, or even a few steps outside the bedroom door.

We know what a ‘banana’ is, but we also know it suggests things other than the fruit monkeys live for. She need not say: I wanna slide your cock in my mouth. She can just hint that she wants a taste of your banana. A woman may feel icky at the word “cock,” but she’ll have no qualms expressing desire for ‘banana.’ The resulting ambiguity serves as major turn-on.

Because of double meanings, hot dogs and buns become something else. Balls, First Base & Home Run put on meanings not even remotely related to sports.

And the thing is, the double meaning potential need not be obvious. In fact, it need not be there at all! Sexual innuendos prove that anything can be made “dirty.” Yes, anything! Even trivial stuff like can openers, catfish, toothpaste, and the moon & the stars – all these can be made dirty. Simply back them up with a sexy tone, lascivious look, heavy breathing, puckered lips, a mischievous wink, a knowing smile, a tongue sweeping across the lips etc. Anything you pair with these can become dirty. With softcore, it’s not so much the precise words as it is the manner you deliver them. Because you can scream “pussy” all day and your girl still thinks you’re referring to some cat.

Deliciously Naughty Hardcore

Softcore is suggestive, hardcore is explicit – it doesn’t say ‘banana,’ it says ‘dick’ or some other slang. It doesn’t hesitate, stall, or curtsy. It is often blunt, direct, and often carries the themes of dominance, authority, aggression and possession. It is declaring what you want and delivering it in the most evocative manner. Hardcore simply lets the listener deal with the real thing. This is not the time for rainbows, flowers and butterflies – it is speaking with license.

Banned from public discourse, hardcore dirty talk can make Grandma Lily faint. It’s very effective in that it lets you almost feel the words – therein lies its diabolical power. Because it is direct, hardcore gives a woman a more vivid picture.

Softcore and hardcore dirty talk have their parts to play in the sexual game. Just as hardcore is ineffective in the early goings, softcore  can be too wussy or even inappropriate in the heat of things.

Erotic Massage For Couples

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Erotic massage is not just a great way to transition into sexy time with your lover, because it helps to calm and relax her, to get her in the mood. Those same calming effects, applied to your body, can help you to take your time during lovemaking, and focus your intentions on pleasing your wife instead of hurrying to please yourself.

Before you dive right in to a sensual massage, take some time with your wife to decide what you want out of the experience. Do you have time for this to turn into sex? Do you want to make sure you both have a good massage before you take that next step?

Or is this just a brief interlude during a busy day, with the knowledge that you will come back together, more relaxed and in the mood, later on, when the rest of the day is complete? Perhaps this is just a chance for the two of you to connect on an intimate level when her libido is waning or you are saving your energy for a special weekend sex marathon!

The Extra Mile

No matter what the purpose, it’s nice to be clear with each other about what you expect. It will help you get a good idea of what to wear, how to set up the room, and what accessories or sex toys to bring along. Also, she is much more likely to enjoy the massage if she knows whether or not it is going to turn into steamy sex, so be sure to take the time to plan before you start working her muscles.

In Position

Start out with your wife lying face down on her stomach, with her head turned to one side. Have her lay her arms down by her side. She may want a small pillow or none at all, to be comfortable in this position, so let her find the spot that works for her. When she is ready, you have your choice of top positions.

Depending on the height and location of your bed, (or perhaps you’re very serious about massage and have acquired your own table!) you can decide what the best position is to enable you to reach the areas of her body that need the most attention. Move around a bit to be able to give her a full-body rub down.

Try kneeling and straddling her thighs, pressed up against her bum so you can reach her shoulders, back, hips and butt. You can also have her spread her legs while you kneel between them, or try kneeling at her side instead. If your bed is high enough, or she is on a table, you can stand next to her.

Just Breathe

The breath is incredibly important during this intimate experience, allowing you to connect with each other and helping you to stay focused on your partner. If you have a hard time focusing on her breath long enough to continue breathing with her the entire time that you are massaging, at least take a few moments before you begin and each time you switch positions to match her rate of respiration.

An alternate breath from Tantric methods that is supposed to aid in the exchange of energy between two partners is to breath alternately – in as she exhales, then out as she inhales. Start slow and deep, and if the rate builds to a crescendo, let it happen naturally. Bring it back down to a slow, deep, calming breath before you head back to the real world.

Rub Just Right

You’re right if you have already realized that a deep muscle massage or a stimulating surface rub are both very different from the kind of clitoris and vagina touching you’re probably used to.

If you are both naked enough to use massage oil or lube, it will help keep your hands slick and smooth for an easy glide on her skin. Be sure to use the whole palm and fingers of both hands for best results. First, put a bit of oil in your hands and rub them together to warm it. Using a flat hand spread out the oil in large, circular motions on her back, being careful not to press directly on the spine anywhere.

When she is well-covered in a natural massage oil, try locating and loosening her sore muscles with a gently squeeze. Use the heel of your thumb to gently press the muscles of her shoulders, back, butt and legs toward the cupped fingers of your hand. Again, avoid pressing directly on the spine.

Follow her lead and listen to her sounds for clues about which spots need more work.

When you have given her a thorough massage, ask her to do you too, lying face down as well. If you want to continue this massage into some sexy time, next have her lie face up, and take some time to massage and caress her face, neck and shoulders, breasts, hips, legs and feet before heading in for a vulva massage and finger play and hopefully an orgasm or two. After she has climaxed, suggest you switch again. Position yourself face up on the table, and let her decide how she wants to return the favor!

5 Sex Games To Play When You’re Bored

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Sex games are great way to not only improve your sex life and intimacy but to also sure a common problem of boredom around the home. Many couples find that six games can be an excellent way to pass the time on rainy weekends or as a way to break up the monotony during the week.

If you would like to increase the intimacy in your relationship while also spicing up your sex life, these sex games are the cure you have been looking for. Here are 5 that you and your partner will love when you’re bored.

1. Meeting For The First Time

If you have ever had a one night stand you know the excitement that comes with meeting a new person. Building of the sexual tension between the two of you and not really knowing the other person can be a powerful aphrodisiac. If you’re looking for great sex game to play meeting for the first time can help you live out a fantasy of meeting your partner in a whole new light. Pick a local bar that you can meet each other at.

Have your partner dress-up and go to the bar at a specific time. Meet your partner at the bar and pretend that you’re both meeting each other for the first time. Try to pick up your partner and take her back to your place. Reenacting this one night stand scenario is an excellent way to live out fantasies that you have never explored before.

2. Power Control

Power control is a great game for couples who like to mix up the dominance in the bedroom. Get an egg timer and set it to 3 minutes. Determined which partner is going to be dominant first. Allow the egg timer to start and that partner will be the dominant one until the timer has reached the three minutes.

Once the timer has reached the three minutes, the dominance will shift to the other partner. Reset the timer each time. See how long each of you can last under this power struggle game. If you or your partner has an affinity for being the dominant or the submissive one in the bedroom, you will definitely find that this game will bring you out of your comfort zone.

3. Blindfold

The blindfold was made for sex. In this game, you or your partner will be blindfolded on the bed. They have to keep the blindfold on the entire time. The other partner must tease and caress their partner while the other doesn’t know what to expect next. This is a great game that you can play with each other and it incorporates trust and intimacy into the relationship. One of the features of this game is that it relies on the element of surprise and anticipation. The only rule to the game is that you can’t peek.

4. Master/Slave

It’s not the most original game, it’s a staple for a reason. The master slave relationship is usually found in the BDSM scene, but you can use a much more light version of the game for your regular romps in the bedroom. One of your is the master and the other is the slave. You can choose whether or not to blindfold, tie up or do anything else you deem appropriate to the slave. The slave must abide by all of your rules at all times.

If you are the master, make sure that you’re not pushing the limits on what your partner is going to feel comfortable with. The last thing that you want is for them to break character instead of being completely enticed with your sexual dominance.

5. Strip Poker

Strip poker has been seen in movies, TV shows and in the adult industry for a reason: it’s fun! Try your hand at strip poker with your wife or husband to really get a prize for winning. If your partner does not know how to play poker, teach them. Each time they lose a hand, they lose a piece of clothing.

If you really want to make things interesting, each of you can also bet sexual favors. For instance, you can bet a blowjob or an erotic massage on the hand instead of clothing. This is one of the best games to play on a rainy night or on a weekend getaway. Make sure that you have a proper deck of cards so there is no cheating and so neither of you has an unfair advantage over the other.