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What Are Multiple Orgasms And How Can I Give Them?

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Have you ever wondered if the phenomenon called multiple orgasms really does exist? Ask a woman who has experienced it and you will know that this really happens. Some women may not be able to describe to you exactly what they felt, but if they tell you it’s a prolonged version of an orgasm, it’s definitely a variant of what we know as multiple orgasms.

Multiple orgasms can be classified into two: multiple orgasms in a series, and stacking orgasms.

Multiple Orgasms In A Series

When a woman has one orgasm and doesn’t take too long to build another one, she is experiencing a series of orgasm. This is what happens when a woman is extremely excited. She doesn’t feel tired after the first orgasm. In fact, that she has already climaxed once makes it extremely easy for her to climax again. This often occurs during sex when the man continues to thrust in his penis even after the woman has had her first orgasm.

Stacking Multiple Orgasms

An orgasm that seems to go on forever is called a stacking orgasm. The orgasms are so close together that the woman feels like she’s having one orgasm that goes beyond what she’s used to.

A lot of women become extremely emotional when they feel this phenomenon of stacking orgasms, and more often than not, they burst into tears. The feeling overwhelms them and overflows as an emotional outburst.

How to Give Multiple Orgasms

Any man can give multiple orgasms if he can…

Prolong the sex. This means holding back his own orgasm and continue thrusting even when he’s almost at his limit. A man usually slows down to be able to control his own orgasm, but slowing down could destroy the momentum needed to give multiple orgasms. What you can do is to wear another layer of condom on top of the first one, or choose a condom brand that’s thicker than your usual. This will kill the sensation somewhat and allow you to continue thrusting without losing it.

Fondle her clitoris during penetration. It’s no secret that the clitoris, like the penis, reacts to stimulation during sex. This means the clitoris expands, tightens and becomes rigid. Fondling the clitoris the right way at this point will make a woman feel great. Moreover, she will be able to experience multiple orgasms if her clitoris is continuously touched during penetration.

Stimulate the woman emotionally. A multiple orgasm is a result of physical and emotional stimulation. To create extreme emotional connection with a girl during sex, you have to tell her what she wants to hear. If you’ve been dating her for a time, saying “I love you” will often do the trick. Flattery will also work, if said in a sincere manner. Tell her she is beautiful, or sexy, or that she is a goddess.

Adult Movies: Pick Your Pleasure – Porn And Beyond

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Adult movies and porn have been “taboo” for many years. Many guys watch porn behind their wife’s or girlfriend’s back alone, in the dark, and often in less than five minutes. Adult movies can be used in so many more ways than just masturbation though! There are hundreds of different kinds of adult movies, so everyone can find their own “flavor.” You and your partner can explore adult movies together to spice up your sex life, and you can use them to explore different sex fantasies without actually trying them. Here’s why adult movies can add that little extra something to your sex life.

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Watching Adult Movies Together

A lot of women view porn as “degrading” and assume it’s something that their husbands or boyfriends look at and masturbate to in private – and they do. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Instead of keeping the porn stashed under the mattress or in some innocuous folder deep inside your computer’s hard drive, share it with your partner. Start by browsing different videos together and talking about what each of you like and don’t like. There are so many different styles of adult movies out there that with a little digging, you’ll find a few movies that you and your partner both get turned on by. Watch them together and watch the sparks between you fly!

Trying Your Fantasies Through Videos

So you like the idea of bondage or spanking, or maybe even a little golden shower here and there, but you’ve been afraid to try it. Try watching an adult video that features your chosen fantasy and see how other people are doing it. You may discover that whatever you thought you liked really isn’t your thing, or you may find out that after watching the video, you really do want to try it with your partner! Exploring your sex fantasies through adult movies is a great way to dip your toes in the water without jumping in feet first.

Hardcore vs. Softcore Porn

One of the biggest misconceptions about porn is that it is all hardcore. Many women – and some men – assume that all porn consists of is rough sex and uncomfortable close ups on the actors’ genitals. While a great deal of hardcore porn does exist, it is definitely not the only kind of adult movies that exist. If hardcore porn isn’t up your alley, try checking out some softcore porn instead. These videos don’t show as much as hardcore adult movies do. Think of a rated “R” movie with nudity and just add a little bit more – that’s basically what you’ll find in a softcore adult video.

Kink & Fantasies

Everyone has a different fantasy when it comes to sex, and there is no shortage of kink & sex fantasies in the adult movie industry. No matter what you like – with a few exceptions – there’s a video for it. Whether you want to see two girls going at it or anal sex, you’ll find an adult movie for it and you will most likely find videos that have more than one fetish or fantasy in it. Other fantasies, such as shoe fetishes, smoking fetishes and even diaper fetishes are featured in adult videos, so if you have a fantasy that you’ve been wanting to check out, try finding a video for it. Just remember that there are videos out there that feature things that are illegal or simply just cross way over the line, so make sure that whatever you’re watching consists only of consenting adults and no one is getting seriously harmed.

Amateur Porn

Amateur porn is quickly becoming popular with websites such as YouPorn, which feature mostly regular people with webcams who film themselves having sex. If you’ve never been one for the “Lights, Camera, Action!” feel of a lot of adult movies, amateur porn may be right up your alley.

Sex Ed

If you want to learn how to give a great blowjob or want to learn other great sex techniques, the best place to learn actually isn’t porn. However, there are lots of adult videos that are focused on sex education. Most of them do feature actors having sex and performing the activity they’re teaching, but it’s less of a spectacle and more about instruction. These films are great to watch with you partner when you want to do something different in the bedroom but aren’t sure exactly how to get started. They’ll also help show you techniques that you never even thought of doing – and that will blow your partner’s mind!

Q&A: How To Give A Better Blowjob

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It’s no secret that guys love getting a blowjob. Getting head is probably one of your guy’s favorite ways to be pleasured sexually, so you should definitely learn how to give great head if you don’t already know how. And chances are, even if you’re a blowjob pro, you could use a few tips to spice up your routine. Giving a guy head sounds simple, but there are a lot of things that girls miss when they’re going down on their guy. Here are some simple tips to help you give a better blowjob.

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Be In A Comfortable Position

Being uncomfortable is one of the main complaints that women have about going down on their guy. Many women avoid giving their guy a blowjob at all just because they can’t find a comfortable position to do it in. If you’re not in a good position while going down on your guy, you’ll find that you tire more quickly and easily, your neck will start to cramp and your jaw and hands may get tired fast. You can give much better head if you find a position in which you can be comfortable during the blowjob. The best sex positions for pleasing your guy orally are usually if you are on your knees with him either sitting or lying down.

Start By Slowly Licking Him Up And Down

Most women don’t like it when their partners perform oral sex on them and just dive right in. They’d prefer if their guys started a little slower, kissing and licking lightly before starting the real show. Guys are the same. Your man doesn’t just want you to put his whole penis in your mouth and watch you start sucking like a madwoman. He’d love to see you lick slowly up and down his penis, getting him warmed up before you start going fast and using your hands as well as your mouth.

Tongue, Mouth, Hand And Fingers

Most girls’ mouths aren’t wide or long enough to completely take in all of their partner’s penis, especially if he has a big penis or a very long or wide one. So when giving your guy oral sex, use your hands and fingers in addition to your tongue and mouth to really make the blowjob great. Since you probably can’t take him completely into your mouth when he’s erect, keep your mouth on the head (which is one of the most sensitive parts of his penis) and use your hands and fingers to caress his lower shaft and testicles. Experiencing all the different sensations your hands and mouth create during a blowjob will make it truly amazing for him!

Show Him You’re Really Into It!

Guys don’t want to see a girl giving a blowjob like it’s a chore. So show your man that you’re really into it and you’re getting something out of it too. Make eye contact with him occasionally and don’t forget to make some noise. He doesn’t want to hear only himself! You can also touch yourself during the blowjob, but do so only as you’re getting him warmed up. When he gets close, all your focus needs to be on him. If you don’t mind his hands on your head, he’d love to put them there. If you do, just let him fondle your breasts during the blowjob instead. Afterwards, let him know how much you enjoyed giving him pleasure with your mouth!

Communicate With Your Partner

There are lots of things that men enjoy when getting head, and there are a few things that will make him cringe – such as using your teeth, for one. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner about what he likes and what he doesn’t like when you’re giving him a blowjob, because not all guys like the same thing when recieving oral sex. If you’re too shy to ask, pay attention to his non-verbal cues instead. If he really likes something, his eyes may roll back in his head or he may start breathing faster or moaning louder. He may grasp the sheets or the arms of the chair, or he may buck his hips towards you. When that happens, just keep doing whatever you’re doing! If you stop or change to doing something different, he’ll stop exhibiting these behaviors and he’ll come right back to the real world. When you find something he really likes, whether he told you or showed you that it was great, keep doing it! Chances are, it won’t be long before he reaches orgasm.

5 Mistakes Couples Make When Trying To Dirty Talk

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Okay, so you’ve agreed to give talking dirty a go with your partner. You may be a little nervous, but you love them so much and only want to make them happy. Besides, your sex life could really use a boost. However, many people make grave mistakes when learning how to dirty talk and these mistakes will end up causing more problems than you originally bargained for. Like you, many people have the potential to fall into the trap of these 5 mistakes. Avoid these mistakes at all costs to save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong!

Mistake 1: Emulating The Dirty Talk In Porn Films

A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason. Many of these lines are not only cheesy, but they can be crass and derogatory towards women and sometimes even men. Also remember that these lines are scripted, and very, very fake. Your partner will definitely be able to tell that you’re not sincere at all in your dirty talk if you use lines from a porn movie. Avoid copying what you hear the porn stars say in the bedroom and you’ll be on your way to successful dirty talk.

Mistake 2: Making The Dirty Talk Unbelievable

Be aware that sometimes talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, “Your cock is so huge,” when in reality is only about 3 inches isn’t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. It’s actually going to make him feel much more self conscious about his smaller size. Likewise, telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more “grape” than “grapefruit” in size will more than likely backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don’t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly it makes you cum or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you. Instead of exaggerating what they’re insecure about, talk about how much you love it. They’ll feel great about their body if they know it makes you really, really hot.

Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations In Their Heads

When you’re using dirty talk, don’t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. a threesome, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life. Reserve your dirty talk for things that you and your partner can actually make happen. Tell her that you want to bend her over the washing machine and do her from behind or tell him that you want to give him road head the next time you guys have a long drive in the car.

Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk As The Sizzle Rather Than The Spice

Talking dirty can also become redundant, just like the same sex positions day after day after day. Make sure that you don’t use the same phrases over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, “Ok, I’ve heard that so many times. Please shut up already!” Instead, try your best to find new and different ways of telling your partner that they turn you on or what you want to do to them when you get them alone. If you’re having trouble thinking of something new to say, try using your surroundings as an inspiration. Going grocery shopping? Tell her how hot it would make you if you bought a very smooth, large cucumber and used it at home! Dirty talk won’t get boring if you use your imagination.

Mistake 5: Giving Up When It’s Not Turning Them On

Sometimes dirty talk can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It’s okay to laugh! But don’t give up. There’s actually a lot to learn! It’s not just the words you say, it’s how you say them. If your dirty talk isn’t appearing to turn your partner on, ask them why. Keep open communication about what they like and what they don’t like. If they’re not into something in particular, it doesn’t mean they’re turned off by dirty talk all together. It just means that that particular phrase didn’t do that much for them. Find something else to say instead!

Sexy Halloween Costume Ideas

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Halloween isn’t too far around the corner, so it’s time to start thinking about sexy costumes and what you want to wear to halloween parties or in the bedroom with your partner – or both! Here are some great ideas for sexy halloween costumes that will make you the talk of any party and make your partner want to rip your costume off when you get home.

Cliche Costumes Make The Best Ones

Sure, you may think a sexy nurse or police officer is cliche, but these are actually some of the sexiest and hottest costumes available! Everyone loves a nurse in garters or a police officer in tall leather boots. If you think that by picking a common sexy costume that you’ll show up at a party wearing the same costume as someone else, think again. Many websites offer different versions of the same costume, so you can choose the one that’s just a little bit different than all the rest! You’ll love being the center of attention at any halloween party, and of course, you’ll want to incorporate your costume into the bedroom at home and give your partner amazing sex!

Spice Up Your Costume With A Wig

If you really want to be different on Halloween, try looking for a wig to go with your sexy costume. Have you picked out a sexy genie costume? Try going with a blond ponytail instead of your long brown hair. If you’ve picked something darker, such as a police officer, a mafia girl or even a hot assassin, why not go for a short, razor cut dark bob? Pairing wigs with your costume can take your look from “sure, that looks good” to “Damn! Who is that girl?!?” Taking your sexy costume to the next level with a wig is a bit like taking your normal sex routine up a notch with oral sex. It just adds that little something extra!

Plus-Size Sexy Costumes

Don’t think that you can’t wear a sexy costume just because you’re a little bigger around the middle. Most websites have plus size versions of their best costumes, so you can choose the costume that best flatters your body shape – it’s kind of like selecting the right size condom for your partner’s penis. Don’t want your spare tire to hang out? Choose a one-piece sexy nurse costume instead of the two-piece, or add a black leather bodice to your police costume to help cover up your flaws and make you look thinner! A one piece sexy school girl outfit can flatter a lot of body shapes, but perhaps the best costume for large tummies and busts is a barmaid-type costume. A full skirt will hide your thighs and a criss-cross bodice will cover up your midsection. A ruffled top enhances a large bust, so you can flaunt your assets while hiding what you don’t like about yourself. Finding a costume that you feel comfortable in (and that you can have sex in any sex position in without worrying about what’s hanging out) is the key to looking great on Halloween. Confidence and knowing you look good in whatever you choose to wear is what will turn heads and make you feel like a Halloween sex vixen!