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What To Do When He Ejaculates During A Handjob

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A handjob will hopefully end in your lover ejaculating – but what do you do with his semen? Here’s how to handle it when your man has an orgasm during a handjob.

You’ve made it through the hard part – getting your partner up to the point where an orgasm is imminent. Here, you can do a couple things. You can relinquish your partner’s penis back to him and allow him to finish the job. Some couples will choose to let the man finish himself off while she concentrates on his testicles and perineum. If you are an oral sort of gal, men LOVE to have their balls licked and sucked as they masturbate.

Take Him Through The Orgasm

A more popular approach is to help your partner through his ejaculation by performing his favorite strokes and continuing to give him pleasure through his entire orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of stopping the handjob as soon as he begins to ejaculate. Continue your strokes until he begins to pull away. Most men “squirt” out close to ten times when they are having an orgasm. A few significant squirts followed by some very minor ones.

Think about it as an earthquake with a few aftershocks. The euphoric feelings that accompany the ejaculation might last a couple of seconds up to 30 seconds or more. The more you stroke, the longer he’ll come. Don’t cheat him out of any of those precious seconds.

Where Does The Semen Go?

Most of the time, women will let their partner’s ejaculate on their hands. You can keep one hand on the head of his penis while he has an orgasm (this is very pleasurable) and let his semen bubble over your fingers like a volcano, or you can keep your hands on the shaft of your partner’s penis and watch how high his eruptions will go!

If you are uncomfortable with having your partner’s semen on your hands, you can use gloves or you can hold a towel, washcloth or tissue over his urethra just as he is about to ejaculate to catch the semen. Any way you and your partner choose to handle the orgasm is fine – as long as you both are comfortable and enjoy it.

Men Love To Watch

Most men are highly turned on by you being excited (or at least fascinated) by his ejaculation. We like for you to see our eruptions as amazing or thrilling and not “gross”. We want to see wonder in your eyes as we shoot as high or far as far as we can (men are competitors by nature). Here is how one of my readers expressed it: “I want you to watch me and my manhood as I proudly throb and shoot jets of splooge for all to see! Don’t turn away, or block the squirts… sharing the full ejaculation experience with you is HOT!”

Another turn on for men is to ejaculate onto you. On your breasts, your stomach or even youth mouth if you are so willing. Again, we are very visual and marrying the erotic act of ejaculation with a visual image of your nakedness is something that fuels our sexual fires.

Letting Him Take The Reins

Depending where he wants to shoot his load, you may need to do a hand off to him in the final moments. He just might want you on your hands and knees so he can shoot all over your back and rump. Just find a way to communicate this before it is too late. But, if he comes before the plan is fulfilled, you can look forward to trying it next time.

Handing off to him to masturbate has other advantages to you and him. He can finish off really strong (he’s had a lot of practice), aim it where he wants it and you can enjoy seeing him fully enjoying himself.

There might be times where you are unable to bring him to climax with your hands. Even seasoned masturbators have times when they are unable to bring themselves to orgasm. So don’t sweat it. As you give him more and more handjobs you’ll learn the subtle nuances that tend to take him over the edge.

I’ll tell you what will almost certainly take him to his peak if you can’t seem to get him to erupt. Sit facing him, spread your legs wide, part your labia and finger yourself to orgasm. Mutual masturbation is near the top of most men’s fantasy lists. It is an explosive way to finish off a handjob session.

For clean up, you might want to have some baby wipes on hand or a very special touch is to bring in a warm, wet washcloth and wipe him clean. Or perhaps he or both of you were planning on showering afterwards.

How To Fulfill His Handjob Fantasies

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A handjob is something that a guy would much rather get from a girl than do himself. Here’s how to give your lover the handjob he’s been craving.

As with any sexual activity, communication between both partners is absolutely key to having a successful genital massage, fellatio or even intercourse session. You must keep the lines of communication open between you and your partner when performing your hand job to be able to give him the best experience you can and for you to be comfortable.

You will need to learn what he likes and when he likes it – although it is somewhat your responsibility to pay attention to his bodily cues (such as movements and noises) to learn if he really likes something, it is your partner’s responsibility to let you know if something is not working. If your partner does not tell you when something doesn’t feel as good as he would like it to, he is setting you up for failure!

Don’t Be Too Shy To Ask

Ladies, he’s been masturbating his whole life.

He knows his likes and dislikes and will be appreciative if you ask him to not only tell you, but take his own hand over yours and show you what feels best to him. It may differ from encounter to encounter, but you will get a good sense of how he handles himself “in private” and learn the strokes he used and the pace he is accustomed to.

On the same token, it is crucial to let your partner know if you are uncomfortable with something or if a particular move causes your hands numbness, pain or makes them tire or cramp easily. In doing so, you ensure that both you and your partner are on the same page about genital massage and avoid a lot of frustration!

Living The Fantasy

Part of giving a man a fabulous handjob is helping him to live out his fantasies. Most men do have fantasies while masturbating and it often has to do with YOU! He is imagining you in lingerie, or going down on him in the shower, talking dirty to him or trying out some new position or new place for a love nest.

As he closes his eyes while you play with his manhood, help him to be a part of a fantasy. Tell him what part of the fantasy you are and what part he plays (he often wants to simply be the most amazing lover with the package you go wild over).

4 Male Masturbation Techniques For Better Orgasms

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Male masturbation is something that every guy learns to do by the age of about 14. While there isn’t a guy in the world that would rather masturbate then have sex with a woman, sometimes a do-it-yourself job is all that is available. If you’re tired of using the same techniques, there are few ways that you can spice up your solo masturbation regiment.

Doing the same old same old can easily get tiring and become humdrum when you’re by yourself. Spicing things up can give you different sensations and easily take your mind off of being single. Here are some solo masturbation techniques that can get you through any dry spell or spice up how your girlfriend gives you a handjob.

1. The Standard Single Fist Technique

The standard single fist is probably the most commonly used masturbation technique used by men today. The technique is fairly simple. You wrap your fingers around the shaft of your erect penis and then slide your hand up and down from the head to the bottom.

This technique gives you the most contact between your penis in your hand. While hand lotion and lubrication is not always around, the standard single fist technique can easily be used without these items. Lube or lotion can take this technique to a newer level, but if you are going to use such items it’s better to use a more advanced technique.

2. The Churning Butter Technique

Male masturbation can be boring if you’re not using different techniques. The churning butter technique involves both hands and plenty of lube or lotion. The technique is fairly simple. Simply apply lube or lotion to both of your hands and then put one hand on top of the other and go up and down on your penis.

For a better sensation you can twist both of the hands around the shaft and head to make it seem more like a vagina. Make sure that you’re not holding your hands too tight as you could cut off the circulation to your penis. When you are about to have an orgasm, you can either stay with the motion or you can use the standard single fist to finish it off.

This method gets its name because it will actually look like you are trying to churn butter. This can make for an excellent alternative to your standard masturbation technique.

3. The Jelquing Technique

Jelquing is another male masturbation technique that you can employ in your arsenal. While this technique is typically used to increase penis size, it can also be used for masturbation. The idea is to push the blood from the shaft of your penis to the tip to increase the erection state.

Jelqing is a whole new aspect to masturbation and gives a completely different sensation. You basically want to use your index finger and your thumb to make an “O” shape. Tighten your index finger and your thumb around the bottom of your penis and then slowly work it up to the head.

Make sure that your index finger and your thumb are not too tight or you could hurt yourself. This method requires either lube or lotion. Never do this with a dry hand.

4. Using Sex Toys

Sex toys are one of the best ways that you can increase the amount of pleasure with your male masturbation. While toys are typically used with women, there are toys out there for men also. Male masturbators are commonly used for male masturbation with single guys, however, they can also be used with couples. This gives the man the feeling of a vagina or a mouth in order to get them off. These toys can be found at local sex shops or online.

They typically cost anywhere between nine dollars and $80 depending on the model and the store that you are buying them from. If you are going to buy a male masturbator be sure to get one that is going to encompass your entire penis. There are a lot of male masturbators out there that are very short and will not take your entire penis.

There are also different variations on how tight the masturbator will be. Make sure that you are buying one that is not going to go loose within a couple of uses. The best thing about these toys is that it can train you for having sex with a woman. They are typically used to increase stamina while also providing a little spice to your normal male masturbation regiment. All toys will require lube as well has a thorough cleaning after use.

4 Fingering Methods That Will Get Your Girl Off Every Time

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Fingering your girlfriend will probably take you back to high school. However, fingering can be one of the most erotic ways to give your girlfriend or wife an orgasm. Sometimes using your fingers can make your girl orgasm even harder than using your penis or your mouth. If you have never been the best at fingering a girl, there are a few things that you can do to put a smile back on her face.

Knowing the right amount of tempo, speed and the amount of fingers to use while you are performing this act is essential to pleasure. While there are a lot of techniques that you can use there are five that are almost guaranteed to bring your girl to orgasm.

1. The Clitoral Rub

The clitoris is the main point of stimulation for every woman. The clitoris is located on the outside of the vagina at the upper part of the lips. The clitoris looks like a small bean and you may have to push back her lips in order to find it.  One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is giving her a dry rub.

Have you ever had a girl give you a dry hand job? How did it feel? More than likely you were begging the girl to stop within a couple of seconds. The same goes for women. Before you start to rub her clitoris, make sure that you wet your fingers. If she is already wet, you can use her natural lube. If not, use a little bit of your own spit. Rub it slowly to begin with and then work your way up to a quicker motion. Gauge her response and you will be in the clear.

2. The Standard

Fingering is typically two fingers inside of her vagina going in and out. While this isn’t the most creative way to get her off, this is a standard for a reason. Use your index and pointer fingers to enter her. Make sure that your fingers are wet and use lube if needed. Spit works well too, but lube is a great way to speed up the process of getting her wet, especially if you think that you’re going to have sex after you finger her.

Don’t shove your fingers all the way inside her. Make sure you are working your way inside and touching the top of her vagina. Curl your fingers inside her so that you are kind of scraping the top of her vagina. Do this about 3 inches in and you will be touching her G-spot. The G-spot is known to give women some of the deepest orgasms of their life. If you have never found the G-spot, it’s a fleshy patch of skin about 3 inches inside and on the top of her vagina. You will know when you start to touch it.

3. Two Hands

Using both of your hands to finger her is another method that works extremely well. This is basically the standard method while rubbing her clitoris with your other finger. This is going to take some practice. Knowing how to use both hands together is not something that you are going to get right off the bat.

It’s best to start out with the clitoral rub and then work your way up to the standard method of fingering her. You want to be careful when you are using this method. Some women will find that they love this amount of stimulation, however, other women will not like having this much stimulation to the vagina. Everyone is different and they like different things. Starting out slow will give you the ability to gauge how much stimulation your girlfriend actually likes.

The Two-Hand Alternative

The two-hand alternative can come in handy with women that feel too much stimulation from both hands being used on their vagina and the clitoris. The basic method of fingering with the two-hand alternative is to use your tongue on her clitoris. While this might be seem like oral sex, using your fingers on her vagina while licking her clitoris is still a method of fingering. Most women can reach orgasm through oral stimulation or vaginal stimulation alone.

However, some women need both to reach their orgasm. By giving them both of these methods you should have no problem getting your girlfriend off. The reason that you’re going to use your tongue instead of your hands for clitoral stimulation is that the tongue has a different texture and is not as hard as your finger.

Your tongue can easily feel much better to her without the hardness of your index finger. Lick the clitoris in circles while you make the “come here” sign with your fingers inside her gently brushing up against her G-spot.

Handjob Tips & Secrets Guaranteed to Give ALL Men Intoxicating Pleasure!

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A handjob isn’t something most women immediately go to when they think if giving their man the most incredible pleasure possible. Most girls will go straight to a blowjob (which certainly isn’t a bad option at all) or sex.

But did you know that in a confidential survey, 82% of men admitted they would take an awesome handjob over a “good” blowjob any day?

WOW!

Who knew that a man would want a handjob over a blowjob, especially when he’s so used to feeling his own hand during masturbation?

Unless Your Man Is BEGGING You To Give Him Handjobs, You’re Probably Not That Great At It

When you stroke him, does he seem mildly interested but wants to quickly move on to something else?

Has it been a long time since he’s asked or even cared to get a handjob?

If this is the case, you might just be really bad at it.

Here’s the good news! It’s not really your fault. 

Women don’t have a penis. They don’t know how to stroke it, tease it, touch it and massage it to give their partners the most mind bending orgasms they’ve ever had. In fact, most women are COMPLETELY CLUELESS as to how to give a handjob!

Not to mention, men are harsh critics when it comes to receiving a handjob. He’s been doing it himself for YEARS – so naturally, he’s going to compare what you’re doing to what he can do. And what you do almost never holds a candle to how he can please himself with his own hands. Not so with a blowjob or even sex – he can’t suck himself off. There’s no judgement criteria there, so it’s easy to please him with your mouth.

The other reason most women don’t know how to stroke their partners into orgasmic oblivion is because there’s no one out there teaching it. 

It Feels SO Much Better To Him When YOU Can Do It Right!

You know how you can’t really tickle yourself because, well, it doesn’t tickle? The same goes for a man giving himself a handjob. It’s just not the same as when someone else does it exactly right. Sure, he knows exactly how and where to touch when he gets himself off, but the sensations are really out of this WORLD for him when a woman does it the right way.

To give your man the most incredible pleasure he’s ever felt – even MORE pleasure than he can give himself – you’ve GOT to be able to give him a great handjob. For him to feel totally, completely satisfied in bed (and not have any temptation to stray), giving an excellent handjob MUST be on your sexual skills list or you risk losing your man forever!

Information You Won’t Find ANYWHERE Else

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This information was compiled by surveying hundreds of thousands of men as to what they like when they get a handjob, as well as what makes them uncomfortable.

Stroke By Stroke is an unprecedented resource that contains information from actual men that you won’t find ANYWHERE else – guaranteed. It doesn’t matter how many articles you read on how to give a handjob. You’re not going to learn the TRUE SECRETS of what men really want unless you read this.

What You’ll Learn In Stroke By Stroke

  • The 3 simple things you MUST do before you even touch him to make his experience out of this world!
  • The best positions and techniques to get him to orgasm faster so you don’t get cramps in your hands
  • What to whisper in his ear to make him 5x hotter than he’s ever been
  • The best lube for almost ALL handjobs (and what common lube will give you DISASTROUS results! If you’ve ever used THIS lube, it could be responsible for a lackluster handjob!)
  • What 3 positions almost all men have secretly fantasized about
  • The secret spot you can touch when he is about to orgasm that will make him shoot for longer and farther than he has in a very long time!
  • What 80% of women do WRONG when a man is ejaculating from a handjob  

And much, much more!

Stroke By Stroke will tell you everything your man wants but has been terrified to tell you (most men don’t like insulting the woman they are making love to – and especially if they love her).

Simply put, Stroke By Stroke WORKS for one reason and one reason only – one of the world’s most renowned love, relationship and sex experts has put together actual tips from actual men! These are the things they would NEVER DARE say out loud in the bedroom!

You’ll be learning what guys everywhere secretly wish THEIR lovers knew – and after you give him a handjob THIS good, your man will be bragging about how excellent you are to all of his buddies! They’ll be MORE than jealous of him, and they just might ask you to teach their lovers how to do what you do!

You’ll be the BEST lover your partner has ever had, and he’ll be so smitten and in love with you that he’ll NEVER ever let you go!

Think about it….

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