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How To Have A Blended Orgasm – Your Step By Step Guide

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While having one orgasm (or more) is good, having a blended orgasm is absolutely fantastic. Women have the unique capability of having both a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm at the same time, and when they do, it will just about blow the roof right off. If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, there are a few simple steps you can follow to learn how to not only give yourself a blended orgasm during masturbation, but also to help your man give you a blended orgasm through sex and oral sex. Here is your step by step guide to mastering the blended orgasm!

Masturbate First Before Trying With Your Guy

If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, you’re likely not going to have one if you try it for the first time when you’re with your guy. Instead, grab your favorite sex toy and head to the bedroom for a little bit of solo fun. To have a blended orgasm, you need to be relaxed and completely in the moment – which is not likely if you’re feeling pressure from your guy to have a huge orgasm.

Start By Stimulating Your Clitoris

Start masturbating by gently touching your clitoris, either with your fingers or your favorite sex toy. Use a dab of lube here if you like, although some women enjoy touching their clitoris without lube. Do this for a short while until you notice that you are fully aroused and stimulated.

Switch To Stimulating Your G-Spot

Switch from stimulating your clitoris to stimulating your g-spot. You can use your fingers for this if you’ve reached your g-spot before that way, but you’re probably going to have more luck with a sex toy that is designed for g-spot stimulation. If you’ve never found your g-spot before, this is a good time to try doing so. Once you find your g-spot, stimulate it gently with your favorite strokes until you’re very, very aroused.

Stimulate Both, Switching Back And Forth

Once you’ve reached a state of complete and total arousal, start switching back and forth between stimulating your clitoris and stimulating your g-spot. You’re probably going to be using two hands while you’re masturbating, and if you’ve never done so before, it’s important that you’re alone and comfortable and not self conscious at all. If your guy is with you or watching you the first time you do this, it’s very likely you’re not going to be able to get relaxed enough to achieve orgasm at all, let alone a blended orgasm.

Stimulate Both Your G-Spot And Your Clitoris At Once

When you feel like you’ve almost reached the point of no return by switching back and forth between stimulating your g-spot and stimulating your clitoris, start stimulating them both at once. Again, this is going to be a two handed adventure. At this point, you can go as hard or as soft as you like to reach orgasm, depending on what feels good at the time. Starting off with firm pressure is not the way to go when you first get going, because you need plenty of time to warm up and become aroused. However, once you’re really into it, firm pressure (especially against your g-spot) might be just what you need to push yourself over the edge. In fact, many women report experiencing female ejaculation when they masturbate this way and have a blended orgasm.

The Right Sex Positions For A Blended Orgasm

While having a blended orgasm is possible in many different sex positions, there are a few that will make having this type of orgasm easier. Doggy style is a great sex position for a blended orgasm, because it allows his penis to stimulate your g-spot from behind while you are able to reach down and touch your clitoris yourself. Woman on top is also another good position for a blended orgasm because women can control the depth of penetration and grind up against his groin for clitoral stimulation.

Having A Blended Orgasm During Oral Sex

Many women report that the best types of blended orgasms are through oral sex. Try this after you have acheived a blended orgasm on your own through masturbation. Have your man go down on you and slowly lick your clitoris first, before slipping his fingers in your vagina and stimulating your g-spot with the “come hither” motion. You can have him repeat the steps above and switch back and forth from stimulating your clitoris with his tongue to stimulating your g-spot with his fingers. Of course, you’ll be in absolute heaven when he starts doing both at once!

Amazing Foreplay Tips To Drive Her Crazy! Warning – These Will Turbo-Charge Her Sexual Desires!

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How do you really give a woman great foreplay? If you’ve been in a sexual relationship for a while, you would probably notice that the same foreplay acts could draw out completely different reactions from the same woman at different times. For a guy who gets easily aroused just by the sight of a naked woman, this may be difficult to fathom. Women are just fickle, you might say. Well, that is true to a large extent, especially when it comes to sex and foreplay. Let me explain…

How Foreplay Affects Her Will Depend On Her Mood

If she is in the RIGHT mood, she can get turned on faster than you. Even breathing down the back of her neck for just 15 seconds will get her hot and panting when her emotions are right. Furthermore, once women become aroused, they are biologically wired to stay “turned on” FAR longer than men.

True Foreplay Is To Get Her Into The Right Emotional State!

Read that again. Most men think foreplay is a physical activity. It is NOT. Instead, it is a lot more emotionally-driven. If you can understand just this one simple idea, it will completely turn your lackluster sex life into a supercharged erotic experience in between the sheets.

So How Do You Connect With Her Emotionally?

Here are a few time-tested suggestions:

Getting Her Turned On

This works phenomenally well when she is already close to a sexual mood. For instance, if she has just had a nice massage, you can put her into a state of sexual arousal by continuing to touch her and taking it one step further by giving her an erotic massage. Such physical acts of teasing can supercharge her erotic emotions in a hurry.

Bringing Out The Sexiness In Her

If you can make her feel attractive about herself, this will almost effortlessly transition her into a sexual mood. For instance, when she walks, sincerely compliment on how graceful and sexy she looks, and how much that turns you on. You will know you’ve done the right thing when she repeats doing exactly what you’ve just complimented her on. This is an extremely powerful way of getting her sexually aroused.

Verbal And Sensory Seduction

A woman’s biggest sexual organ is NOT in between her legs; it’s between her ears! Her mind is the central repository of all of her sexual emotions and energy. Thus your words and the way you touch her can be the gateway to turning on her erotic emotions. Whispering sexily into her ears is a very powerful skill and a good start place to start. Speaking to her in a soft, confident manner will also bring out her wild side. Gentle, non-sexual touching works wonderfully well too. This can be something as simple as running your fingers through her hair or holding her close to you.

These are simple foreplay ideas that will get her emotionally-charged. Guys, if you want to learn how to give her unforgettable orgasms, mastering this emotional spectrum of foreplay is how you get started!

Master His Secret Sex Zones – 6 Ways To Push His Pleasure Buttons

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Foreplay is absolutely essential for a woman to reach orgasm, but most men can reach orgasm simply through sex alone. That doesn’t mean that foreplay won’t drive him absolutely crazy though! Most women think that giving a quickie blowjob or a handjob is enough to get him warmed up, and most of the time it is. However, you can really take sex to the next level if you spend a little more time down there on the special spots that even he doesn’t know about. Learn how to push your man’s pleasure buttons with these simple techniques that will send him to the moon. He’ll be begging you for more before the night is through!

The Prostate Gland

The prostate gland, also known as the “male g-spot” is usually only accessible through the anal canal or by pressing on the perineum (the area between your partner’s scrotum and his anus) pretty firmly. Stimulating or “milking” the prostate gland during sex will heighten his sexual pleasure and may even cause him to have an orgasm immediately. An orgasm with prostate stimulation is incredibly powerful and is often considered the “best.” Try using a very small anal sex toy to stimulate his prostate gland during a blowjob, or you can use a finger if that is more comfortable for him. Remember to use lots of lube!

The Cremaster Muscle

The cremaster muscle is the muscle that draws the testicles in when your partner is cold and relaxes when he is warm and comfortable. You can stimulate this muscle during a blowjob or handjob by gently tugging on your partner’s scrotum while stimulating his penis. Make sure to communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t, because it isn’t hard to get a little too rough with his boys. Let him know that it’s ok to speak up if something doesn’t feel right – but especially if it feels good!

His Anus

The appeal of playing with the anus during sex is that it’s considered so “taboo” to do so. In addition to the psychological pleasure created by anal play, the anus is packed with nerve endings and can create great physical pleasure when stimulated. Some men are a little nervous about anal play or aren’t comfortable with it at all, so make sure your partner is ok with you touching his anus during sex or oral sex. Start by simply brushing your fingers lightly over the outside of his anus. If he wants you to insert a finger or a toy, make sure you have lube on hand.

His Earlobe

Many girls know that a man’s earlobe is a sensitive spot that shouldn’t be missed whether you’re kissing or having sex. Start turning him on by whispering what you want to do to him sexually, or simply just sigh heavily in his ear when you hug him. Flick the bottom of his earlobe quickly with your tongue before drawing it into your mouth and sucking lightly on it. This will drive him absolutely wild! He won’t be able to wait long until he wants you to do to his penis what you’re doing to his ear.

The Seam Of His Testicles

On a man’s scrotum, there is a line or a “seam” that separates the two testicles from each other. While this sensitive spot is packed with nerves that respond well to licking, touching and caressing, this spot is often missed by women everywhere. Take advantage of this spot when you’re giving your partner oral sex and lick up and down the seam while you’re gripping his testicles or the base of his penis. Try licking the seam while you’re giving a handjob at the same time if you really want to push his pleasure buttons!

His F-Spot

The F-spot is a little known but very powerful spot on man’s penis that can create waves of pleasure that will run up and down his body when stimulated. To find the F-spot, look on the underside of the penis where the head of the penis meets the base. This should look like an upside down “V,” and the F-spot is located at the point of the “V.” This spot is best stimulated while giving him head by flicking your tongue firmly against the spot while moving your hand up and down the base of his penis. The F-spot is a great way to pleasure your partner, but don’t try to stimulate the F-spot alone – it could make the rest of his penis feel left out in the cold.

How To Have Wild Sex And Give In To Your Primal Urges

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Humans are mammals and sex is in our nature – it’s a primal need that we all have to satisfy. We all crave orgasms and sexual intimacy with a partner, and most of us crave that “have to have it now” sex too. Even though sex is a normal, natural part of being a human being, some men and women have trouble letting go and fully giving into their primal, animalistic nature. Instead of having nice, warm and fuzzy vanilla sex tonight, try these techniques for hotter, wilder sex and let the animal in you come out!

Do It Against The Wall

Although sex against the wall is a somewhat difficult sex position to achieve, it can be one of the most titillating and amazing sex positions to use for a quickie, or longer sex if you and your man have the stamina and physical prowess to pull it off. The “I need you right now and I don’t care where we do it” essence behind doing it up against the wall is what makes this position so great. You can make it easier by standing on a footstool so your vagina is slightly higher than your man’s penis and he doesn’t have to lift you up and hold you there for a long period of time. By nature, this sex position is a little rougher, so make sure you have some good water or silicone based lube on hand or somewhere close by so you can use it even if you’re having sex at just a moment’s notice. This position really won’t be successful without good lube! Stay true to the natural “animalistic” order of things by letting your man take you up against the wall, but you can also show him your sexual prowess by initiating this sex position also.

The Doggy Style Sex Position

The doggy style sex position is probably the most basic and primal of all sex positions. Almost every animal uses the doggy style position, where the woman raises her backside up against her partner’s penis, completely submitting to him and allowing him complete control over his thrusting and his orgasm. The doggy style sex position can really help you let your inner animal out by allowing you to completely let go and submit to the “dominant male.” Of course, the doggy style sex position isn’t all about him. You can reach down and fondle your clitoris while he thrusts his penis into you from behind, and the angle of his penis is just about perfect for deep penetration and g-spot stimulation.

Have Sex Now… Right Now

Animals rarely give attention to the time of day or what else is going on when they have a need for sex. The desire for procreation simply overtakes them and it’s their job to have sex as soon as possible. Adopting this attitude in your own sex life can help turn up the heat if you feel like things have been lacking in your sex life recently. When your partner comes home from work, don’t worry about what has to be done like cooking dinner, doing laundry, etc. Instead, take them by the hand, lead them into the bedroom and let them know that you want sex now and aren’t interested in anything else right at that moment. Bonus points for initiating sex wherever you are at that moment, because sex in other places such as the couch or kitchen table adds to the “need it right now” feeling.

Get A Little Rough

Take the initiative to go a little harder or get a little rougher during sex. You don’t have to get too rough or go all out into BDSM (unless that’s your thing), but you can definitely spice things up by getting a little rougher and more confident with your sex techniques. Light spanking and biting are great ways to let your inner sexual animal out if your partner approves, and you can up the ante by having your partner spank or bite you. Remember that if you decide to really get rough to have a safe word that you or your partner can use if things go too far. When giving your partner a blowjob, grip his penis firmly at the base while you go down on him and don’t be afraid to get a little sloppy. If you switch to him giving you oral sex, don’t be afraid to grind your hips or press your genitals to his mouth to show that you’re really into it.

Eat Your Way To Better Sex – 6 Foods That Will Boost Your Libido

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Scientists have known for years that aphrodisiacs exist and when used the right way, can enhance both a man’s libido or a woman’s and can turn “blah” sex into explosive sex. They have tried – and often succeeded – in combining these ingredients in herbal supplements to increase the sex drive, but did you know that you probably already have some aphrodisiacs lying around your house? Here are the foods you need to try if you want to heat things up in the bedroom.

Guacamole

While avocados have a history of being a sexual fruit due to its shape and soft, creamy texture, the vitamins and nutrients contained within avocados actually help promote sexual health as well. Avocados contain tons of potassium, magnesium and beta carotene, as well as packing quite a punch in the Vitamin E department. Vitamin E helps both men’s and women’s bodies produce more sex hormones, which not only increase the libido, but also improve overall mood as well. Whip up a batch of guacamole or toss a few avocado slices in your salad for a sexual boost.

Ginger

Fresh ginger is best if using the herb as an aphrodisiac, but powdered ginger or ginger products such as ginger dressing, cookies or tea will work also. Ginger helps thin out the blood, helping blood to reach your genitals, nipples, lips and other hot spots during sexual arousal. Make a stir fry with fresh or powdered ginger in it for an at-home romantic dinner with your partner and serve a salad with ginger dressing as an appetizer. Combine with other aphrodisiac foods for even more libido enhancing power!

Chocolate

Chocolate, of course, has been a well known aphrodisac for many, many years. Not only is chocolate sinfully delicious and the mere fact that it melts in your mouth is an aphrodisiac in itself, chocolate also contains powerful “happy” hormones that will boost your mood and desire for sex almost instantly. Chocolate boosts the levels of seratonin and and dopamine in the brain, making people feel calmer and have a happier disposition. Chocolate also contains the chemical phenylethylamine, which is produced by our brains when we’re in love. No wonder chocolate makes such a popular romantic anniversary or special occasion gift! Serve chocolate for dessert and don’t hold back. Chocolate ice cream with chocolate syrup drizzle, dark chocolate French silk pie…you get the picture.

Pomegranates

Pomegranates are delicious, round red fruits that are in season in the fall. They are peeled and separated, and their jewel-like seeds are valued for their tart yet addicting juice. While pomegranates are rich in antioxidants and help boost the immune system, most of its reputation for being a great aphrodisiac comes from ancient Greek and Christian lore. Many greek mythologists believe that Aphrodite – the goddess of love – was very fond of pomegranates and considered them to be a symbol of sex and sensuality. Others believe that the “forbidden fruit” in the Garden Of Eden was not an apple at all, but rather, a pomegranate. Enjoy feeding your partner ruby red pomegranate seeds sensually, one by one, or toss a few seeds into a glass of champagne for a sexy garnish.

Vanilla

Vanilla has a very strong, comforting scent and flavor that is absolutely unmistakable. Vanilla extract has been used in perfumes, shampoos and soaps for years because the scent of vanilla is calming and envokes a feeling of sensuality. Vanilla is also said to increase muscular function and circulation, which will definitely help your body perform better when you start getting busy. If you’re planning on using vanilla as an aphrodisiac, however, your run of the mill vanilla extract isn’t going to work as well as the real deal. They’re expensive, but an honest to goodness vanilla bean or two will make all the difference in the world.

Asparagus

While some people believe that asparagus is an aphrodisiac simply because of its long, phallic shape, it is actually what asparagus does to you that makes it such a great tool for increasing sexual desire and improving the libido. The chemicals inside asparagus actually help stimulate the urinary tract, which actually creates sensations that are similar to that caused by the well-known aphrodisiac Spanish Fly. These sensations can heighten the feelings of arousal in both men and women, and can even increase the intensity of an orgasm. Asparagus is best when lightly blanched, because it can definitely get soggy and slimy if cooked too long. Try incorporating asparagus in some of your meals when you want to have an explosive orgasm that night.