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How To Tease Your Girl Into An Orgasmic FRENZY!

By loveandsex

Foreplay is essential every time you have sex! You want to tease and play with your lover as much as possible before getting down to business – here’s how!

Ever since she experienced it from the boys on the playground, a woman relishes the thought of being teased. That tension between bad boy and innocent girl was challenging and it was exciting! And, although she may not readily admit it, it was kind of fun. Looking back, she realizes that she loved it.

What took place at the playground must also unfold in the bedroom – the adult playground.

Thwarting Her Power Over You

Women, especially the desirable ones, often find that they can easily manipulate guys into doing anything, absolutely anything they want. What she wants, she gets – immediately and without question. – without her working for it. If she wants a kiss, boy-toy here would only be too happy to comply. Why would he wait, he’s only been waiting for that moment for like 2 months! Guess who’s the doggy and who’s the master in this dynamic?

It’s very important that you not only learn what women want, but HOW NOT TO GIVE IT TO THEM IMMEDIATELY!

That’s teasing!

Teasing During Oral Sex

In oral sex for example, don’t immediately dive and spar with her clitoris. That’s what most guys do during foreplay, but you’re not most guys. Start with her inner thighs, before moving to the general area of the vulva, accidentally touching the clitoris a few times. Eventually, zero in on the clitoris. During the build-up phase, you can even STEP BACK and leave it for a while and get busy with something else. Then later, come back. It’s a back & forth, push-pull technique.

The same thing happens with stuff like kissing, massages, penetration etc. Don’t jump to the good stuff, delay the good stuff. The sensual man doesn’t see this as delayed gratification – it is prolonged pleasure.

But why do we tease in the first place?

Why It’s Important To Do It EVERY TIME

Let me make this very clear. We do not tease because we can, we tease because we should. It’s not an ego-tripping power play used to punish a girl. We employ it for effect. If you want incredible sex, you cannot afford to miss on teasing.

We make women wait so they will come to appreciate what we give, when we give it. And this thing goes beyond sex, by the way. For example, how do you make house guests appreciate the dinner you serve? You make them sit & sit & wait so long ‘til they get so hungry they’ll literally harvest what you set on the table.

Teasing raises the value of what you offer, by setting it temporarily & slightly out of reach, you increase wanting. People don’t desire what comes easily. Anything that comes effortlessly is easily taken for granted. People want what they can’t have – this is the basic law of human nature.

When It Goes Overboard

But here’s a warning: Extended foreplay is great, up to a point. There’s a calibrated point where it ceases to become motivational and instead becomes punitive. It needs to be operated on an optimum level, going beyond that simply decreases effectiveness and produces a negative result. One has to strike balance to the art.

There comes a point when she knows, for her ego’s sake, the begging has to stop and she won’t play the game anymore. You’ve proven to be so much work, and you ain’t worth it. You’ve gone overboard, little fella. Use push and pull properly. If the lady sees she’s going to be denied everything anyway, she will stop asking.

Be Good At What You Do

The counterpoint for teasing is the PLEASING. You have to give her MORE than she bargained for, especially if she has proven herself to you. If you love foreplay, and are quite effective at it, you better be great with the actual pleasing part.

You can’t have her hang in there waiting for a kiss, only to get the sloppiest smooch ever! When you make her wait, you better make sure you’re worth it. Otherwise she’d think, “What?! That’s it?!”

You master the PLEASING by continually learning. Keep learning about your woman and make your game tight by understanding her preferences. I guarantee that you’ll be making tons of mistakes. Who cares?! Soon enough, you’ll be so good she’ll do anything just to be with you. Perhaps initially, like with a new partner, you won’t have much leverage with teasing. That’s normal, she is not yet aware of what you’re made of. But over time, when she sees your mettle, she’ll move heaven and earth just to experience you. I’m serious, please prepare for this eventuality.

When To Do What She Asks

One last thing, when she’s barking instructions like “Faster! Faster!”“Harder! Harder!”or “a little bit to the left” – it’s better to simply heed the request. There’s no point in delaying these kind of things. This usually happens during clitoral stimulation, penetration or when she’s about to have an orgasm.

For example, if she asks you for a massage, you may playfully give her a hard time initially. But when you’re already 15 minutes into it and she asks you to go “lower baby”, there’s no point in making her whine for this. You simply proceed.

The man who knows how to tease and please? Well, he becomes the go-to-guy.

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: female orgasm, foreplay, have better sex, orgasm, sex tips

How To Relax And Turn On Your Girl With A Tummy Massage

By loveandsex

Erotic massage can do wonders for a woman when getting her to think only about sex. Rub her belly like THIS to get her relaxed and HOT!

Why The Stomach?

The stomach is a very emotionally comforting place to rub gently and lightly. By lovingly stroking here, it will help her to feel nurtured, honored, and safe. And, because it can make such a deep and emotionally satisfying connection, it makes for a strong arousal point as well that can bring about sensual and sexual stimulation.

Make sure to be soft with your touch, as some women can be tender in this area. You always want to create pleasure, but if there is any sign of pain or discomfort, let up on the pressure you are giving with your hands, or discontinue massaging her here and move elsewhere.

How To Get Started

Start by placing both palms of your hands down over her belly. Begin the massage by using a sliding motion, alternating your hands across her stomach from side to side. Side to side is the best direction to go as up and down over the belly can sometimes create discomfort (another “going against the grain” situation). Continue this motion back and forth for quite a few minutes or as long as she is enjoying it.

You can extend your movement beyond her stomach area by reaching down over the sides of her body down towards the surface she is laying on when giving her an erotic massage. When you reach the bottom of this movement, wrap one or both hands underneath her back and then pull back up over her side and belly again, following through to her other side in the same way.

Another great movement for this area is to run your hands in circular clockwise motions around her belly. You can start at the center around her navel and then progressively begin making bigger and bigger circles around her entire belly until you reach the outside perimeters of it. Then, just continue massaging around and around in smooth, slow, soft circles. Doing this can be quite pleasurable for her and evoke many sweet and loving emotions.

Stretch Her Arms Too!

With your lover’s arms resting up over her head, place your hands on her arms just around the point where they connect to her chest muscles (just above her armpits). Next, move your hands up her arms all the way to her fingertips, and then lightly grab her hands and begin pulling her arms upward over the top of her body and then bring her arms back down to her sides and let them rest there. Continue with light strokes to her arms from your hands and fingertips.

Also, lightly stroking the sensitive skin on the insides of her arms where the elbows fold is another erogenous zone that women usually love and get turned on by (similar to the inside of knee fold area). Do a few sensual grazes with your fingertips to get her turned on.

Another way to stretch her arms is by holding one arm at a time in both of your hands while gently pulling and stroking upwards all the way to her hand. This will massage the long muscles in her arms as well as muscles in her shoulders and sides of her body. Remember to be gentle however, as you don’t want to pull so hard as to create discomfort.

You can reverse this move if you like and run your hand all the ways back down her arm again. Repeat this a few times and them move on the next arm and do the same.

An Extra Erotic Touch

A fun follow through to this as you end your arm massage stretch, is to pull her arm to one side so that you cause her body to twist slightly and expose her back. Once there, you can now massage her back in this nicely stretched position. Whenever you can stretch long muscles like this (such as the back muscles) it gives a more tension releasing experience to the receiver. Do a few strokes here onto her upper shoulders and middle back muscles in a vertical fashion (hands pulling upward with each stroke).

You can also do horizontal strokes starting from her lower back on up to her shoulders by mostly using the heel of your hand to massage with. Be creative and have fun with this one, but remember some people may have lower back issues and may not like this much twisting and stretching to their body. Check in and ask first before you try during an erotic massage.

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: erotic massage, foreplay, seduction, sex tips

How To Give An Amazing Leg Massage

By loveandsex

Erotic massage can really make a difference when it comes to sex and foreplay for a woman. Use these leg & thigh techniques to make your girl melt!

Let’s get to the sexiest and most sexually arousing area of your lover’s body—her legs and thighs. After you’ve thoroughly primed her libido with lots of kissing and erotic massage, it’s time to go for the gold. But before you do, start out with a sweet long stroke completely around her body.

The Long Stroke

Placing both of your hands onto one of her legs (either one will do), begin moving them up her leg to the side of her body and continue up over her arm, up to her shoulder, and then up to the top of her head. Repeat the same movement down the opposite side of her body all the way down to her feet. Lightly touching and grazing sensitive and sexually arousing areas of her skin are highly encouraged with this move, and you should feel free enough at this point to tease her most private areas.

Once you’ve finished moving your hands up her body in one long stroke, you’ll want to move them back down to her legs, where you will begin your ultimate magic.

Massaging The Legs

Starting with one leg at a time, with palms facing down, place both of your hands on top of that leg just above her ankle. Now, using long slow strokes, massage up and down lightly the length of her leg. As you begin moving down from the top of either leg, let your hand drift and glide smoothly into the sensitive area of her inner thigh, then move down to her knee, over her shins, and all the way down to her foot. Repeat this move a few times over each leg and every time you do, come a bit closer to her vagina as you dip down into her thighs. You can even begin to ever so lightly graze her labia with the tips of your thumbs or fingertips to help prepare her for the erotic phase of the massage.

If she lets you go this far and is loving it, it’s time to crank up the heat. So the next technique is to lift up one of her legs by bending it at the knee. Next, place her foot flat down on the surface she is lying on.

Moving On To The Inner Thighs

By lifting her leg, it will create even more access to her inner thigh and other sensitive areas on the backside of her leg. This will allow you to massage deeper, further, and get closer to her most sensitive and intimate areas of arousal. A great location you can now easily stroke is the backside of her upper leg – this area is especially arousing in this position as you can massage all the way from the backside of her knee all the way down to her buttocks.

In this position, begin by rubbing her calf muscles gently with both of your hands in an up-and-down motion. Do this a few times and then move your hands over the top of her upper leg and then down towards her hip. As you come back up, with your hands now placed on either side of her upper leg, delicately stroke her inner thigh. Repeat this move several times.

Grazing Sensitive, Nerve-Packed Areas

Next, with a downward stroke, move your hand completely underneath the backside of her leg and stroke down towards her butt and even go underneath it a bit. On the way back up, stop at the skin behind the backside of her knee, and lightly stroke around there with your fingertips. The sensations of this combination will surely ignite her fire of sexual desire.

Another effective move for increasing her desire for sex is to place both of your hands on the sides of one of her legs, just above the top of her knee (while it is still in the bent position). Next, make slow circular motions while you run your hands down her thigh. As your movements get closer to her vagina, let the fingertips of your hand on the inner side of thigh lightly graze the outer lips of her vagina. Do this a few times up and down on each thigh area of both her legs. It will drive her absolutely crazy with desire!

By the time you get to this point of your massage, your lover should be very ripe when it comes to her level or sexual arousal and desire for sex!

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: erotic massage, foreplay, have better sex, seduction

Do Aphrodisiacs Really Work?

By loveandsex

Aphrodisiac products have quite the reputation – for both working and not working. Many people swear by them to get their libido going, while others have tried hundreds that haven’t worked for them. So what’s the real deal about aphrodisiac stuff? Is it worth it?

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What Is An Aphrodisiac?

Aphrodisiacs are foods, scents or herbs that claim to have the ability to make a man or woman more aroused. The idea behind this is that someone can eat, smell or consume certain things and their sex drive will increase – as in, they’ll suddenly start thinking about sex and nothing but sex. Many aphrodisiacs claim not only to boost sex drive, but also to make it feel better and produce faster, harder and more pleasurable orgasms.

Some foods that can be considered aphrodisiacs are avocados and oysters, while the smell of pumpkin pie or lavender is said to be a huge aphrodisiac for men. Yohimbe bark and horny goat weed are some of the popular aphrodisiac herbs and are found in many sexual supplements.

The Placebo Effect

This is where things get really hairy, because it’s actually impossible to tell if many aphrodisiacs really work or if what is really happening is the placebo effect.

What Is The Placebo Effect?

Studies have shown that in some cases, a placebo medication will work just as well as the actual medication. What happens here is if the person is convinced they’re taking something that will be effective, it will be, simply because the brain is a powerful enough tool that it can control the body.

So basically, the placebo effect plays a significant role in assessing whether aphrodisiacs are effective or not, because if someone really believes that aphrodisiacs work, they’ll most likely get positive results whether the actual product did the trick or the person’s mind did.

Is An Aphrodisiac Really Effective?

The answer to this question is a big, resounding “Maybe!” It’s impossible to tell which aphrodisiacs are truly effective on the body and which ones aren’t due to the placebo effect. Some aphrodisiacs will increase blood flow (which in turn, increases blood flow to the vagina or penis), so people who use them may notice real, tangible effects on their bodies.

The most fun thing about trying different aphrodisiacs is trying them! Experimenting with different foods, scents and herbs that have the potential to light your sex life on fire is fun in and of itself and may just spice up your sexy time without the help of the actual products. When you play with aphrodisiacs, you’re likely going to find some that are effective and some that aren’t – and that’s the way it goes.

How To Try Them

If you really want to start “testing” out aphrodisiacs, you’ll want to follow a few simple suggestions.

  • Don’t try more than one at a time. If you’re testing them and one or more of them work, you won’t be able to isolate which one it was.
  • Consider keeping notes about which ones are effective and which ones are not. If you’ve only tried a few of them, it may be easy enough to remember that avocados don’t do much for you but the scent of lavender really does. If you’re trying a bunch, keeping notes can help you remember which ones to try next and which ones to avoid.
  • Keep track of which aphrodisiacs are for men and which are for women. For example, lavender and pumpkin pie smells don’t do much for the ladies, but are said to really rev a guy’s libido up. If you’re using something that is “aimed” towards women and you’re a guy, it’s probably not going to be very effective unless the placebo effect is super powerful.
  • Be VERY aware of what you’re consuming. Do not consume products that have not been verified as safe, and if you have any health issues such as heart problems, diabetes or other issues, discuss with your doctor what is okay for you to take and what isn’t.

Does It Really Matter, Anyways?

Think about it this way – does it really matter if an aphrodisiac works because it actually is effective or whether it was the placebo effect? Because at the end of the day, you’re turned on, whether it was the product or your brain that did it.

So make a point to have fun with aphrodisiacs and don’t stress too much about whether they work or not. Focus on relaxing, having a good time and don’t put too much pressure on yourself or your partner to perform – because that will backfire and you will likely not be having sex at all that night.

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: foreplay, have better sex, seduction, sex tips

How To Keep Having Sex Even After You Ejaculate

By loveandsex

Foreplay is usually before sex, right? It doesn’t have to be! Use foreplay to give your partner an orgasm if you ejaculate too early.

Women don’t care if you’ve ejaculated or not, but THEY DO CARE IF YOU STOP THE FUN. They’re pissed with guys who don’t understand a most basic sexual principle: Just because you’re relieved doesn’t mean I am. The issue with premature ejaculators is not the white liquid – it’s that after they shoot, fast guns stop everything and act like the woman is also done.

Who Decides When Sex Is Over?

The man? The woman?

For most, it’s neither. It’s an orgasm. Semen is an oracle declaring to men, “That’s all folks!” Feeling relieved, they believe this and retire like car salesmen without any after-sales service.

But here’s the thing: Semen really is just semen. It means you climaxed, good for you! The juice represents the procreative aspect of things, but sex isn’t solely for procreation, is it?

AN ORGASM DOESN’T SAY OR MEAN ANYTHING unless you want it to. You can treat it as if nothing happened.

Men stray after they spray when they make their orgasm the sole goal.

When that’s the case, then there’s really no difference between masturbation and intercourse – the hot girl is irrelevant. (Be careful when setting goals, they’re double edged. They set your focus, but they also define your blind spots.)

Yeah, the penis-inside-the-vagina bit may be over, but not the fun. For there’s no stopping a couple from doing other stuff. Penetration isn’t the only thing on the menu. Thrusting may be over for now, but not the sex.

Doesn’t it makes more sense to wrap up when both partners are satisfied, whether this is attended by one orgasm or not, than wrap things up simply because one sees white liquid?

Treat Your Orgasm As If Nothing Happened

This doesn’t mean that you continue with the poking. No! What can you do with limp equipment, really? Forget your thing. After reaching orgasm, you experience a virtual absence in arousal, a refractory period of 5-15 minutes. Since you already got into her pants, you can easily dress up & leave or doze off, and there’s absolutely nothing she can do about it. Now this is where most men blow it big time.

Invest in the refractory period and distance yourself from the other guys.

MAKE THE NEXT SEVERAL MINUTES ABOUT HER!

Notice how easy it is to tease and please when you’re done? You really don’t need much after you’ve sprayed, do you? You can actually think straight, can you?

Forget your temporarily dilapidated tool and unleash your most prized possessions – your tongue and hands.

Give her oral sex and get busy. Explore her body as if the first time. Kiss her ears, neck and back. Stroke her hair. Pull it lightly. Caress her shoulders, gently sweep her inner thighs. Get busy with her nipples and stroke her breasts. (Are you sensing more foreplay coming?)

In a few minutes, you will feel another surge of the urge. In an instant, you will become a man again. It’s like being reborn, only better. It’s your second chance at bat, an opportunity the average guy rarely finds.

The loss of arousal and erection are not final. Barring medical conditions, arousal and erection should return. You may be calmed and satisfied after one blow, but just you wait a few minutes and you’ll be begging to ride her again.

Simply knowing this brings you on a different footing from the inexperienced boy who retires after one shot and anxiously wait for next week’s booty call. He never gets to meet his 2nd and 3rd winds!

This is the real issue with premature ejaculation, it’s how you treat her when you’re done.

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: female orgasm, foreplay, have better sex, orgasm, premature ejaculation

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