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6 Ways To Set Monogamy On Fire

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Sex gets boring when you’re monogamous – but does it have to? Should you resign yourself to lame sex just because you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone? Of course not. Part of the benefits of being in a steady relationship is being comfortable enough with someone to try new things and go a little bit outside your box. Here’s how you can heat up your sex life – tonight.

Take A Break

A lot of couples that are in a sex rut just keep trying to have great sex with each other, but it always ends up being mediocre no matter how hard they try. Instead, remember the quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and apply it to this situation. Plan to take a break from sex all together for a few weeks. This may seem like the exact opposite of what you want to do, but abstaining from sex for a little while will actually make it hotter when you do get back together.

Give A Foot Or Back Rub

No, not an erotic massage. This actually isn’t going to get you sex right away – but it will help your partner to become more open with their bodies and more receptive to your touch. Next time your partner has a hard day at work, grab a little massage oil and give them a great rubdown. Really get into it and do it well. Make it good, and show them that you truly do care for them. This act of complete selflessness and genuine interest in how they feel will help them open up to you sexually.

Pay Compliments

After being in a relationship for awhile, you tend to take your partner for granted. We all do it, but getting too comfortable contributes to a boring sex life. Next time your lover spends a lot of time getting ready, puts on a new outfit or does something out of the ordinary to look good, make sure you pay them a compliment. Let them know you still find them sexy and attractive. Take this a step further and compliment your partner for something completely ordinary. Guys will enjoy a compliment on their hard work or something they’ve fixed while women respond well to compliments on their ideas.

Touch Each Other

Couples who have been together for a significant amount of time find that they don’t touch each other as much. Not necessarily just in the bedroom, but in general. They may avoid brushing up against each other or simply keep their hands to themselves more often. Improve your sex life with your lover just by making an effort to touch them more every day. Hold hands in the car while you’re driving to work or take time for a prolonged hug when you get home. Don’t let a day go by where you don’t touch your partner several times a day, both casually and passionately.

Make Out

Remember when you used to kiss your lover just for the sake of kissing? In fact, you probably kissed for hours without ever thinking of what was going to happen next. Bring that back to life in your current relationship by having a good old fashioned make out session with your lover. Put on a great movie (but maybe something you’ve seen before so you aren’t tempted to get too engrossed in it) and start softly kissing your partner’s neck.

Move to their lips and make it clear that you want to make out. Don’t let things progress past making out or heavy petting. Then, go to bed without ever thinking of having sex or where the kissing will lead. It won’t be long before your lover can’t stand it anymore!

Do Something Taboo

Part of what makes sex boring in a monogamous relationship is that things stop being “taboo.” You start expecting things a certain way and know what’s going to happen next. Shake things up a bit by doing something with your partner that is “taboo” or slightly outside of your box. Instead of doing what you normally do in the bedroom, take it out on the couch or even outside to the yard or in the car. Bring in a new sex toy or try bondage for the first time.

When you’re with someone you completely trust and love, you have the benefit of being able to try new things without the fear of judgement. You can be open and honest about what you like and what you want to try – and the same goes for them. Take advantage of the opportunity and do something with them you’ve never done before!

Can Masturbation Cause A Penis To Break?

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Masturbation is usually harmless and is even healthy for a man’s body and his sex life. But the penis is more delicate than you think – can a penis actually break during masturbation or even during rough sex? Believe it or not – yes! While it’s not exactly like having a broken bone, having a broken penis is a serious and painful condition. Here’s what you need to know and how you can avoid it! [Watch the Video]

What Is A Penile Fracture?

A man’s member doesn’t break in the same sense that a bone would break, because there aren’t any bones in the penis. However, it can fracture and here’s what the Mayo Clinic has to say about it:

During an erection, the penis is engorged with blood. If the penis is bent suddenly or forcefully while it’s engorged, the trauma may rupture the lining of one of the two muscular cylinders in the penis responsible for erections — resulting in a penis fracture.

When The Penis Can Break

The penis can fracture during especially vigorous masturbation, but it can also happen during rough sex or when engaging in awkward sex positions. A man is generally careful with his package, especially since the scrotum and testicles are so sensitive, but it is especially important to be careful with the penis as well.

What Indicates A Fracture?

A fracture isn’t something you’re going to miss or think you “might” have. This is something you (and your partner if you’re having sex) are going to be aware of immediately. A fracture is characterized by a loud “cracking” sound, followed by extreme pain and the immediate loss of erection, as well as a deep, dark bruise that spreads over the area very quickly.

What To Do In The Event Of A Fracture

If you’ve experienced a fracture of the penis during masturbation or during sex, it’s important to seek medical attention immediately. Don’t bother driving yourself to the hospital or even having your partner drive you to the emergency room. In a case like this, you will probably want to dial 911.

A doctor will give you pain medicine right away and will most likely recommend some type of surgery to correct the problem. If you leave a penile fracture alone (but chances are, you’re not going to want to see if it “goes away on it’s own”), it can create more serious problems such as having a malformed penis or experiencing erectile dysfunction – being unable to get or maintain an erection at all.

Don’t be embarassed about going to the doctor or seeking medical attention for a problem like this – your doctor has seen it all before and you’ll be very sorry if you didn’t go get treated just because you were embarrassed.

How To Prevent A Fracture

While some people like rough sex and enjoy the feeling of pain mixed with pleasure, you need to be especially aware of pain during sex. If something hurts, don’t do it! Communicate with your partner and let them know what you like and don’t like – and what feels painful to you. If something starts to hurt, stop immediately and find something else that is fun and pleasurable! Sex toys such as a masturbation sleeve – which is soft and usually made of jelly-like silicone – can feel fantastic and it’s very unlikely that you will get a fracture if you pleasure yourself this way.

More Common Injuries During Masturbation

While penis fractures are actually quite rare, there are more common injuries that can happen during masturbation:

  • Chafing from not using lube. Lube is inexpensive and available almost everywhere. Not only will a good water or silicone based lube help it feel better and give you better orgasms, it will also help keep you from chafing!
  • Skin reactions from using lotions, shampoos and other products not designed for use on the genitals. While it may seem like a good idea to just use the shampoo or soap in the shower when you want to do your business, the fragrances and additives in these products can easily irritate the sensitive skin of the penis. Play it safe and use lube!
  • Bruising or soreness if masturbating very hard. Again, if it hurts, stop! You don’t have to masturbate hard or fast to have a great experience. Go easy on yourself so you don’t hurt anything.
  • Urinary tract infections, especially when using products like lotions or soaps not designed to be using while masturbating. The products can easily get into the urethra through the opening in the head of the penis and can not only burn or irritate the penis, they can also cause nasty infections that require a doctor’s care and a prescription for antibiotics to get rid of. Again, proper lubrication really makes a difference when masturbating.

How To Enhance Your Orgasm – For Men

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An orgasm for men – when they’re by themselves – is often just a “get it done” kind of thing. Guys are used to masturbating quickly, usually because they either grew up afraid to get caught or are still afraid to get caught – and for many guys, it’s a combination of both. Masturbation is a healthy part of any man’s sex life, so here’s how you can make your masturbation sessions so much more satisfying.

Use Lube During Masturbation

As much as this sounds like common sense, there are actually a lot of guys who just don’t use lube during masturbation. They often use nothing, or they’ll use some kind of lotion or petroleum jelly. These just aren’t suitable for masturbation. They dry out too quickly and can cause allergic reactions and rashes on the sensitive skin of the penis. Lube is specifically developed to be used during sex (and this includes when you go solo) so it feels better and will help give you an incredible orgasm.

Water based lube is always a good choice, but silicone based lube is also effective for masturbation because it’s thicker and it lasts longer. Lube is cheap and is available almost anywhere, including your local supermarket or drugstore. Many lubes are now created with special ingredients to either warm the penis or prolong an erection. Experiment with different lubes until you find the one that is best for you!

Consider Using Male Sex Toys

A lot of guys assume that sex toys are just for women to use – but there are actually a lot of fun toys for guys to use too! Masturbation sleeves can make a huge difference in how great your orgasm is. When used with lube, the simple silicone sleeve can make masturbation (and even a handjob from your lady) feel absolutely divine. Many masturbation sleeves come with ribbed or studded interiors, making the experience that much more pleasurable!

There are other male sex toys, including cock rings (which trap the blood inside the penis after an erection and make it last longer and stay harder) as well as butt plugs and prostate massagers. Next time you make a trip to the adult toy store – or if you’re browsing online – take a look and see what they have to offer for you – not just your woman!

Don’t Rush It

Since most guys grew up with the fear of getting caught spanking the monkey, they view masturbation as a “get it done quick” ritual. In fact, most men only need minutes to achieve orgasm when they’re stroking themselves. While an orgasm during a quickie masturbation session is certainly satisfactory, it definitely isn’t what you would consider “amazing” or even “okay.” It simply does the job.

If you want to make your orgasm better, take your time. Plan to masturbate during a time where you are home alone for significant period of time. Lock the doors, close the curtains and take a few deep breaths. Look at some erotica to start getting yourself aroused and then take your time with it. Don’t rush it – if you get close to orgasm, stop stimulating yourself. Pick it back up again after you’ve backed away from the brink of climax a little bit. Once you do this several times, you finally won’t be able to help going over the edge – but by this time, your pleasure will be so built up that the final release is nothing short of incredible.

Watch Porn – Good Porn

Porn is something almost every guy watches, and if he says he doesn’t, there’s an excellent chance that he’s lying. There’s nothing wrong with watching porn – men are visual creatures and have a difficult time becoming aroused and reaching orgasm if there isn’t any visual stimulation. So it makes sense that men watch adult movies when getting off, but surprisingly, a lot of men aren’t watching what really turns them on. Why?

Price could be a factor. DVD’s and subscriptions to adult websites can be expensive. Also, a guy may have a secret fetish that he’s just not willing to admit he has (even to himself) so he just makes do with whatever free porn he can find on the  Internet. If you’re not watching the porn you really want to be watching, just get what you want and get on with it. Even if it means shelling out a few extra bucks. The increase in the pleasure of your orgasm will be well worth it.

Try Prostate Massage

If you’re really freaked out by the idea of anal play (on yourself), then skip this part entirely. But if the idea intrigues you and you just haven’t had the balls to do it yet, read on. The prostate is often considered the male “g-spot” and can provide a man with intense pleasure when it is simulated, especially in conjunction with sexual activity. Some men have experienced prostate massage with their partners, but have never tried it on themselves during masturbation.

If you’re open to the idea, purchase a small butt plug to start. You can also use a finger on the hand that you’re not using to stroke your penis. Make sure you have lots of good lube on hand, because anal play can really hurt without proper lubrication. To find your prostate on yourself, you will need to use the “come hither” motion (if you’re using your fingers) and move toward your stomach. This usually involves reaching down in between your legs rather than trying to reach around from behind. Go slow and work your way up in size if you’re using sex toys. Remember that if it ever hurts, stop! However, with practice, prostate massage can give you the kind of orgasms you never dreamed you’d have.

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Penises

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Sex is something most people are familiar with, but there are many things that remain unknown. With myths and gossip constantly surrounding sex and different sexual activities, it can be difficult to sort out the truth from the bunk. Perhaps one of the most misunderstood things about sex is the penis – due to the numerous jokes gossip about it, there’s a lot of things that women just don’t know about it – but should.

The Penis CAN Break

Believe it or not, even though the penis isn’t a bone, it can break. A “break” is most often called a “penile fracture” and can happen during rough sex or even vigorous masturbation. A penile fracture happens when the tough, fibrous tissue around the penis experiences sudden trauma, and a cracking sound is often heard – along with immediately losing the erection and a large bruise appearing very quickly. This condition requires immediate medical treatment.

Erections Can Be Random

Most of the time, an erection happens when the penis is either physically stimulated or a man becomes psychologically aroused. However, erections can be completely random and can happen when a man is being neither physically or psychologically stimulated sexually. As embarrassing as it is, a man can have an erection at the most inopportune times, such as at a funeral. The next time your man pops a boner, it may not be because the hot girl you thought he was looking at – it might be “just because!”

The Average Penis Size Is Actually Quite Small

Men are obsessed with their penis size – they usually think that theirs is too small, or much smaller than the general populations. The truth is, the average size is just 5-6″ in length! While many men may think that they can’t please a woman with a 5″ penis, the reality is that they can – and the majority of men do! Large penises are actually fairly rare, and size really isn’t that big a deal to a woman. The man who holds the record for the largest penis (over 13″) lives at home with his mother – so really, size doesn’t matter.

The Way It Looks Is Not Genetic

A man may think that he passes on the size of his penis and the way it looks to his sons, but the way it looks and even how long or wide it is has nothing to do with the way his father’s looks. A man’s penis is formed within the womb, when the body begins turning an androgynous fetus into either a boy or girl. Similarly, the way a woman’s vagina looks has nothing to do with the way her mother’s looked either.

Most Men Do Not Need Large Sized Condoms

Because the average penis size is about 5 to 6 inches, most men do not need large or “Magnum” sized condoms. However, many men buy large condoms because they either want to think they have a bigger one or they want their partner to believe that they do because they brought extra large condoms to bed. The truth is, the far majority of men can fit just fine in a regular sized condom and if they do, they should use it. Using a condom that is too large can cause it to slip off, increasing the risk of unwanted pregnancy or the transmission of STD’s.

He’s Not Lying About “Blue Balls”

Most women think that the excuse men give about having “blue balls” if she doesn’t have sex with him is false – he’s just trying to get a piece, right? Wrong. However, during foreplay and increased arousal, the prostate gland and the testicles become swollen with fluid. This causes anywhere from mild discomfort to acute pain. The release of these fluids during an orgasm will relieve the discomfort. So should you sleep with him just because he has blue balls? Of course not – unless you want to. Blue balls can also be relieved with an aspirin or just good old fashioned masturbation.

You Cannot Tell The Size Of A Man’s Penis By His Shoe – Or Hand – Size

Many men and women believe that if a man has large feet or large hands with long fingers, that he will also have a very large or long penis. This is not true! However, you can predict the length of a man’s penis by looking at how tall he is. Men who are taller tend to have larger penises. Also, a study in 1999 proved that gay men actually have longer, thicker members than heterosexual men!

“Liquor Dick” Exists

If a man drinks too much, he may have trouble having an erection later that night. The same goes for illicit drug use. The more inebriated a man is, the more trouble he will have achieving an erection. If you’re planning a big date that you want to end in the bedroom with some really hot and wild sex, keep the drinks at a minimum.

Erect Penis Size Is Not Indicated By How Big It Is When It Is Not Erect

If a man has a small penis when he is not erect, many men and women think that this is an indicator that it won’t get a lot bigger when it becomes erect. Similarly, people also believe that if a man has a large member when it is flaccid that he will have a much larger penis when it is erect. The truth is, how large or small a man’s penis is when it is soft has absolutely no correlation on how big it will be when he has an erection. The average length of a flaccid one is about 3 inches, but some of these penises grow to be much larger when a man becomes sexually aroused. On the other hand, a member that is very large when it is flaccid may only gain a few centimeters when it becomes erect.

Most Men Are Uncircumcised (But Not In The U.S.)

Circumcision is still routinely practiced in the United States, where about 60% of boys are circumcised at birth due to religious and personal reasons. However, most men in the world remain uncircumcised – in fact, the rate of circumcision around the world is only 10-15%. If you meet a really hot foreign guy and end up in bed together, don’t be surprised if he’s uncut. American women think that being circumcised is the norm (and may even be a little unnerved about having sex with a man who hasn’t been circumcised), but in reality, the majority of men around the world haven’t been snipped or clipped.

9 Ways Sex Can Make You Healthier

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Sex feels good, there’s no doubt about that. But most people think that it is purely a recreational activity. However, studies show that it can actually improve your health! Couples who have great sex often lead healthier lives than those who don’t do it as often, don’t have a close, satisfying sexual relationship with their partners or single men and women who don’t have sex at all. Even masturbation can help make you healthier! Here’s how sex can give your wellness a boost.

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Give Your Immune System A Boost

Believe it or not, sex can actually improve the quality of your immune system! Studies show that regular, satisfying nookie can actually increase the effectiveness of your natural immune system by increasing the amount of immunoglobulin-A in the body. Immunogloblulin-A is the first antibody to react when the body has been invaded by a cold or flu virus, so more of this in the body is a good thing, especially during cold and flu season! What a great excuse to stay home in bed on a cold winter day, cuddling and making love with your partner!

Lower The Risk Of Death

Sure, sex is great and all, but did you know it can actually lower a man’s risk for death? The same goes for masturbation, because studies show that men between the ages of 45 and 59 who had an orgasm twice or more in a week’s time actually lowered their risk for death by as much as fifty percent!

Decrease The Risk Of Prostate Cancer

If you’re a man between the ages of twenty and fifty and ejaculate frequently, you’re actually decrease your risk of developing prostate cancer in the future! In this case, the more you ejaculate, the more you’re lowering your risk! Do you need a better excuse to ask your partner for more sex? The studies showed that men decreased their risk of developing prostate cancer by as much as 33%!

Make Your Period More Regular – And Stop Aging In Its Tracks

Women who are more sexually active – getting busy approximately a few times a week – tend to have menstrual cycles that are more regular than women who don’t have sex as often. This same study also produced findings that women who got it on at least weekly – without ever missing a week – aged more slowly than women who didn’t do it as much.

Ease Post Menopausal Symptoms

After menopause, the vagina can become dry and uncomfortable, and women can experience hot flashes as well as other symptoms when their bodies stop producing estrogen and other hormones necessary for reproduction. If a woman who has reached menopause has sex frequently – and at this age, “frequent” is considered about three or more times per month – her vagina tended to dry out less and produce more lubrication. She is also less likely to experience hot flashes. This is because sex increases the amount of estrogen in a woman’s body, which is the very thing women start to lack when they go through menopause.

Increase Your Threshold For Pain

Believe it or not, stimulation of a woman’s g-spot will actually help increase her threshold for pain. This is because pleasurable stimulation (with or without an orgasm) produces endorphins in the body – which are as effective as morphine at blocking pain. A woman can nearly double her pain threshold with regular sex!

Burn Calories And Boost Your Mood

Of course, it can help burn calories and boost your mood, for two reasons. First, your body burns calories during sexual activity because you’re working your body and sweating, but the activity will also boost your metabolism throughout the day (especially if you have morning sex), allowing your body to burn more calories during the day than it would have if you hadn’t had sex. A great orgasm will also boost your mood, as will the sheer act of being physical and feeling intimate with your partner.

Prevent Build Up Of Toxic Substances In The Body

If you’re a man who smokes cigarettes, drinks alcohol excessively or participates in illicit drug use, you might be surprised to find that certain substances – including cancer causing carcinogens – can build up in the ejaculatory fluid. Without regular sex or masturbation to expel the ejaculate, the body can simply harbor these chemicals and they will continue to build up until there finally is a release. Keep carcinogens and other unwanted chemicals from building up in your ejaculatory fluid by getting busy with your lover or masturbating until you reach climax regularly.

Decrease Headaches And Arthritic Pain

Studies also show that great sex reduces the intensity and frequency of headaches in both males and females, as well as the frequency and intensity of arthritic pain. This can be contributed to the release of endorphins through the body during sexual pleasure, especially during orgasm. If you have headaches often, or experience body aches and pains caused by arthritis, try increasing the amount you have sex with your partner or the amount you masturbate alone.