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Best Masturbation Tips Of 2012

By loveandsex

Masturbation is a great way to satisfy yourself, get to know yourself intimately and relieve stress at the same time. Both men and women masturbate, and it’s a healthy habit to have! Also, learning to please your lover with your hands is hands down one of the best foreplay techniques. Check out our best tips of this year to take your solo time or manual stimulation to the next level.

5 HOT Fingering Techniques

10 Advanced Tools For Incredible Handjobs

8 Handjob Techniques That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

4 Male Masturbation Techniques For Better Orgasms

4 Fingering Methods That Will Get Your Girl Off Every Time

Mutual Masturbation For Beginners

6 Super Naughty Fingering Tips

Kinky Things To Do With Your Fingers That She Will LOVE!

9 Smokin’ Hot Handjob Techniques

 

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, female masturbation, female orgasm, masturbation, orgasm, sex tips

How To Teach Her To Give An Amazing Handjob

By loveandsex

A handjob can be exquisite if your lady does it the right way. Here’s how to teach her to stroke you to an incredible orgasm!

A Hot Handjob

If you aren’t already fluent in the language of your own anatomy, it’s time to take a bit of a lesson. Take a good look at what’s going on down there the next time you are masturbating and see if you can describe your movements in language someone else can understand. Next time, try it in front of her!

Give her a thorough demo of how you really like to be touched, taking the time to describe your use of pressure, grip and movement. If you are circumcised, be sure to use lube to mimic the gliding movement of foreskin. You can use lube if you have foreskin, too, but it’s less necessary for her to be able to get a handle on you during a handjob. If she is unsure with her grip, try holding your hand over hers so she has an idea of how hard to hold you.

A lot of women are unaware how much stimulation the penis is capable of enjoying, so make sure she knows exactly what you like during a handjob before she lets go. Give her lots of encouraging words when she does something that you like. If she goes too far and it hurts, or if you just want her to change, suggest what she can do instead, rather than jumping on her with criticism.

The P-Spot

If what you really want her to do with her hands is explore your back door in conjunction with a handjob, you should have a little conversation with her about it. Why not take her on a little sex toy shopping spree at my store, looking for fun toys to try with her? When you “happen” to “stumble” on the prostate massager category, casual bring up how curious you are about trying something like that. See how she responds to the idea of putting something other than her fingers inside you.

Next time you try out any anal moves on her, try describing what you’re doing in detail. The method for feeling up her G-Spot from her rear cavity is exactly the same as her method will be for finding your prostate gland. If she is just too grossed out by your back door, tell her to rub your perineum by pressing down from just behind your testicles toward your anus. Stroking this repetitively with the pad of her thumb with firm pressure should stimulate your P-Spot externally for an explosive orgasm.

If you don’t particularly enjoy anything around (or in!) your anus, feel free to skip this when getting your handjob. Most girls aren’t going to be terribly disappointed by this, especially if they can give you a great orgasm without going back there.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, foreplay, handjob, masturbation, sex tips

5 HOT Fingering Techniques

By loveandsex

Fingering isn’t as “old school” as you might think. If you do it the right way, you can bring your lover to incredible orgasmic heights!

There are some moves that just don’t work without a lot of lubrication, even if you aren’t penetrating her yet. A drop or two just won’t do and most women will appreciate a bit of extra lube for these techniques, even if she is already lubricating on her own.

1. The Electric Slide

Place the tip of your middle finger over her clitoris, then slide the entire length of your finger by, slowly, keeping constant contact with her little bud. Don’t move too fast. Keep a steady hand and don’t put too much pressure on her sensitive parts. She’ll let you know if she wants to go further.

You may want to separate her lips a bit to ensure more intense sensation, but remember that if you move your hand upward toward her during fingering, you will be pushing her clitoral hood out of the way. As you slide your hand back toward her feet, you will push the hood back in place, covering her up and allowing a relief from any intensity. Take your time learning which direction she loves best, and how heavy a hand she prefers.

2. The Tick-Tock Clit Clock

This fingering move is designed to give you a better idea of which sides or spots around her clitoris are the most sensitive to touch. Use a well-lubricated finger on a well-lubricated clitoris, holding her lips apart, exposing her most sensitive area. Imagining her clitoris is a clock face. Use your slick fingertip to trace a small circle around the outside of this clock, stopping and rubbing in even smaller circles at every hour. This will be a bit more difficult than with the previous exercise, working with such a small space, but you may be surprised at what you find.

3. Jack & Jill

Now don’t get me wrong here. I’m not trying to say that her clit is the same as a penis, but I am saying that you don’t have a monopoly on jerking off. Called “jacking” by a lot of men, modern day sexperts like to refer to this little move as “jilling off.” Welcome to a whole new world of clitoral stimulation! Give this a read, then go and welcome your wife.

The essential factor of jilling is to stimulate the clitoris by pumping it, through the protective sheath of the clitoral hood, which acts like a foreskin for the clit’s sensitive head. Use the outer edge of your hand, under your baby finger, to push up gently on the mons and expose the clit. From this position, you can use the thumb and forefinger from the same hand to feel for the clitoral shaft.

Probe around beneath her clitoral hood, where it begins from the crevice of her inner labia. You will be able to feel the stem protruding and should be able to gently grasp it between your fingers. From this position, massage it up and down in steady, rhythmic motions. Keep your fingers on the shaft and don’t pull the clitoral hood back too far. You may not feel like your movements are doing much, but you should be able to tell from her reaction how many nerve endings you are hitting with this one!

4. Knuckle Down

This second-last move is only for masters of jilling, really just a modification of that fingering technique. Having found that super-sensitive clitoral shaft, you have a variety of techniques available to you with this little nub in your hand. Instead of using your fingertips, this method uses the knuckles of your index and middle finger to grasp and stroke the shaft. Don’t forget to experiment during fingering! A change in speed or pressure could make all the difference in making this orgasmic.

5. Turning On

You might have a hard time jilling the shaft if her clitoris is small, or the hood is very tight, but don’t fret! Using either fingertips or knuckles, as in the last two fingering techniques, instead of pumping the shaft, you can turn it from side to side like a key in a lock. Keep your fingering rhythm and don’t try to go too hard or too fast.

This particular movement is probably the best way to mimic her masturbation technique, though you’ll certainly want to take a good look at it before you make a comparison. Either way, this kind of direct clitoral stimulation is definitely at the top of a short list of fingering moves that will let you make her come single-handedly.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, female masturbation, fingering, foreplay, masturbation, sex, sex tips

How To Talk To Her About Masturbation

By loveandsex

Masturbation can greatly improve your sex life, especially if she masturbates. It will be much easier for her to orgasm and the overall quality of sex for both you and your partner will increase dramatically. However, not all women masturbate. This can be due to a number of reasons, but if you want to broach this subject with your girl, you’re going to have to talk about it. Here’s how to talk to her about it comfortably, without letting things get weird.

Why You Want Her To Masturbate

Female masturbation is so important is because it helps women learn what feels good to their bodies. When women can experiment in privacy and can learn their bodies better, they become more responsive lovers who can guide you in your quest to bringing them greater sexual satisfaction.

The problem is that a large percentage of women who have masturbated are ashamed or embarrassed to admit they do it. While society pretty much accepts male masturbation, it still views female masturbation as somewhat taboo. Plus, women today were probably raised in households where such things were simply not discussed. Many adult women are shocked when they finally discover that their mothers were also masturbating all that time.

Knowing this is important because you may face difficulty when it comes to talking about masturbating with your partner. Now, of course, some women have no problems broaching the subject. Others, however, are more timid. To be successful, you’ll have to feel your way through the conversation.

Sample Conversation About Masturbation

This sample conversation should give you some idea of how to begin the discussion and how to steer it in the right direction. Of course, the conversation might not go exactly like this and your lover may have different responses than the one here. However, this sample can at least give you the gist of where to take the conversation.

Also, keep in mind that while not all sex conversations should take place in the bedroom, this one may be a good one to have on the bed while both of you are feeling a little amorous. That way it will make what comes next a little easier.

You: “Can I ask you something, baby?”

Her: “What?”

You: “Do you ever get yourself off?”

Her: “What do you mean?”

You: “You know, do you ever masturbate?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you that.”

You: (keeping the conversation light and playful): “Come on, why not?”

Her: “It’s private.”

You: “I masturbate. Sometimes when I see how hot you look I, get so turned on that I can’t help myself. Don’t you ever feel that way?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you.”

You: “I think it would be really hot to watch you get yourself off.”

Her: “Really?”

You: “Absolutely! But since you don’t do that . . . “

Her: “Maybe I’ve done it a couple of times.”

You: “Does it feel good?”

Her: “Not as good as being with you.”

You: “Maybe you could show me how good it feels.”

Her: “You want me to masturbate in front of you?”

You: “I think it would be really sexy.”

At this point, your partner may or may not agree. If she does agree, sit back and watch quietly. Don’t try to get involved or to offer words of encouragement. Pay attention to how she pleases herself. For example, does she use a toy or her hand? This can be very useful information for you because if you want to provide added stimulation during intercourse then you can use whichever method she normally prefers.

What If She Doesn’t Want To?

Of course, there’s a good chance that your partner may not be eager to pleasure herself in front of you. If that’s the case, you can always offer a compromise. Instead of you watching from inside the bedroom, ask her if you can tape her masturbating. You’d be somewhere else in the house or gone completely, but the videotape or DVD would record her masturbating in private. You’d be able to see her in action without her feeling as if she’s invading your privacy.

If she doesn’t go along with that idea, then you may need to drop the subject for a little while. That doesn’t mean you can’t go ahead and start experimenting with methods of clitoral stimulation. You may also have a partner who has honestly never masturbated. In that case, she may not be able to give you much feedback about what feels good to her because she probably won’t know. That’s not a bad thing; it just means you’ll be doing a lot of trial and error.

It also means that you’re going to need good communication so when you do hit upon something that sends pleasure racing through her body she lets you know.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, female masturbation, female orgasm, masturbation, orgasm, sex, sex tips

Mutual Masturbation For Beginners

By loveandsex

Mutual masturbation is a great way to connect with your partner and learn what she likes sexually so you can give her better, more intense orgasms!

We tend to think of masturbation as a solitary event, but it can also be a great addition to any couple’s list of erotic options. Simultaneous masturbation is an all-fun/no-danger way to share enjoyment and get to know each other’s preferences. This involves you two masturbating in each other’s presence.

When Should You Engage In Mutual Masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is definitely a thing to be taken into consideration if you want to create that special bond between you and your girlfriend or wife that will allow you to take pleasure in sex. If you are in the room while she is touching and fingering herself, you can understand better what she needs and what you’re supposed to do when you’re in charge.

What Does She Like?

Does she like short strokes or long strokes? Does she rub her clitoris clockwise or counterclockwise? Does she like her genitals be touched gently or does she like it rougher? Pulling or stretching? Fondling or fingering?

All these little secrets bring you closer and help you facilitate each other’s enjoyment of sex.

In order for her to feel comfortable enough to do it while you are watching, is only fair that you do it too. She will love watching you masturbate as much as you like watching her.

Once you both get worked up, you can switch and do each other (this is called mutual masturbation). There are numerous ways you can do this, just use your imagination, your hands and your tongues. The amount of pleasure that you can both get out of this is immense. Moreover, after such an intense bonding experience, she will feel more prepared and more comfortable about sex with you.

Solo masturbation orgasms can be extremely intense, because there’s no outside pressure or presence, but they can also be, I guess, lonely, for a lack of a better word. Partner masturbation orgasms feel different, there’s more of an energy exchange going on, a wavelike exchange of energy that makes the orgasm feel bigger and more satiating.

What It Can Do For Your Relationship & Sex Life

Ultimately, shared masturbation can and must build trust. When you expose yourself to another, you must know that your sharing is welcome, that you won’t be ridiculed. Truman Capote used to say: “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” This should remain valid when it comes to simultaneous masturbation as well.

She doesn’t have to feel pressured to look or act in one way or another, but do it like nobody else was in the room. It can be difficult to convince your girlfriend or wife to agree to it, but not impossible. If she has doubts, check out the lists bellow (masturbation must have and masturbation must not) and find out what you have to do in order to assure her you’re not going to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, female orgasm, foreplay, masturbation, mutual masturbation, orgasm, sex advice, sex tips

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