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How To Achieve The Holy Grail Of Sex – The Simultaneous Orgasm

A simultaneous orgasm can be a super hot and emotionally gratifying experience. Here’s how to achieve what is known as the “holy grail” of sex.

A simultaneous orgasm is something that a lot of couples strive for. This concept can even be something that people worry about on a constant basis. The most important thing to understand about a simultaneous orgasm is that it does not define your sex life or your relationship. People put way too much weight on climaxing at the same time.

Just because you and your partner to not have an orgasm the same time every time doesn’t mean that you have a problem in your sex life. However, if you would like to achieve a simultaneous orgasm, there are a few things that you can do in order to improve your chances.

1. Know That It’s Not Easy

There are men and women that have control over their orgasms and there are men and women that can’t keep it at bay for too long. When you are trying to achieve a simultaneous orgasm, it is important to realize that it might not be that easy. Timing your orgasm with your partner can put a strain on the relationship that is really not needed. Different partners have different sexual needs to even reach an orgasm in the first place. Don’t be afraid of failure and you will be much more likely to put each at ease during sex.

2. Prolonging Can Be Bad

Prolonging an orgasm by either a man or a woman is never a good idea. Some men find that prolonging their orgasm during sex makes it that much harder to actually have one. This can also make them that much more sensitive to premature ejaculation. Taking a man to the edge of his orgasm and then making him stop could be a recipe for disaster.

After prolonging the orgasm, the man could be that much more likely to have an uncontrolled climax during the same session. Forcing a woman to prolong her orgasm can also be bad. When a woman prolongs her orgasm, it can be harder to get her back up to the level of being able to climax.

3. Use A Lot Of Foreplay

Having a simultaneous orgasm is much harder for women than men. At the drop of a hat a man is usually able to achieve orgasm during sex. Using a lot of foreplay on a woman will bring her to edge of climax much more quickly. Guys, use oral sex and fingering to get her primed to have a female orgasm and you will find it much easier to achieve a simultaneous orgasm. Using manual stimulation on the woman’s clitoris during sex will give you much better results in trying to come together.

4. Use Multiple Orgasms To Have A Simultaneous Orgasm

One of the best tricks is to use multiple orgasms to have a simultaneous orgasm. If the girl can have multiple orgasms then the two of you will much more likely to be able to reach your goal. Not all women can have multiple orgasms, however, if your partner can, you can use this to your advantage. Although you might not be able to reach orgasm during the first one or even the second, you can have a simultaneous orgasm on the third or fourth.

5. Do Kegels

Kegel exercises can help a man control his orgasm during sex. If your boyfriend or husband has a problem with premature ejaculation, he should start to use kegel exercises during the day. These exercises can help him old his orgasm in rather than having to pull out and wait a few seconds for the sensation to pass. When a man has found the ability to control the muscles that affect his orgasm, he will easily be able to hold it in until the woman has reached climax.

6. Practice

Practice always makes perfect. When you are trying to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, it is important to keep the goal in mind during sex. Use all of these suggestions to help you master the learning curve and get to where the both of you are happy with your sex life. Remember that there are going to be times where you are not both coming at the same time. If you even hit 50% then you are doing better than most couples on the planet. Practice with each other and communicate during sex so you can both come together.

3 Incredible Tactics To Give Her A Powerful, Earth-Shaking Orgasm!

By lloydlester

Her orgasm should be the primary focus of sex, and yours comes only after she’s been thoroughly satisfied. Here’s how to rock her world!

Are you disappointed with the fact that she may be faking orgasms with you in bed? This is a challenge for you to be able to give her better sex! Surprise her by making her experience the real thing tonight. Getting her to orgasm during sex is not as difficult as what many men make it out to be. With these three powerful tips, you will be surprised at how much she will begin to change how she experiences sex with you!

1. Give Her A Back Massage

Unknown to many men, a woman’s back is a huge erogenous zone! Women also love it when you pay attention to every inch of the skin of their rear. There are different sensitive points on a woman’s back: the lower back or the area just below the scapula. It will be a man’s job to discover which part of his woman’s back is most sensitive to erotic massage. You may let your fingers run tenderly along the expanse of her back, place gentle kisses on her warm skin, and make your tongue do slow and passionate caresses. Know when she whimpers the most because that area is the point of maximum thrill and frenzy. This will be the start of a steamier encounter between the two of you!

2. Increase Her Orgasm Potential With Kissing

Just like other parts of her body, that plump mass of flesh on her face is also supplied with numerous nerves. Give them a passionate kiss! Pay her back from all the loving kisses she gave you in the past with those sensual movements of your lips against hers. Begin with soft strokes of your lips on hers then let the excitement take the lip-locking to another level. However, you may also arouse her by letting your fingers do soft strokes on her lips. Watch her as these arousing actions send surges of thrill all over her body.

3. Never Linger Too Long On Her Breasts

Yes, men do love their women’s breasts more than anything else. Your woman, however, will be more ecstatic if you also pay attention to the other parts of her body even without taking any of her clothing off. Once she is already at the height of sexual exploration, you may proceed in hovering over her breasts. Press your lips against the skin of her round bosoms. You may let your tongue travel against her skin, and make your fingers fondle those small pink buds. With this, you will be able to show her how much you appreciate her whole being, resulting in a more exhilarating sexual union.

Why You Need To Care About Her Orgasm

By loveandsex

A woman’s orgasm isn’t often of much importance to some guys. But should it be? Definitely! Here’s why you should put her orgasm at the top of your list.

What Is Her Orgasm Like?

If you talk to 5 different ladies, you’d get 5 varied orgasmic descriptions. Although the same nerve pathways are activated, the big “O” is a highly personal cosmic experience and one woman’s encounter will be different from the next.

But if you’d talk to 500 women, you will see the bigger picture, identify common themes and see similarities with how women experience a climax. They’d tell you how contractions begin from their vaginal & uterine walls, spread through their bodies and make it quake. Words like: waves, fire, bright, burning & electrifying, will continually resurface.

You’ll also notice how emotional women can be about their orgasms. An orgasm isn’t just a release of physical tension, but of emotions as well. Women use words such as: beautiful, affection, admiration, wonderful & love, to describe it.

For guys, it’s whack to describe orgasms this way and many will bristle with amused puzzlement as to why women can be sentimental about it. Ask chaps about their climaxes, they’d probably give you something like: It was awesome man, I sprayed it all over her chest!

Dude, Where’s My Orgasm?

When a woman regularly fails to climax with a partner, she begins to tell herself that orgasms aren’t really important – that they’re really not that big of a deal, and that she can conveniently do without it.

Let me tell you here, that no matter what women tell themselves, ORGASM MATTERS. After a certain point of arousal, orgasm becomes necessary. But when they like the guy, women have that tendency to rationalize and excuse the man. (And women have doctorate degrees for that.) They can invent any reason under the sun:

“Maybe he was just not in his element tonight…and the 15 other freakin’ nights.”
“He kisses really good! Love it!”
“I can do without the orgasms. What’s important for me is the closeness.”
“He pays the bills.”
“It’s the alcohol… I think”
“What’s an orgasm?”

Climaxes do matter for sanity’s sake. But, do you know how a woman gets through an orgasm-less affair?

It’s the hope of masturbation. “I can touch myself later, anyway,” she would say. Since she knows her body best, she can easily give herself the most powerful and sensational climaxes.

But She Likes It Better With You

But here’s the thing. Even if that’s the case, even if women can help themselves whenever they want, they also know that climaxes feel better when experienced with you. Orgasms are just different when you’re there. They become more meaningful, more intimate. Having a warm body near, as her own convulses with pleasure, makes the experience more striking and memorable.

Easy orgasms, in the comforts of her cold and lonely apartment, even though intensely satisfying, won’t compare to those she shares with the guy she’s really into. The climaxes she shares with you are at a premium.

But how can she orgasm when the so-called “man of her dreams” doesn’t know squat about her plumbing? How can she peak when he’s too busy putting the wrong moves on her, thinking those will get her off? And how would she feel when she’s left hanging, not just once, but OVER & OVER?

What Happens When You Don’t Give It To Her

Miss it once or twice, she’ll forgive you. She’ll excuse you and rationalize the absence of orgasms. Miss it all the time, and she’s on your case. Over time, she’ll feel cheated, robbed or short-changed – especially when she sees her man ejaculate big time.

It gets very unnerving when the pattern becomes: He gets off, she doesn’t. It’s like a sexual rip-off and a big let down. No wonder many become cold, closed and lose interest over time. How would you feel if you engage in intercourse, all the while knowing you’re going to get worked up but are not going to orgasm anyway? Doesn’t that make it more of a job?

You might have noticed how after a disappointing round, women become really irritable, mean, sad or resentful. And boy, do they have ways of getting even. They could take it out on your unsuspecting credit card or your newly polished car. Or they can simply be bitchy at the most ill of times. The saying, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” comes to mind.

Because as you already know, a woman doesn’t draw a clear distinction between what happens inside the bedroom and outside. Men easily dissociate the two, she sees them closely related.

So, why should you care if she has an orgasm or not?

Simply because it affects how easily you can score next time… or if at all!

How To Make A Woman Orgasm Fast

By lloydlester

An orgasm is sometimes hard to come by for a woman. But if you know what you’re doing, you can make her orgasm incredibly FAST! Here’s how!

Most guys are clueless when it comes to making sure their women are actually having orgasms during sex. Not only is the female anatomy a mystery to most men, but to compound the problem, many women actually fake orgasms in front of their male partners.

That is enough to drive most men into embarrassment. But you can ease your worries and make sure that she is having REAL orgasms every time you have sex and make them happen in a hurry too.

Nipple Adoration

Women love stimulation to their nipples – one of the most erogenous zones on their bodies. It can make a woman quiver in anticipation for more, especially when skilled stimulation can cause incredible sensations to shoot from her nipples right down to her clitoris. You’ve probably heard about women who have breast orgasms simply through intense arousal brought on by this type of stimulation.

So pay close attention to this part of her body. Pinch her nipples lightly. You can also use your teeth (very lightly of course!) when you take each bud into your mouth to send her temperatures soaring very quickly.

Clitoral Delight

The penis has two primary functions – for sex and urination. The clitoris has only ONE purpose – to give a woman an orgasm. So make sure you give her clitoris your attention during sex – but only after you have gotten her highly aroused with adequate foreplay (the above nipple stimulation move will help you greatly too!).

Start stimulating her two clitoral hoods at the sides with your thumb and index finger, before slowly moving in towards her clitoris and stimulating it with your finger or tongue in a circular motion. But don’t just stop there, though (the next tip will blow her into orgasmic heavens).

G-Spot Orgasm Bliss

Most men are unaware of this, but a woman’s G-spot is actually located very close to her vaginal opening. A well-stimulated G-spot can give a woman a vaginal orgasm that is infinitely more satisfying than a clitoral climax.

You should lubricate your fingers before locating this tender flesh that is about two inches into her vagina (near her pelvis) and making a “come here” motion using your index or middle finger. This will make her G-spot swell much bigger – a sign that she is extremely aroused and ready for the big “O”. Keep the stimulation constant until she grips the sheets in utter delight.

These 3 tantalizing moves pack a wallop when used together. Learn and practice them well until you have her reaching for the stars during sex!

5 Stages Of Female Orgasm

By loveandsex

The female orgasm is quite different from the male’s. Here’s the female orgasm broken down stage by stage.

The famous sex researchers, William Masters and Virginia Johnson, were the first to outline the four stages of sexual response in human beings. These stages apply to both men and women, but each gender experiences the stages differently. Men typically race through the stages faster than women do. But in some situations, women may be ready for orgasm much faster than a man.

Let’s take a look at each of the stages as they occur in women and how to know when your partner is ready for the next stage.

Female Orgasm Stage 1 – Excitement

This is one of the easiest stages to reach for both men and women. Just smelling your cologne or having your hand brush against her breasts can excite a woman. She can become excited by fantasizing about sexual encounters or by flirting with you during dinner. In fact, during the average date, women may become excited ten to fifteen times. Most of those times do not lead to the next level, however. The female body responds to this stage in very specific ways.

Let’s go through some of those physical signs of excitement:

Her nipples become erect.
Her vagina starts becoming lubricated.
Her clitoris begins to swell and grow larger.
The inner parts of her vagina begin to expand.
Her breasts may even increase in size if she becomes highly aroused.

These are not the only physical signs, but these are probably the ones you or her may notice. Notice that during this early stage, her vagina is already becoming lubricated. Many men have the mistaken notion that this is a sign that a woman is ready to engage in intercourse. That is not the case. A lubricated vagina only means a woman is aroused. All of these signs do suggest, however, that her body is preparing for the possibility of sex.

Female Orgasm Stage 2 – Plateau

This second stage does not occur as frequently as the arousal or excitement stage. In fact, most incidents of arousal never reach this level. So when does a woman reach this level? Well, she will require more physical stimulation. Foreplay, for example, will help her move to this stage, so does increased fantasizing. During this stage, sexual tension inside her body is growing. More physical signs also accompany this stage.

A few of those signs are listed below:

Breasts may increase noticeably in size.
The vagina swells and the vaginal opening begins to narrow.
The clitoris becomes more erect.
Her heartbeat may increase noticeably.
The color of the labia minora will change from pink to either red or wine in color.

This final physical sign is very important. Researchers have found that if the color change does not occur, then women rarely have a female orgasm. About one-half to three-fourths of women also experience what is termed a “sex flush” on parts of their body. The increased blood flow to the skin sometimes gives the appearance of a flush over the chest or other parts of the body.

During the plateau stage, the woman’s body is becoming ready for intercourse. Only near the end of this stage is she physically ready for vaginal intercourse.

Female Orgasm Stage 3 – Climax

All of those women who fake female orgasm end up continually jumping from the second to the fourth stage of sexual response. After her body is truly ready for intercourse and if she is receiving the proper stimulation – usually clitoral – then it does not take long for her to reach the third stage.

Below are some of the physical effects your partner will experience during this stage. Some of these should be noticeable by you and a couple are impossible for her to fake, so if you really want to know whether you are making her climax or not, pay attention to the physical signs.

Muscle contractions: Intense muscle contractions through the pelvic area will occur during the orgasm. A woman can have three to fifteen of these contractions depending on the strength of her orgasm. She may also experience muscle contractions in other parts of the body as well.
Most women’s bodies become temporarily rigid at the highest point of their orgasm. This lasts for only a moment, but its something you may notice.
The “sex flush” is another indicator of female orgasm. At this stage, it becomes brighter and more noticeable. It may also have spread to other areas of her body.
Another telltale sign of orgasm in some women is ejaculation. Some women do ejaculate after a female orgasm.

Female Orgasm Stage 4 – Resolution

This is an interesting stage because what happens during it depends on what did not happen before or what is continuing to happen. For example, if a woman successfully completes stage 3, then she may be able to have multiple orgasms. However, if she fails to have an orgasm, then her body will begin to return to normal, but at a slower rate than if she had climaxed first. Many women actually report physical discomfort in the pelvic area during this process—similar to the discomfort men experience when they come close to climaxing but then fail to do so.

During the resolution stage, a woman’s breasts and nipples can be incredibly sensitive. In fact, they can be so sensitive that touching them is uncomfortable for her. This is important to remember, because if you have not climaxed yet, you will want to refrain from any aggressive fondling of her breasts to reach your own orgasm.

After the last orgasm, the “sex flush” will disappear. Also, your partner may experience heavy sweating, rapid heart beating, and/or heavy breathing. The resolution stage marks the end of the cycle of sexual desire and arousal for women.

Female Orgasm Stage 5 – Multiple Orgasms & Sexual Response Cycle

Many women are capable of having multiple orgasms. In fact, they are more common than researchers initially believed. Any time a woman has an orgasm she is capable of having another one if proper stimulation is continued. What’s interesting about multiple orgasms in women is that they don’t have to repeat the entire cycle to achieve another orgasm. Once they are in the area between the third and fourth stages, their bodies are highly receptive to orgasm.