Sex Tips & Advice

Lasting Longer Sexually – A Men’s Guide To Unlimited Stamina & Enhanced Sexual Intimacy!

Are you looking for ways to last longer during sex? Are you desperate to end the guilt and anxiety that come with premature ejaculation? Many guys have suffered the unfortunate event of having their relationships ended just because they are not able to sexually fulfill their women. As a result, there are men who decided not to have sex until they feel confident enough to perform better. Sounds like you too? Don’t fret – there is a way out.

The Double-Edged Sword Of Performance Anxiety

Most men would love to completely satisfy their women in bed. It always starts with good intentions: you want her to feel the sizzling passions you have for her; you want the moment to last an eternity, or at least until she comes to an orgasm; you wish you were the best lover she’s ever had.

Unfortunately this “self-inflicted pressure” will result in what you fear most – an early ejaculation that could occur as soon as sexual intercourse begins! If you are reading this, you probably have had that unfortunate label of being “trigger happy” where your ejaculation tendencies are concerned.

Enjoy The “Sensual Pleasures,” Not “Sexual Indulgence” Of Sex

There is a key difference between the two. Enjoying sensual pleasures involves focusing on giving your partner the sexual gratification that she deserves. It involves becoming fully aware of the suite of sensations that envelop your entire body, not just on your genitals.

Start thinking of sex as a full bodied experience that involves a slow, tender build up. Do not view sex as the all-encompassing element of a relationship. It is not. Sex is just one part of a healthy, stable and enduring relationship. Believe me, getting this paradigm right is one of the keys to curing premature ejaculation!

Practice Makes Perfect – Always!

Do not shy away from sex just because of your early ejaculation tendencies. Communicate with your partner that you want to overcome this, and tell her that her help will make this much easier for you, and for her too! As with any self-improvement endeavor, practice makes perfect.

Try to have sex as often as possible. Rather than shying away from it, take it by the horns and see every sex session as an opportunity to improve your sexual endurance and your sexual intimacy. Use these as opportunities to get to know your own sexual response cycles.

Above all, practice some simple maneuvers with her, such as varying your positions to reduce penile stimulation as well as understanding the types of movements and intensity that will lower her threshold for an orgasm.

What about using delay sprays and creams? Won’t they give men better stamina in the sack?

There are plenty of commercial solutions to help end your premature ejaculation problem. Nutraceuticals such as sprays or creams can be used to treat a hyper-sensitive penis. The reason most men climax too soon is because their minds are not hardwired to handle the intense sexual stimulation, thus pushing them over the edge before they even had a chance to rein in their ejaculatory reflexes and truly satisfy their partners.

But there is a downside to these commercial solutions. You need to religiously apply these whenever you want to make out. And they are known to numb the penis so that you feel LESS during sex.

Worst still, delay sprays and creams can rub off onto the vagina and causes your female partner to lose the sensations during intercourse too! Well, they are not ideal solutions but may serve as pretty reliable “quick-fixes” whenever you need one.

The bottom line is this – if you find yourself finishing too soon during sex, rest assured that premature ejaculation can be cured. Continue to maintain a positive outlook. With some effort and PRACTICE, things will soon sizzle up in the bedroom for both you and your lover!

How To Delay Your Ejaculation And Develop A Superhuman Sexual Stamina (For Embarrassed Men Only!)

By lloydlester

Let’s face it. When it comes to sex, there is a whole myriad of issues and perhaps even insecurities that we as men would face in the bedroom. But perhaps nothing comes close to the proverbial question that most men have been asking for the longest time: how do I delay premature ejaculation during sex? Or simply – how can I last longer in bed?

For a woman, the ability to reach an orgasm quickly is almost a far-fetch fantasy. But for a guy, ejaculating too fast during sex is the bane that can cause even the strongest relationship to falter if the problem is not addressed.

But if you are not lasting beyond 4 minutes into sex, you are not alone. You have almost 40 percent of the male population behind you! And you are definitely not alone in wanting to find a solution so that you can last longer and enjoy better sex.

A Supercharged Sexual Arousal Is Detrimental To Your Sex Life

Many “premature ejaculators” can go from erection to ejaculation within one or two minutes. That is simply not enough time for a woman to be properly aroused. In fact, most women require at least 10 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to be able to achieve an orgasm! The problem with most men suffering from PE is over-stimulation. They simply allow the stimulation to go out of control until it is too late.

But First, You Have To Possess The Right Mindset If You Want To Last Longer

This is fundamentally important. It is not just about using the latest sprays, creams or ointments to give you superior sexual stamina. It is about adopting the right paradigm and attitude during sex that will separate you from rookies who ejaculate from the word “GO” and REAL men who can truly master their ejaculation almost on command.

Mind Over Body

We all know that the mind controls the body, and not the other way round. Guys who climax too soon allow their bodies to rule their minds. They let the sexual stimulation get too intense to the point that they cannot stem an impending orgasm, regardless of how they try to mentally distract themselves. When you reach the “point of no return” during sex, it is too late to rein in your ejaculation.

The Attitude You Should Adopt

Honesty is the best policy even when it comes to sex. You don’t have to feel guilty that you are not lasting long enough for her. You just got to be honest with her that you are climaxing too soon because she has turned you on so much, and you would love to return her the favor.

Women love men who have the courage to face up to their sexual inadequacies. Sex doesn’t have to end when you ejaculate! You can and SHOULD continue to give her sexual stimulation. Your penis isn’t exactly the only “tool” you have. In fact, most women hardly get an orgasm through penetrative sex.

One of the key “female orgasm instruments” is the clitoris, and because of direct penetrative movement during intercourse, very often the clitoris does not get sufficiently stimulated.

So go down on her if you like and stimulate her clitoris with your tongue (women love oral sex) and continue to romp her erogenous spots with your fingers. This exudes sexual confidence on your part; it shows you are in control… and this turns women on!

Believe me, having confidence is that the first crucial step to curing premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. Be bold, and take that first step!

Q&A: Condoms – Should You Flush Them?

By loveandsex

Disposing of a condom can be tricky. You want to be discreet about it, so putting it in the trash might make leave it visible to whoever uses the bathroom after you. Flushing it seems like a great idea, but can flushing a condom ruin the toilet or cause an overflow? Here’s why you shouldn’t flush a condom and how you can dispose of your condom properly.

Question: Can you flush condoms down the toilet???

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Flushing Condoms Is Tempting

Of course flushing a condom down the toilet is tempting. It’s quick, easy and leaves absolutely no evidence behind! Instead of messing with a used condom after you’re done having sex, you simply slip it off, toss it in the toilet water and away it goes without a second thought. Flushing a condom down the toilet makes cleaning up after sex a breeze, right? Wrong! Flushing a condom down the toilet can cause a lot more problems than you originally bargained for.

Why You Shouldn’t Flush Condoms Down The Toilet!

Best case scenario, your condom goes down the toilet no problem and you never see it again. Of course, this doesn’t always happen. In fact, it actually rarely happens. A condom may not flush down the toilet the first time, and you may get stuck flushing over and over again only to watch the condom spin around the bowl in happy little circles. Of course, an even bigger problem is if the condom actually does go down the toilet and then comes back up…with everything else that is in the depths of the toilet. If you’re in your own house and aren’t trying to be discreet about having sex, this can be a definite inconvenience. However, if you’re trying to hide your condom and it comes bubbling up with the rest of the toilet contents, your cover is absolutely blown! And whoever you’re trying to hide your condom (and your safe sex) from is going to be even more mad that you caused the toilet to back up, on top of finding out that it was a condom that did it. Your condom may flush the first time and even the second time, but the more you flush your used condoms, the greater chance something not so great will happen afterwards. Not to mention that most condoms aren’t biodegradable and may end up choking some poor animal that thought it was lunch.

How To Properly – And Discreetly – Dispose Of A Condom

You may think that throwing condoms the trash isn’t discreet at all, but it can be if you do it right. It’s actually very simple. Wrap your condom in a wad of toilet paper or tissue and then throw it away. Usually, this looks like you’ve simply blown your nose in a wad of tissue and threw it away! Girls have been doing it for years and years with used female hygiene products such as sanitary napkins or tampons. If you really want to make sure no one will find your used condom, wedge your wad of toilet paper into the middle or bottom of the trash. Someone would really have to dig to find it and it’s extremely unlikely that whoever throws the trash out is going to want to get into that mess.

Q&A: Shaving – Should Men Trim Or Shave Completely?

By loveandsex

Genital hygiene is a big issue for both men and women. Of course you want to be clean and fresh for your partner before sex, but what about pubic hair? Is it better to let it all grow wild or shave your genitals off bald? Or is it even better to do the in-between and use a trimmer for a close but still fuzzy trim? Here’s the downlow on pubic hair and whether to shave or not to shave.

Question: Should men trim or shave completely?

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What Is Your Personal Preference?

Whether you shave your pubic hair, trim it with a trimmer or leave it completely hairy is completely a matter of personal taste and preferences. Of course, you want to think about your partner and their tastes and preferences too! If your partner doesn’t like giving a blowjob to a very hairy guy, consider giving yourself a trim or a shave. If your partner really digs your bush, let it grow. Also, do what is most comfortable for you. If your pubic hair is constantly getting caught in your zipper but your partner really likes a lot of pubic hair, consider a medium trim to still please your partner but also keep yourself from getting hurt!

The Benefits Of A Trim Or Shave

Even if you and your partner like it hairy, there are some definite benefits to trimming your pubic hair or shaving it off completely. Hair easily traps sweat and bacteria, which can cause a strong odor. You can wash regularly, but the odor often tends to hang out if you’ve got a lot of hair. Men who trim their pubic hair short or shave it will notice that they have less of an odor down there, and almost none if they wash up often. Of course, the other benefits include not finding long, curly hairs everywhere when you’re peforming oral sex on your partner or when you’re cleaning up after sex.

Things To Think About

If you are hairy all over, with lots of chest hair and leg hair, it’s going to look a little strange if you have a completely shaved groin area. Men who are very hairy all over may find that a pubic hair trim looks a little more natural than a complete shave! Alternatively, if you are a very hairless man, shaving completely may look and feel better to you. Also think about how much time you are willing to spend on pubic hair maintenance. Do you have a lot of time to devote each week or even every few days to shave your genitals completely? If not, consider trimming because a quick trim can only take a few minutes each time and doesn’t have to be done as often as shaving.

If you’re really stuck deciding whether to shave, trim or be hairy, try them all and see which you like best! Ask your partner which she likes best when she’s giving you oral sex. You can always grow your pubic hair back after you shave it off, and you can always trim it down once it gets really hairy. Nothing is permanent when it comes to your pubic hair (even if you get it waxed off) and you can change your mind later if you decide you want a different look and feel down there.

Swinging: Pros & Cons Of An Open Marriage

By dicksinthecity

More and more people are “opening up” their marriages to other partners. Some people call themselves polyamorists, swingers, or just simply members of the Kennedy family. But is that right for you? What are the upsides and downsides to this arrangement? We’ll answer all your romantic queries in just a few short minutes.

What She Said:

Pros: lots of sex! Cons: lots of sex – with possible consequences. That’s the short story. To really pull this off, we’ll have to dig a little deeper.

Marriage is based on mutual respect and trust – how you want those to play out is strictly between you and your partner. Some couples can easily swim through the (sometimes murky) waters of an open marriage – others fair better agreeing on monogamy. To negotiate an open arrangement takes a lot of trust, communication, agreement and common ground. The plus side to an open marriage is that fact that there’s technically no infidelity. The minus is the possible jealousy and what that could do to your relationship long-term.

Frankly I’ve seen this attempted (though I haven’t tried it myself, so I have no firsthand knowledge), but I have yet to see it succeed. Though the open marriage story I’m familiar with started off successfully, it eventually dissolved into mistrust and ultimately divorce. Of course, that’s a cautionary tale and I’m sure there are people who can make it work.

I personally chose to get married because I want to grow with my husband. I’m excited about the path to intimacy and an ever-deepening commitment. We’re only human and, in an ideal world, it would surely be a blast to sleep with anyone and everyone who caught our fancy. However, in our situation, having sex outside our marriage would damage what we value most – the trust, safety and intimacy of our sexual and emotional bond. For couples that have been married longer, it might be feasible to sleep around and still maintain a commitment. Some find that keeping the sexual tension high is the key to keeping things interesting at home.

Ultimately it must be a mutual decision between the two of you as to whether you are going to remain monogamous or agree to “branch out.” Seriously mull over the consequences if you’re considering opening your marriage – and, if you reach a consensus, be safe and have fun!

What He Said:

Pros: Honesty. You’ll never have to worry about lying about your desires to be with other people or the fact that you have. You’ll never have to worry about infidelity, because you’ve already agreed to bang other people. As one wife I know says “It’s not cheating if we’re both doing her.” That’s a good woman, people.

Cons: Higher risk of STD’s, and the chance that a condom may break and you could unknowingly wind up carrying someone else’s baby instead of your man’s. I know many couples that have tried open relationships. And it’s always the man that brings it up. And always the woman who’s militantly opposed to it. As most women would be, until you discover that open relationships tend to favor women more than men. For example, it’s way easier for a married woman to walk into a bar, wearing her wedding ring and say “hey, I’m married. Let’s go screw.” Hell, she could probably walk into Starbucks at 8 AM on a Tuesday and find someone to bang.

For men, it’s more work. I know plenty of men who thought this open relationship was a great idea until he found his woman getting more ass than he was, and when he got pissed she threw the “this was your idea” line back in his face. Men are territorial and competitive and this may come into play.

Can swinging or having an open relationship strengthen your relationship? Yes, but most relationship aren’t strong enough to handle adding this dimension to them, and you won’t know if yours is strong enough until after you’ve tried it, and then it might be too late. So I don’t know if I would recommend allowing your partner to go off and do other people, now if you want to bring someone home for the two of you to share, that’s totally different. Sharing is caring, after all.