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Q&A: Condoms – What Size Do I Need?

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Condom shopping isn’t always easy because condoms come in a variety of different shapes and sizes. Condom sizes also differ from manufacturer to manufacturer, so it can be difficult to determine the best size for you in a particular brand. Getting the right size for you is important, because an ill fitting condom can reduce pleasurable sensations during sex at best or slip off and increase the risk of transmitting STD’s and unwanted pregnancy. Here’s how to find out what size YOU need!

Question:  According to a condom size chart I’m 5 inches long erect. What condom size do I need?

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Basic Condom Size Guidelines

If you look on the back of a condom box, each manufacturer provides basic guidelines on how large a condom is, in both length and width. You’ll also be able to find out what material it is made from and whether it comes lubricated or not. They may also provide information on how thick it is, so you can choose the thickness that provides the best and most pleasurable sensations. Most people will choose the thinnest condom that is available because this tends to allow both partners to feel more friction than their thicker counterparts. While getting a thin condom may help make sex better for you and your partner, it is much more important that you get the correct size, as this will make the biggest difference. Looking at the manufacturer’s specifications will give you a general idea of how large it is, and you can compare it to how large your penis is after you’ve measured it. Like most things though, the size of a condom will differ somewhat between manufacturers. An XL in one brand is not going to fit the same as an XL in another brand. Accurately measuring your penis and purchasing the correct size for it is an important part of having safer sex and preventing sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

Making Sure The Condom Fits Comfortably

When a condom is stretched lengthwise, it is much more stretchy and resilient than if it is stretched widthwise. Keep this in mind when going shopping – unless you have a very long penis, you’ll want to judge it mostly by its width, since there won’t be much give in that respect. You will be much more comfortable in one that fits the width of your penis properly! A condom that fits well lengthwise should actually be a little longer than your penis, with enough space at the tip to hold your semen when you orgasm. A condom that fits comfortably is going to benefit you and your partner during sex in many more ways than you would think. You (and your partner) will enjoy sex more, because one that doesn’t fit right will either hug you too tightly and cause discomfort or be too loose and decrease the pleasurable sensations from having sex.

Giving Condoms A Test Drive

A great way to find out which condoms fit you well and which don’t is to purchase a variety of them and give each one a test drive. Once you have a basic idea of how they should fit, you’ll be able to decide which one fits best on you and feels better for your partner. Many stores that sell sex toys also offer several different types of “variety packs” which give you one or two of each type of condom for you to try. It may seem silly, but don’t be afraid to take notes about which ones feel better than others and which condoms your partner seems to like the best. Once you determine which one is the right one for you, it will become your “go to” condom. Keep a good supply of your favorite one available, but don’t keep them in your wallet, your jeans pockets or your car. Women should not keep condoms in their purses unless they are protected by a hard case of some kind. The friction caused by a pair of pants or a wallet can cause the wrapper to degrade, possibly making holes in the wrapper and compromising the integrity of the condom. Keeping it in your car will expose the material to extreme heat and cold, possibly causing the latex or polyurethane to degrade, thereby decreasing it’s effectiveness at preventing pregnancy and reducing the risk of transmitting STD’s. Your best bet is to keep condoms stored in a cool, dry place to keep it “fresher” longer. Always inspect the wrapper thoroughly before using it for tears or holes.

Q&A: Masturbation – Does It Make Sex Better?

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Just about everyone masturbates, starting from when they’re a teenager and continuing on into their adult life. It is perfectly healthy and normal for both men and women to masturbate regularly, but the question is, does it help improve your sex life? Does masturbating when you’re young make sex better when you’re older and does it also help make your sex life better when you’re alternating between having sex and pleasuring yourself?

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How Masturbation Can Make Sex Worse – For Guys

When guys are growing up, they tend to learn how to masturbate and give themselves an orgasm in secret. In many cultures, where masturbation is taboo or considered “wrong,” nobody talks about how to masturbate or when to masturbate. As a result, many young men learn how to masturbate the wrong way and end up teaching their body the wrong things – and this will actually make your sex life worse when you do start to have sex. Usually, young men will masturbate in secret and do it quickly for fear of being caught – quite literally – with their pants down. This trains the body to reach orgasm too quickly, and can lead to problems with premature ejaculation when a man gets older and begins having sex. This can cause problems in a sexual relationship, because the sex just isn’t lasting long enough and his partner will often have to go without sexual satisfaction because there just wasn’t enough time before he reached climax.

How Guys – And Girls – Can Use Masturbation As A Sexual Training Tool

When done correctly, masturbation can be a great sexual training tool for both girls and guys. For guys, masturbating the right way can help him learn when he’s about to reach climax and teach him how to control his orgasm. When a man learns how to control his orgasm through masturbation, it will also allow him to control his orgasm during sex and better please his partner. To do this, go slow when masturbating. Get close to orgasm and back off a bit. Do this again and again until you’ve lasted as long as you can. Female masturbation will also help a woman learn more about her body and her sexuality. When a woman explores masturbation freely, she will learn how she likes to be touched and exactly where her hot spots are. This will help her to reach orgasm more easily during sex! Many girls who have never masturbated have actually never had an orgasm – simply because she’s not quite sure of how to get there. Guys in relationships with girls who have never masturbated can be equally as frustrated, because if she doesn’t know where and how to touch herself to have an orgasm, how is he supposed to know? If as a young guy or girl, you didn’t learn how to masturbate the right way, don’t worry too much about it. You can actually teach yourself to masturbate the right way right now!

Masturbation Is A Great Stress Reliever

Of course, having an orgasm is a huge stress reliever. That’s why people enjoy sex so much! Not only does it feel good while you’re doing it, but the body produces so many feel good hormones during sex that you’re definitely going to ride a “sex high” well after you’ve finished getting it on. Does this mean that if you’re single or aren’t having much sex with your partner that you are going to miss out on all the great benefits of having sex? Not hardly! Masturbation will create the same great after-sex feelings that sex does, because it’s simply a physiological response to the body having an orgasm. Masturbation will relieve stress much the same way that sex does, and can make you feel more confident in yourself and super sexy. Instead of using masturbation to “get off quickly” though, spend some time with yourself making yourself feel good. This will not only make your sex life better, it will also help get you in tune with your own sexuality. Make masturbation better by watching your favorite porn flick, or reading a steamy, erotic novel that really turns you on. Girls, touch your clitoris slowly, or use more lube if that is what feels good. Guys, the more lube you use, the better. Water based lube functions much better for masturbation than lotion or other substances. If you use masturbation to your advantage, you can make your sex life much, much hotter – whether you’re waiting to have sex or in a sexual relationship right now.

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation For Good – 3 Powerful Tips To Transform Your Sex Life (Tonight!)

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Who wants to know how to stop premature ejaculation once and for all? If you’re like most guys reading this, you probably want to know how you can last long enough to satisfy your woman in bed, don’t you? There is no need to feel let down by your lack of endurance in bed. All you need to do is to understand why you’re not lasting long enough and what you can do about it.

Primary Causes Of Premature Ejaculation (And What You Can Do About It)

There are certainly a good number of causes, but here are the more common ones:

#1 – Quick Masturbation: Well, are you surprised? You shouldn’t be. You see, guys are “wired” to ejaculate fast during masturbation. After all, it is our pleasure to want instant gratification. So it is very common for guys to climax in under a minute or two during masturbation. And when it comes to sex, our bodies are already conditioned to climax quickly.

So what is the solution? Well, easy! Take more time during masturbation. Don’t rush through it. When you feel you are about to climax, stop the routine and resume it when you feel you’ve tapered off a bit. This will consciously train you to last longer.

#2 – Performance Anxiety: Let’s face it, if you think you can’t perform in bed, chances are, you won’t perform. And you’re likely to ejaculate too soon. It’s a vicious cycle; the more stressed out and anxious you are, the more unlikely you’re able to control your orgasm.

So how can you get out of this rut? Simple. Practice some stress-relieving techniques at home. Meditation, yoga and deep breathing will help to a great extent. And while many guys overlook this, regular exercise is an excellent stress-reliever and will enhance your bed performance too!

#3 – Lacking Knowledge Of How Their Bodies Work: Quite simply, most guys don’t know how their bodies respond during sex and the triggers that cause them to ejaculate prematurely.

The solution to this? Understand your mental ejaculation triggers and use natural conditioning to enhance your mental threshold for stimulation. The great thing is that most guys already have this innate ability to control ejaculation.

For example, “edging” is a very effective masturbation technique to identify and progressively raise your ejaculatory threshold. This is where you bring yourself close to the edge of ejaculation, allow the arousal to subside, resume stimulation – and repeat for good measure!

Once you learn the natural conditioning techniques such as this, and put them into practice, you can easily curb or delay the ejaculation triggers and significantly increase your stamina in bed – for good!

Now, if you need a little extra help to last longer in bed TONIGHT, try out these quick fixes. They should give you a few extra minutes in bed!

Quick Fixes For Premature Ejaculation

Use Extra Lube

Contrary to common perception, extra lube can slow down your ejaculation. Why? This is because it will cause less friction between your penis and her vagina, thus reducing your pleasurable sensations and your sexual sensitivity. So put on that tube of lubricating gel nearby for that quick use!

Put On A Condom

Well, this is (almost) a no-brainer. Not only does using a condom make sex safer, it also helps to reduce sensation during sex – certainly a useful way to last longer in bed. For even better results, you can buy one of those specialty condoms or “climax control” types that will surely give you a boost in stamina in bed where you need it most!

Q&A: Swinging & Threesomes – When Things Go Bump In The Night

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Lots of male/female couples are interested in swinging or having a threesome, but many guys are worried about having a threesome with another guy. That’s why most of the time, threesomes end up being between a guy and two girls, rather than a girl and two guys. Being nervous about a MFM threesome is common, but sometimes there may be pressure on you from your girl or the other guy to be ok with it. Before you jump into something you’re not sure about, there are a few things that come into play when discussing a threesome with your partner, from whether you’re comfortable with something to what’s ok and what’s not ok.

Question: (paraphrased from German-English…)

Hope we get the points correctly… I’ve been with my girlfriend for 1 ½ years and we’ve always been into fetishes and stuff. We’ve been going to a fetish club for a while and it’s really nice and the people are great. We thought about getting with another girl or a couple but the last time we tried to be a bit voyeuristic, a ‘guy’ tried to get with us. Since then I’m not sure what to think. I’m still interested in another girl or couple – but not sure about the guy thing?

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Communication Is Key

Communicating with your partner about having a threesome or a foursome is absolutely essential before you – and whoever else you’re planning on having sex with – step foot in the bedroom. Sit down and talk with your partner about how you feel about having a threesome or swinging and encourage them to open up about how they feel about it too. Keeping feelings and thoughts about having an open marriage is often what ends up causing trouble down the road after things have already gotten started and you can’t really go back. If you’re uncomfortable with something, or don’t want certain things to happen during the threesome, make your concerns known and talk about them with your partner. Talk about feelings of jealousy or trust issues and make sure you and your partner are both on the same page when it comes to having a threesome.

Define What You’re Uncomfortable With

When talking with your partner about what is ok and what is not ok during the threesome, don’t be afraid to define exactly what you’re comfortable with or uncomfortable with. Is kissing others on the mouth ok, or would you prefer to only kiss your partner on the mouth? Is oral sex or anal sex ok, or are those things you’d like to steer clear of? This is where you want to speak up if having another man in the equation is not something you’re comfortable with. If you’d prefer a MFF threesome instead of a MFM – or you’re totally against having a MFM threesome – let your partner know. Define exactly what you’re uncomfortable with (as well as what is ok) so there are absolutely no questions later.

Nobody Takes One For The Team

In a threesome situation, there is no such thing as “taking one for the team.” It is not ok to pressure someone to try to like something or be okay with something just so you can enjoy yourself and the same goes for if you’re uncomfortable with something – you don’t have to “try” to like something or pretend you’re ok with something during a threesome so your partner and whoever else is involved can have fun. If you’re not into anal sex, don’t let someone pressure you into “just trying it out” to see how you like it. Make it clear that it’s something that is not ok, before heading to the bedroom. Hopefully, you’ve had a chance to not only talk to your partner about what you aren’t ok with, but also with the other person or couple who will be joining you. If you’ve done this already, chances are, things you’re not ok with (and things other people aren’t ok with) won’t even come up during the situation. On occasion, couples will go to sex clubs and end up meeting someone that they want to take home with them that night, and there’s not really time to discuss the ins and outs of what you want to happen during the threesome. If this is the case, don’t be afraid to speak up during sex and say, “This is not something I’m comfortable with, can we try something else?” Your partner should have your back, especially if you’ve already talked with them about the threesome.

Erectile Dysfunction – Viagra, Cialis, And Herbal Remedies

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There are dozens of television commercials, radio ads and Internet ads that talk about erectile dysfunction and the best way to cure it. There are so many options available to men that suffer from this debilitating problem that it can be hard to sort through them all. The first step to dealing with ED is to understand what exactly it is – and that other men suffer from the same thing. Here are some ways you can beat erectile dysfunction and start leading a happy and healthy sex life right now!

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What Is Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is a sexual problem that is characterized by a man not being able to achieve an erection of the penis. In the United States alone, approximately18 million men are affected by erectile dysfunction. There are many causes of erectile dysfunction, ranging from physical problems to emotional issues and lifestyle choices. Common diseases like diabetes and high blood pressure – and the associated medications used for treatment – can contribute to erectile dysfunction. The most likely culprit of ED is actually a combination of many different factors. Erectile dysfunction can wreak havoc on a man’s sex life, making him both unable to achieve orgasm through masturbation or sex with a partner due to the penis either not becoming erect at all or losing its erection before climax.

Treating Erectile Dysfunction

Many men who experience ED will seek treatment for this condition through their medical doctor. While visiting your medical doctor is the first thing you should do when you begin having erection issues, it should not necessarily be to obtain a prescription for the latest and greatest pharmaceutical medicine that promises to deliver a “cure.” Go to your doctor with the attitude of working with them to not only find out the true cause of losing your erection (as well as a correct medical diagnosis) but also to determine what the best course of treatment is for you. How you and your doctor choose to treat your ED depends greatly on what both of you believe to be the key issue in causing it.

Other Lifestyle Options

Contrary to popular belief, many lifestyle choices will contribute – and even cause – problems getting and keeping an erection. Stress is a huge factor when considering the cause or causes of ED and it can come from a variety of sources including work and relationships. If you feel that stress is taking over your life, it most likely is playing a role in your inability to have an erection. Talk to a counselor or make some changes in your life that will help relieve your stress, whether it is looking for a new job or ending a bad relationship. Consider getting regular massages or even seeking holistic treatments such as acupuncture to eliminate or reduce the stress that you’ve been carrying around. Exercise and eating healthy is also an important part of keeping your body in peak form, and if your diet consists of mostly processed foods that aren’t rich in vitamins and nutrients, it too may have a hand in causing ED. Commit to enriching your diet with fresh fruits and vegetables, as well as trying to get at least a little exercise each day. Alcohol, smoking and using illegal drugs can also contribute to erectile dysfunction, so it’s important to reduce or eliminate putting toxins in your body.

Traditional Medications For ED 

Sometimes, changing your lifestyle isn’t enough to treat erectile dysfunction. While being hung up on getting instant relief through pharmaceutical medications for our physical and emotional problems isn’t always the best route to solve an ongoing issue, sometimes traditional medications can help, especially when they’re part of a comprehensive plan to get rid of erectile dysfunction by looking at all the different areas of your life that could be contributing to the problem. Traditional medications for ED include the ever popular Viagra and Cialis. While these medications can definitely improve your ability to get and maintain an erection for a period of time, some insurance plans do not cover these name brand medications and the copays can be very expensive. Talk to your doctor about the potential side effects of these types of medications, including upset stomach, diarrhea, dizziness, headaches, sudden loss of vision and in rare cases, prolonged erections. Consider all the potential drawbacks of taking a traditonal ED medication in addition to the potential benefits before you and your doctor make the choice to use them. Make sure that both you and your doctor agree that the benefits of these types of medications outweight the potential risks.

Herbal ED Remedies

There are lots of herbal ED remedies that are available to men today, and are often less expensive and less risky than traditional pharmaceutical treatment for erectile dysfunction. These erection pills can actually be cheaper and less harmful to the body than other courses of treatment for the condition. Herbal supplements for ED work to bring the body’s hormones to a more balanced, natural state, which can help men achieve erections more frequently. Herbal supplements can work differently for each person, so don’t be discouraged if the first herbal treatment you try doesn’t work for you. Your body’s chemistry and the quality of the product have a lot to do with whether an herbal supplement will work for you or not. When selecting an herbal supplement for ED, pay attention to where the ingredients come from, to the concentration of herbs in each pill and whether they contain a lot of filler herbs as opposed to the herbs that will actually work to treat ED. Herbal ED remedies are an excellent choice when combined with a committment to reduce stress in your life and make better lifestyle choices.