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My Girl Stopped Giving Me A Blowjob. What Do I Do?

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When it comes to oral sex, my girlfriend was the best. She used to give me a mind-blowing blowjob. Now, oral sex is nonexistent in our sex life. How do I get a blowjob back?

What She Said

A great way to receive is to make sure you’re giving. Have you also dropped the service of your girlfriend’s oral pleasure from the menu? If so, add it back immediately – for numerous reasons!

The Ebb And Flow Of Sex

The sexual heat in relationships often cools after a certain period of time. That’s not to say it’s dissipated, it’s just changed as you grow in intimate relationships. The blowjob is, needless to say, a great way to get to know one another! It’s often one of the early things couples try out together. You can’t blame a gal for wanting to get up close and personal with the goods!

Foreplay Is Key

How is your foreplay? Could it be that the warm-up has waned? A lot of people tend to go straight for the penetration when in long-term situations – whether it be due to time (maybe you have kids or are exhausted from a job that’s kicking your ass) or you know it’s a sure thing (it’s not like you have to worry about getting laid when you have a girlfriend), so why not cut to the chase.

Communicate With Her

Tell your girlfriend you want to revisit the excitement and romance of your early relationship and that you’d like to reintroduce some things into your sex life – for both of you. Be sure to add something for her that you’ve perhaps slacked on. In the end, a brief chat with some fun added incentives will most likely be all you’ll need to, umm, get the ball(s) rolling!

What He Said

Oral sex can disappear for many reasons. Maybe your girl doesn’t like giving a blowjob. Maybe she only does them in the beginning of the relationship. Maybe she’s stressed. Who cares why it happened? You just want to get your blowjob on.

Bring On The Foreplay

I recommend you engage in massive amounts of foreplay: kiss, lick, tease, massage and caress until she just can’t stand it anymore. Then go down on her and make her orgasm at least twice or until you get lockjaw, which ever comes first. Then say “that’s all you get for now” and walk away.

Okay, maybe not literally walkway, but I think you get the point. Make her orgasm until it fries her brain and then slam the breaks on and cuddle. She won’t know what hit her. It will fry her brain in a good way. This sexual interaction won’t follow the protocol her brain is used to.

Challenge Your Partner

Remember, the brain is a computer. If you hand it the same data as always, it will process it the same way it always has. So if you interrupt the pattern it’s used to, she’s bound to do something different. She’ll probably want to molest you. Don’t let her. Make her earn it. Make her feel challenged – women love a challenge (God only knows why. I personally hate challenges. I prefer to have things handed to me on a silver platter, but I digress). I don’t know why, but you can’t make sense of anything that bleeds for five days and doesn’t die (kidding. Sort of.)

If You Want It, Mean It!

I have a friend who’s a bartender and before he met his wife, he got, TONS of ass. Crazy, boyband ass. The kind of sheer volume of high quality booty that makes porn stars and Justin Timberlake jealous. How did he do it? He would find a girl at the bar he was working who was looking to be taken home. Then he’d get her naked, fool around, get her ready for sex, and then STOP. He’d say “You know what? I’ve been working all night and I’m really tired. I’m going to bed. Maybe we’ll pick this back up in the morning.” And then he would actually go to sleep.

The girls had no idea what to do. He really went to sleep. So eventually, once they figured out it wasn’t a joke, they did to. Guess what? The girls got up early and the second they saw my bartender’s morning wood, they were on it like Charlie Sheen on a coked out porn star.

Why do I bring this up? The key is simple: if you want this to work, you have to mean it. Give her oral sex and then REALLY TRULY STOP. You have to mean it. If you don’t, then it’s just a ploy to get her to give you head. If you do this and you really stop and she gets that you are serious, then you are on the way to getting so much head, you’ll need a Viagra prescription just to keep up with her.

Give Her Better Oral Sex And Wild Screaming Orgasms

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Oral sex is something almost every girl loves, but most of the time their partners stick to boring, vanilla sex – and that doesn’t usually include cunnilingus. It’s time to make a move and add a new flavor to these intimate explorations – perform oral sex on your partner! What kind of woman would not want to perspire during a steamy lovemaking? Yes, you read it right. You can have your woman writhe in pure orgasmic pleasure with oral sex.

You can provide the most thrilling cunnilingus she will ever experience by putting a small amount of a female orgasm enhancing cream (such as V-cream) on the clitoris prior to giving your partner oral sex. She will surely have heightened sensations with every stroke and touch that you do to this small organ. Such creams act immediately upon application, making your lover primed for an exhilarating time in bed.

Know The Magic Of Creative Oral Sex

Start oral sex off by giving the inner thighs tender and light touches using your lips. Move upwards to the vagina and allow your tongue to gently stroke the external area using an up-and-down motion for few moments.

Be playful! Stop the movements of your tongue along the external edges of the vagina and let your woman beg for more of what you are already doing. Place gentle kisses and soft caresses using your tongue, and make your teeth nibble gently until you reach the abdomen. Go back down after paying much of your attention on the sensitive parts on the upper torso. She will surely demand that you get to the real business of oral sex and that is what you will do!

Women usually reach an orgasm due to clitoral stimulation so you should pay close attention to that mound of flesh. Imagine that you can only pleasure your partner through those gentle strokes that your tongue can make. Visualize yourself eating ice cream because this is how your tongue and lips should move. Don’t we just love eating ice cream?

Techniques That Will Do The Trick

Allow yourself to experience the same or greater level of pleasure as what your partner feels through the following methods:

  • Perform tender strokes using your tongue.
  • Allow your lover to place external genitalia on your face.
  • While your mouth is busy on the clitoris, you can try penetrating the vagina with your two fingers.
  • You may also raise your partner’s buttocks off the bed or floor and allow the lower limbs to encircle your neck. This may take some effort from you.
  • Trace the letters of the alphabet along the borders of the vagina with the gentle movement of your tongue.
  • Lastly, the circular motion around the clitoris will surely do the magic trick!

Try these proven oral sex moves and show your lover the kind of wild screaming orgasms that she will never forget!

Best Blowjob Tips Of 2010

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Every man loves getting a blowjob. The simple truth of it is that feeling a warm, wet mouth wrapped around his penis is absolutely divine and not even explosive sex can come close to how awesome a great blowjob feels. Of course, a bad blowjob can be ultra uncomfortable or even painful for a man!

While giving someone head seems pretty straightforward, there are lots of mistakes that girls can make when going down on their partner – and these mistakes could keep him from reaching orgasm or cause him to take longer getting there (which can be hell on your neck). Many girls don’t enjoy giving their man a blowjob, either because it’s uncomfortable or she doesn’t like the taste of his semen.

All year, we’ve given you the best information on not only how to make his toes curl during oral sex, but also how to make going down on him better for you. Whether you’re trying to find a comfortable position to be in during sex (and get some action for yourself in the process) or make his semen taste better so you can actually stand to swallow, we’ve got the best suggestions and techniques for you to use. Scope out some of these super hot blowjob techniques to turn you into a sex goddess in your partner’s eyes in 2011!

Best Oral Sex Tips Of 2010

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Oral sex is something just about every girl loves. Some women don’t like the sensations that cunnilingus gives them, but those women are definitely few and far between. The far majority of girls love having their clitoris licked and sucked, and some women who can’t reach orgasm through sex can only reach orgasm through oral sex!

Something about the way a man’s mouth feels on her most intimate areas will drive a woman absolutely wild! Did you know a woman has over 8,000 pleasurable nerve endings in her clitoris alone? These nerves (and the clitoris) were designed for pleasure and pleasure only – they serve absolutely no other purpose.  You can actually give a woman the most amazing orgasm she’s ever had in her life through oral sex alone. However, not every guy (in fact, most guys) really know how to go down on a woman the way she really wants it. Few men know the hot spots to focus on, when to go slow, when to speed up and whether they should use their tongue, fingers or both.

When it comes to giving your partner head, knowing ahead of time what to do and when can mean the difference between a complete dud and a sheet grabbing climax. Instead of heading down south and fumbling around next year, check out our hottest oral sex techniques of this year so you can get a jump start on giving her mind blowing, leg shaking orgasms with your mouth!

The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Him

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All men love getting a blowjob – in fact, many men prefer to be on the receiving end of oral sex more than they like intercourse! If your guy likes it so much, naturally, you want to learn as many techniques as you can so you can rock his word. Fortunately for you, there are only 5 awesome oral sex tips that you need to learn to give your guy an amazing orgasm with your mouth – and he’ll never look at you the same way again!

Use Your Hands Too

Some women think that giving a guy head involves using only your mouth, but that is far, far from the truth. When going down on a guy, incorporating your hands into the mix can mean the difference between giving him head for an hour or making him orgasm within ten to fifteen minutes. When giving your partner a blowjob, take one hand and wrap it around the base of his penis. Stroke up and down the shaft of his member as you would if you were giving him a handjob, but only moving your hand halfway up the penis. Lower your mouth down over the head of his penis to give him oral sex, but you’ll only need to go down as far as your hand is -around the middle of his penis. He’ll love the feeling of having both your hands and your mouth on his penis and you’ll be able to bring him to orgasm faster than if you just used your hands or your mouth alone. This is also a great technique for women who have a strong gag reflex to use, because it doesn’t allow the penis to go very far down the throat at all.

Massage The Prostate Gland Or Perineum

The prostate gland is much like a woman’s “g-spot” in the fact that it is a special spot located inside the body that can bring a man to an amazingly powerful orgasm if it’s stimulated the right way. The most efficient way to stimulate a man’s prostate gland is by gently sliding your finger in his anus and making a “come hither” motion with your finger. This will directly stimulate the prostate gland and may cause a man to climax immediately. Some men, however, are adverse to anal sex or anal play of any kind, and this is not the best approach for someone who is uncomfortable with anal stimulation. If this is the case for you and your partner, you can firmly massage his perineum (the space between his testicles and his anus) with your knuckles. This indirectly stimulates the prostate gland and can provide some of the same sensations as when using other techniques.

Pay Attention To The Head Of His Penis

The head of your partner’s penis is the most sensitive part, so it’s important not to leave it out when giving your partner a blowjob. Start by sucking gently on the head of his penis, swirling your tongue around firmly. You can start to suck more firmly if your partner seems to enjoy this, but beware of sucking too hard. The head of his penis is much like your clitoris – packed full of nerve endings that can cause pain or discomfort when stimulated too much.

Don’t Be Afraid To Slobber

So many women are afraid of using too much saliva when giving a guy a blowjob, so they skimp on how good of a blowjob they actually give so as not to end up slobbering all over his penis. Here’s a quick tip – ignore how much saliva you’re using and just let it drip. Keep a towel nearby if you’re that freaked out about it, but don’t worry too much because it’s almost guaranteed that your partner doesn’t care how much saliva you get on him at all.

Let Him Enjoy The Show

Men are definitely visual creatures, so if you can position yourself to allow him to watch while you give him head, so much the better. Make eye contact with him every now and then so he can see how much you’re enjoying giving him pleasure (this is a big deal for guys by the way) and he’ll never forget how great you can be in bed. Mix and match this technique with a few other oral sex tips and you’ll really end up blowing his mind! He’ll be begging you to give him a blowjob again and again after this – and you just might get him to be enthusiastic about giving you oral sex in return!