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5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

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When you crook your forefinger upward and move it forward and backward like you’re calling someone to come nearer, that’s called the “come hither movement.” Such a movement is not considered polite among strangers, or even acquaintances, but it’s perfectly acceptable to call over someone who happens to be your lover using this gesture.

There is another use for the come hither gesture, and this has something to do with finding the g spot and giving a woman mind boggling orgasms.

What is the come hither g spot orgasm? When fingering a girl, you use the come hither movement to detect the part of her vaginal portal that feels slightly different from the rest of the tissues around your fingers. That part is her g-spot and it can become quite ridged when she’s aroused.

Men who have trouble finding the g spot might have forgotten the most important factor to finding the g spot. A girl must be completely into it, and super excited, for the g-spot to be engorged with blood. Some experts say that the g-spot is the tail of the clitoris, which means that you can find it quickly if you stimulate the front end of the clitoris first.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

  1. First, practice the come hither motion on your own. Position your hand in front of you with your palm facing upward. Then, crook your forefinger in the shape of a hook. Do the same with your middle finger. Use both fingers to create the come hither gesture. If you wish, you can let your ring finger join in (if you intend to finger your girl using three fingers).
  2. When you’re in bed with your girl, you can start stimulating her by eating her out. This is the fastest way to induce lubrication. Make sure you stimulate the outer part of her vaginal portal, and especially her clitoris, so that she will be fully aroused and ready for fingering.
  3. When she’s wet enough, insert your forefinger and let it slide in and out for a few minutes. Do this gently to prevent hurting her with the friction. Make sure your finger goes deeper every time you slide it in.
  4. When she’s used to the motion of your forefinger, get your middle finger working. Slide both fingers in and out for a few minutes before trying the come hither motion.
  5. Let your tongue play with her clitoris as you gently push both fingers deep inside her vagina and slowly do the come hither movement while inside. The sensation this induces may feel odd to most girls, and a lot of women will probably stop you (because the sensation is akin to that of wanting to pee). When this happens, distract her by wetting and licking her clitoris more seriously while you repeat the movement.

The combination of cunnilingus and come hither movement inside her vagina will induce a powerful orgasm she won’t be able to forget.

How To Have More Orgasms In Your Relationship

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Becoming more aware of your sexuality inside your relationship is both good and bad. Good because you’re learning more about each other. By the time you took a breather and got around to spending a night without so much as touching each other, you realize that sex has become monotonous, uneventful and even boring. But, of course, you will never be able to tell your partner that without offending her to the extreme. What you can do is to suggest new things that will mix things up so that you can have better orgasms together.

Sex Toys

Sex toys are made of plastic or rubber, and they can range in variety from odd-looking buttons to colourful beads. They’re readily available online or by mail order. You can choose the best ones with your partner and try them one by one. Experimenting with sex toys is always fun, considering you can bring your pleasure to a completely new level.

If you’re not comfortable with having a threesome, but you want to try having an extra hand during sex, you can always try sex toys. A sybian for example can help your partner get off while performing blowjob on you. The sensations brought on by these sex toys may seem strange at first, but with skilful handling and a bit of imagination, you can use these to improve your sex life.

Fantasize

If you have never discussed fantasies with your partner, now is the time to do so. But you have to make sure you don’t take these fantasies seriously. If she fantasizes about being taken inside the office and it just so happened that she works as a secretary, don’t immediately assume that she wants to sleep with her boss. Fantasies are scenarios we think up with our partners in mind.

You have to be careful when describing situations, though. You don’t want to mention any particular person while coming up with kinky fantasies to try if you don’t want your girlfriend to feel jealous or paranoid over the girl you’re fantasizing about. Mentioning porn stars or letting her choose from your fetish porn collection is safe.

Being more kinky inside your relationship is a sign that you’re growing as a couple. It also means the trust between you and your partner is growing. Soon, you might even consider letting her wear a strap on and doing you for a change. Losing your inhibitions with your partner can be a fun way to get to know each other sexually. Finding out what your partner likes, and what kinky sex and  fantasies she’s keeping from you, can be the trigger to a more orgasmic sex life.

10 Easy Ways You Can Make Sex Better For Her – And You!

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Making sex better for her is the key to making sex better for you. If she’s satisfied, you’ll have better sex more often rather than going days or even weeks in between having sex. Here are 10 easy ways you can make sex better for her – and yourself – so you can start spicing up your sex life tonight!

Oral Sex Techniques

Lick her clitoris. Start slow, and then build up speed until she’s literally shaking underneath you! One great trick is to use what is called the “alphabet method.” Lick the letters of the alphabet on your partner’s clitoris slowly, and go faster as her body responds to what you’re doing. Bet you don’t make it through the alphabet twice!

Finger her while you go down on her. Many women really enjoy having both g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation at the same time. In fact, this is one of the best ways to give her a “blended orgasm” or a g-spot and a clitoral orgasm at the same time!

Explore every inch of her vagina with your tongue. Too many men focus only on the clitoris and forget that the rest of the vagina is sensitive as well. Lick up and down her vagina with your tongue, switching from a pointed tongue to a flat tongue that “laps.” You can also practice “french kissing” her vagina. Wrap your lips around her folds and “kiss” her like you would kiss her mouth. She’ll love it!

Kissing Techniques

Kiss her slowly and deeply. Women love kissing, and it helps them to feel physically and emotionally connected to their partners. Also, deep french kissing can be a teaser to what you’re going to do next when you eat her out!

Kiss her body. Involving her whole body in sex is a great way to get her mind completely involved in sex as well. Don’t allow her to lay back and let the day’s to-do list occupy her mind. Instead, get her whole body involved with your mouth like you can’t get enough of her.

Intercourse Techniques

Let her be on top. It is easier for a woman to reach orgasm when she’s on top versus when you are on top. This is because she controls her muscles, the movement and the positioning and can control her climax.

Go slow. It takes time for a woman to build up an orgasm, especially through intercourse. If you start out hard and fast, it’s likely she won’t have time to have an orgasm at all. Instead, go slow until she reaches climax and then you can go as hard and as fast as you want.

Push your pelvis forward. Provide your partner with clitoral stimulation during intercourse by pushing your pelvis forward to grind against hers. You can also add a dollop of lube just above your groin to make the sensations even better for her.

Using Your Hands

Touch her everywhere. Don’t just focus on the hot spots! Instead, run your hands up and down her body as though she were made of silk or cashmere. Make her feel like she is made of silk or cashmere!

Hold her hands during sex. Whether you’re going down on her or having sex, hold her hands and make her feel cherished. Feeling emotionally satisfied from sex is as important to a woman as feeling physically satisfied.

How To Be The Best Lover She’s Ever Had

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Every guy wants to be the best lover his girl has ever had, and he probably wants to be the best lover that every one of his past girlfriends have ever had too. It’s part of the natural competitiveness that just about every man has. They simply want to be the best at everything, even sex. But it’s difficult to know for sure if you really are the best lover she’s ever had, or if she’s had much better sex before you. Fortunately, there are a few ways you can really be the best lover in the world to her, without taking pills to make your penis larger or just being an all around sex god. Here’s what to do to make her want you and only you.

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Avoid Comparisons In The First Place

It’s natural for men to want to compare themselves to each other, regardless of whether he’s got the better car, the biggest penis or the better washboard abs. It’s just something that men do. However, most women consider a man’s need to compete with other men just plain silly and don’t want to have anything to do with it. So you likely won’t get an answer at all if you ask her if you’re better in bed than all her other boyfriends. Instead of trying to compare yourself to your partner’s other lovers, simply check your ego at the door. There’s no comparison between you and them, because you’re you and they’re them. You and her other lovers will be similar in some ways and completely different in others, and that’s actually a good thing. If she wanted exactly what her other lovers had to offer, she wouldn’t be with you, now would she?

Learn From Those Who Came Before You

If she had a lover or two that really drove her wild, instead of bristling at that fact, use the information to your advantage. Her being more experienced in the sex department is actually something that will benefit you and your sex life with her. She’ll know more about what she likes and what she doesn’t, and she may even know more about pleasuring you too. Ask her what her previous lovers did that made her so hot and try to re-enact what they did yourself. Did they lick her clitoris a certain way or finger her g-spot just right? Or did they roleplay with her and fulfill her wildest fantasies? Even if you don’t get it exactly right the first time, ask her what you need to be doing differently, without copping an attitude about it. This takes a lot of guts and requires you to put your “manliness” aside, but the results are well worth it. Your partner will truly appreciate your effort at pleasing her, and she will definitely enjoy you when you’re not being defensive about her previous lovers. It’s very likely that with effort on your part and communication on hers that you can learn to perform as well as her previous partners, if not better! You’ll not only learn what they did to make her squirm, but you will also learn new ways to pleasure her too.

Master The Basics

Many guys think that if they’re “experienced” in the sex department (i.e. watched porn or had a few sex partners) that they automatically know everything there is to know about giving a woman an orgasm. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! A lot of guys don’t know all the ways you can pleasure a woman and many guys don’t even know the basics and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’ve never taken the time to research ways to pleasure your partner, now is definitely the time. There are tons of resources available that will teach you more about a woman’s anatomy and how you can use fingering and oral sex to make her beg for more. Remember that porn is actually one of the worst examples on how to please a woman sexually, so check out an e-book or a helpful website if you’re looking for tips on how to give her a fantastic orgasm. Some sex tips are pretty basic, but if you’ve never found a woman’s g-spot or her clitoris (or stimulated both at the same time), you have a lot to learn before you can really drive your girl wild. Take some time to learn a few new things that you can try in the bedroom and watch as your partner forgets all about her past lovers and is focused only on you!

How To Create A Connection That Will Last Before Having Sex

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Earlier, I looked at a recent study by the University of Iowa that found that relationships that start with a spark and not much else aren’t necessarily doomed from the get-go. However, in the study, UI sociologist Anthony Paik found that average relationship quality was higher for individuals who waited until things were serious to have sex compared to those who became sexually involved in “hookups,” “friends with benefits,” or casual dating relationships.

It just takes a bit of common sense to figure out that rushing into things sexually before knowing a few of the basics about someone probably won’t end favorably unless you’re lucky. And because basing a relationship on luck isn’t a great idea either, here are a few ways to bring up some initial compatability issues before making a physical or sexual commitment to someone.

Address These Issues With A Potential Mate Before Hopping In The Sack

Talk about money. Yes, it’s a touchy subject and I’m not suggesting you delineate how much each person makes, but finding out where financial priorities lie can be important. Talk about how money has been used in their family: worries, abandonment, shame, blame around money. Questions like this will eliminate any problems or irreconcilable differences, and is a way to see who is flexible and who is not, in reference to money and power, and struggles over money. I talk about the importance of this discussion and further techniques in my book, Financial Infidelity.

Embrace conflict. Another important tip in the compatibility of a relationship is to make sure you fight fair. Even new, exciting, young relationships have their share of conflict as you get to know eachother, and while you may not face intense, knock-down, drag-out fights early on, it is essential to walk in your partner’s shoes rather than trying to be right. Instead of shame and blame you should give three solutions, and your partner has to pick at least one. Fighting fairly creates the tension that gives you passion and makes you feel safe.

Make the first move! I suggest women should make the first move in connecting for a first date and getting past that possible lull of uncertainty. If you like him, tell him! (But, PS, texting and emailing during the day can actually deflate the spark of in-person romance!)

There’s a happy medium between putting off physical intimacy forever (unless that’s something you’ve mutually decided on) and jumping in right away. These techniques can help you get to know each other better in the interim and ensure that you’re ready for the next step, when you get to that point.