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Sex Games: How To Develop An Alter Ego For Sexy Roleplay

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Sex games can be a lot of fun and they can definitely help spice up your sex life. If your sex life is in a rut, you can use role play and sex games to bring the spark back between you and your lover. Role play allows you to let go of your public persona and inhibitions, while taking on a fun, sexy persona. In the bedroom, you can be whoever you want to be! Here’s how you can let your inner vixen out with some sexy role play!

Domination Vs. Submission

Very few people enjoy both domination and submission, so it’s safe to say you generally like one or the other. Now, domination and submission doesn’t always involve BDSM or sex escapades that are really out there. You can definitely experiment with dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom without getting too crazy.

Are You A Dominant Personality?

Think about what turns you on – do you like being in a position of power over your partner? Do you like to tell your partner what to do to you? If so, you may have a dominant personality. If you know you have a little bit of a dominant personality, take it a step further in the bedroom and really bring out your alter ego. No, you don’t have to bring out the whips and chains. Here are some easy ways to experiment with domination without going too far.

  • Order your partner around. Have them do sexy things for you or to you.
  • Try light spanking. Tell your partner that they’ve been “naughty” and need reprimanding.
  • Experiment with a little bondage. A silk tie makes a great blindfold or impromptu handcuffs. You don’t have to bring out the heavy duty rope to have a little fun with tying your partner up or taking away their sense of sight.

Are You A Submissive Personality?

If the idea of being dominant over your partner just doesn’t do it for you, but the idea of them being a little dominant over you intrigues you, you may be more of a submissive personality. Think about receiving a spanking from your lover or having your lover tell you what to do to them. Does it turn you on? If the idea sparks some interest but you’ve never tried it before, here are some ways to start to bring out your submissive personality.

  • Tell your partner that you’ve been very, very “bad” and need to be reprimanded. See if they catch your drift.
  • Let your partner gently tie your hands behind your back while they tease you, leaving you helpless to stop what they’re doing to you.
  • Get on your hands and knees in front of your partner. Crawl towards him slowly before unzipping his pants for a blowjob.
  • Let your partner use sex toys on you. This can be even more fun with a blindfold because you’re not sure what they’re going to use next!

Playing Pretend

You may think that playing pretend is for kids, but you can turn it into sex games to make it a more adult activity. Think about different roles that would work with your inner personality. For example:

Fun Role Play For A Dominant Personality

  • Have your partner be a “dog” while you be the owner. This is a great role to use when you want your partner to perform oral sex on you.
  • Act out a teacher/student fantasy. Give your partner a test and then tell them that they failed it and you need to “tutor” them on how to do it correctly.
  • Be a dirty cop. “Arrest” your partner for a crime and keep them hostage until they “earn” their way to freedom.
  • Try being a sexy nurse. Have your partner assume the role of a wounded patient that needs your immediate “medical” attention.
  • Capitalize on the recent craze in vampires and approach your partner wearing a pair of sexy fangs. Let them know you’re not out to suck their blood though – and you can prove it by showing them what you do want to suck on!

Fun Role Play For A Submissive Personality

  • Act as a French maid, or a maid of any kind. Clean up after your partner, or “serve” them sexually.
  • Try adopting the personality of a “school girl.” This can be with or without an outfit, but an outfit will make you look and feel more submissive to your lover in this role.
  • Look for a Princess Leia slave costume and act out the role with your partner. Surprisingly, a ton of guys – especially Star Wars fans – dig this sex fantasy.
  • Have your partner act out the part of a sexy firefighter that rescues you from a burning building or from being trapped in a car.
  • Don an Indian girl costume and have your partner assume the role of “John Smith.”
  • Be Little Red Riding Hood while your partner acts as  the wolf – and completely takes you over.

Bring In Costumes

While you may feel a little shy about wearing a sexy costume, but even just a few props can make the role play feel more realistic and be a lot more fun! Even home made costumes can really make a difference! Consider getting a few things to make your role play more fun, such as a red cloak to be Little Red Riding Hood or a sexy police costume to act out the role of a dirty cop. If you can’t get your hands on an adult costume, here are some easy things you can grab from your house and turn into a sexy prop:

  • A white dress shirt can be tied at the waist and paired with a skirt for a “sexy school girl” outfit.
  • A bikini with a few silk ivy leaves glued to it can easily make a sexy “Eve” costume for an Adam and Eve role play.
  • A cut up sheet can suffice as a Pocahontas or Indian outfit.
  • Check out thrift stores in your area – you’ll be surprised at what you can find if you use your imagination!

8 Ways To Prevent UTI’s During Sex

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Sex can often cause urinary tract infections for both guys and girls. Urinary tract infections happen when bacteria or fungi get into the urethra and these infections can be uncomfortable or painful. When severe, UTI’s can cause extreme pain, bleeding and the inability to urinate. Here’s how to protect yourself -and your partner – from UTI’s during sex.

Drink Lots Of Water

Make sure you and your partner are drinking enough water every day. The body is about 70% water, so each person requires roughly eight or so glasses of water a day. A glass is about 8 oz. – so it’s safe to say that a lot of people don’t get enough water. Replacing drinking water with drinking soda, sweet tea or any other sugary or caffeinated drink can definitely contribute to a UTI.

Bathe Before And After Sex

This is probably one of the best things you can do to help prevent getting a UTI during sex. Both men and women naturally harbor bacteria all over the body, however, it’s not necessarily the kind of bacteria you want to introduce to your genitals during intercourse. Hot, sweaty sex (the good kind) can definitely create a breeding ground for bacteria and contribute to urinary tract infections. Simply make a shower before sex part of foreplay – and make sure you wash up afterwards as well.

Women: Be Careful What You Use Down There

Scented lotions, sprays and soaps can irritate the delicate tissues of the vagina, which can lead to an infection. Even products that are designed for use in, on or around the genitals – such as douches or feminine deodorant sprays – can irritate the vagina if there are any chemicals, soaps or perfumes in the products. Avoid douching, and stick to using only plain, unscented soap during showers or baths. You may also want to take showers instead of baths, as bacteria and fungus in the bathwater can easily travel up the urethra.

Wear Cotton Underwear

If you or your partner do not wear cotton panties, briefs or boxers, you may want to switch to wearing cotton only. Any time there is heat and moisture around the genitals, it can cause bacteria to breed. Cotton fabric allows moisture to evaporate through the fabric, while other fabrics (such as polyester or lingerie items) can trap moisture near the genitals.

Change Sex Positions

Sex positions where the penis rubs up against the urethra – such as missionary or girl on top sex positions – can also cause urinary tract infections. This is because the friction during sex actually pushes more bacteria up the urethra. Instead, try sex positions that don’t involve the urethra, such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl.

Urinate After Sex

Make sure that along with showering after sex (or having sex in the shower!) that you also urinate immediately after having sex. This will help flush out any bacterial or fungus that was pushed into the urethra during intercourse. While this isn’t going to completely prevent UTI’s from ever happening, it can certainly help reduce the occurrence of a UTI or at least make the UTI less intense and easier to treat if you do get one.

Pay Attention To Your Sensitivities To Condoms And Spermicides

Spermicide and condoms with lube or spermicides can also help contribute to urinary tract infections if you’re a fairly sensitive person. This can happen to both men and women, although, it is more common for women to get UTI’s from intercourse, condoms and spermicides. When you try a new product, make sure you aren’t using anything else new at the time. For example, don’t try out a new lube and a new condom at the same time.

This is because if you find that you have a sensitivity to the product, you’re not going to be able to tell which one it is. Introduce each new item alone and pay attention to your reaction to it. If you’re sensitive to it or get a UTI, try something else until you find something that works with your body chemistry. There are lots of lubes that are available for sensitive skin!

Increase Your Vitamin C Intake

Extra vitamin C will help adjust the pH in your bladder and urethra, making it difficult for bacteria to actually live there and cause an infection. You can do this by taking simple vitamin C supplements, or by drinking more vitamin C rich juices. If you do choose to go the juice route, make sure that you’re not drinking juices that are packed with sugar, as this can actually make UTI’s worse.

Blow His Mind Tonight Review

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If you want to learn oral sex, Blow His Mind Tonight will teach any woman the skills she needs to give her man the most amazing oral sex he’s ever had! This manual is written for all women who want to explore oral and manual sexual stimulation – from those who are just trying it for the first time to those who have been giving head for a while, but feel they are missing out on the real benefits and nuances. It will give you clear, simple instructions on improving your techniques in both oral sex and manual sex.

The Good

Blow His Mind Tonight is chock full of excellent tips and techniques you can use to please your partner tonight, as well as techniques that you can learn to make you better at oral and manual sex overall. Whether you want to learn mouth exercises that will prime your tongue and lips to give the ultimate pleasure, or you’re an oral sex pro who wants to take it a step further, Blow His Mind Tonight will give you the information you need and much, much more.

The Bad

Women who want to get straight to the point may find the introduction to correct tongue placement and mouth exercises a little bland, but the book is easy enough to navigate through and find what you want to know when you want to know it. Blow His Mind Tonight is a very technique specific book, so if you’re looking for more of a basic manual, you’re not going to find it here.

The Bottom Line

If you want to not only learn how to give a man oral sex and manual sex but also how to get better and better at it, the Blow His Mind Tonight is a great resource full of information you can actually use.

The Full Blow His Mind Tonight Review

Oral sex for a man can be difficult if you’re not sure what to do. The first several – several – pages are devoted specifically to tongue and mouth exercises, but Jessica Perez, the author of Blow His Mind Tonight, gives plenty of detailed instructions so you’ll know you’re doing the exercises right. Although you’ll be very tempted to jump the gun and get to the actual oral sex techniques, try to resist the urge to do so. Just like Kegels, tongue and mouth exercises will do wonders to improve your muscle tone and your ability to give pleasure through contracting and relaxing your mouth and tongue muscles. Even if you’re a seasoned pro at oral sex, regularly exercising your mouth will make you just that much better at it!

Next is a detailed section on oral, vaginal, penile and overall hygiene. Let’s face it – one of the biggest complaints women have about oral sex is that he doesn’t smell or taste very good down there. Jessica teaches you how to clean up before having sex, so everything smells and tastes just dandy.

The real meat of Blow His Mind Tonight is right smack in the middle, where Jessica goes into great detail to teach women how to get started, how to keep going and how to finish him up. She recognizes what makes men tick, and relays that information in an easy to understand way. She touches on many different aspects on how men receive pleasure, and teaches women how to use that to their advantage when giving their partners blowjobs for the first or five hundredth time.

Blow His Mind Tonight then moves into the handjob foray, giving women step by step instructions on the techniques that will drive their men wild. Who knew that there were so many different ways of giving a handjob? After you start employing the techniques found here, your man may never want to masturbate with his own hand again.

Of course, this book wouldn’t be complete without some step by step techniques on oral sex, and if you were looking for an arsenal of different moves, Jessica won’t leave you empty handed. She includes ways to keep yourself comfortable so you can see oral sex through to the end, and even discusses how to discreetly handle his finish. You’ll find that both the beginner and advanced techniques are easy enough to do, and you’ll be surprised at just how simple giving great oral sex can be when you’ve got an armload full of techniques to use.

For premature ejaculators, there is a section for him to read that gives him information on how to build up stamina and last longer in the bedroom. Jessica also gives you tricks you can use with different foods, including frozen blueberries, peppermints and hot tea to make giving oral sex even better for both you and him.

Along with the incredible Blow His Mind Tonight book, you’ll also get some special extras, which really add to the book’s value.

Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips, Tricks & Techniques

This bonus book is an excellent companion to Blow His Mind Tonight. Let your man read this and soon he’ll learn how to find the g-spot (known as the “female orgasm button,” as well as awesome g-spot sex positions, advanced fingering tips and more. If you’re going to give HIM great orgasms, he should do the same for you!

Top 10 Secrets To Enhance Your Love, Intimacy & Happiness In Your Relationship

No relationship will survive on just great sex alone, although it is certainly icing on the cake. Jessica realizes that intimacy and happiness is just as important as awesome oral sex, and includes a companion book for secrets on how to really get close to your partner. The real gem here in this book is the secret tip on how to get a passive man to take the lead and become the alpha male!

Top 10 Secrets To Attract, Catch & Keep A Man… Have The Relationship That YOU Want

If you’re not in a relationship, you’ll find this book extremely useful! Jessica gives you 10 simple yet powerful secrets on how to attract AND keep a man! You can use these tips on all men, and they’re especially effective for men who are distant emotionally or very withdrawn. Get them out of their shell and into a great relationship – with YOU!

Love Signs: Astrology & Love Advice For Women

No, this is not your typical love astrology book. Most couples who are together haven’t even paid attention to their love signs, let alone whether they were a “match” before they got together. However, these signs play an important part in your relationship and this book will explain to you why. It also includes some secrets on how to be happy with your partner, even if your signs are incompatible!

The Sex God Method Review

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The Sex God Method, authored by Daniel Rose, is a complete and comprehensive guide to a dominant style of sexual mastery. The ideas presented in this book are not a collection of nifty tricks and techniques, but rather an entire system designed to turn you from a sexual dud to a confident and dominant sex god.

The Good

This guide has some great tips on going “outside the box” to please your partner. If you’re seeking to become a master of sex who can give a woman an orgasm so good it makes her curl her toes and claw at the headboard, this is the book for you. While this book does contain many suggestions that would be considered controversial by some, Daniel’s unconventional approach to great sex definitely has potential if used wisely. If you’re seeking a book that truly gives you a method on how to become a sex god, rather than simply a collection of little “tips or tricks” to improve your sex life, you’ll find this book very useful.

The Bad

Daniel suggests that women desire a very strong, alpha type male. While there is definitely some truth to this, there is no information in the Sex God Method on how to please women who enjoy being dominant themselves. Both submissive and dominant women exist, but the important part is finding a woman who is compatible with your sexual attitude, whether you want to be in control or you want her to have the reigns. Many of the suggestions within the Sex God Method are very controversial, and may be better suited for couples that are in committed, trusting relationships rather than couples who haven’t been dating long or are just going on the first few dates.

The Bottom Line

When keeping in mind that the Sex God Method touches on some very opinionated topics, you’ll find some excellent tips on dirty talk and how to be a dominant lover. There are many women who enjoy a very strong, dominant type of man, and Daniel does a great job of educating the reader on how to appeal to this specific type of woman. If your partner really enjoys being in a submissive type role (even if only once in awhile for fun), you’ll find that Daniel’s suggestions are fresh and creative. Men who don’t wish to be dominant with their partners, or who are uncomfortable in the “alpha male” role will still find that the Sex God Method has lots of great information, although, it should be modified to fit your lifestyle and you and your partner’s comfort levels.

The Full Sex God Method Review

Daniel Rose, author of the Sex God Method, begins the book with his own story of geek-turned-sex-god. He begins with a very enlightening tale of a man who takes his six to eight hours of video gaming and turns it into six to eight hours of straight sex with his girlfriends (yes, more than one) and he aims to convince that even the most hardcore geek can turn into a sex machine and have women lined up at the door, begging for sex. After his transformation, Daniel suggests that all he had time for with his three girlfriends was nothing but sex! Daniel’s story will boost the confidence of even the most down-on-himself guy and will show him exactly what he needs to do to follow the path of becoming a total sex god.

The book moves into a criticism of several types of guys who just don’t seem to enjoy sex very much at all, including the Emotionless Robot and the Bedroom Technician. If you’re one of these types of guys who doesn’t get a lot of sex or enjoys sex only because he’s having sex, you’ll find that the next chapter tells you exactly how you can become a dominant master of sex with the Four Elements Of The Sex God System.

Daniel’s story of wildly passionate, forceful and powerfully pleasurable sex illustrates that some women really do enjoy dominant men, even past the point of pain. While you may not want to cause your partner direct pain when dominating her, the moral of the story here shows you just how much you can really do with a woman if you have the right attitude. Next, Daniel gives out some sage advice that all types of people can use, whether you’re with a woman who likes dominant men or not. He explains why an emotional connection and allowing yourself to let go during sex are extremely critical in being good at sex. Holding back your ability to let sex completely overwhelm you in the moment will only serve to make sex lukewarm for both you and your partner.

The next chapter, and possibly the remainder of Sex God Method, touches on several controversial topics. These suggestions can be taken literally if your partner truly desires to be in a submissive or even masochistic role, or they can be modified to fit you and your partner’s personalities and desires. If your partner does desire to be manhandled, and you desire to manhandle her, you will find lots of interesting ways to pleasure your partner and assert your sexual dominance in the bedroom. A section on dirty talk follows, which gives excellent samples of how to talk dirty (yet still in a dominant way) to your woman.

Perhaps the most touchy subject within the Sex God Method is the section on emotional dominance over your partner. While some women do enjoy being submissive to their partners in every way, including emotionally, many more women enjoy being on the same level as their partner in this respect. In this section, however, reading between the lines gives you excellent information no matter who you are or what you and your partner like or don’t like. Daniel suggests that men need to be emotionally available to their partners and let them know how they feel, without fear of rejection. This will serve to work in your favor, as your partner will be able to emotionally connect with you as well and sex becomes that much more powerful and pleasurable.

All in all, the Sex God Method guide’s salty topics can be broken down into one simple message, and the true secret to becoming a sex god. Having a smaller penis or believing that you don’t have the sex skills to please a woman isn’t the key to sexual mastery, but rather, sexual confidence is.

7 Ways You Can Increase Your Sex Drive NATURALLY!

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Sex doesn’t always stay hot, especially in a steady, long term relationship. But that doesn’t mean you have to get an Rx from your doctor just to be able to have regular sex with your partner. Medications like Viagra and even herbal remedies can leave you with unwanted side effects. Instead, boost your libido NATURALLY with these 7 tips.

Drink A Glass Of Wine

A huge reason for any decrease in sex drive for both men and women is stress. In fact, it could definitely be argued that stress is the number one cause for a lack in libido, whether sudden or gradual. A glass of wine or two before hitting the sheets with your partner will help you relax and forget some of the stresses of the day, which is an important part of getting your body and mind ready for sex – especially for women.

Wine also has healthy antioxidants in it that are essential for sexual function – however, it is important that you don’t overdo it on the wine. If you don’t like wine, grab a brew (beer has a few benefits of its own) but stay away from the hard liquor. Don’t have more than one or two drinks, or you may end up making your libido even lower and men who have had too much to drink tend to have problems getting or keeping an erection.

Quit Smoking (If You Smoke)

Smoking cigarettes can deeply affect your sex life, much more than you think it would. Both men and women can experience a reduction in libido due to smoking, most notably because nicotine is a vasoconstrictor – meaning that nicotine causes blood vessels all over the body to shrink. Since reaching orgasm is pretty dependent on blood flow to sexual organs for both guys and girls, smoking cigarettes can either make a person just not feel like having sex (because less blood is getting to the genitals) or have trouble getting to climax.

Smoking cigarettes can also lead to blockages in the arteries of the penis, leading to problems with erectile dysfunction. If you’re a woman who smokes, reaching orgasm can be near impossible, especially for those women who have smoked for many years. Also, women who smoke take longer to conceive when trying to get pregnant than non-smoking women. Do your sex life a favor and put your cigarette out.

Get A Professional Massage

Again, stress is a huge contributor to a decreased libido. Getting a professional massage – whether you’re a man or a woman – can boost your libido by allowing you to de-stress and relax. It also helps physically relax your muscles and even the simple act of being touched by another human being can be enough to re-awaken your body and your sex libido.

If you’d rather have a more erotic massage before having sex, you probably don’t want to book an appointment with a professional masseuse. Instead, light your favorite scented candle, put on some soft music and massage your partner (or have them massage you). Focus on relaxing their body and mind before you let your hands wander to the naughty areas and you get started with foreplay.

Boost Your Self-Esteem

If you have a low self esteem and don’t like the way you look, you’re definitely not going to want to get naked with your lover as often. If you’re really down on yourself (and you may not even realize it), think about what it is you don’t like about yourself. Are you overweight? Would you rather have a more toned stomach or tighter thighs and glutes? If that’s the case, go exercise! Exercise will not only help you get in shape and raise your self esteem, it will also pump powerful endorphins through your body that actually help contribute to sexual arousal all by themselves.

You can also boost your self esteem with simple things like a spray tan, a haircut, a new outfit or even a Brazilian wax. Think about what you could do personally to build your own self esteem, go do it! You’ll notice that you feel more confident afterwards and feeling great about yourself leads to great things in the bedroom!

Have A Heart To Heart With Your Partner

Women need to be emotionally and physically turned on to really want to have sex. If a woman isn’t feeling emotionally connected to her partner, she’s not going to want to have sex with him as often, if at all. If there are relationship issues at all, they definitely could be contributing not only to your partner not wanting to have sex with you, but you’ll also feel less like having sex if you’re fighting with your partner.

If you’re having relationship problems, sit down and have a heart to heart discussion with them. Go to couples counseling if you need to. Forgive things that you need to forgive and see your partner’s point of view. Do what it takes to work out your issues and when you do, you’ll notice a huge jump in how often you have sex – and how good it is!

Try Yoga

Yoga, like any exercise, will help promote  blood flow to your body – including those parts responsible for great sex and excellent orgasms – and increasing blood flow throughout your body will heighten your libido in a number of ways. You’ll feel better and have more energy for sex, you’ll feel more confident and sexy, you’ll be more flexible and can get in different sex positions, and overall you’ll feel better all over.

If yoga isn’t your thing, try Pilates or even simple stretching exercises. If you’re not an active person, just start walking. Walk to your mailbox and back, and make it a little farther each time you go. Committing to exercise will help you feel healthier and sexier, and will help improve your sex life more than you would think!

Check What Medications You’re On

There are lots of medications that can contribute to a low libido or even problems having an orgasm or getting and keeping an erection. However, it’s hard to tell which medications may be contributing to your sex problems and it can be especially difficult to narrow down the culprit if you’re taking more than a few medications – and this even includes herbs and supplements! If you’re concerned that a medication you’re taking might be contributing to a low libido or erectile dysfunction, make an appointment with your doctor. Never stop taking any medications without checking with your doctor first!

Some medications that cause sexual dysfunction aren’t going to be ones that you can come off of – like heart disease, mental health and diabetes medications. If this is the case, talk to your doctor about your alternatives. However, if you ARE able to get off one or more medications that are known to reduce sex drive, you’ll notice a jump in your libido!