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10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Men)

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Oral sex is something she loves, but isn’t going to always ask for. She may be too shy to tell you how much she craves oral sex from you, but no matter how much she wants it, she’s not likely to let you know just how hot it makes her to have your mouth down here. Instead of making her beg for it, learn to be the best at it and give it to her without her ever having to ask! Here’s how to give your lover amazing oral sex and be the best she’s ever had!

Lick Slowly

Most guys lick fast when performing oral sex, assuming that a woman likes it that way because that’s what he likes when he’s getting a blowjob. Women are different though and many of them enjoy slow licking, especially at the beginning when she’s just starting to get warmed up. Lick her clitoris and labia slowly, as though you are savoring her taste and the way she feels in your mouth.

Take Her All In

Instead of focusing on just one area – such as her clitoris – when you’re going down on her, let your mouth wander all over her vagina. Don’t leave a single fold unexplored by your tongue. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman is sensitive only in that one area, when in reality, she has sensitive nerve endings all over her vagina. Her inner and outer labia are very sensitive, as well as the skin around the entrance to her vaginal canal.

Show Enthusiasm

Just like you don’t enjoy getting oral sex from a girl who is bummed out about having to give it, a woman isn’t going to enjoy receiving it from you if she feels like you think it’s a chore. Show your woman some enthusiasm when going down on her and let her know that you really enjoy giving her pleasure this way. Don’t lean your head on one thigh and lick lazily as though you’d rather be doing something else – because she won’t be fooled for one minute.

Use Your Fingers

A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris alone, but you can give your partner an even more powerful orgasm by stimulating her g-spot with your fingers at the same time you’re giving her oral sex. This will either help her to have a g-spot orgasm or it will help her to have a blended orgasm – which is a clitoral and g-spot climax at the same time.

Penetrate Her With Your Tongue

Most men don’t bother using their tongue around the entrance to a woman’s vagina because why bother if he can’t stick his tongue all the way up there, but the truth is, there are hundreds of sensitive nerve endings just around the opening to her vagina. Even just slowly licking all around the entrance will have your woman grabbing the sheets with desperation, but if you slip your tongue inside, it’s likely to send her into a complete frenzy.

Lick Her Anus

Lots of women don’t like anal sex, but they may enjoy the idea of analingus in conjunction with oral sex. Often, anal sex is painful, but analingus is not and can actually be very pleasurable for a woman. If your girl is clean and you don’t have a problem with it, lightly lick her anus a few times while you’re going down on her. You don’t have to stay down there for long to have the desired effect – just a few licks will send her out of this world with pleasure!

Don’t Rush It

A huge mistake that men make during cunnilingus is rushing through it so that they can get to the main event faster. They’re more concerned with their own pleasure than hers, and a woman will be able to tell right away if you’re rushing through oral sex so you can get to your own climax. Instead, take your time and let your partner reach orgasm naturally, without feeling rushed or pressured to do so. This will make her climax much, much more powerful and keep her coming back for more!

Make Noise

Don’t lick her in such a way that you produce hardly any noise. Get sloppy! Allow your partner to hear your sucking and licking sounds, and don’t be afraid to let a moan of pleasure escape from your own lips as well. Give her the idea that you absolutely love everything about giving her oral sex by letting her hear every bit of what you’re doing to her – and how much you’re enjoying it.

Use Different Sex Positions

Don’t just stick to letting her lay on the bed while you go down on her. Try different sex positions for oral sex, such as licking her from behind or letting her sit on your face. This will add an element of variety to giving your lover a climax orally, making her want more and more. She’ll always be ready for sex if you make sure she not only gets a great orgasm from you, but also that she feels like your sex life is really wild and amazing.

Go Different Places

Break out of the bedroom and give your partner oral sex anywhere else. Move from the couch to the kitchen, then to the car and out of the house. Next time you go on a road trip, pull over and lick her clitoris right then and there. Or, next time you have dinner out together, slip underneath the long tablecloth and perform cunnilingus on her while everyone goes about their business, having no idea what is really going on. Even if you have great oral sex technique, going down on her in different places is all you need to make her think you’re the best on the planet.

4 Tips To Drive Her Wild With Razor Sharp Female Orgasms

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Oral sex is a great way to give your lover a mind blowing orgasm. The fact is, what makes a perfect sexual life is when you give your woman the powerful orgasm she deserves. And the most wonderful way for your partner to experience the ultimate excitement is by making your woman feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return.

Oral Sex Equals Orgasm!

Cunnilingus, in simple terms, is oral sex for women. Cunnilingus gives a heightened sexual excitation in women. If you don’t know how to do this, then it will turn out to be just another forgettable experience for your partner. But with these 4 tips below, you will certainly triumph in bed and give your lover a truly memorable erotic adventure – complete with powerful orgasms, no less!

Arousal Multiplier

Many men make the mistake of jumping right in and start stimulating their women with their tongue. While oral sex is usually considered as a form of foreplay to intercourse, you still need to get your partner warmed up first. Women are like analogs… you need to slowly turn the dial to heat it up. Take your time to playfully tease your partner; kiss on the neck and nibble on the ear lobes; gently stroke the inner thighs. All these little, sensuous gestures will turn a woman on quickly and get her ready before you start giving oral sex.

Oral Manifesto

The right way to use your tongue can be compared to how a cat or a dog drinks from a bowl of water. Try observing these animals when they drink; you will see how their tongues move in and out of their mouths at a really fast pace. This is exactly what your tongue should do when performing oral sex on a woman and licking the clitoris. Your tongue has one of the most powerful muscles in the human body. Put it to good use!

To bring this intimate mood to the next level, get creative and try out various tongue strokes (hint: circular strokes produce a tantalizing effect on most women). You can also use your tongue to spell different letters of the alphabet and see if she can guess what you are spelling. She will probably be squirming with ecstasy as she tries to figure out what you are going to do next. Go slow, use your tongue and tease your lover.

Pleasure Multiplier

When you are giving your partner oral sex, there is nothing to stop you from leveraging on the magic from your fingers. If you know how to use fingering and your tongue, you will exponentially intensify the pleasure she gets from you. Here’s the trick: when you are kissing the clitoris, use your thumb or index finger to rub it simultaneously. By giving sufficient stimulation to the clitoris, you will set up your partner for a really explosive orgasm, and make it happen in a hurry too.

Rhythmic Consistency

To give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes, and to spice things up a little, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged. The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to the clitoris.

When you sense your lover’s orgasm approaching (e.g. when breathing quickens; and hands start gripping the sheets), keep a steady tempo as you continue to stimulate the clitoris. Refrain from changing what you are doing, as that might cut your partner out from the orgasm she’s yearning for. Once you find a rhythm that gets your lover going, stick with it… and keep at it until you bring your partner over the edge!

Your lips and tongue are your best “tools” to bring your lover to an orgasm. Science has proven it. Experience has confirmed it. More than intercourse, oral sex is craved by many women, but delivered by very FEW men. So give your partner the pleasure she deserves, and in return you will get more sex than you could probably handle!

7 Blowjob Tips That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A blowjob is heavenly for a guy – even if you suck at it (pun intended). If you’re feeling like your oral sex skills are sub-par, spicing up your routine a bit isn’t difficult. These seven tips will show you how to step up your game when it comes to giving your partner fellatio and you’ll learn how to give him a blowjob so good, he’ll go weak at the knees.

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Sex Positions For A Blowjob

You may think that sex positions are only good for intercourse, but finding the right one for a blowjob is key for his pleasure – and your comfort. Lots of girls absolutely hate giving their guy head simply because they can’t find a position that doesn’t put an instant cramp in their neck! The other thing to think about when finding the right position to give your man a blowjob is his viewpoint. You definitely want him to be able to see you do your thing – this is what is going to make him melt!

Try kneeling on a pillow while your partner sits in a chair, on the couch or on the edge of a bed. This will keep you from holding your head at an odd angle, making your neck sore.

Sloppy Wet

Don’t try to suck in all your spit when giving head – in fact, let the drool dribble out of your mouth, down your partner’s shaft and onto his legs. The sloppier the blowjob, the better. Keep a towel nearby for easy clean up afterwards, but while you’re going down on him, don’t worry about keeping it dry. It feels much, much better for him the wetter it is.

Use A Cock Ring

Sure, you can use a vibrator or a g-spot stimulator on a girl while you give her oral sex, but most people don’t know what sex toys can be used when going down on a guy. While most male sex toys are made for manual stimulation, a cock ring can be used during a blowjob to enhance the pleasurable sensations you’re giving your man.

Slip the cock ring over the head of his penis after he’s hard and slide it all the way down to the bottom of the shaft. This will help keep blood in the head of his penis, allowing him to stay rock hard during the blowjob and feel every little thing you’re doing. Don’t have a cock ring? Simply wrap your thumb and your forefinger around the base of the penis until the tips of your fingers are touching, forming a tight ring around his shaft.

Learn To Deep Throat

If you’ve never tried to deep throat your partner, you don’t know just how challenging this can be for a woman to do for her fella. The gag reflex is a powerful reflex and when it’s stimulated, it can be difficult not to gag or vomit. Every girl has a secret fear of trying to deep throat and ending up puking on her man’s lap. However, surprising your man with a deep throat maneuver during a blowjob will rock his world. Learning how to do it (without puking) will definitely up the “wow” factor when you give your guy head, so it’s well worth it to try.

In this case, practice makes perfect. Practice on a banana and breathe through your nose until you get the hang of it. Go slow and give yourself plenty of time to learn this difficult but worthwhile skill.

Let Him Come Where He Pleases

A lot of guys have a secret ejaculation fantasy – he may get really turned on by the idea by ejaculating on your face (also known as a “facial”) or on your breasts when he’s reached orgasm after a blowjob. So ask him what he’d like to do and let him do it! It might seem gross to you to let him ejaculate all over your face, but if you let him and act like you’re enjoying it (make it believable!) he’ll melt at the fact that you’ve let him try his secret oral sex fantasy.

Lick Around A Little First

Many women simply dive right in when they give a blowjob and start sucking fervently right away. While this isn’t necessarily a “no-no” (the guy’s still getting head, right?) but your man would definitely appreciate it if you slowed it down a bit when you’re just getting started. Men need foreplay to warm up too!

Tease him a little by nibbling on his lower stomach and his cut lines, before lightly running your tongue up and down his shaft while he watches. You can also rub your nipples and breasts over his shaft as you lick and kiss his tummy. He’ll be begging you to put his member in your mouth before you’re done.

Get Vocal

Don’t give him a quiet blowjob. Nothing is worse for a guy when his lady makes him feel like giving him head is a chore. Instead, get a little vocal and act like you’re enjoying it too. You don’t have to go all out and sound like a porn star giving a stellar performance, but you definitely don’t want to be entirely quiet. In between the lascivious sounds of you sucking him off, give him a deep moan or two that will make him feel like you’re getting off too. Better yet, rub your clitoris a little while going down on him to make him think that you’re so turned on by giving him a blowjob that you just couldn’t handle it anymore.

How To Deep Throat (Without Gagging)

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Oral sex is incredibly pleasurable for a guy. In fact, it can even be more pleasurable than penetration and intercourse! The best part about oral sex for a guy is feeling a hot, wet mouth all over him – especially when a woman takes his entire penis in her mouth in a deep throat move.

While just about every guy loves deep throating, most girls do not. This is because deep throating often causes a woman to gag – and sometimes even vomit. The gag reflex, however, can be controlled with a little effort and some practice. Here’s how you can deep throat your lover without gagging.

Learn How To Breathe Through Your Nose

When giving a guy a blowjob, it’s important that you learn to breathe through your nose, even when you’re not deep throating. Even a small penis can block the airway from the mouth to the lungs, making it near impossible to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob. This is because your partner’s penis will go into your esophagus when you deep throat, blocking off the passage of air through the windpipe. Instead, learn how to breathe through your nose so the air can go directly from your nose to your lungs, completely bypassing your esophagus.

If you try to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob, you’re much more likely to gag or even vomit. Learning to breathe through your nose during a blowjob and while deep throating is an important skill to have in your oral sex tool belt.

Get Your Throat Parallel To His Penis

A big reason that the gag reflex gets stimulated during a blowjob is because the angle between the mouth and the throat isn’t set up to have a straight penis go in. You can actually overcome this easily by switching sex positions and getting your throat parallel to your lover’s penis.

Usually, the easiest way to do this is to lie on a bed on your back, with your head at the very edge of the bed. Scoot up so your head is basically hanging off the edge of the bed, which puts your mouth and throat in almost a straight line. This will make it much easier for your partner to insert his penis down your throat without rubbing so hard against the top of your throat (which is where the gag reflex is.)

Learn To Relax Your Throat Muscles

Relaxing your throat muscles is essential when it comes to giving your partner a good deep throat. Slowly insert your partner’s penis into your mouth, pushing past your gag reflex and down into your throat. When you feel the urge to gag, work on closing your eyes, breathing through your nose and relaxing your throat muscles.

This isn’t a technique that will come easily – it’s one that must take a lot of practice to really get the hang of it. Your partner probably won’t mind if you want to practice on him though!

Make Sure You’re In Control Of The Thrusting

While having your head hanging off the edge of the bed doesn’t exactly put you in a prime position to control your partner’s thrusting during oral sex, make sure that you at least have your hands on his hips and can guide him in and out of your mouth. If your partner is in complete control over his thrusting during fellatio, you’re much more likely to gag because you can’t control how deep he goes and when.

Trusting Your Partner

Since this type of oral sex can go wrong in so many ways (who wants a lap full of vomit?), it’s important to have a partner that you truly trust and can be open and honest with. Talk with your partner about the level of trust you’re putting in him to allow him to deep throat you, and make sure he agrees not to abuse it by going too hard or too fast without your explicit consent.

Having A Safe “Gesture”

While this type of oral sex is generally safe, you should still consider having a safe “gesture” that will let your partner know to stop immediately. You can’t use words while deep throating, so decide hand signal of some kind before you and your partner get busy. Use the safe “gesture” as though you would a safe word during bondage or kinky sex to let your lover know that you’re uncomfortable, in pain or want to stop for any reason. Make sure that you and your lover are on the same page about stopping whatever is going on immediately if the gesture is used.

What Women REALLY Want During Oral Sex

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Oral sex is something almost every woman loves – but many girls can be afraid to tell a man how they truly like it and what they want their guy to do when he’s down there. Next time you go down on your lady love, give her what she truly craves. Here’s what to do to push every single one of your girl’s hot buttons with oral sex and make her melt in your mouth.

Slow And Sensual

Many guys assume that because girls enjoy using vibrators while masturbating that they want their clitoris licked hard and fast. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Giving your partner slow and sensual oral sex is something no vibrator can do – and your lover will enjoy it so much more.

Instead of being tempted to lick quickly, flatten your tongue out and slowly lick her entire vulva from top to bottom, pausing to flick her clitoris or put pressure on it with your tongue. Don’t be in any rush – act like you could be down there all day without batting an eye.

Lick Everywhere

The clitoris is extremely sensitive and when stimulated, it can bring a woman to an incredible, leg shaking orgasm. However, just because this is the most sensitive spot on her vulva, it doesn’t mean that you have to keep your tongue there and only there. A woman secretly wants a man who isn’t afraid to put his tongue everywhere – in every nook and cranny. This is also a great way to get your girl to last longer – you can lick other parts of her vulva while she comes down from the brink of orgasm, after which, you’ll lick her clitoris again to get her close.

Instead of keeping your tongue in one area when going down on your lover, take your tongue and use it to explore every fold down there. Point your tongue and slip it into her vagina, and then lick up and down her labia. When combined with a slow and sensual approach, this will blow your lover’s mind.

Be Enthusiastic And Enjoy It

You don’t like getting a blowjob that seems like a chore for the girl doing it, do you? Of course not, and your girl doesn’t want to get half-ass oral sex either. Even if you’re not totally into it, at least put on a good show and act like you’d rather be doing nothing else in the whole world than bring your partner pleasure with your mouth.

When licking and sucking your partner into orgasmic frenzy, pretend as though you’re savoring something extra delicious. You can use flavored lubes or even dabs of chocolate or caramel sauce to make it more enjoyable for you. Show your lover that you’re totally into it and that you’re enjoying going down on her – not just to give her an orgasm, but because you just enjoy it.

G-Spot Stimulation

A blended orgasm can easily be achieved during oral sex by simply slipping your finger into your partner’s vagina and stimulating her g-spot. Since you’re licking her clitoris and rubbing her g-spot at the same time, she’s much more likely to have a blended orgasm than just a clitoral or g-spot orgasm alone.

Don’t start stimulating her g-spot right away. Give her oral sex for a few minutes first to get her nice and warmed up – this helps make her g-spot much, much easier to find. When you start fingering her, back off from using your tongue for a few minutes while you use your hands. Then, begin to lick her clitoris and stimulate her g-spot at the same time. This technique increases her chances of having a blended orgasm because she has time to feel each sensation individually and then together.

Anal Play

While some women don’t enjoy anal sex at all, others absolutely love it. If your girl enjoys anal sex, try to incorporate a little anal play next time you go down on your lover. You don’t necessarily have to use a sex toy or even a finger for insertion – the nerve endings on the outside of the anus are sensitive enough that licking or touching the outside of the anus during oral sex will send your partner over the moon.

If you’re not averted to trying analingus, make licking her anus part of the “licking everywhere” technique. If you’d rather not put your tongue down there, try simply rubbing it or pushing against it with one of your fingers while you lick her clitoris.