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Female Orgasm Tips – 5 Powerful Ways to Make Sure She Gets Thigh-Quivering Orgasms (Every Time!)

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Did you know that direct penetration during sex is the least effective way to bring a woman to an orgasm? That is true. Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex. It is far easier to stimulate a man to an orgasm than a woman. Yet when a woman climaxes, she usually does so with greater intensity than guys.

It is not easy to bring a woman to an orgasm through intercourse alone. In fact more women are known to achieve a climax through self-stimulation than through sex! So what are the tricks to make sure she gets one when you make love to her? Keep reading – these tips would keep her orgasmic furnace burning hot…

Tip #1 – “Emotions In Tandem”

Men and women are different because men can achieve an orgasm in almost any situation. It is easier for a woman to achieve an orgasm if she develops an emotional attachment or trust for the man she is with. Having said that, it is important to ensure your woman is comfortable and satisfied. A quick session for you will only leave her in the ‘rut’, totally unfulfilled!

You may think that you know your woman inside out; if she is having a real orgasm; if she is totally aroused. But in reality, it is not that simple. The first secret to a woman’s orgasm is to make love to her passionately and not treat her as a sex object waiting to fulfill your sexual lust.

Female orgasms should be treated in a delicate manner and you should work towards it. The secret in triggering an orgasm in any woman lies in building up an erotic anticipation to the point that she craves for you to bring her around in a hurry.

Tip #2 – “Kiss To Tease”

The very act of kissing alone can bring a woman to an orgasm if done correctly. Therefore, this should give you a good idea how pleasurable the simple act of passionate kissing can be to a woman. So before you proceed to lovemaking, indulge in some passionate kissing. Take your time to kiss her slowly and passionately. Kissing can activate her senses and set her on fire. Tease her; fill her to the brim with the desire of wanting you.

Tip #3 – Clitoral Stimulation: The Right & Wrong Ways To Do It

A woman’s clitoris is a key instrument to bring her to an orgasm. Thus the way you stimulate this super erogenous zone is really vital. You see, when a woman is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable for her. The trick is to give her stimulation indirectly at first. Try running your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, you will feel her breathing heavily and the clitoral hood swelling up. This is when you know she is ready for more.

Tip #4 – The Rhythm Of Sex

Many men are mistaken that women are equally attuned to the speed and rhythm of a man’s touch. This is a fallacy. How you touch and caress her can vary in speed but the rhythm should not alter. Starting sex slowly is a great way to get her all warmed up to the act. As the sex progresses, women prefer the speed (including that of thrusting) to increase, culminating to a boil as an orgasm approaches. But make sure the overall rhythm or tempo remains the same.

Tip #5 – The Tantalizing Grind

Many men simply engage in straight thrusting motions during sex and wonder why their partners never get an orgasm. No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax. The right way to perform penetration is this: instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pubic mound will rub against her clitoris as your penis stimulates her g-spot and sufficiently stimulate her to an intense orgasm.

Stop thinking about how well you will perform in bed for her! Focus on how she feels once you get started on her. Once you begin to realize that she feels great when you do sexual things for her, you will find your self confidence soaring and that you will actually achieve what most men fail to achieve in bed – bringing a woman to a spine-tingling series of orgasms!

Q&A: How To Find The Clitoris

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The clitoris is known to be elusive to many men, however, finding it and stimulating it is one of the greatest pleasures you can give a girl. Many women aren’t even able to orgasm without clitoral stimulation! Here’s how to find the clitoris, how best to stimulate it and how you can avoid the #1 mistake guys make when they finally find it!

Question: Dear Dan and Jen – How do you find the clitoris? I want to play with my girlfriend, but I do not know where to find it and I don’t want to ask her cause it would make me look like a fool…please help!

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Why The Clitoris Is Important

The clitoris is packed with thousands upon thousands of nerve endings that will send waves of pleasure throughout a woman’s entire body. The clitoris is the only human body part that was designed specifically for pleasure and pleasure alone! Even a man’s penis performes other functions, such as urination and procreation. The clitoris, however, does absolutely nothing except provide female orgasm when stimulated. It serves no other purpose! So it’s safe to say the clitoris is pretty darn important and well worth your time to become acquainted with it.

How To Find The Clitoris

The clitoris is located above the vaginal opening but below the pubic area. The visible area of the clitoris is a small “bud” like formation that gets bigger when a woman is aroused. The clitoris is actually way bigger than what you see on the outside and is hidden underneath the vaginal skin and muscles, but the most sensitive part is the actual “bud” above the vaginal opening. The clitoris is actually tucked underneath hood of skin called the “clitoral hood” and will peek itself out more as a woman becomes aroused. However, right before a woman reaches climax, the clitoris may suddenly shrink in size and go back underneath the hood. Don’t worry though, because if you stimulate the area where the clitoral hood is, you’re going to stimulate the clitoris as well and many women prefer this type of indirect stimulation.

The Best Way To Stimulate The Clitoris

The first rule of thumb when beginning to stimulate the clitoris is to go slow and soft! Many men make the mistake of getting excited once they find it and start pressing, rubbing, licking or sucking too hard at first. This can actually cause a woman discomfort and pain! Instead, start out soft and slow, and gradually build up pressure and speed as your partner becomes more and more aroused. You can also start out using your fingers our tongue on the hood of the clitoris to give your partner indirect clitoral stimulation to get her aroused and allow her clitoris to become engorged and “hard” before you start using any other moves or techniques. Many women will derive great pleasure from stimulating the clitoris from outside the clitoral hood, while mixing in a few strokes directly on the clitoris as well. There are many different techniques you can use to stimulate the clitoris, such as clitoral circles, however, no matter what technique you decide to use, make sure you don’t start off hard and fast.

Q&A: Female Orgasm – I Could Never Make My Ex Climax

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If there’s a girl you aren’t able to give an orgasm to, you’re not alone. Unfortuately, being in the same boat with tons of other guys doesn’t exactly make being unable to pleasure a certain girl any less frustrating. So what gives? Is there really something wrong with you, or is it time to accept what happened and move on? Could she have even contributed to the problem?

Question: I recently went through a fairly rough break-up but often find myself thinking about my ex. We were together for almost two years and in this time I could never make her orgasm (a first for me). I am quite well endowed and very fit and have never had trouble making others girls climax, but my inadequacies with her have really effected my confidence. What can I do to get over my insecurities and be comfortable with my inability to pleasure her?

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Moving On

If there’s a certain girl you can’t give an orgasm to – but have no problems with any other girls – there’s not much you can do about it. Sometimes it hit or miss, and if you’ve been lucky so far, you’ve simply come upon your dues. It’s time to move on, especially if you and this particular girl aren’t together any more and have broken up. You may want to brood over what happened and try to figure out why you weren’t able to give her an orgasm, but it’s really not going to do you much good. Many times, there is no why and things like that just happen. Sometimes two people are sexually incompatible, no matter how many other girls you were sexually compatible with. Realize that it’s time to move on and get back in the game.

Brushing Up On Your Orgasm Skills

That said, it never hurts to brush up on your orgasm skills. You may think you know all there is to know about female orgasms, but you’d be surprised at how much you probably don’t know about giving a woman a climax. Take the Orgasm Quiz and assess your orgasm skills. You’ll get the Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips after you take the quiz, which are free and include twenty five great tips on how to please a woman. Learning new tricks and techniques to use in the bedroom is a great way to make sure you know what you’re doing and can try to give every girl you’re with a mind blowing orgasm.

Was It Her?

While you may be content to blame yourself and commit yourself to learning every female orgasm secret known to man, you need to realize that part of the reason you were unable to give your partner an orgasm could be because of her hang ups, not yours. Don’t be so fast to completely blame her, but realize that it takes a lot on the woman’s part to have an orgasm. She must be relaxed, stress free and open to having an orgasm. If she was stressing about a test or work the next day, or going through some particularly stressful situations, she may have been unable to reach climax regardless of how great your bedroom skills were.

Q&A: Oral Sex – My Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm When I Go Down On Her?

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If your girlfriend isn’t having an orgasm when you give her oral sex, you’re not alone. While many women love oral sex, others just can’t let go enough to get to the big “O” when their guys are going down on them. Here’s how to figure out why she’s not able to have an orgasm through oral sex and what you can do to change it.

Question: Me and my girlfriend have a good sex life but whenever I go down on her she stops me after about 5-10 minutes and tells me she’s too tired. This sounds strange to me because whenever she performs on me I don’t seem to get tired. This bothers me because she rarely reaches orgasm and she doesn’t get the full satisfaction. Is there anything I can do and is this common in women?

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Why She’s Getting Frustrated

It’s easy for a woman to get frustrated with her partner when he’s going down on her. If she’s not getting close to orgasm, or she is getting close and just can’t seem to make it over the edge, it can easily cause frustration and make her want to stop. There could be a lot of reasons why she’s not able to reach orgasm. She might not be able to relax after her day at work or school and the stress of day to day problems might not be something she’s easily able to let go of. Another reason she may not be able to have an orgasm when you go down on her is your technique. You may actually be causing her pain instead of pleasure, because a woman’s clitoris and vaginal folds can be very sensitive to too much pressure or the wrong kind of touch.

Learning To Communicate With Your Partner

Your girlfriend may be telling you she is “too tired” to continue on with oral sex because she just doesn’t know what else to tell you. She may be embarrassed to tell you that you’re not doing it right, or she may not know how to tell you what she likes when you go down on her. As a result, she may just be settling for telling you that she’s too tired and giving up on getting pleasure from oral sex all together. If you really want to learn how to pleasure her orally, take some time to talk to her and communicate with her. Don’t do it during sex, before sex or right after. Discuss with her how she feels about it and what suggestions she has for doing it differently when you are having dinner or watching a movie.

Brush Up On Your Oral Sex Skills

Don’t assume that because your girlfriend is telling you that she’s too tired for oral sex that it’s what she really means. Don’t assume that your oral sex skills are fine and that the problem lies with her. There is always room for learning and brushing up on your oral sex skills! You’d be surprised at what you don’t know about female anatomy and how a woman likes to recieve oral sex. Take our female orgasm quiz to see if you really know how to please a woman when you go down on her!

Giving Her An Orgasm – The Ultimate Pat On The Back

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Every man hopes to make a girl climax every time he has sex with her, but the truth is that this doesn’t always happen. It’s no secret that sometimes women fake during sex, because they don’t want to make the man’s inability to perform as a big issue that could damage a relatively good relationship. If a girl doesn’t climax during sex, her partner feels extremely insecure, and she knows it.

However, what every man should realize is that the relationship only stays good when everything that goes on inside the relationship is pleasing to both partners. If sex continues to be lousy, the relationship will fall apart sooner than you think.

Making a woman reach orgasm is physically and psychologically gratifying, and we know it. Now, it’s time to discover some of the things that make women climax faster, read on!

Help Her Relax

There are factors that affect our over-all performance in the bedroom, some of which we cannot control (her stress level, her feelings etc.) The only thing we can do is to concentrate on the factors that we can control, like our bedroom skills and making a woman comfortable enough to reach climax faster.

An erotic massage will get her thinking about sex, and the better you massage her, the faster she can climax. This means using your fingers and tongue to caress her most sensitive areas, like her clitoris and her breasts.

Learn From The Way She Masturbates

The thing is, a woman can climax quickly when she is masturbating. Every woman has a special way of doing this, and you can learn a lot from observing the way she masturbates in your presence. If you cannot seem to make her climax during sex, one way to learn how is to take note of what she does, where she’s touching, and what she thinks about during masturbation.

Here’s what you can do. Tell her to pretend that you’re not around and she’s all alone. It will help if you can make her share her deepest, darkest fantasies with you so you can react accordingly.

Role Playing

A woman’s psyche during sex is greatly affected by what she’s thinking. If she’s bored with the same old scenario, you can go somewhere unfamiliar like a hotel room, or a resort. Then, think of a role playing scenario and act it out. Like men, women get their kicks out of certain sexual situations and your goal is to learn the nature of her sex fantasies so you can replicate it every time.

Comfort level plays a big role in making a woman orgasm, and your goal as her lover should be to encourage her to relax long enough for her to climax. You might notice that I didn’t include tips like “going down on her” or fingering. Any man can do these things, but the real trick to getting her to climax has something to do with the way you help her relax, emotionally and physically, during sex.