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Unlock This Secret To Giving Women Powerful, Earth-Shaking Orgasms!

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A female orgasm can be a bit of a mystery to most guys. Picture this. You are making love with your beloved girlfriend or wife. She appears to be enjoying the moment. Just as you think she’s about to reach the big orgasm, she pulls away and asks you to stop, saying that it is too intense for her. Well, for a guy who prides himself as being a great lover, this can be one of the most frustrating things that could happen during sex. Does this sound familiar? Fret not!

The Truth About A Female Orgasm

Guess what? Statistics have shown that one in seven women never had the good fortune of experiencing an orgasm during sex. The fact that your girl even comes close to one, means that you can actually bring her over the edge, if you know this simple binding principle in any sexual relationship – trust. This means she trusts both herself and you.

Achieving an orgasm while having sex can be fulfilling, but it can also be a scary experience for any woman. Sounds strange? It is but this is a very real fear in a woman. The intensity of the sensations that she is about to experience can make any woman “chicken out” at the last moment. It is like pulling out at the last moment when you are just about to do a bungee jump.

The Element Of Trust Is What’s Going To Push Her Over The Edge

You cannot just rely or learn a new technique to get her to orgasm. You have to let her trust you enough to make her totally surrender and release all her hang ups and inhibitions, before she is ready to let herself go.

So how do you give her that element of trust? Simple. Give her the confidence that you know what you are doing, and that you are doing all you can to give her the most powerful sexual experience any woman could have. Ask her to close her eyes, lean back and relax. Continue talking to her during lovemaking, even in the throes of passion so that she knows you have her emotional well-being at heart.

Once she knows there is NO judgment on her and that you are giving her the emotional space to go crazy and let it all out, she will be ready to take the plunge with full gratitude! This is the key to giving her a powerful female orgasm on the spot that will rock her world!

Clitoris 101 – What It Is, Why You Need To Touch It & How To Do It!

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The clitoris. This is the GRAND MOMMY of them all, the main moan zone. If you want to score, and score big, this is where you go.

Women have penises too, we call theirs the clitoris. It’s a small bump or button a few inches above the vaginal opening. And if you examine it very closely, you’ll see that it does look like a very small penis. And true to that nature, it can engorge with blood and go erect. It also has a tiny shaft which feels like a thin bony cord.

Why The Clitoris Exists

The clitoris exists for one good reason – to give PLEASURE. Although size doesn’t give it justice, which is why some guys have a hard time finding it, its role is nothing to sneeze at. The concentration of nerve endings at the pleasure bud is tremendous, to say the least. Easily by the thousands, it is one of the most heavily innervated part of a woman. It packs in one very tiny area nerves similar in number to that of the penis!

Why are nerves important, you ask?

Because they connect to the brain. Stimulating the clitoris sends bliss impulses that rock her brain silly. The CAVEAT, however, is that the same nerves that make it sensitive to pleasure, also make it sensitive to pain. So you gotta take it easy.

How Big Is It?

4 inches!

Not many people know this, but the clit is more than just a button or a bump, much of it is not visually accessible. What people refer to as the “clit” is just the head of the clitoris – like the head of your penis. When we say that it looks like a knob, this is what we’re talking about. Unseen is the organ branching into 2 forks, extending down and passing along the vaginal opening and terminating near the anus.

Inside, a woman’s clitoral system really looks like a thick wishbone. But for our purposes here, we will talk about what you see the outside.

How Do You Find It?

Your landmark will be the inner-smaller lips, or labia. The inner lips are very easy to spot, they look like petals or misshapen tongues and are usually darker than the rest of the vulva. Do an upward trace of the lips. You will notice that both left and right lips converge at the top. The clitoris sits on top where both lips converge.

The clitoris is sheathed inside a hood of skin, similar to the foreskin your doctor may have removed when you were circumcised. Sometimes, you really have to push back the blanketing hood to unveil the knob. Be wary of doing this though, because if she’s not sufficiently aroused, this can hurt!

At times, when she’s really hot, the knob will retract under the hood and won’t be visually accessible. This isn’t bad news – it does this on its own when she’s excited and nearing orgasm.

Why Is The Clitoris Important?

ORGASMS. Ring any bells? Any bells at all?

Orgasms are a woman’s best friend as they are these waves of contractions that bring intense pleasure. They are 21 birthdays, Graduation, Wedding & Driver’s License rolled into one – fleeting slices of heaven that transform even the most prim & proper of ladies into cussing savages.

The clitoris is the main organ that serves her these orgasms, it’s little wonder why millions of research dollars and entire lives have been spent studying it. Compared to the g spot, for example, the clit is the more consistent server of climax. In fact, many women orgasm only via clitoral stimulation. You can thrust like hell for hours, use all types of lube, but as long as the clitoris isn’t in on the action, a woman won’t budge.

Before you get flushed with excitement and channel all sexual energy on her pleasure bud, consider this – the clit may look like a button, but it doesn’t function like one. Do not make the mistake of immediately feeling for it and expect a girl to shoot up the horny-meter. Not so.

Use Indirect Stimulation

How is indirect stimulation possible?

Reviewing how the vulva is configured, you’ll see that the clitoris sits on top of the inner labia. During intercourse, a thrusting penis tugs on these lips – which consequently tugs on the clitoris. In short, intercourse stimulates the clitoris indirectly.

The problem for women is that this indirect stimulation is grossly insufficient to result in climax. Although there are women who cum by penetration alone, most women don’t. Your penis just going in and out of her vagina just won’t do the job. You have to give direct clitoral stimulation while thrusting.

How do you do this?

Do THE GRIND.

The key here is pelvic & hip movement that provides both pressure and friction. Not the inside friction between penis and vaginal walls, but the friction caused by pressing and rubbing your pubic bone on her clitoris.

Because of the clit’s location, forward-backward thrusting won’t avail much, but by sensually grinding your bush area, you let the pleasure bud in on the action. Actually, your pubic bone has a better chance of delivering her orgasms than your jimmy, it can give DIRECT clitoral provocation.

So when you penetrate, don’t pull-out immediately, keep your member inside. In this position, you can directly stimulate her clit by rubbing your pube against it. Grind in circular and “8” motions. (Be sensitive when she guides you by placing her hands on your buttocks, or when she synchronizes with your movements.)

The grind creates a huge, HUGE difference in your woman’s orgasm potential. It’s more effective than bouncy moves because it stimulates the same area women excite during masturbation!

How To Give A Woman An Orgasm In Seconds!

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The female orgasm is known for being super elusive, but no more! Here’s the best way to give your girl an orgasm in just seconds.

That sounds like a pretty bold statement to make – but that is exactly what can happen when you learn and apply what is in this article. Many men want to improve their sexual stamina and last longer during sex, thinking this is the only way to give their women an orgasm.

Why Lasting Longer Is Not The Key

Let me explain.

There are many powerful techniques for helping men last longer in bed, for example, by strengthening the pelvic muscles; or even through the use of delay sprays and lotions.

But these methods are simply masking the symptoms of the problem and not addressing the root causes.

Almost all cases related to maintaining a hard erection and lasting longer boils down to one thing – you are too unsure or too nervous in the bedroom.

Gaining sexual confidence is the only genuine way to completely obliterate any performance anxiety in the bedroom and lasting as long as you want. The problem with having great sex is that the issue is NOT about lasting longer.

Mastering Her Sexual Response

It really is about how to completely master your partner’s sexual response and gain her trust in bed. Most women view sex NOT as a means to an end, but as a titillating journey to the end itself. They cherish how they are brought to an orgasm, and not just about the orgasm itself.

The ability to last longer is an integral part of great lovemaking, but many guys make it to be more important than it really is. Here’s the simple truth – if you can last more than 10 minutes of thrusting, you already have all it takes to be a phenomenal lover. Most women don’t need that kind of continuous penetration, simply because they tend to dry out from that constant thrusting before it starts to hurt.

The way to a woman’s orgasm is not in penetrative sex. It lies in what you do BEFORE you make love to her! Many studies have shown that more women get an orgasm from oral sex and foreplay than from intercourse! This means you should really pay attention to the techniques to get her sexually-charged before intercourse.

This will increase your sexual “competence”. And when you achieve that kind of mastery, the confidence you get will obliterate the problem of not lasting long enough!

When you understand this powerful stuff, it is entirely possible to give your woman an orgasm within seconds, without the need to last very long!

Mastering Her G Spot Review

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Mastering Her G Spot is yet another guide claiming to teach men the secrets of giving women incredible, earth shattering g spot orgasms. However, the one difference between this book and all the others is that this one actually teaches you those secrets! Amazingly well done, visually intriguing and packed with information, Mastering Her G Spot rises far above the rest in quality and quantity.

The Good

Like all of Gabrielle Moore’s guides, there is no shortage of information here! Mastering Her G Spot is laid out in an exceptionally organized format, is very visually intriguing and is easy to skim. You can simply scroll to the section you’re looking for, or read through the whole book (but probably not in one sitting!) Gabrielle covers pretty much everything there is to know about the g spot here, and you’re not left for wanting much when the book is through. The information is presented in a well formatted, easy to digest manner, making it easy for anyone to benefit from.

The Bad

There’s not much bad to point out with Mastering Her G Spot, because the book is so well put together and thorough. If you’re looking for a short, concise tips guide, then you might be disappointed at the volume of this one, but you’re more likely to be happy that you got what you paid for – and much, much more!

The Bottom Line

Mastering Her G Spot is one of the better done g spot guides out there. It’s perfectly put together and easy to read, so you can get every tidbit of information without having to work too hard for it. With both beginner’s and advanced tips, sex positions, foreplay techniques and how to use sex toys (all of which are specifically related to inducing g spot pleasure), anyone who is looking to either learn the basics to help them get started or brush up on already learned skills will truly enjoy this guide. This is one of the books you keep on hand to reference back to again and again!

The Full Mastering Her G Spot Review

The g spot is an elusive area of spongy tissue inside a woman’s vagina that when stimulated, is said to give a woman intense (and sometimes even squirting!) orgasms. The problem is, a lot of men can’t seem to find this little guy and therefore their partners often end up going without the incredible pleasure they know they can have (and have had before).

Many guides on how to find the g spot and what to do with it when you do are lacking in many areas. Mastering Her G Spot, however, is lacking in none. From the well written introduction that eases you into g spot theories and techniques to the actual red hot, play by play techniques, you’ll learn everything you could possibly want to know about the g spot and in all honesty, probably more. The abundance of information here is almost unreal, especially considering that lots of scientists nowadays are suggesting that the g spot doesn’t even exist. Gabrielle Moore is here to prove them wrong!

While many people may underestimate the need for good formatting and enticing pictures in a sex tips guide, they are actually exceptionally important aspects of a good book – or else no one is going to get through it! A reader (especially if he is male) must feel visually, emotionally and mentally intrigued if they’re ever going to get past the first few pages. No worry about that with Mastering Her G Spot – there is plenty of eye candy, bold headlines and easy to read “blurbs” to keep your eyes and brain busy while you learn.

Fortunately, this is also one of the few guides that doesn’t beat you over the head with female anatomy. Learning where the g spot is may be one of the times where visualizing a woman’s anatomy is exceptionally important, however, the few diagrams are very unique and well done, and they show you exactly where to go.

Another awesome aspect to Mastering Her G Spot is that the information is not only going to help you discover your partner’s secret orgasm zone, it’s also going to help you understand your relationship better. (Guys who just want to learn how to access the g spot so they can bang a bunch of women are going to find all the relationship stuff tiring, but oh well! The far majority of men who use this book are going to benefit in multitudes from it). After reading, you will understand more about your partner, her sexual arousal, her body, your body and your intimacy with each other than you ever thought possible. Although Mastering Her G Spot focuses specifically on g spot pleasure, this guide is absolutely going to improve your sex life overall!

As you continue to read through the chapters of Mastering Her G Spot, it becomes clearer and clearer that Gabrielle Moore really did her homework for this one. Between elaborating on her personal experiences, discussing surprising statistics, and presenting information gleaned from her thousands of subscribers, you can tell she really knows what she’s talking about.

And who wants to read a sex tips book from someone who doesn’t have a clue?

Simultaneous Orgasm Vs. Taking Turns – The Winner Will Surprise You!

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Simultaneous orgasm has long been touted as the be all and end all of great sex. But can you have incredible sex without a simultaneous orgasm?

A destructive myth running rampant among couples today is the belief that: Great sex has to be characterized by simultaneous gratification.

A lofty standard, don’t you think?

The pursuit of simultaneous orgasms, as one consequence of this mindset, has partners on the ever frustrating hunt for this phenomenon. But no matter what they say, synchronized orgasms are rare, and only a few couples ever achieve them on a consistent basis.

How This Myth Can Ruin Your Sex Life

This can create a stigma for the partner who climaxes first – whether it’s the man or woman – especially when they think that if sex is a race, and orgasm, the finish line, the ideal is for both partners to finish together. After all, they started at the same time, right? So they should climax as a couple!

However, the physical and psychological differences between men and women make this rarely achievable. Men are aroused faster than a speeding bullet, women are not so. Penetration has more orgasm potential for men than women – who have their clitorises only indirectly stimulated by the invading penis. This usually leads to the man peaking first. And if ‘great sex’ for you means simultaneous climaxes, then you’re going to have some problems.

Sexual syncronicity doesn’t necessarily mean the couple orgasming exactly at the same moment. Climaxing together may be highly sought after, but the practical and more realistic way of doing things is to take turns!

Why It’s Better When You Take Turns

Sexual pleasure needn’t be concurrent for partners, a give & take view is much better — with a time for giving and a time to be on the receiving end.

Yes, both pleasures may coincide and there are lots of instances when this happens. Kissing and hugging are examples. Enjoy them, but don’t make them the standard. Pleasure doesn’t have to happen simultaneously; sometimes it’s even better that way.

Take the ‘69’ position for example. Though erotic, it’s frankly not so effective because so much is going on at once. Your brain has to decide if it’s going to focus on the pleasure received, or the pleasure given.

TAKE TURNS. When you both try to lead and put on a show, sex will feel like Greco-Roman wrestling. Sex is EQUAL & MUTUAL, but not necessarily simultaneous. There will surely be moments when you do most of the work and she’ll just lie there, with eyes closed, enjoying you. Other times, you’ll be still and she’ll be riding you like a veteran cowgirl.

Switching off gives both the chance to completely focus on what’s happening. When she’s receiving, she can just relax as your tongue explores her innermost sanctum. She doesn’t have to do anything while you’re at it. Although you’re getting satisfaction by seeing her enjoyment, your role is primarily that of a giver. And when it’s her turn, she can focus on what she wants to do, instead of giggling or writhing about as a result of your maneuvers.