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Are These 4 Things RUINING Your Orgasm?

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but many girls can’t get there. It’s not always easy to reach orgasm, especially if your guy doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing down there. But men aren’t the only culprits here – there are plenty of other factors that contribute to a woman losing out on reaching orgasm during sex. Are these three issues to blame for you not reaching climax?

1. Obsessing Over The Way Your Body Looks

Almost all girls obsess over the way their bodies look, especially naked. This is generally due to social conditioning – from the time a girl is a child, well into her adult years, she is conditioned that “beautiful” is being thin, tan, having perfectly straight and white teeth and wearing sexy clothes. Cellulite is a “no-no” for women, even though it’s a completely natural and normal thing to have.

If you’re thinking about looking “fat” or unattractive to your partner during sex, you’re most likely not going to be able to have an orgasm. Your brain is linked to your body in this way, and if you’re busy obsessing over finding the angle that you look the best in during sex (rather than the angle that feels the best), then you’re going to become frustrated when you can’t reach the peak.

2. Thinking About Your To-Do List

Again, a woman’s brain plays a very significant part in her arousal and ability to reach orgasm during sex. A woman must be completely and totally relaxed and be in the moment to be able to get over the “hump,” so to speak, and she simply can’t do that if she’s focused on other things. If you’re thinking about what you need to get at the grocery store instead of being in the moment with your partner and allowing yourself to be overcome with passion, then you’re not likely to even get close to orgasm city.

Spending a few minutes before sex relaxing and letting the stress of the day melt away is really worth it – and so is engaging in plenty of foreplay. Do something that you know totally relaxes you – like watching your favorite television show while drinking a glass of wine, or taking a warm bubble bath and meditating on positive things. Do whatever it is that you need to do to allow your brain to switch from thinking about all of your responsibilities to thinking about only pleasure.

When you’re in the right mind frame, sexual pleasure and orgasm will come much, much more easily.

3. Wondering Why You’re Taking Forever To Reach Orgasm

This is one of the biggest orgasm killers of all. You get going and it’s going pretty good, and then you start thinking about time. And how long you’re taking. And the longer you take, the more obsessed you get over how long you’re taking. It’s a vicious cycle that gets you nowhere close to climax.

If the sex is good, you’re going to forget about time all together. It could take you ten seconds, ten minutes or an hour to reach orgasm and you’d have no earthly idea. In fact, you may even forget where you are. If you are prone to thinking about how long it takes you to reach the big O, plan for you and your partner to have plenty of time to have sex. Instead of wondering when you’ll actually get there, focus on each sensation and how it feels in the moment.

4. Not Using Enough Lube

Some couples don’t think they need lube during sex. They may think it’s wet enough once they get turned on, or they think that saliva works just as well. This couldn’t be further from the truth! If you have trouble getting to orgasm often, consider investing in an inexpensive bottle of good quality lube. You can get all different kinds at supermarkets and drugstores, and you can even find some in specialty or novelty shops in the mall. Flavored lubes smell fantastic (but usually taste like liquid plastic), while higher quality lubes contain mostly natural ingredients.

Lube will reduce the friction between you and your partner, both in the vagina and outside on your vulva, where your clitoris is. If you’re slipping and sliding more, your going to become more aroused than if you have dry skin rubbing up against dry skin. Don’t be too proud to buy yourself a bottle of good lube – it is well worth the cost and you’ll be glad you did when you finally get that climax you’ve been craving!

3 Ways To Give Women Multiple Orgasms Without Intercourse

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The female orgasm is unique because girls can have MANY orgasms in one sitting. While most guys struggle to have more than one orgasm in a single sex or masturbation session, the only stopping a woman from having orgasms all night is her. Her body has the ability to keep going and going and going (does that sound familiar?) Here’s how to give your lady multiple orgasms – NO intercourse required!

The vast majority of men are clueless when it comes to giving women orgasms. Many continue to think that one should bring women to a sexual climax through intercourse only. Nothing is further from the truth!

Did you know that it is FAR easier to make a woman orgasm without intercourse? That is true. Most women are NOT able to have vaginal orgasms. The female clitoris needs to receive ample stimulation during sex and intercourse is not the best way to achieve this.

Here are 3 simple tips that will “prime” your woman to achieve unimaginable, multiple orgasms, using just your hands!

“Lip Service”

Most guys don’t do this enough and head right into intercourse immediately. Make sure that you take the time to appreciate her beauty. Connect with her emotionally. Run your hands through her hair and then let them rest on her lips. Take her face in your hands and kiss her. Compliment her while you kiss her all over her body. These are romantic gestures that will endear you to her and will get her sexually excited.

“Roaming Service”

A man is said to have only two arousal points – the brain and the genitals. But the female body has far more erogenous or sensitive areas, and thousands more nerve endings that can bring out her wildest side. Learn her entire body landscape. Touch and caress all the spots that she wants to be touched. Start with the non-genital areas first, traversing your fingers from her arms to her belly and then her legs – before giving your attention to the sensual area in between her legs.

You don’t want to head straight for her clitoris – by exciting all of her other erogenous zones first, you’ll awaken her clitoris and get it ready for when you go to touch it. If she’s not completely aroused by the time you touch her down there, it could be uncomfortable!

“G-reat Service”

Now that she is sufficiently aroused, you should use your fingers to give her the most heavenly orgasmic experience possible. The g spot orgasm is the most powerful and exquisite climax a woman can have. Don’t deprive her of this pleasure! The g spot is usually located about two inches inside the vagina along the frontal wall. Once you find this soft gland, use your index or middle finger and stimulate it in a “come hither” motion. The kind of climax she will experience will be nothing short of breathtaking!

What Women Who Can Have Multiple Orgasms Won’t Tell You

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Multiple orgasms can be had, but only if a girl really knows how to let go. Here’s what girls who can have more than one orgasm know that you don’t!

They Have Self Confidence

Self confidence is a must when it comes to having multiple orgasms and you might could even say the same about just one orgasm. A girl who has multiple orgasms is very self confident – she knows she’s sexy, she knows you like what you see and she knows how to let go. She’s not worried about her cellulite during sex, and she’s most certainly not worried about her O-face, because she knows you want to see it, regardless of what it looks like.

If a girl is self conscious, she’s not going to be able to fully release herself during sex and let go of her inhibitions. Her thoughts will be consumed with whether she looks good naked or not, whether her partner likes the way she tastes and smells, and so on and so forth. Since her thoughts are consumed with all these things instead of enjoying sex, she’s not going to be able to have more than one orgasm, if she’s able to have one at all!

They Know What An Actual Multiple Orgasm Is

There are two different types of multiple orgasms. “Sequential” orgasms happen within minutes of each other, and require at least a few minutes of cool down and relaxation in between. “Serial” orgasms are actually much closer together, and sometimes a woman can barely tell that there is more than one climax happening – it may very well feel like one big, long orgasm to her.

Girls that can have more than one climax during a single sex session know that it’s not some proverbial Mt. Everest that must be climbed and only a few girls can actually do it. Instead, they understand their bodies and that every woman is capable of having more than one climax!

They Masturbate

A girl is never going to have multiple orgasms if she doesn’t know how to “click her own mouse.” Some girls have been taught from a young age that masturbation is wrong and shameful (for both guys and gals), and that’s a difficult stigma to break even well into adulthood. However, if a girl wants to learn how to have double the climaxes during sex, she’s going to have to make it happen herself first.

Masturbation teaches a woman to relax and fully experience sexual pleasure. This is because she’s alone, so she’s automatically not worried about what she looks like, her body or anything else in that moment in time. If a girl masturbates regularly, not only will she know exactly where her own hot spots are and how to push her own buttons, she’ll also learn how to let go.

Letting go is probably the most challenging aspect of having an orgasm at all for a girl, especially if she has been conditioned in any way that masturbation is wrong or that sex is a “wife’s duty” and is only supposed to be pleasurable for him.

The Right Time And Place

A girl who can have multiple orgasms knows that the timing and placement of sex makes a huge difference as to whether or not she’s going to be able to reach orgasm. If she’s sneaking off to have a quickie while the kids are preoccupied, she probably won’t be able to climax. However, if the kids are at Grandma’s and she’s all alone (or with a partner) after some time to wind down from the day and a glass or two of wine, she’ll probably be able to have more than one earth shattering orgasm.

Many people think that renting a hotel room when you don’t “have” to seems silly, but you have no idea how much the change in venue makes a difference. Even if your house is just down the road, “getting away from it all” even for just a night can help a girl relax more than you could possibly imagine.

They Use Lube

Lube isn’t something that older women use when they’re “dry.” For great climaxes, you’ve got to have lube! Things need to be really slippery – too much friction, and she’ll never reach orgasm. A girl who is a master at multiple orgasms may have a few bottles of lube hanging around – perhaps a silicone formula for fun in the water, and a good old fashioned water based lube for every day action. She may even have a special sex toy lube specifically for masturbation!

Invest in a good bottle of lube if you don’t have any. The misconception that lube is something that is needed when a girl can’t get wet, but that’s just the thing – it’s a misconception. Lube makes everything better!

Sex Is A Journey, Not A Means To An End

For a girl that can have multiple orgasms, sex isn’t all about just getting to the big “O” like it is for guys. It’s about the journey and the experience! She may take it slow, speed up, slow down again and just enjoy the ride. She won’t force herself to have an orgasm and if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen.

The mere lifting of the pressure to climax during sex actually opens the door to have more climaxes, believe it or not. By simply giving up the “need” to reach orgasm during sex, a woman will most likely experience an incredible orgasm – if not more than one!

How To Give Your Girl An Intense, Full-Body Orgasm That Makes Her Squirt All Over Your Bed… Guaranteed!

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This FREE VIDEO will show you how to give your girl the type of FULL-BODY, screaming-at-the-top-of-her-lungs orgasm that no guy has EVER given her before… whether it’s your first night together or you’ve been dating for years…

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In this video you’re going to learn a simple trick to give any woman an orgasm so intense and so powerful, it will dramatically increase the level of dopamine in her limbic system – causing her brain to become sexually addicted to that feeling… making her sexually addicted to you.

Why This Is “The Ultimate Orgasm” For Women

The orgasmic experience is different for a woman than it is for a man… it is ALSO different depending on the TYPE of orgasm she has.

The “Squirting Orgasm” is entirely different from the clitoral, g-spot, or any other orgasm she’s used to.

The best way to understand what a Squirting Orgasm feels like for a woman is to think of your own orgasm.

Now, imagine how it would feel if you had an orgasm… but NOTHING CAME OUT.

Like if you had the orgasm, but you didn’t ejaculate.

Wouldn’t it feel WEIRD? Even INCOMPLETE?

Well THIS is what the Clitoral and G-Spot Orgasms feel like for a woman.

But here’s the thing:

If they have never had a Squirting Orgasm, they don’t KNOW what they are missing.

They THINK a Clitoral or G-Spot Orgasm is the best feeling they can get. After all, it’s the best they’ve ever had.

But then, they meet a guy who can give them a Squirting Orgasm… and…

“OH MY GOD!!!”

It’s unlike anything else they’ve EVER experienced… and makes all other orgasms they’ve had in the past… seem like nothing!

And from then on, their sex lives are never the same.

Needless to say, a guy who can give a woman one of these mind-blowing orgasms isn’t considered, “good” or even “great” in bed… no sir.

He’s Put In A Category ALL His Own!

And that category is simply called…

The BEST She’s Ever Had.

No matter what your “size”, no matter how long you last, regardless of sexual experience, and even if you do everything else wrong!

When you give your girl this “Ultimate Orgasm”… you’ve done something that NO other guy has ever done before. From that moment, on she considers you the best she’s ever had, period.

What Is It And Can Any Woman Do It?

Female Ejaculation is a mystery even to many scientists. But you don’t know how the “science” works…

All you need to know is that it’s a REAL phenomenom, girls LOVE it, and once you know the secret, it’s easy to do.

Here’s a couple other facts about Squirting Orgasms:

1. It’s Not Pee

Her ‘squirt’ is not pee, but actually fluid stored in her, “Urethral Sponge”… the same fluid that makes her wet when she’s turned on for you.

2. ANY Girl Can do It

Every girl has the anatomy to experience these breathtaking orgasms, and once she does she will want it again and again and again. It’s just a matter of her finding someone who knows the technique to make it happen.

3. The Actual Technique Is SIMPLE

Because a squirting orgasm is so different than what we guys are used to seeing with women, a lot of guys assume it’s hard to do… or that they have to do a bunch of psychological stuff with the girl to get her ready to squirt… or find a bunch of “secret” spots…

But ACTUALLY – this program shows you one simple 2-part technique that works EVERY time! And as I mentioned before, you can learn how to do it in just 5 minutes. IT’S THAT SIMPLE…

How YOU Can Make Your Girl Squirt, Step-by-Step

If you’re interested in learning how to make your girl squirt, you need a program that’s going to teach you the RIGHT way to do it, the VERY FIRST TIME you try…

No boring books or diagrams. No way. That would be like trying to learn boxing from a book. Not possible.

Instead, this is a SHOW ALL video instruction course… that shows you how to give your girl an intense squirting orgasm the very FIRST time you try, regardless of your or her sexual experience, and even if you make a few mistakes.

Introducing… Squirting Orgasm Mastery!

Squirting Orgasm Mastery is a revolutionary video system that teaches you, step by step, how to give your woman the most INTENSE, out-of-this-world SQUIRTING orgasm – something that no guy has EVER given her before….

Look, if you can watch tv and press a few buttons on a remote control, then you have what it takes to give your girl the ORGASM OF HER LIFE.

The course is very simple:

You’ll first hear from Marcus London, Adult Film’s ‘Master of Squirting’ and Tori Black – 2012 AVN Female Adult Performer Of The Year – as they talk about what squirting is, how it works, and what you need to know in order to make a girl squirt (it’s much easier than you think!).

Marcus then teaches you the actual technique for getting your girl to squirt – the stoke to use, where to caresses, and with how much pressure and for how long. There’s not much to memorize and you’ll have it all down in about 5 minutes.

This program was created to make you a MASTER of the squirting orgasm… and in order to do that, Marcus is going to demonstrate the technique for you on 5 real girls.

These girls are different ages, different looks, and from all levels of sexual experience.

And he reveals in detail, EXACTLY how he makes each girl squirt.

There is NO better way to learn then by watching these explicit demonstrations. By the time you’ve gone through them you’ll know exactly how to make your girl squirt… over and over again while she begs you for more!

Here are just a few more of the secrets you’ll get in this program:

– The exact spot you must touch to make a woman squirt (Here’s my

foolproof way to find it on any girl in seconds… the very first

time you try)

– The thing most men THINK they should do when trying to give a girl

one of these orgasms that almost guarantees she WON’T have one!

(THIS is the big secret that took Marcus from getting about half of the

women he hooked up with to squirt to getting ALL of them to squirt…

so listen up!)

– The exact amount of fingers to use, where and how to use them, and how much pressure (I’ll show you every aspect of the technique and you’ll be amazed at how easy it actually is!)

– The 2 OTHER techniques guys use to make a girl squirt… and why you should NEVER use them! (Not only are they less effective, but one of them can actually HURT your girl!)

– And much, much more…

And if that isn’t enough, this video comes with an iron-clad, no questions asked guarantee…

“She Squirts Or It’s Free” Guarantee!

After going through this program, you will make your girl squirt the VERY FIRST time you try… or you pay nothing!

In Squirting Orgasm Mastery you’ll discover the exact trick Marcus London has used to give over 300 women their very first squirting orgasm… and how you can use it to make ANY girl squirt, the FIRST time you try it on her!

Click here NOW and Learn How To Make Your Girl Squirt… you’ll be glad you did!

How to Please A Woman in Bed – 3 Things Every Man Must Know

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Have you ever noticed how hard it is to please a woman in bed? Chatting up a woman and getting her to go home with you is a lot easier in comparison, if you really think about it, and we all know doing that is not a walk in the park. Sleeping with a woman and making sure she enjoys herself does not seem complicated at first, until you realize that just days after your hook up, she’s avoiding you and won’t go out with you anymore because she thinks you’re a lousy lover.

What does it take to make a woman feel great in bed? What does it take to make her think she will never find another lover like you forever? These are some of the questions that have been plaguing men since the beginning of time. However, what we don’t realize is that there are certain things that can be done to guarantee you’ll always be great in bed.

Read on to find out the three things you must know when you’re in bed with the girl of your dreams!

Go Down On Her

Believe me, you will come off as a “wimp” if you tell a girl that you’re not into cunnilingus. Women enjoy that, and moreover, they expect to get that whenever they’re in bed with a man. If you’re less than willing to go for it, you might as well never expect a girl to go down on you. Just like everything else, oral sex is a two-way street. If you can’t give it, don’t expect to receive it.

Foreplay

If you’ve ever thought of skipping foreplay to get to the main event quickly, you’re risking being tagged as a lousy lover from the very start. You see, for women, foreplay is a big factor in what makes a man great in bed.

Kissing and touching at the onset increase a woman’s anticipation, and fires up her imagination. If you get her to that point of frenzy just by doing effective foreplay, you won’t have to worry about increasing her excitement enough for her to climax.

Cuddling

Cuddling is important whether this is done before sex or afterwards. I’m sure you want to sleep right after (who doesn’t?), but you have to consider that the woman you’re with might want to do something else after her climax, such as talk, hug and kiss some more.

Take these three tips and use them to improve your sex life.

After talking to so many men about their sex life for years, I recognize the main factors why girls tend to think some men suck in bed. Most men will never learn how to be a sexual dynamo if they don’t consider what the woman is feeling before, during and after sex. The fact is, the most mind-blowing sex can only happen if the man puts a woman’s sexual needs first before his own.