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3 Mistakes Women Make in Porn Blowjob Videos

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Since most women do not like watching hardcore porn videos, are there any lessons or mistakes that they can take a cue from when watching blowjob videos? Although it seems as if the women starring in these porn films are doing everything right, there are a few mistakes here and there which can serve as a lesson for other women.

Basically, your goal should be to blow a man right out of his mind – so you should steer clear of some of these mistakes when giving him head.

Mistake #1: Using Your Teeth

Okay, this one is something that you hardly ever see on blowjob videos – but that’s exactly the point! It’s really quite a major thing if you graze his penis with your teeth. You can either cause him discomfort or downright pain – or the fact that you had your teeth down there will be a major turnoff for him, so things will not really end up as you expect.

Mistake #2: Holding On To His Penis With A Death Grip

You don’t necessarily know how much force those female adult film stars are exerting on their stud partners on screen. So just because their grip looks tight, it doesn’t mean that you should imitate the ‘death grip’ in real life. The shaft of the penis can probably take the extra pressure, but the other more sensitive areas, not much so.

As such, it would help if you will listen to his moans and groans so that you would know exactly how much force to apply. You can also take a cue from the way that he runs his fingers through your head, or the way that he cocks his hips.

What you can do instead is use a combination of your hands and mouth to give him head – and don’t forget to pay close attention to his other manly parts that most women forget. This includes his family jewels and that oh-so-sensitive area on the underside of his shaft.

Mistake #3: Going Down On Him Too Soon

When you see a clip from an adult site, the camera is immediately focusing on a woman giving head to a man. If you don’t want to end things a little too soon, don’t go proceed to the main event just yet.

If women prefer a lot of foreplay just before penetrative sex, men would appreciate it if you will worship other parts of his body first – before zeroing in on his penis.

In Summary

There’s really a great deal of lessons that you can learn when watching a blowjob video. But the first thing that you need to learn are the aforementioned mistakes that you need to steer clear of when giving him head.

Next Steps

Now that you already have an idea about the top mistakes that women make when giving head, the next thing that you should learn about are the steps on how to give him a mind-blowing orgasm.

Oral Sex and STD’s – What You Need To Know

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While contracting an STD from unprotected oral sex (whether giving or receiving) is less likely than contracting an STD from unprotected intercourse, it’s still entirely possible. Chlamydia in your throat, anyone? It’s important to be as cautious and safe with oral sex as you would be with intercourse – and there’s lots of ways you can do that!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

Can you get STDs from oral sex? Is it a moot point to wear a condom for intercourse after that, if you’ve already had unprotected oral sex? What about girl on girl oral sex?

 

–Mike, FL

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Less Likely? How Less Likely?

Sure, it’s less likely to contract or pass STD’s through oral sex, but how less likely? Do you even want to fool with “less likely?” Although the chances of getting sexually transmitted diseases from unprotected oral sex than those of having unprotected intercourse, you can still contract STD’s such as chlamydia, ghonnorhea, syphilis, herpes and even HIV and AIDS from unprotected oral sex. Don’t chance it! If you’re not in a monogomous relationship in which both partners have been thoroughly tested for STD’s, protect yourself during intercourse and oral sex. You can use dental dams, flavored condoms or even plastic wrap in a pinch! Don’t like the way it feels? Try using a little bit of lube on the inside of the condom/dental dam/plastic wrap to create a more natural feeling.

Using A Condom During Intercourse After Having Unprotected Oral Sex

Is it a moot point to use a condom during intercourse if you’ve already had unprotected oral sex? Not at all! Even if the person you were having unprotected oral sex with has an STD, it’s entirely possible that you did not contract it during oral sex. It’s possible you did, but it’s also possible you didn’t. It’s much more likely that you’ll contract the disease through unprotected intercourse, so why set yourself up? Wrap it up instead! Again, if you’re not in a monogomous relationship with a partner you know for a fact is STD free, protect yourself as much as possible. Even if you didn’t use protection during oral sex, it’s still worth it to use a condom during intercourse.

Get Some Information!

The Internet is jam-packed full of information about sexually transmitted diseases, how each one is spread and how you can give or contract them through sex and oral sex. With a simple Google search, you can find out the specifics – such as how a particular disease can be spread through a particular sex act, as well as the best way to protect yourself. Don’t believe the old wives tales – you know, the ones like you can prevent pregnancy by douching afterwards (which by the way can actually improve your chances of getting pregnant). Read the information on legitimate websites, such as WebMD or the CDC website instead of checking out websites that don’t have credible information.

It’s all about being safe, smart and well informed. While any type of sex – oral, vaginal or anal – puts you at risk for giving or contracting sexually transmitted diseases (protected or unprotected) you can significantly reduce your risk by practicing safer sex and using condoms and dental dams. Protect yourself – you’re worth it!

Master The Art Of Cunnilingus: Learn How To Eat A Girl Out

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When it comes to oral sex, women are lucky in the sense that all they need to do is brave the waters down there and they will be able to give men a mind-blowing orgasm through fellatio. No matter how they manipulate the penis – as long as the teeth are not involved – it will be an experience that is well worth it as far as men are concerned.

Men are not so lucky, however. The vagina is quite a complex territory so the art of cunnilingus is basically a different one to master. It’s not enough for you to be willing to go down on her – it involves a bit of tongue dexterity, finger manipulation and being sensitive to how she wants to be eaten.

Also, there are quite a number of spots that you have to master: the clitoris, the vaginal lips, the G-spot and her anal opening. But don’t worry – once you have learned how to give women the utmost sexual satisfaction through cunnilingus – you’ll be a master lover for life!

Eating a Girl Out 101: Start with the Basics

As mentioned earlier, there are a number of parts of the woman’s vagina that you need to be familiar with so that you would know what to do once she opens up her legs for you.

Remember that giving her head is something which she anticipates, loves and wants more than anything. For most women, oral stimulation before sex – or it being the main event – is the easiest way for them to reach a mind blowing orgasm.

So master your oral love skills by familiarizing yourself with those female parts first. Take a look at some of parts of the vagina that you can try to manipulate while you’re going down on her:

1. The Labia

‘Labia’ is the Latin term for lips. At the entrance of a woman’s vagina, there are two pairs of lips – the larger outside pair, and the smaller pair inside. Together, they add up to what is called the vulva or the external female genitalia.

2. The Clitoris

The sensations that a woman can feel from her clitoris is equivalent to just how sensitive the head of your penis is. The clit is that small protrusion above the opening of the vagina. And interestingly enough, it’s the only organ in the human body whose sole function is to provide sexual pleasure. How’s that for using the clit to eat a woman out?

3. The G-spot

Finally, there’s the oh-so-elusive G-spot which is the Holy Grail of all the female erogenous zones. You can either stimulate her G-spot using your fingers while you’re giving her some oral love – it’s that bean-shaped, rough-feeling tissue located behind the front wall of her vagina. Pointing towards the belly, it’s about a couple of inches inside her vaginal opening.

Provide The Finishing Touches: How To Keep A Woman Begging For More By Eating Her Out

Now that you’ve had a crash course on the female parts that you need to be familiar with, here’s a blow by blow account on how you can eat a girl out.

The number one rule that you need to remember is that you should not zero in on the clitoris immediately. You may not like the sound of it but in order to prepare a woman to take in some of your oral loving, there should be some – preferably a lot – of foreplay involved. Start by blowing gently into her ears and doing a lot of kissing, touching and petting. Pay particular attention to her breasts and her nipples just so that you can prepare her for the main event.

Now comes the good part. Using your tongue, make some sweeping motions on her labia – both the inner and outer lips of the vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the clitoris because this is a highly sensitive area. Play around her vagina using your mouth and tongue – be sensitive to her moans and responses so that you’ll know which move in particular has an earth-shattering effect.

Once you feel that she’s wet, spread out her vaginal lips and do a literal writing with your tongue – use the alphabet or the numbers and find out which one is a hit with her. While you’re at it, use your middle finger to stimulate her G-spot and once you hit it, go for the clitoris next.

Her hips should be digging into your face at this point, and this is the time when you can amp things up and go for the finale which is to lick the clitoris faster and faster while stimulating her G-spot at the same time. Once her vagina tightens up and suddenly goes lax – that’s when you know that you have succeeded in eating her out.

Oral Sex – Should It Hurt?

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Oral sex is one of the most pleasurable sex acts that couples can engage in and many people enjoy giving and receiving oral sex. It’s a great way to strengthen the bond between two individuals and keep your sex life satisfying, but sometimes it can hurt! Should oral sex hurt or is there really something wrong?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When wife gives me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than it feels good. Is there something wrong with me?

–Kevin, Michigan

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When Does It Hurt?

It’s important to find out when your genitals hurt or become uncomfortable. If your genitals hurt all the time, such as during oral sex, during urination and at other times, you might want to consider making an appointment with your doctor.

While oral sex can sometimes hurt if the person giving oral sex doesn’t have good technique, your genitals should not hurt or be uncomfortable at other times. It never hurts to get checked out – it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

Technique

Most likely, your partner’s technique is what is causing you discomfort. Both types of oral sex – fellatio and cunnilingus – can become uncomfortable and even painful if your partner doesn’t have good technique. Teeth can get in the way and even a tongue that moves too quickly or is rough can become uncomfortable.

Abrasive facial hair is a big issue for women receiving oral sex as it can often make the genitals raw and painful after an oral sex session. Often, both men and women have poor technique when it comes to oral sex. Men are often too rough with women during cunnilingus and many women suck too hard or squeeze too tight during fellatio.

If receiving oral sex from your partner is uncomfortable and painful at all, try to pinpoint exactly what they’re doing that is causing you discomfort. Is your partner pressing too hard with their teeth, or are their teeth scraping you too hard? Is your partner performing oral sex on you too fast or using their hands in a way that feels rough?

Talk To Each Other

When it comes to oral sex – or any kind of sex, for that matter – communication between the two partners is key. If something becomes uncomfortable or painful, it’s important to let your partner know in a completely non-critical way.

Let your partner know that a certain activity is uncomfortable, but also suggest something that you like instead. Giving your partner positive feedback during an oral sex session is one of the best ways to communicate to your partner what not to do, simply by letting them know what you do like.

If you like a certain maneuver or technique during oral sex, your partner will automatically want to use that technique to give you the maximum amount of pleasure. Just let your partner know what you like! If your partner is going something wrong, suggest ways that they can do it differently that would be more pleasurable for you or keep oral sex from being uncomfortable.

Back and forth communication is the best way to keep oral sex pleasurable instead of becoming uncomfortable or painful. Your partner will most likely appreciate positive input and your sexual relationship will become better and more fulfilling and satisfying.

The Truth About Giving Oral Sex

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Oral sex can be tough work! Trying to please your partner orally requires lots of stamina and skill.

It can also be very pleasurable to give your partner oral sex.  There’s nothing quite like giving your partner oral sex, but is it harder to give oral sex to one gender than another?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My girlfriend and I can’t come to an agreement – who works harder in bed? Is it easier for a woman to give oral sex to a man or for a man to give oral sex to a woman?

–Jeff, North Carolina

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If You Like It . . .

While it would be easier to say that it’s harder going down on one gender over another, the true answer to that question is a little more complicated than that and it has nothing to do with sex or gender.

If you really enjoy giving your partner oral sex, and a lot of people do, it’s actually going to be easier for you to give oral sex than it would be for someone who doesn’t enjoy it.

Whether you’re going down on a guy or a gal, if you really enjoy doing it, it doesn’t seem like work, does it?

To some people who don’t enjoy giving their partner oral sex, pleasing them orally might seem like a chore. For this type of person, giving their partner oral sex is actually more difficult than it is for someone who really likes to do it.

Warming Up The Oven

There is, however, a bit of truth to the argument that giving oral sex to a woman is harder than it is to give oral sex to a man. The theory is that many women require a great deal of foreplay and need to be “warmed up” before they become sexually aroused.

As a result, going down on a woman simply takes longer to bring her to climax than a man would need to reach climax through oral sex. This isn’t something that is set in stone though.

It truly varies from individual to individual. You might find that it doesn’t take long at all for some women to reach climax through oral sex, while it takes some men a reasonably long time to do the same.

Gender Doesn’t Matter

Whether you’re a girl going down on a guy, a guy going down on a girl or any combination of the above, it can be easy or difficult to perform oral sex on your partner depending on your personality and your own sexual preferences.

You might really like to perform oral sex on your partner or you may hate it.  How hard it is for you to do depends on your enthusiasm.

If you don’t like to give oral sex, you might find your preferences change after awhile, making it easier for you to pleasure your partner orally. Leave yourself open to the prospect of really growing to enjoy pleasing your partner through oral sex, even if it seems more like a chore now.

Then again, you may never learn to like it. Either way, talk to your partner about how you feel about oral sex. If you are really having a hard time finding it enjoyable to give your partner oral sex, talk to them and find out if there is another way you can give them pleasure that is more arousing for you.