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2 Steps To Prepare Her For An Orgasm

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An orgasm doesn’t just happen. But a lot of men think they do. So they sit and wait like a woman expecting the train to chug its way to the girl. But it doesn’t work that way. Orgasms don’t just happen and a woman has to work for climaxes – she is not a passive agent in this drama.

Up to this point, we spoke of an orgasm as if it’s something  men GIVE the ladies. But the truth is, men can only do so much, we can only give the stimulation, women have to give the O’s to themselves.

1. Help Her Relax

Free the mind and bring your girl to a place where she can enjoy the moment, loosen up, and let go of her worries. We didn’t go through all that trouble just so she can lie passively, stare blankly at the ceiling, and do nothing but wait for the climax.

Of course not! She has a part in this dance. We went through the trouble of relaxing the mind & body so she can actively FOCUS on the sexual sensations. It’s the girl’s job is to take all stimulation, heighten awareness, and use that to power the climaxes.

An orgasm is not a passive thing; she has to feel the intensifying sensations of an unfolding process. She has to close her eyes, stop worrying about bills or anything fishy, block everything else.

2. Switch To Sexual Rapture

She has to recognize your hand and attend its gig on her vulva. She has to feel your fingers inside her, threatening to enflame her G -spot. She has to follow your tongue as it scintillates her clitoris. She has to feel every thrust and be enveloped with your blissful moves.

But as she’s doing these, she shouldn’t drive for an orgasm, but simply ride the journey to it. If she gets worried with cumming, she’ll merely undo everything in Step 1. Here, she’s not pressuring herself, she’s just enjoying the process, being in the moment. She’s not thinking about the big O, but reveling in the ecstasy you bring each other. She’s just playing around.

And then,  just when she’s not expecting it, at a point when she’s just messing around, at a moment when she’s lost all track of time… she begins that familiar writhing. It’s those unmistakable contractions. They’re starting to come in. She moans. Her body thrashes and her head swings side-to-side. Ding. ding. ding!

That’s the two-step process of sidestepping the paradox. First, clear her head. Second, fill it with erotic bliss.

The Female Orgasm Explained – MASTER The Female Climax TONIGHT!

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A female orgasm was considered to be a myth for a long time. With nothing but personal accounts to go by, it was hard for male scientists to accept that there was a function and reason behind the elusive experience. Now scientists of both genders think they understand some of the purpose and evolutionary benefit of female orgasm.

We now know that the muscular “flutter” that occurs during female orgasm helps to encourage fertility. The strong muscle contractions in the pelvis, vagina and uterus occur rapidly at less than one second apart, allowing the cervix to open up for incoming sperm.

The consequence of this is biologically significant and a verifiable physiological phenomena; couples who are able to have orgasms during penetrative sex are more likely to conceive. A recent study found that when a woman reaches climax anytime from one minute before and 45 minutes after her partner’s ejaculation takes up significantly more sperm than during sex when she does not orgasm.

Even more surprising, a woman has an orgasm before their lover by any more than one minute retains as little sperm as those who don’t orgasm at all, making it necessary for her to either orgasm during PIV sex, or find a partner who will continue to stimulate her after he has reached his own orgasm.

Rising Desire

Orgasm is a three-step process, the culmination of a lengthy build up beginning with psychological desire, climbing through the various plateaus physiological arousal and peaking in the spasmodic release of orgasm. There are some times in a woman’s monthly cycle when she may be naturally aroused both psychologically and physiologically, depending on the libido type, but these days are few and far between. The rest of the time, you’re going to need to know how to really touch the girl, inside and out, to get things moving in the right direction.

Building Arousal

The signs of physiological arousal are obvious, if you know what you are looking for and are paying attention. Increased blood
flow to the genitals caused by hot thoughts or stimulation results in swelling of the labia, clitoris and vagina. Increased lubrication helps make the peak experience of orgasm possible, opening a woman up for more intense activity.

This is prime time for using your ten best assets – your fingers! With such an incredible range of movement, those miraculous movers are exactly what you need to keep your woman going even when you can’t. And hey, your grand kids will secretly thank you for your Don Juan progeny.

If you go ahead and plunge into intercourse before she is fully aroused and open, you aren’t just depriving your girl of the pleasure of your hands, but actually decreasing the chances of being able to give her an orgasm with you inside! By “saving your energy” for the act of coitus itself, you are in fact ensuring that it doesn’t function properly.

Orgasmic Release

Orgasm is an extreme sensual experience. The heart races, breath quickens, pupils dilate, skin flushes, lips and breasts swell with anticipation of the pelvic floor muscles contracting and sending out a ripple-effect that emanates through the rest of the body.

Each woman experiences this process differently, and for most women, every orgasm is unique. Some may be the powerful, earth-shattering things we see in pornography or on television, but others are simpler, quieter and cascade like gentle waves along the body instead of a raging tsunami thrashing with ecstatic energy.

They can be silent or deafening, or even both at the same time. In her own medical practice, author Rachel Carleton Abrams M.D. explains that many women who come for help to reach orgasm are in fact already experiencing them regularly while having  sex, albeit mildly.

They just didn’t realize it, after the false expectations set by porn and Hollywood’s over-the-top acting led them to believe that what they were feeling somehow wasn’t orgasmic enough.

Learning to experience several different kinds of orgasms by experimenting with stimulation involving a variety of techniques aimed at eliciting different but complimentary reactions is the best way to help a woman discover her orgasmic range, her preferences and desires, her favorite moves and, most importantly, the best combinations to ensure that sex satisfies both of your needs and desires every single time!

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide Review

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The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide teaches you how to stimulate the prostate and turn a regular orgasm into a WOW orgasm!

While it’s pretty simple for most men to have an orgasm during sex, it’s just a regular ol’ orgasm unless the prostate gland is stimulated. That’s right – the prostate gland is like a woman’s g-spot, but for a guy. While the route to get there isn’t exactly favored by a lot of guys (sticking something up your anus may not be your idea of a good time) but the results are out of this world!

The Good

If you’re looking for a guide on everything there is to know about the male prostate (including some information that you would probably consider TMI), the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is an excellent choice. There’s definitely no shortage of topics covered here, and no stone is left unturned when it comes to a man’s prostate gland. Whether it’s a discussion about reducing the risk of prostate cancer, how to get clean before and after a prostate massage and specific techniques to use, this book covers it all.

Although there are some spelling and grammatical errors that will leave you re-reading a sentence a few times to get the meaning of it, the author’s conversational tone is a welcome change from the usual dry, statistical feel of many of the other prostate massage guides out there. You’ll enjoy reading about prostate massage from a guy’s perspective – it’s almost like the author is talking to you one on one.

The Bad

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide isn’t for every man. For example, although the book does cover how to get over the squeamishness that many men have about anything touching or going in their butts, if you’re really really against the idea, this guide isn’t going to help all that much.

On a technical note, there are some spelling errors in the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide, and there is a definite lack of visual engagement here. While the all text format may not be an issue for women, men learn best (and are intrigued more by) visual stimuli. Men who don’t enjoy reading are going to get bored about halfway through the book, if not earlier. On the plus side, there are decent headlines, so it’s not that difficult to skip around and find what you want, or reference back to a section after you’ve already read the whole thing.

The author doesn’t give much information about how to use condoms to keep anal sex toys clean, although he does suggest using a latex glove when using your fingers. (Neoprene or any non-latex glove can be used for guys that have a latex allergy, although the author does not suggest this). Other bits of missing information or sections that could be elaborated on more are what types of lube to use (everyone has heard of KY Jelly and in all honesty, there are much higher quality anal lubes out on the market today) and exactly how to clean your anal sex toys.

The Bottom Line

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is a must for any man who is interested in exploring his body to the fullest during sex and receiving the most intense pleasure possible. While there are a few things that this guide could have done better (more pictures, please!), the value of the information contained within should not be underestimated. If it is difficult for you to read a huge chunk of text in one sitting, commit yourself to reading just a few sections at a time. It’s a lot to take in, so don’t expect to be able to catapult yourself to prostate heaven within ten minutes of reading the guide. However, with careful exploration of all the techniques in the book, you’ll be able to experience what men who have tried prostate massage call the “holy grail” of sex. It’s well worth the read!

The Full Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide Review

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide teaches you how to access your own pleasure button (and how to show your partner how to access it) so you can take your orgasms from ho-hum to “WOW!” Once you learn the right tips and techniques, you’ll be able to experience the most intense pleasure you’ve ever experienced during masturbation or sex with your lover.

Prostate massage can give men the most intense experience they’ve ever had during masturbation or sex, even more than the best handjob or blowjob they’ve ever gotten!

Here’s What You’ll Learn In The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide:

  • What the prostate gland is and how to find it
  • Why massaging your prostate can improve your health and reduce your risk of cancer (by 30%!!)
  • How to get ready for prostate massage (cleanliness is a must!)
  • How to get over being squeamish about something in your butt
  • How to do it yourself during masturbation
  • Breathing techniques to help you relax your anus
  • Step by step instructions on how to massage the prostate
  • How to teach your partner to do it on you
  • Different types of male orgasms (yes, you can have different types too, it’s not just for the ladies!)
  • Anal sex toys to use during masturbation and sex to massage your prostate for you
  • And much, much more!

As you can see, there is truly an abundance of information here about all things prostate – so if that’s what you’re looking for, the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is pretty much everything you need. There are few guides out there that cover this topic in such detail.

The headlines and clear table of contents make it easy to skip around if you want to or quickly reference back to something you’ve already read. However, skipping around isn’t recommended. Although reading through the medical facts and statistics about the prostate may seem boring, it’s really for your own good. You don’t want to go sticking anything up your butt until you’re fully educated and fully informed. Skip around at your own risk!

In addition to the plethora of information found in the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide, it’s actually good information – not a whole lot of fluff to speak of. The author cautions against using sex toys in the bum that don’t have a flared base, because yes, they can get lost up there – buying you an embarrassing trip to the emergency room. The author also discusses using plenty of lubrication (you absolutely CANNOT massage the prostate with ANYTHING – finger or toy – without lube) and notes that anal sex toys must be kept very, very clean to limit the spread of bacteria.

Overall, the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is an all-in-one book that covers pretty much everything you would ever want to know about prostate massage from how to do it to how to teach your partner how to do it. While some sex tips guides may have small sections on prostate massage, if you’re looking to get into it (or even get better at doing it), THIS is the guide you want to get.

How To Master The ULTIMATE Orgasm!

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An orgasm gives some men the impression that the women should be responsible for stimulating themselves. This has always seemed a bit unfair to me, since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. So shouldn’t he do the same to give her an orgasm? However, when handled appropriately, having a woman stimulate herself can be a pleasurable experience for both her and her partner.

Be A Multi-Tasker

Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris by pressing his pubic bone against, also called “grinding.” This is a great method for the woman to reach orgasm.

If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option. Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to taking turns, meaning one partner will climax first, then the other. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility, but for couples that enjoy climaxing together, this may not be a satisfactory option.

Experiment With Her Orgasm

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships, which may have become routine and boring over time.

The main benefit of experimenting is that you’ll learn just what makes your woman tick—sexually speaking, of course. While some women prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have learned how to have an orgasm through masturbation will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

Know Her Orgasm

As I mentioned above, the clitoris fills up with blood and becomes erect like a penis. This means it’s much more noticeable when a woman is aroused. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect for sexual intercourse to occur, clitoral orgasms will only happen if the woman is properly aroused.

That means some type of foreplay is generally a requirement. With continuous stimulation of the clitoris, it becomes more engorged with blood and this further heightens its sensitivity. As stimulation continues, a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released—the point in which an orgasm is experienced.

Everything You NEED To Know About The Clitoris

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A female orgasm is a mystifying even to a lot of men. By far the most common way for a woman to achieve an orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. To understand why, you must first understand the clitoris.

Just WHAT Is It?

The clitoris is located just above the entrance to the vagina and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh that contains a high concentration of nerve endings.

A clitoral hood often covers it. Many men and women mistake the hood for the clitoris itself. But what most people don’t know is that only a small portion of this is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.

Why Is It So Darn Important?

Two things are particularly interesting about this sex organ. First, all female mammals have one. This is interesting because according to biologist, the sole purpose of this organ is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren’t the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels. And if you’ve ever seen two animals mate, you might agree.

Second, it is made from the same material as the the male genitals. In fact, in men this organ becomes a fullfledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the male organ, the female organ fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin.

It’s The Same As A Penis…Say What?

The only real difference between the two —besides location in the body—seems to be that the males use their organ for urination, while the clitoris is not. With that said, it is important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen.

Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse can stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris, as well, and this can also lead to an orgasm. What many people don’t realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually can’t stimulate it. This is due its position within the woman’s body. This makes it extremely difficult for the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.