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7 Ways To Be A Naughty, Dirty Girl – And Drive Him Wild!

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When it comes to sex, every guy wants a naughty girl in bed – even if he insists you act like a lady in public (and he probably does). You’ve probably heard of the phrase, “a lady in the living room and a freak in the bedroom.” Here are seven ways to let your inner dirty girl out and surprise him with these salacious moves that will have him all but tearing your clothes off.

Give Him Oral Sex – While He’s On The Phone

Next time he’s on the phone with his boss or a business partner, surprise him by unzipping his pants and giving him an impromptu blowjob. He’ll love the unexpectedness of it, and it will definitely be difficult for him to hide his pleasure on the phone. In fact, his inability to concentrate on what he’s saying to the person on the other end of the phone is part of what makes this daring move oh-so-sexy. Just keep your cool when he’s on the phone with his mother – that could be creepy.

Wear A Wig To Bed

Almost every guy dreams of getting the green light from his girl to get it on with another woman, even if he is committed to being completely monogamous. Indulge his fantasies by purchasing a wig (and a new outfit if you have the funds) and wearing it to bed. If he likes Asian girls, try slipping on a short, dark bob with bangs. If he likes redheads, grab the fieriest one you can find. He’ll love the idea of going to bed with “someone else.”

Bend Over And Let Him Take You – When He Least Expects It

When you’re feeling a little frisky and you and your man are alone, bend over and tell him to take you from behind. If you do this out of nowhere, when he least expects it, it will make him hotter than blacktop in August. Take his hand and lead him to the couch, the washer or the kitchen table (anywhere but the bedroom ups the naughty factor) and allow him to slip your panties off as you bend over for some doggy style lovin’.

Surprise Him With Naughty Pictures Of You

We know that guys are visual creatures – but even with all that porn he watches, what he really wants to see is you. Grab your digital camera and have a friend snap a few pics of your goods for your man to marvel when he’s alone. You can also do it yourself if you’re really shy – but honestly, having someone else take the photos will give you a much, much better end result.

If you have the money and are comfortable being nude in front of a professional, spring for some high end nude photos done by a professional photographer. A professional will make the lighting just right (which is super important for hiding flaws) and make sure the photos are taken at just the right angle. Any blemishes or imperfections can also be edited out. Professional is the way to go if you really want to give him a sultry, sexy keepsake gift. However, any nude photos of you will be enough to fuel his masturbatory fantasies for weeks.

Let Him Wrestle You Into Bed

Next time you and your love are getting ready to do it, give him a “hint” that you’re going to pretend that you actually don’t want to do it. Giving him a hint ahead of time is important, because he may get the wrong signal if you just pretend not to want it. Tell him that you want him to be a little forceful when wrestling you into bed as you squirm and try to get away. Then he can pin your hands or tie them up (if you like bondage) as he has his way with you.

This plays into the “rape” fantasy somewhat, but you and your partner definitely don’t have to take it so far as to make it feel like actual rape. A little bit of resistance from you and a little bit of force from him is all it takes to make you and your man feel like you’re doing something really taboo and naughty.

Let Him Catch You Masturbating – Then Ask Him To Join The Fun

Start masturbating just a few minutes before he gets home from work – just long enough to get yourself really aroused and ready for sex, but not long enough to actually give yourself an orgasm. Leave the bedroom door cracked open (or do it on the couch where he’ll see you full on as soon as he walks in – if you’re really brave) and make some noise so he doesn’t have to wonder what you’re doing in there for long.

When he “catches” you doing your thing, let him watch for a few minutes and then ask him to join in and finish you off. He’ll be more than happy to oblige!

Take Off Your Panties – In Public

When you and your love are out on a date, head to the bathroom to “freshen up.” In the bathroom, remove your panties and slip them into your purse. You will of course, want to make sure that you either bought or wore special panties for the occasion – “granny panties” just won’t do. When you head back to your table, make sure you make eye contact with your man and give him a big, naughty smile.

He’ll wonder what you were up to in there and when the waiter isn’t looking, slip him your panties under the table. Whisper in his ear that you’re not wearing anything now. Tell him that he turned you on so much that your panties were too wet to wear anymore. Bonus points if you can make it believable by rubbing your clitoris and actually getting yourself wet in the bathroom before you slip your panties off.

6 Interesting Role Play Sex Games That You Haven’t Done

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Role play and sex games can be so much fun, but many of them have been played out. Doctor and patient, French maid and even dirty cop have been done over and over again and honestly, where’s the excitement in that? Here are seven role play sex games you probably have never tried! These will not only surprise your man, but give him something to fantasize about for weeks!

1. Photographer & Model

This is a fun one that you don’t really need any costumes, lingerie or props for, unless you want them. All you need is a camera and whether it’s on your phone, a fancy digital camera or a crappy webcam, you can still have tons of fun with this role play game. Take turns switching between the photographer and model roles, so each of you gets to take pictures of the other. Come up with sexy poses, or take close ups of your lover’s most intimate areas.

Have a blast looking over the photos afterwards – you can even run them through a free online photo editor if you don’t have one installed on your computer to make them look even better. Delete them or keep them, it doesn’t matter. Bonus points if you have a timer and a tripod and can do photos of you and your partner together. 

2. New Age Artist

Get some body paints (edible or not, depending on what you’d like to do with them) and pretend you’re a new age artist whose canvas is your lover’s naked body. Don’t be afraid to get really into your role play and create a real work of art. If you’re actually really artistic, all the better! You can even take photos of your work and bring a bit of the photographer/model sex game into this if you like. If your body paints are edible, have fun licking them off! Don’t forget to let your partner paint you as well.

3. Mermaid Fantasy

Any guy who has ever seen Daryl Hannah in the 1980’s movie Splash has a mermaid fantasy – guaranteed. Play up on this by either renting or buying a mermaid costume. Curl your hair with loose waves (or crimp it like Daryl Hannah’s – hey, it was the 80’s, remember?) and throw some beads or seashells in there if you can. Body glitter is also great for this too – use your imagination to create a really ethereal mermaid look.

This is also an excellent bathtub sex game, but if you’ve done a lot of work on your hair and makeup, you’ll probably want to engage in a fair amount of foreplay and fun before you get soaking wet.

4. Vampire & Prey

No, this is not the kind of sex game where you beg your partner to don orange-gold contacts, body glitter and suck on ice before he kisses you. Although if your partner is into that, go for it. A real vampire/prey role play borders a little bit on the BDSM side, and can easily become an excellent game of domination if you’re into that kind of thing.

Dress the part with black clothes and smoky dark makeup. A really pouty mouth with fire engine red lipstick will complete the look if you can pull it off. Or, if your partner would rather be dominant, let him get his Bram Stoker on and you play the helpless victim. However, if you plan on doing any real biting or bloodletting, make sure you observe some safety precautions first.

5. Storybook Characters

Many guys have a bit of a fetish for storybook characters like little red riding hood or many of the Disney Princesses. Seriously though, who didn’t think that Princess Jasmine was totally hot in Aladdin – especially in her slave-to-Jafar outfit? The Princess Leia slave outfit is also a HUGE fantasy among many guys. Let the princess inside you out and dress up in your man’s favorite character. Don’t be afraid to lay it on thick either!

Military/Drill Sergeant

Again, this is an excellent role play when you want to incorporate some submission and domination. You can often find old military clothes at surplus outlets or warehouses, and they’re often pretty inexpensive. Have fun ordering your man to do push ups for you, or other naughty things like perform oral sex on you. If you like to be the submissive one, let your partner have fun ordering you around! Bonus points if you can “roll around in the grass” and get a little dirty too.

How to Finger A Girl

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There’s a real, hot sexiness to being able to bring your woman to a climax by just using your fingers.

Consider the fact that her body is – literally – under the command of your fingers and that you are able to WATCH her intently as you bring her to writhing pleasure.

Now, isn’t that sexy and hot?

Here are some tips on how to finger a girl:

Pre-Fingering Foreplay

Surprisingly, not all women like to be fingered by their lovers. This can be due to many reasons such as issues about hygiene, trust and may be even fear.

If your partner has some of these issues, it may be wise to pre-discuss the topic of fingering beforehand just to ensure that she’s at least open to the idea of it happening. Otherwise, you can slowly introduce fingering as you make love.

But before that, here’s rule No. 1: engage in foreplay! Foreplay ensures that you and your partner are in the right sexual frame of mind and body needs, making her just possibly a bit more open to being fingered.

Explore The Landscape Gently

If this is your first time to finger her, then ensure that you do everything you can to avoid any hang ups. For instance, ensure that your nails are cut and that your hands are clean (takes care of the issue of hygiene).

But more importantly, be gentle in your finger exploration. A woman’s body is all warmness and softness, right? As such, don’t go in there like an excited teenager. Instead, be respectful of her body as you go in and explore.

Also, using your fingers to simulate a woman’s genitals is not just about insertion. Be sure you pay attention to her labia (genital lips) and clitoris too.

Experiment With Different Textures, Pressures, And Movements

Not all parts of a woman’s genital area can be stimulated in the exact same way. For instance, a lot of women like their labia to be gently caressed, their clitoris to be rubbed and their G-spots to be tapped.

Now – again – not all women are the same so find the right combination that your lover finds the most sexually stimulating. And of course, as you try all these different sexual stimulation combos, don’t forget to pay attention to her! Moaning is good, jerking is not.

Time Is Of No Consequence

Don’t go about fingering your woman with a certain time frame in mind. You may ‘hit the jackpot’ right away, maybe not. Just give both yourselves time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the journey is as good as the destination.

How To Deal With Fingering Fatigue

In the course of your exploration, you might find yourself getting a tad tired but don’t give up and especially, don’t just stop and leave your lover in the cold! If you’re feeling a bit tired, try any of these: switch hands if you can, stop finger stimulation and go oral for a few minutes, stop finger stimulation and use a sex toy for a while, and others.

More Tips on How To Finger A Girl

  1. Lube, anyone? Finger stimulation works best if your partner is really wet. If not, ensure you have a healthy backup of lube ready for use.
  2. Learn and be a voyeur at the same time. Not sure how to please her down there? If so, ask her to masturbate in front of you so that you learn how to pleasure her exactly the way she wants it.
  3. Learn when to stop. As you become more and more enthralled about bringing your lover to an orgasm just by using your fingers, it’s equally important to know when to stop trying. Too much friction can actually numb her genitals and when that occurs, reaching a climax is almost next to impossible so better stop now… and start again another day.
  4. Learn effective fingering techniques! Head over to the link below to learn 2 step-by-step “Advanced Fingering Techniques” to bring your lover to multiple escalating orgasms.

What’s The Best Time To Have Sex?

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When I was younger, the only answer I could think of when the question “what’s the best time to have sex” crops up is “during my period when it’s impossible to get pregnant. But now, with the adult working knowledge I have of safe sex practices, my answer to the same question has changed. Now, it’s “when we both feel like having sex.”

However, you know that the “mood” seldom comes simultaneously for you and your man during a normal workweek because there’s so much stuff to think about. On Monday, you have chores after work. On Tuesday, you have to do overtime. Before you know it, the weekend has rolled in and all you want to do is rest.

Here’s the thing – you have to make time for sex. Sex can keep you emotionally grounded and physically intimate with your partner. How do you find time to make love? Here are some tips!

Early In The Morning

Set your alarm clock an hour or so earlier than usual and spend thirty minutes pleasuring each other before you go to work. Make the early mornings your “sex time,” or at least your “foreplay time” so that you spend the day full of thoughts about your special someone, and you’re raring for more when night time comes.

On Friday Night

Unwind with your partner by having leisurely sex on Fridays. You are more relaxed because you know there is no need to go to the office the next day. In addition, you can ravish your partner all you want because he is looking for a way to de-stress, and you have the right skills to help him do just that. Give him a blowjob while he is recounting the events that happened during the week.

On Sunday Afternoon

Sundays are often devoted to sports, but that does not mean he always has to have his friends around to keep him company while he is watching the game. You can tell him to watch the game in your bedroom and you can blow or fondle him during the most exciting part of the game. Chances are, he’s going to want sex immediately after the game to celebrate the win (if his team won), or to let off some steam (if his team lost).

There are always some strategies you can try to keep the sex going. Plan ahead and take note of the days when he’s not too busy. Do the chores during the weekdays so you will have more free time on weekends. Do not think that just because you’re both busy all the time, it’s impossible to have sweet, leisurely sex.

If you plan your schedule well, you can make time for intimacy and you can have that “WOW!” experience with your partner at least once a week. If you’re instigating intimacy, and he acts like he isn’t in the mood, you can try talking dirty to him or giving him an erotic massage.

Striptease Tips: How To Give Him A Lap Dance He Won’t EVER Forget!

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A striptease can be a super hot gift to give to your guy. Men are almost solely visual creatures and by taking advantage of this, you can really kick your sex life up a notch and get your fella lusting after you like never before. Learn how to give him a lap dance that he will think about for a LONG time!

Song Choice

Song choice is actually very important when it comes to doing a striptease. You want to choose a song that sounds sexy and makes you think of sex as soon as you hear it, but also one that has a beat that works well with your current dancing skills. If the beat is too fast and you’re not experienced at the art of lap dance, you’re going to look funny doing it. Similarly, if you choose something too slow, you may end up feeling awkward when you end up with several pauses during the striptease. Listen to several songs before you make your selection, and make sure it’s a song that makes you feel sexy. If it doesn’t, you won’t look sexy doing it.

Outfit Choice

Although you’ll definitely be taking your clothes off (it’s a striptease, duh), your outfit choice for the lap dance is also important. You want to choose lingerie that looks good on you, no matter what body type you have. Accentuate the parts of your body that you and your man love (like a killer rack if you’ve got one) and hide the parts you’re shy about – a camisole teddy can hide your tummy if that’s your trouble area, or a pair of sexy stiletto “F-Me” boots will draw his attention away from your thighs.

You may think that perfecting your moves is more important than your outfit choice when it comes to giving a lap dance, but quite the opposite is true. You could actually have quite awkward moves, but if you’re wearing something that looks just right on you and accentuates the good and hides the flaws, you’re going to look a hell of a lot less like you’re dancing like a chicken with your head cut off. Your outfit also plays into your confidence – if you KNOW you look downright delectable, you’re going to feel that way. And you’re moves will be sexier during your striptease without you even having to try.

Watch YouTube Videos

There are a ton of YouTube videos that will show you how to do a striptease or a lap dance and actually watching what to do can be a lot more helpful than reading about standing “X” amount of centimeters from your guy and doing clockwise and counterclockwise hip grinds at a 90 degree angle. A lap dance shouldn’t be that technical! So do a little searching on YouTube and watch how other girls are doing it. You may find some striptease videos made by professionals, but you’ll find a lot more lap dance videos just made by girls who want to show off the goods. Don’t immediately discount these videos! Sure, you may just be watching some chick get her striptease on for her webcam, but some of those girls have some pretty killer moves. Just sayin’.

Practice! (And Consider Recording Yourself Or At Least Watching In A Mirror)

If your beau is away from the home at all, take advantage of ANY time you have alone to practice your moves. Practice makes perfect, and you’ll feel a LOT more comfortable doing a lap dance if you’ve done it by yourself several times first. It may feel awkward to dance for no one, but if you do your striptease for the very first time in front of your partner, you’re going to have way too much pressure on you – and it will most likely turn out to be a big FLOP.

Practice in front of the mirror, so you can actually see what you’re doing. Perhaps a particular move you do looks fab, but you just need to tighten your abs a little bit during that move to take it to the next level and make yourself look even hotter – or maybe you feel great doing a particular move, but it doesn’t translate well when you’re actually watching it. You would never know these things if you didn’t watch your own striptease! Professional exotic dancers do it all the time, and you need to as well. Consider filming yourself too and playing it back. The more you practice your lap dance, the more comfortable you’ll get doing it – and the HOTTER you’ll look when you actually DO it for your lover. If you have enough time to practice and perfect your striptease, your beau will be COMPLETELY surprised at how much you look and act like a PRO!

Grab Your Junk

Don’t be afraid to grab your breasts and squeeze or jiggle them, smack your own ass or even let your hand slip beneath your panties. Touch yourself the way you want him to touch you – but just like in a strip club, he’s not allowed to touch you. Inform him that the rules of the “club” are that the dancers are never to be touched, so he must only watch. Then, grab your own stuff, manhandle yourself, smack your ass, lick your own nipples (if you can) and drive him CRAZY by doing to yourself everything he wishes he could do to you! This is especially helpful if the actual “dancing” part is something you’re not that great at.

Have Confidence

More so than any “move” or “technique” you could do during a striptease, your confidence is what will make your man’s jaw drop. In a line of girls, you could be the WORST dancer, but if you’re confident enough to show off your stuff, you’re going to look way better than the girls who can actually dance but are too chicken to make eye contact. Besides, you’re not going to be dancing in front of your guy with a bunch of other girls. He’s going to be watching YOU and you only.

Make him feel like you’ve got eyes only for him by looking deep into his eyes as you touch your body. Strut your stuff! You’ve practiced, you’re wearing a killer outfit (you probably should do hair and makeup too – some guys dig a dolled up gal and some don’t, but often doing hair and makeup will make you feel even more like a bombshell) and the song you picked just oozes sex. Get it girl, and don’t stop until his eyes look like they’re going to pop out of his head!