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Should You Jump On The Brazilian Wax Bandwagon?

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Sex is often referred to as “bumping uglies.” A brazilian wax is a daring way to remove pubic hair, but is everyone bald these days? I prefer to keep some “hair down there” – carefully groomed, of course. However, I’ve been getting a shocked reaction from guys when they learn I haven’t “visited Brazil.” I don’t want to be shamed into waxing everything off – it’s not my sex style!

What She Said

I haven’t taken a poll, but it’s safe to say you’re not alone in preferring to hang onto your body’s natural inclination to grow hair for your pubic region. It’s funny but true – we are all susceptible to trends, even when it comes to pubic hair. There’s nothing wrong with going against the tide, especially if it’s truly your preference for sex and personal comfort!

Stick To Your (Pubic Hair) Guns

I’m not sure where you’re hanging out that the shaping of pubic hair is a topic of discussion. No judgment, I’m just curious! That said; don’t let anyone shame you into anything – regardless of what that thing may be. A guy who is ready for sex and into you will most likely appreciate what you’ve chosen to do with your vagina. If not, show him the door and wait for someone who appreciates you exactly as you are!

What He Said

No one likes hairballs, so if you like having your man perform oral sex on you, some sort of trimming is in order. I disagree with my counterpart. I don’t think anyone likes a girl with 70’s bush. It shouldn’t look like you’re rocking the Jew-Fro down there. It shouldn’t be an untamed wilderness. If your next door neighbor didn’t mow their lawn regularly, would you let it slide? Not so much. Landscaping is in order.

Alternatives To Going Completely Bald

I personally advocate a full Brazilian, but if you’re not okay with that, there’s nothing wrong with rocking a landing strip or some unique design (I’ve seen hearts, stars, and an arrow pointing to the ‘promised land’ or ‘mecca’ as I like to call it).

If you’re all about penetration (anal sex or vaginal), and not about receiving oral sex, then it’s a non issue, but if he’s going to go down there, he should have a certain degree of say because everyone does a better job if you enjoy the view.

Try Dating Guys Who Enjoy A Nice Bush

But there’s a larger issue here. Why are we even talking about this? Are you insecure about your baby maker? If you’ve been dating guys who are into the Brazilian landscape, it might be time to change your approach. Most guys I know don’t like the idea of a woman having hair ANYWHERE except on her head. A quick internet search, however, will let you know there are a plethora of men out there who are into dating women who have hair ‘down there’ and it might be worth your while to see if there’s a dating site out there who can put you in touch with these guys.

Then again, you might want to show your vajajay to some female or gay friends to get feedback. Maybe there’s a way to trim the hedge to make both you and your man happy with it during sex.

Give Her Better Oral Sex And Wild Screaming Orgasms

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Oral sex is something almost every girl loves, but most of the time their partners stick to boring, vanilla sex – and that doesn’t usually include cunnilingus. It’s time to make a move and add a new flavor to these intimate explorations – perform oral sex on your partner! What kind of woman would not want to perspire during a steamy lovemaking? Yes, you read it right. You can have your woman writhe in pure orgasmic pleasure with oral sex.

You can provide the most thrilling cunnilingus she will ever experience by putting a small amount of a female orgasm enhancing cream (such as V-cream) on the clitoris prior to giving your partner oral sex. She will surely have heightened sensations with every stroke and touch that you do to this small organ. Such creams act immediately upon application, making your lover primed for an exhilarating time in bed.

Know The Magic Of Creative Oral Sex

Start oral sex off by giving the inner thighs tender and light touches using your lips. Move upwards to the vagina and allow your tongue to gently stroke the external area using an up-and-down motion for few moments.

Be playful! Stop the movements of your tongue along the external edges of the vagina and let your woman beg for more of what you are already doing. Place gentle kisses and soft caresses using your tongue, and make your teeth nibble gently until you reach the abdomen. Go back down after paying much of your attention on the sensitive parts on the upper torso. She will surely demand that you get to the real business of oral sex and that is what you will do!

Women usually reach an orgasm due to clitoral stimulation so you should pay close attention to that mound of flesh. Imagine that you can only pleasure your partner through those gentle strokes that your tongue can make. Visualize yourself eating ice cream because this is how your tongue and lips should move. Don’t we just love eating ice cream?

Techniques That Will Do The Trick

Allow yourself to experience the same or greater level of pleasure as what your partner feels through the following methods:

  • Perform tender strokes using your tongue.
  • Allow your lover to place external genitalia on your face.
  • While your mouth is busy on the clitoris, you can try penetrating the vagina with your two fingers.
  • You may also raise your partner’s buttocks off the bed or floor and allow the lower limbs to encircle your neck. This may take some effort from you.
  • Trace the letters of the alphabet along the borders of the vagina with the gentle movement of your tongue.
  • Lastly, the circular motion around the clitoris will surely do the magic trick!

Try these proven oral sex moves and show your lover the kind of wild screaming orgasms that she will never forget!

Unhappy Couples Make These Sex Mistakes – Do You?

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Sex mistakes are something that happens in almost every relationship, especially if two people have been together for any real length of time. Some of them aren’t going to be that bad and may give you or your partner a laugh or two, but we’re not talking about passing gas on accident during sex. There are a few problems that guys and gals have that can cause distress in the relationship – or end it completely. Do you make sex mistakes that could end it all?

Waiting To Get In The Right Mood

This is one of the worst mistakes that you can make! Many people in relationships wait to get in the right mood before having sex. While waiting for the mood to strike will definitely make for an incredibly hot evening, the chances of that actually happening are few and far between. For many people, day to day life often gets in the way of sexual intimacy and it’s difficult to actually get in the mood after a long day of work, making dinner and taking care of the kids. Instead of waiting for the mood to hit you, try setting a date for sex and do it whether you feel like it or not. Chances are, once you shut the rest of the world out and focus on you and your partner getting it on, you’ll find that you’re much more into it than you were when you started.

Foregoing Trying Something New

If you are stuck in a “comfort zone,” you’re certainly not alone. Like chicken soup when you’re sick, the boring old, we’re-doing-it-just-to-be-doing-it sex is comforting – but unlike chicken soup does, this very rarely ever hits the spot. Break out of your rut by trying a few new things instead of simply sticking to what you know. Try some new sex positions, or incorporate a new sex toy into the mix. You can play sexy dress up or even try taking dirty to each other. Use your creativity! No matter what you do, don’t get stuck doing the same thing over and over in the bedroom. It’s time to mix it up!

Thinking Sex Education Is For Beginners

People who have been doing it for awhile seem to believe that reading up on sex or how to give their partner an incredible orgasm is for beginners. They assume that since they’ve been doing it for years that they know all there is to know about it! Instead of thinking that you already know how to push your partner’s pleasure buttons, try reading a little bit on how to go down on your partner and get them begging for more. Or, you can always try communicating with them by asking them what feels good, what they like and what they don’t like. Don’t worry – an old dog can learn new tricks!

Thinking Sex Is A Means To An End

After being with someone for awhile, you stop relishing every moment you’re naked with your partner. You’ve seen her butt and her breasts a thousand times and she’s seen your package up close and personal more times than either of you would like to count, and not because you were doing it at the time. Men and women that live together or spend a lot of time together see each other naked a lot and often in very compromising situations. This usually leads people to feel less like taking their time with foreplay and more like doing it just to get an orgasm. Take some time out to cherish your partner’s body and enjoy it like you did before you saw it on the toilet or plucking stray hairs in weird places.

Withholding Sex

Women are notorious for withholding sex from their lovers when they’re angry. Chances are, the guy doesn’t even know why she doesn’t want to do it – or what he did wrong in the first place. Save the withholding for when you really have a headache or aren’t feeling good. Withholding to punish your guy won’t do a darn thing besides keep you from getting an amazing climax. Instead, tell your man what you’re upset about or why you’re angry and talk it out instead of being passive aggressive. You may just find that after talking to your partner and hearing an apology or his side of the story may make you less angry – and everyone knows that some of the best sex on earth is after a huge fight!

What To Keep In Mind – And In Your Purse – If You’re Single

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Safe sex is the best kind of sex, especially if you’re single. Many single women aren’t ready to get pregnant and have a baby, and nobody wants to contract a sexually transmitted disease or infection like chlamydia or HIV and AIDS. If safety is on your checklist for great sex, here are some things you may want to keep in your purse in case you get caught in an an impromptu situation and want the freedom to have safe sex if you’d like to.

Condoms

Keeping condoms in your purse may seem like a no-brainer, but many women end up getting caught in impromptu sex situations unprepared. Condoms protect against pregnancy and most STD’s. Although condoms aren’t foolproof, they’re the best sex accessory if you want to have fun and safe sex without having to worry about getting pregnant when you’re not ready or contracting a sexually transmitted disease or infection that is at best inconvenient and at worst life threatening. You may also want to keep flavored condoms in your purse in the event of oral sex. When keeping condoms in your purse, don’t throw them in there unless they’re in a protective sleeve or case first. Putting condoms in your purse loose can cause the wrapper or condom to get holes in it when all of the stuff in your purse bounces around during daily use. Guys shouldn’t put condoms in their wallet, because this can cause condoms to break down faster due to temperature issues. Condoms should be kept clean and dry and at room temperature to stay effective. Always inspect the wrapper first to check for holes or damage, and make sure you check the expiration date if you’ve had it for awhile.

Spermicide

Some couples don’t like using spermicide for pregnancy protection, but it can be an excellent option if you’re with an STD free partner and don’t want to use condoms, but still want protection from unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. Spermicide is also a great option for women or couples who want another layer of protection in addition to condoms or birth control – or both. Spermicides come in many different forms, some that are more convenient than others. Contraceptive foam is the least expensive, but may burn or cause discomfort for you or your sex partner. Suppositories are good options because they are small and easy to carry, but your partner will most likely know that you’ve used spermicide. The newest type of spermicide on the market is a contraceptive film. It is a thin, clear square that looks like plastic and is folded up and placed in the vagina behind the cervix. It takes about ten to fifteen minutes, but the film will “melt” and create a gel-like barrier of spermicide in front of the cervix. They can be kept in a purse or wallet and can be used discreetly without your partner knowing you’ve used it.

Birth Control

If you’d like to take pregnancy protection into your own hands, consider going on birth control if you’re not already on it. Talk to your doctor about the right kind of birth control for you and how to take it so it is most effective against unplanned pregnancies. Birth control doesn’t protect against STD’s, so if you’re with a new partner, make sure you’re using a condom as well. Plan-B, or emergency contraception, is a good thing to keep on hand as well, in case a condom breaks or you miss too many birth control pills.

Dental Dam

A dental dam is a small square of latex or plastic that is laid over the vagina during cunnilingus to prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Contrary to popular belief, there are many STD’s that can be transmitted through oral sex on a woman including chlamydia and yeast infections. Keeping a dental dam in your purse will ensure that you’ve got it if you need it – for example, you’d like a new partner to perform oral sex on you but he won’t do so without the necessary safe sex tools. Many women believe that using a dental dam is less pleasurable than feeling the tongue itself, but you can closely mimic this feeling by putting a dab of lube underneath the dental dam, in between the latex and the clitoris. This allows the dental dam to slide around on the vagina, much like a tongue or mouth would. Many dental dams come in flavors, making it much much more pleasurable for the partner giving the oral sex.

6 Types Of Sex You Need To Try – Tonight!

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Sex can of course get boring. It’s a natural, albeit frustrating progression of long term relationships. But does being in a committed, monogamous relationship and doing it with the same person again and again mean that you’re stuck with boring sex for the rest of your life? Not hardly! Check out these six different kinds that will turn up the heat in the bedroom – or elsewhere. Each type is amazing and satisfying in its own way – try one out with your partner tonight!

Animal Sex

There’s just something special about the “I want you right now!” kind of nookie. When you do it like the animals do, you forget about everything else except “doing it.” Every once in awhile, throw down everything that you’re doing, no matter what it is, and just have do it with your lover right then and there. Bend your partner over the stove while she’s cooking, or do it over the washer while she’s washing clothes. Let your partner know that you have to have them right now or you’re just going to bust! Bonus points if you do this with oral sex instead of penetration.

Chicken Soup Sex

When you or your partner had a bad day at work or are feeling down about something, the right kind of nookie can be just like a bowl of chicken soup. Warm and comforting, it’s just what you want right when you want it. With this type, you want to use the sex positions that are most comfortable for you and your partner. If missionary is what you both like, don’t worry that it’s considered “boring.” Don’t worry about trying something new, “spicing it up” or looking a certain way during the deed. Just do what you’re comfortable with and what feels good.

Make Up Sex

Make up sex can be some of the best you or your partner have ever had. After an especially big fight (or even a little tiff if you feel like it), start kissing your lover deeply and passionately. When they kiss you back, make a move to start taking off their clothes. Like chicken soup sex, it can make you feel better when you’re down because of a fight you and your partner just had. This type of nookie also has a way of making everything seem like the fight never happened, especially when you’re basking in the glow of an amazing orgasm.

Quickie Sex

There’s nothing like an amazing quickie. Just when you think you don’t have time to do the dirty deed, your partner surprises you by taking advantage of the situation and reaching climax in record time. While many couples in long term relationships get “tired” of having quickies, having a quickie is actually a great way to get the desire for pleasure out of your system in a short amount of time. Whether you’re in the back of the car on a pit stop during a road trip or have to do it fast before the kids get home from school, the quickie is great – just in a shorter amount of time.

Public Sex

There’s very little out there that will give you the adrenaline rush that public sex will. This will usually involve a quickie, but doing it in public is very different than just having a quickie in your house. The fear of getting caught or being watched by other people while you do it is an amazing turn on for both you and your partner, and it is a great way to spice up your life. Don’t do it anywhere that you could get caught and have permanent repercussions for you, such as losing your job or getting arrested.

Marathon Sex

If you have a day off without kids in the house – for example, if you’re snowed in – it’s the perfect time to set up a little sex marathon for you and your partner to engage in. Instead of trying to do it as quick as you can, try to last as long as you can. Try going through all of the different positions you know, or breaking the record of how many orgasms you can give your partner in a row. You can prolong it by switching between oral sex, foreplay and penetration, or you can take small breaks in between several sessions. Don’t stop until you’re both completely exhausted and satisfied!