Sex Tips & Advice

How To Give An Orgasm To A Girl Who Doesn’t Like Clitoral Stimulation

All the women you asked (or went out with) told you that the clitoris is the magic button that you need to knead and fondle if you want any girl to have an orgasm. But what if the woman you’re dating now doesn’t like clitoral stimulation? You must think something’s wrong with her brain but it’s a fact that a lot of ladies out there are too “clitorally sensitive“ to like the sensation of clitoral stimulation. For these women, they feel more pain than pleasure when the clitoris is rubbed, touched or licked.

So, what can you do? Here are some suggestions…

Stimulate Her Nipples During Penetration

The purpose of clitoral stimulation during penetration is to give a woman another variation of sexual pleasure on top of the sensation of being entered. But the clitoris is not the only place that’s susceptible to touching during sex.

There’s another part of her body that’s within reach during sex, her nipples. You can touch or lick her nipples while she’s on top, or you can touch them when you’re in doggy mode or missionary. Remember that a woman likes it when you lick her nipples during foreplay and she might even have a short orgasm called a “nip-gasm” (a burst of sensation during nipple stimulation) if you do it right. That sensation, when added to the sensation she feels while you’re penetrating her will send her reeling.

Watch Her Masturbate

Female masturbation is very different for a woman that doesn’t like clitoral stimulation as compared to masturbation for a woman who depends on clitoral stimulation to climax. Face the mirror while you’re penetrating her from behind and watch how she touches herself down there. Moreover, learn from what you observe. Some women dislike touching the clitoris directly because of sensitivity issues, but they may touch other parts.

Some women would gently pinch the cheeks of the outer lips (labia majora) inward to rub against each other in a rhythmic manner. This is a logical way to stimulate the clitoris without touching it directly. Some women may press their whole palm on the mound or just below the abdomen when penetration starts to induce indirect clitoral pressure. Or she may use a dildo or vibrator to access her g-spot instead of her clitoris. Observe her and get a clue. Then, on your next round, you can do it for her.

Remember that not all women are into clitoral stimulation. Although, the majority of women like it, there may be some women who don’t. The thing is, it’s not something you can just ask outright over dinner. You have to tread lightly during foreplay and observe her reaction when your fingers find their way to her clitoris. The good old formula of “touch her clitoris” may work most of the time, but you need a plan B just in case the girl is not into that.

5 Things You Didn’t Know About Cunnilingus

By leejenkins

Cunnilingus is the “fancy” term for giving a woman head. It may not always be your favourite sex chore (like some women don’t like blowjobs), but it’s a worthwhile skill to learn if you want to satisfy your partner. Women expect men to go down on them during sex. And, cunnilingus has often become the only way for some women to orgasm even before actual sex.

Are Women Able To Orgasm During Cunnilingus?

Yes. Although the chance of orgasm via cunnilingus is still dependent on the man’s skill, most women can climax when they’re being eaten out compared to penetration. This has a lot to do with the way their clitoris get more attention via cunnilingus.

Is It Necessary To Touch The Clitoris When I’m Giving Her Head?

Yes. The clitoris is one of the major factors that contribute to a woman’s pleasure. But how you touch it matters. Some women have a totally exposed clitoris, especially during full arousal. It may be painful for the woman if her clitoris is rubbed directly by a dry finger so what you need to do is to lubricate your hands before you touch her there. If you’re using your tongue, make sure you start licking around her clitoris until she’s used to the sensation before licking the pink tip directly.

I Like It When A Woman Nibbles Lightly On My Member During A Blowjob, Is It The Same For Women?

Unfortunately for the natural nibblers out there, the clitoris is more sensitive than the penis and any grazing of teeth will make it sore and then numb. The penis is often exposed to fabric and the air (when you go to the bathroom to urinate), which contributes to the slight desensitization that continues daily for men. A woman’s clitoris, however, is hidden from view and protected by plump skin for protection. Exposing it to too much sensation, like biting, will only result in pain.

Do All Women Smell Down There?

A woman’s scent down there takes some getting used to, and there are a lot of men who have been traumatized by their first oral sex experience because they are not ready for the smell. Don’t immediately assume that her hygiene is poor if she smells down there, as her diet and a lot of other factors affect her chemical make up.

Some women have a more pleasant smell down there especially if they washed well before jumping into bed with you. But there is still a certain musky odor that no soap or fragrance can mask, because most of the odor comes from the love juice that spews out of her as she gets progressively aroused.

How Do I Deal With The Smell?

You can lessen the exposure to the smell by letting your fingers take charge of her vaginal hole and keeping your mouth on her clitoris. But the best solution is to suggest that you shower together so you can eat her out under running water if the smell is too overwhelming for you.

Men And Porn – What’s The Big Deal?

By loveandsex

Men are very visual creatures, not least of all when it comes to sex. Walk down a crowded street, and you’ll likely see at least one guy overtly checking out an attractive woman. So overcome is he at the mere sight of her, that he’s forgotten how to be subtle. If a man can be dumbfounded at the sight of a fully-clothed woman, it should be no surprise that men love looking at naked women. Boy, do they—thanks in great part to the male love of watching attractive, nude women doing sexy things, the porn industry generates well over an estimated $10 billion a year in the U.S. alone (“Porn in the U.S.A.” by R. Leung, 60 Minutes online). It’s safe to say that, if they’re pulling in that kind of money on an annual basis, there are a whole lot of men partaking in porn viewership. But why do they do it, and how can you tell if their viewing habits are normal or not?

The Real Reason Men Like Porn

Some women are completely comfortable with their significant other’s porn consumption, but many are not. Oftentimes, women feel that their boyfriend or spouse must not be satisfied with their sex lives at home if they also want to view porn. The truth is that the vast majority of men who watch pornography aren’t doing it for any of those reasons. It doesn’t reflect on their love for their partner or how happy they are about the sex they’re having at home. They just enjoy the novelty and fantasy of it. Porn is like a dirty dream that doesn’t require your subconscious to do any work. Plus, as mentioned above, men are so visual when it comes to arousal that it helps them to have actual images to view. Perhaps women aren’t as into porn as men because they’re better at inventing their own fantasies. Girls can close their eyes and imagine a sexy situation involving themselves, but men need to see something right out in front of them.

Is Your Sex Life Suffering?

Ultimately, there’s nothing wrong with a guy who enjoys porn. You should only be worried if your sex life is suffering. If your boyfriend or husband can’t become aroused without watching porn, or he hardly ever wants to have sex with you but is regularly masturbating to porn, you need to have a talk. But if he wants to use porn every once and awhile, and it isn’t diminishing the quality of the sex you two are having, then more power to him. Perhaps you should even try watching some porn with him—who knows? You might find some ideas worth experimenting with in your own bedroom.

Women Like Porn Too!

In fact, despite the stereotype that men love porn and women don’t, many members of the fairer sex have enjoyed their share. In a recent Glamour Magazine column by Rebecca Webber (entitled “Are You Normal About Porn?”), the author revealed that 31% of young women have viewed porn within the past year, and 51% of women have watched pornography with their boyfriend. Though they also noted that 31% of women consider porn degrading, the numbers show that many women are either curious about or enjoying pornography. In fact, 47% of women reported liking porn featuring a man and a woman. Only 20% enjoyed less vanilla sex, so men take note—if you want to bring porn into your bedroom, start with something a little less adventurous. Try to get your partner’s input– that way you’ll pick material that will turn her on, too.

How To Give A Female Orgasm – Even If Your Penis Is Too Small

By leejenkins

Maybe it’s the culture of pornography that led men to believe they can only please women if they have a foot-long member to wield. Maybe it’s the bragging that they often hear from friends, or it’s the way the media has always depicted the ideal man, virile and hung as a horse. Whatever made a lot of men insecure about their penis size, this line of thinking has got to stop. In the first place, so many women are blissfully happy with partners who are just average in size.

By average, we mean in the 5-6 inch margin. But this too could put men who have penis sizes lower than five inches feel insecure. So, let’s clarify the main point: size is only an issue to men who don’t know how to properly please women. If a woman thought the sex was unsatisfactory, believe me, it’s not your size, it’s your skills.

Angle Your Thrusts

The angle of thrusting matters, especially if your penis is small. You should know that a woman’s g-spot is located near the entrance of her vagina on the upper part. The doggy position can let you touch that spot in a more intense manner, but you can also do this using the missionary position. Just put a pillow or two beneath the woman’s thighs so her hips are slightly elevated.

Touch Her Clitoris

In the end, you should realize that a woman could reach climax easily when her clitoris is stimulated during penetration. The clitoris may be small, but it’s the core of a woman’s pleasure. Adding the sensation of clitoral fondling into the mix while you’re having sex will push her over the edge. In fact, no matter what stage of sex you’re on, you should not quit touching her clitoris one way or another. Even if it’s just thrusting and grinding so that your pubic region presses on her mound during sex. This action will lead to indirect clitoral stimulation, which makes all the difference in terms of her pleasure.

You should never let your penis size bother you. In reality, you are probably the only one bothered by it. If a woman has had many lovers in the past, it’s just normal that she compares you, size-wise, but the thing is, if you’re skilled enough in sex, your penis size will never be an issue. If you need an analogy, think of how women feel about other women with big breasts. They feel insecure about their bodies just like men with below average penis sizes, but in the end, sex skills are more important than size.

The PC Muscle, Kegels And “The Block” – How To Use Them To Stop Premature Ejaculation

By jackgrave

Premature ejaculation is like a knife striking at the heart of a good sex life. Until you discover the methods of stopping it you could not only fail to enjoy sex but leave your partner dissatisfied with you in bed.

So it’s a good thing there are natural methods to stopping premature ejaculation. It’s not something that requires surgical intervention or anything crazy like that, it just takes a bit of understanding of the human body and a few clever techniques. And of these clever techniques the most powerful one involves the PC muscle, kegel exercises and something called “The Block.”

The PC Muscle

The PC muscle is a very important muscle when it comes to sex. It’s one of the key muscles that causes you to ejaculate and can also be used to stop you from ejaculating – and that’s where the real power comes in.

With the right training and use of this muscle you can develop to a point where you can literally stop an orgasm dead in its tracks. And not only will you stop ejaculation, after doing it you’ll stay hard and be able to carry on sex for a significant time afterwards.

So the first step is identifying where your PC muscle is. When you urinate you’ll notice that you have the ability to stop the urine flow. When you stop the urine flow you’re effectively contracting or “squeezing” your PC muscle. Squeezing your PC muscle is like standing on a hose pipe… When you stand on it or “squeeze” it you stop the flow of liquid going through it. This is why when you squeeze your PC muscle while urinating the urine flow stops.

Eventually your aim will be to stop your ejaculation by squeezing your PC muscle, but before I explain exactly how to do that you need to strengthen the muscle first.

Your PC muscle is similar to other muscles in the body in the sense that if you exercise it regularly it will grow in size and strength. And the process of exercising it is often called performing “kegels.” Performing kegels is easy and only takes about 5 minutes 6 times a week.

How To Perform Kegels

Any time when you’re just sitting around or not occupied (i.e. when your penis is flaccid and NOT while you’re urinating) all you’ve got to do is squeeze your PC muscle tight as hard as you can for 2 seconds. Then relax it for 2 seconds. Then squeeze tight hard for 2 seconds and on and on. Do this 10 times to make one set of kegel exercises, then take a break for 1 or 2 minutes. Then do another set.

When starting out I’d recommend performing 2 sets, but it’s up to you to experiment with how many sets you do, how many repetitions you do and how tightly you squeeze. Over time you’ll want to increase the level of exercise you’re doing to strengthen your PC muscle further. If at any point whilst performing the exercise you feel pain stop immediately and take a break, this exercise should not be causing you any pain. Please do note at this point that what I’m tell you is only opinion which makes you responsible for your actions and you’ll want to see a doctor before beginning any new physical training program.

“The Block”

So part 2 of this process for stopping premature ejaculation involves “The Block”. I call it this for no other reason than that it sounds kinda cool. But what The Block involves doing is contracting or squeezing your PC muscle at just the right time so you stop ejaculation from happening.

It’s best to practise this on your own while masturbating first where you have a bit more control before taking it to the bedroom. The aim with The Block is to squeeze your PC muscle just before you ejaculate. The key element of pulling off “The Block” correctly is timing. If you squeeze too early you’ll have done nothing and you’ll still be super close to orgasm. If you squeeze too late then you’ll orgasm and ejaculate anyway.

When you do squeeze aim to hold your PC muscle tight for as long as it takes for the feel of ejaculation to subside. You may even experience an orgasm without ejaculation at this point, which is great. But keep that PC muscle squeezed until the ejaculation feeling subsides. If you got your timing right then once the feeling’s gone you should be able to last for at least another 5 minutes, if not more.

Now getting your timing perfect takes practice. So be prepared to fail at first. But with enough practice it’s well worth the effort. When you master this technique you have complete ejaculation control. No matter how severe your condition, what your penis size, what genes you were born with or what your woman does you can last longer in bed with this technique, so it’s definitely worth taking the time to master it.