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How To Give Her An Emotionally Supercharged Orgasm

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An orgasm can be absolutely amazing or it can be a huge letdown – and it can also be anywhere in between, from mediocre to almost great. For women, an orgasm becomes incredible when she feels strong emotions during sex and climax – even more so than using the best techniques. For a woman, the ultimate orgasm comes from feeling amazing both physically and emotionally. Here’s how you can give your lover a wall-shaking orgasm, leaving your lover completely blissed out and feeling great inside and out.

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Feeling Strong Emotions During Sex Can Make It More Intense

Of course, women respond much better than men to emotional stimuli, but experiencing strong feelings during sex can make it great for both you and your partner.

Why It’s Great For Her

Women are emotional creatures, to put it simply. They attach emotion to everything, whether positive or negative. When they remember things, they remember more about how they felt about what happened rather than remembering exactly what happened in a play-by-play. Women will also react differently to things based on how they feel – whether they’re happy, angry, upset, sad or frustrated.

Use this to your advantage by manipulating your lover’s emotions during sex and getting your woman to experience everything you’re doing while she’s feeling loved, cherished and emotionally close to you.

Why It’s Great For You

While guys get a bad rap for only caring about the physical aspect of sex, experiencing strong feelings during sex can make it better for a man too. Since guys can pretty much tune into sex and oral sex at the drop of a hat, it’s easier to play into a man’s emotions during sex than any other time because his guard is down.

For a man, feeling emotionally close to their partner during sex can give them the confidence they need to really let go and get into it, as well as have an incentive to give their partners pleasure. A man that doesn’t feel emotionally close to his partner during sex isn’t going to care as much about making your girl feel good too – and she won’t return the favor. A woman who feels safe and loved during sex is going to want to give her partner a blowjob or do other things to make him feel extra special physically.

How To Use “I Love You” To Make Her Orgasm Amazing

A woman wants to feel loved and cherished by her man – period. She wants to feel safe with him and that he cares very much about what she thinks and how she’s feeling. You can make your lover feel this way during sex – right before orgasm – by asking your partner to say “I love you” right before she’s about to climax. Then, have your partner say it over and over again until she’s lost herself in the throes of a sheet soaking orgasm.

If the phrase “I love you” doesn’t work for your girl, you can also ask her to use other phrases such as “I want you” or “I need you” over and over again as she’s reaching climax.

Make Her Feel Blissed Out Afterwards

This is really a two part sex technique, because you’re not going to stop after just getting your woman to say “I love you” (or whatever other phrase you have chosen) while she’s having an orgasm. You’re also going to follow up with a super sweet, soft kiss after she’s finished, and you’re going to tell your partner that you love her while looking deeply into your lover’s eyes. Bonus points if you cuddle with your lover for a few minutes afterward.

To break it down, what you’ve done when asking your partner to tell you that she loves you over and over while she’s having an orgasm, you have made your lover realize how much she really does love you at the moment that she’s experiencing a physical release. This will make your girl feel more emotionally close to you than she ever has before.

When you follow it up with a sweet, soft kiss and an “I love you” of your own, you’re making your partner feel loved and safe – all while she’s experiencing all of these other positive, wonderful emotions and at the same time, while she’s feeling all of the amazing physical sensations of orgasm.

This is an incredibly powerful way to bond with your partner both sexually and emotionally. When done correctly, this technique will make you and your partner feel closer than ever.

Using This Technique During Oral Sex

You can also use this technique during cunnilingus to make your woman feel even more special – since you’re only giving her physical pleasure and getting none yourself.

What makes using this technique during oral sex so powerful is because you’re focused completely on your partner and her pleasure. Then, after she’s had an orgasm, you’re going to do the same thing – give your lover a soft, sweet kiss and tell her you love her while looking deeply into her eyes. She will feel absolutely incredible and so in-tune with you that she’ll want to immediately return the favor.

Give Her A Squirting Orgasm In 60 Seconds – 4 Tips For A Lightning Fast Orgasm!

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A squirting orgasm is like the holy grail of all female orgasms. It doesn’t have to take forever to learn how to give her an amazing orgasm (and get her squirting too) – here are four great suggestions to give her an orgasm – quickly!

There are certain things you can do to make sure she starts squirting when having sex with you. Men who are able to give their women squirting orgasms hold a very special place in their partners’ heart. This is because it takes special skills and strategies to tug at both the emotional and sexual hot buttons within a woman so that she completely releases her inhibitions to enjoy the “gushing” experience.

If you want to get your wife or girlfriend squirting, keep reading for these four tips that will get her emotionally and physically aroused enough to enjoy a incredible squirting orgasm.

Get Her Into A Sexual Landscape

Simply put, find out what she likes in between the sheets! If you know where and how she likes to be touched, don’t you think that will greatly amplify her sexual anticipation? You bet she would! All you need to do is ASK and OBSERVE. Sounds easy enough, but unfortunately many men fail to do these two simple things.

Pay close attention to her sexual needs. Learn where her hot buttons are, and stimulate her tenderly at those areas… using the manner she would caress herself when she’s masturbating alone. Believe me, this will set her up for some very intense orgasms QUICKLY when the real action begins.

Indulge Her Fantasies

Any man can fulfill the sexual desires of a woman if he starts by knowing what type of men she fantasizes about. Most women fantasize about men who are in positions of power. If you have always been hesitant in the bedroom, now is the time to be strong and assertive. While some women have sex fantasies about cowboys, pirates or sheiks, all of them usually are the same type of man – one who is in control.

The “Dynamic Duo”

It is no secret that a woman’s clitoris is the key female orgasm center. And that is why most guys head straight for the clitoris in their attempts to get their partners to reach an orgasm. But here’s a powerful trick to double her pleasure, and massively reduce the amount of time she takes to climax: touch, caress, tease and stimulate another part on her body.

Once you learn where her sensual hot spots are (hint: her ears, back of her neck, her inner thighs), gently arouse her at one of these areas while you simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.

Use this technique with caution though: Her sexual arousal will escalate rapidly and you won’t be able to turn her off for a while, even if you wanted too!

The Clitoral/G-Spot Orgasm Combo

Learn how she responds and what makes her have an orgasm. Locate her clitoris and rub it in the way that she likes. You can tell this from her reactions. Put her hand over yours and get her to show you just how to do it – you cannot go wrong with this move. Once she is sufficiently lubricated, insert your index or middle finger to locate and stimulate her G-spot (which is usually within 2 to 3 inches inside the front wall of the vagina).

Proper stimulation to these two extremely sensitive areas can bring her to very powerful squirting orgasms that will have her panting for more!

Ladies: How To Orgasm With Him On Top

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Most women can only reach orgasm during sex with their partners if they’re on top. This is mainly because in the woman-on-top sex position, the woman has control over the speed of thrusting as well as the depth and angle of his penis in her vagina. However, lots of guys like to be on top because it feels great for them, but does that mean you should miss out on your orgasm!? No way! Here’s how you can reach orgasm with him on top, every time!

Don’t Ignore The Power Of Foreplay

Foreplay is a very important part of sex, because very few women can reach orgasm from having sex only with no time to get warmed up first. Give your partner oral sex and let him return the favor, or let him finger you and touch your clitoris while you kiss him deeply. Without enough time to get warmed up and turned on, it’s unlikely that you’ll have an orgasm at all, no matter who is on top!

Foreplay will also help you feel more connected to your partner emotionally, and that type of intimacy is necessary for a woman to even feel turned on and to be orgasmic. Without feeling emotionally intimate with your partner, it’s going to be much, much harder to be in an orgasmic state of mind!

Masturbate

Masturbation is essential for a woman to learn how to have an orgasm. Through masturbation, a woman learns what feels best, how she likes to be touched and what doesn’t feel good. It’s kind of like learning the map to orgasm – and if you can’t bring yourself to orgasm by masturbating, how are you going to show your guy the way there?

When masturbating, don’t be afraid to take it slow and really find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Don’t make it a rush job – lock your doors and set aside some time to be with yourself when no one will bother you. Once you really learn what you like and how your body responds to pleasure, you’ll become much more orgasmic in any sex position, including him on top.

Use The Coital Alignment Technique

The Coital Alignment Technique (also called CAT) is when both partners are in the missionary position with him on top, but he aligns himself in a way that allows his chest to be closer to your shoulders rather than directly on top of you and face to face. This amazing sex technique angles his penis differently to allow for more g-spot stimulation, and it also allows for more clitoral stimulation.

Next time you and your partner are having sex with him on top, have him scoot up a bit to where he’s just a little bit above you, where his lips meet your forehead and his chest and hands are closer to your shoulders. When thrusting, instead of thrusting straight in or downward, he will thrust upwards as though he is “pointing” towards your head and shoulders. This will create more friction during sex, which is needed for both clitoral and g-spot orgasms.

Bring On The Sex Toys

Even with masturbation, foreplay and the Coital Alignment Technique, it can still be very difficult for a woman to reach orgasm with her partner on top of her during sex. If you’ve tried everything but still can’t have an orgasm in the missionary position, don’t be afraid to use sex toys to get the job done.

Try putting a dab of lube on your finger and touching your clitoris while he thrusts in and out. He’ll really enjoy watching you pleasure yourself, and you’ll enjoy the fact that you can actually give yourself an orgasm while he’s on top instead of simply going without.

If you’re not able to stimulate yourself manually enough to reach orgasm, bust out your vibrator and slip it in between you and your partner for a little stronger clitoral stimulation. This will help you reach orgasm quickly and easily, and the vibrations may make your partner feel great too!

Best Sex Toys For The Job

If you’re going to use a sex toy to reach orgasm in the missionary position, you don’t want a huge dildo shaped vibrator because it just won’t fit right. Try a slender vibrator or a bullet vibe. These are smaller and will more easily fit between you and your lover. If you want to do it hands free, try using a strap on style bullet vibrator that simply sits over the clitoris.

How To Find The G-Spot And Techniques To Drive Your Partner Wild

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G-spot orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of all the female orgasms, although women are capable of having clitoral orgasms as well. But finding the G-spot and knowing how to pleasure it is the hard part! Here’s an A-to-Z on everything you need to know about the G-spot!

How To Find The G-Spot

First of all, the G-spot is actually a zone, rather than an actual ‘spot.’ The G-spot is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) You’ll know when you’ve found it because it feels like a ribbed bump, like the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth.

Stimulating The G-Spot

While most men would love to satisfy their ladies with penetration, it’s not always the best idea. Why? Because it depends on factors like the position, her level of arousal, and penis and vaginal shape and size. In short: using fingers is the easiest way to reach orgasm with the most chance of success.

Warming Her Up First

In most cases, women need to have their clitoris stimulated before stimulating the G-spot. But once it’s fully stimulated, the clitoris is often too sensitive for direct contact. Ask your lady. Otherwise, the G-spot may feel dry and uncomfortable. After this point, you can move onto the G-spot.

The Best Sex Position To Use

To really stimulate the G-spot, you’ll need to be in sex positions that give you great easy access to work your magic. Here are two suggestions:

  • Your lady lies on her back while you lie next to her, using your stronger arm.
  • She sits in doggie-style position, while you sit and pleasure her from behind. Actually, if you want even more passion and excitement, try changing from one position to another over the course of your stimulation.

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

The motion you want to use is the “come over here” gesture, using your fingers. Keep in mind that the G-spot is different from the clitoris, which means, in most cases, you’ll stroke it slightly harder than the clitoris. Start by massaging it lightly and work your way up to a point she finds incredibly satisfying.

How To Tell If She’s Enjoying It

First of all, remember that the best feeling will vary for every woman. Alternate between two very slight movements or spots to find what she likes best. You’ll know what she likes by her breathing or when she firmly grips you. Having said all that, there is a way to make this experience even MORE pleasurable.

The Missing Piece To A Powerful Orgasm

Did you know that prolonged foreplay is said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. However, men often focus so much on “performing” that they forget about spicing up their lovemaking with new and exciting things. Let’s face it; most of us are guilty of this. You take your clothes off. Away you go, and, within a few seconds or minutes, the routine is over. But as the bedroom magic fades, it becomes harder and harder to make woman achieve orgasms.

Why? Because women long for variety in their sexual experience. The very best way to please women long-term is to have an entire ‘bag of ideas’ ready to pull out whenever they’re needed. I cannot stress the need to keep your lovemaking fresh and exciting in every way. That’s the secret to fulfilled lovemaking.

The “Deep Spot” Orgasm Technique

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An orgasm is pretty much the holy grail of sex for both men and women. While many people have sex without aiming for an orgasm just to “do it,” most of the time, an orgasm is the goal and end result of sexual activity. That said, giving an orgasm is an incredibly personal and intimate thing. Whether you’ve tried and failed to give your partner a climax or have done so in numerous different ways and are looking to spice it up, this sex tip will add something new to your sexual arsenal.

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Step One: Go As Far In As Possible

Insert your fingers into your partner’s vagina as far in as possible. The g-spot is located on the top wall of her vagina about 2 inches in, but you’re going to push your fingers in even further than that. Push them in until they won’t go any further and until your fingers are in her vagina as much as possible. While this won’t feel any different to you than the rest of her vaginal canal, you will know when you hit the right area because you’ll meet a lot of resistance and your fingers and hand won’t go in any further. While you can use one finger for a virgin or a woman that is extremely small or tight down there, two fingers or more are best for this intense technique. One finger may not apply enough pressure for an experienced woman.

Step Two: Add Pressure And The “Come Hither” Motion

Once you’ve pushed your fingers in all the way, curl them upwards in a “come hither” motion. This is the same motion you would use if you were aiming to stimulate your lover’s g-spot. Add some firm pressure (this is not the time to tickle lightly) and move your fingers forward and backwards. Pay attention to your partner’s body language and what movements she is responding to. If she pushes against you harder and grinds herself against your hand, it’s a pretty safe bet that she’s enjoying it and wouldn’t mind you to do it a little harder. If you notice that she’s backing away or isn’t making much noise, she may be in discomfort or pain and be afraid to tell you she doesn’t like it. Let your girl’s body language dictate your next moves.

Step Three: Add Oral Sex (Optional)

Once you’ve gotten the fingering down pat, you can stimulate your lover’s clitoris with your tongue and give her oral sex. While this isn’t always necessary to give her the orgasm, it will add to her pleasure and may even give her a blended orgasm! Some women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm at all, so if your partner seems to be grinding her pubic area and clitoris against your hand or starts masturbating herself, you know it’s time to put your tongue into play.

Use Lots Of Lube And Foreplay

Don’t forget to start with a great deal of foreplay and use lots and lots of water based lube. Silicone lube will work fine too, but it is harder to wash off and your lover may not be able to get her vaginal canal completely clean afterwards. Water based lube is inexpensive, easy to use and rinse off and is available just about anywhere including drugstores and grocery or superstores. It’s important to use foreplay to warm her up before you start, because inserting your fingers inside her may be uncomfortable or painful if she’s not adequately aroused. Lube will also help keep things comfortable for both you and your partner, because even if she’s completely turned on and begging for more, she may not produce enough natural lubrication to help things go smoothly.

If It Hurts, Stop!

While this may seem like a no-brainer, you wouldn’t believe how many people continue doing a certain activity even if it hurts or causes extreme discomfort. Sex should be fun and exciting, and certainly shouldn’t hurt or feel bad in any way (unless you dig that sort of thing). Before you begin, let your partner know that it is ok to tell you if it hurts or if she wants you to stop. Tell her that it’s also ok to let you know what feels good and what doesn’t – and what she’d like you to do next. While great sex doesn’t always come naturally and must be learned in a lot of cases, nothing can replace good communication between two partners when it comes to sex.