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4 Things Every Girl Must Learn From Porn Stars

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There are lots of things that porn stars do that you definitely don’t want to take with you into the bedroom, but does that also mean that there’s nothing we can learn from porn stars? Not at all. There are lots of sex tips that you can and probably should learn from porn stars that can make you a sex goddess and make your sex life super hot. Surprisingly, these tips aren’t super secret special techniques that porn stars know and the regular world doesn’t – in fact, they’re more like philosophies that porn stars have that can actually make your sex life sizzle.

Act Like You Want It!

The single most important thing that porn stars do in adult movies is they act like they want it everywhere, any way and all the time. Of course, much of it is acting but this is definitely a philosophy you can use in the bedroom – without going overboard of course. When giving your man a blowjob, really get into it. Act like it is the only thing you want to be doing right then and pleasing your man is your priority. Act like you’re going to starve to death or the world is going to fall apart if you don’t give him head and that going down on him is something you need to do! The same goes for sex – when he’s penetrating you, that’s all that exists at that moment and that’s all you want too! You may be acting a lot at first, but as you get into it and show him you want it, you’ll actually start to realize how much you actually do want it.

Don’t Worry About Your Bod

One thing that porn stars don’t worry about is how they look. They know they look good and they’re comfortable with themselves – but is this because they look better than everyone else? Not hardly! They just know something that girls who aren’t porn stars haven’t figured out yet – that guys don’t really care about their cellulite or whatever other insecurities they have about their bodies. When they’re having sex, the last thing your guy is thinking about is your thighs, except for the fact that he’s blissed out because they’re wrapped around them! So make like a porn star and forget all about your bodily insecurities so you can try those crazy sex positions that you haven’t tried yet because you’re afraid they’ll make your ass look big.

Dress Sexy

Porn stars know that above all else, men are visual creatures. They process information best when they actually see it, and they get turned on most when they see things that are sexy. This is why you often see porn stars keeping their push up bras or stilettos on during sex, because they know it adds that extra bit of visual flair that will really make a man melt. So instead of turning out the lights and getting totally naked when you and your man have sex, leave the light on or light a few candles to help illuminate the room so he can see what’s going on. You can also wear some sexy lingerie or just keep your chic work outfit on and let him lift up the skirt for an extra naughty touch. Dressing sexy also applies to what you wear outside of the bedroom, around the house or to work. Instead of putting on what is comfortable for you, think more about how you can dress to please your man. Sure, the cotton nightie is way more comfortable than the camisole set, but with the latter, sex is going to be on your partner’s mind the whole time you’re wearing it.

Introduce Dirty Talk

Men like to hear what’s going on in the bedroom as much as they like to see it. Porn stars are very vocal about what they want, what they like and how something feels – and that’s not at all a bad thing! Try incorporating some dirty talk into your sex routine to make it a little more steamy. If you’re fairly quiet during sex, you can simply start by making a few vocal sounds when your partner really does something to you that you like. Or, if you’re too shy to tell him what you want him to do to you, describe what you’re doing to him instead. Sometimes, dirty talk is simply a verbal play by play of what is going on and how much you or your partner like it. Get your partner into the dirty talk too by asking him what he wants to do to you!

10 Things You DIDN’T Know About The Clitoris!

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The clitoris does nothing but give sexual pleasure to a woman – it has no reproductive capabilities and women don’t use it to pass urine or for anything else really – just plain and simple sexual pleasure. Check out these other amazing things you didn’t know about this amazing sexual organ!

It Has Over 8,000 Nerve Endings

Yep, you read that right. The clitoris boasts over 8,000 nerve endings, which is double the nerve endings in the entire penis – and four times the nerve endings in the head of the penis alone!

It Is Made Of The Same Erectile Tissue As A Penis – And It Gets Hard Too!

The tissue that comprises both the clitoris and the penis are the same. During the fetal stage, before birth, the tissue forms either into sexual organ, depending on whether the fetus has XX (female) or (XY) chromosomes. Since a clitoris is made from erectile tissue just like a penis, it too gets hard when a woman is aroused!

It Exists Only To Provide Pleasure

The clitoris does not perform any reproductive function. It doesn’t urinate, it doesn’t give birth to babies (in humans) and it doesn’t do anything but sit there, waiting for the right kind of stimulation to produce an orgasm. So pay special attention to this little guy during sex!

Her Clitoral Orgasm Lasts Longer Than Yours

Even the best male orgasms can’t compare to the length – and quality – of a female orgasm. A really good male orgasm is lasts about 7-10 seconds, while a clitoral orgasm can last anywhere from 15-20 seconds for a woman. In a woman who is able to have multiple orgasms, she may have them so close together that it feels like one big, long orgasm – which can last for several minutes!

The Part You See Is Just The Tip Of The Iceberg

The small bud that peeks out of the clitoral hood isn’t all there is to it – it extends down into the body about four inches (the average size of a man’s penis when it is not erect). It consists of the clitoral bulbs, which rest against the vaginal walls, and the clitoral legs, which reach all the way down to the bottom of her vaginal opening and anus.

The “Hood” Is Just Like Your Foreskin

The clitoral hood is designed to protect the glans from undue friction. Since there are so many nerve endings in the glans, too much friction, a rough touch or even just rubbing up against a pair of jeans can cause extreme pain. The glans tucks itself away under the hood until a woman is aroused to prevent this. However, there are many cases of clitoridectomy and female circumcision (the surgical removal of the glans or the clitoral hood, also called female genital mutilation). It is estimated that up to two million of these procedures are performed yearly in countries outside the U.S.

It’s Not Subject To Age

While a woman’s breasts may sag and her skin may get wrinkles as she ages, her clitoris won’t be subject to the changes her body is going through. It may get a little larger over time, but it’s ability to give intense, orgasmic pleasure to a woman is the same whether she’s 18 or 88.

A Clitoral Piercing Rarely Goes Through The Actual Glans

You may think that a clitoris piercing would be pretty painful (and it is) but it’s rare that this type of piercing actually goes through the clitoral tissue. Most of the time, it will either go behind the glans or through the clitoral hood, which is much less painful than if the actual erectile tissue is pierced. This allows the jewelry to rub against the glans during sex, making the pleasure even more intense.

Some Experts Believe The G-Spot Is Actually The Legs Of The Glans

If you were to peel away the skin of the vaginal walls, you would see the bottom of the clitoris, or the “bulbs.” Some experts believe that the g-spot really is an extension of the glans – and pressing on it firmly during intercourse or fingering is actually stimulating the very bottom of the bulbs.

Female Hyenas Give Birth Through The Clitoris

Believe it or not, the birth canal in the female hyena is actually through the clitoris. During pregnancy, it will begin to hang below the body (about 7 inches) and when the hyena is ready to give birth, she will expel the cub through a 1 inch diameter hole. Imagine a man giving birth through his penis! This is very dangerous and many first time hyena mothers die during the birthing process.

5 Sex Fantasies She’s Dying To Try (But Will Never Tell You)

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Fantasies are fantasies for a reason – Especially “sex fantasies”. Everybody has them, whether they want to admit it or not, but they stay bottled up because they put you in a vulnerable place. This vulnerability is the reason that she’s never going to tell you her sex fantasies.

We as a people are programmed to hate rejection and this fear is what drives her to clam up when you ask about her fantasies. Out of the crazy sex fantasies out there, there are 5 that are the most common among women. While she may never flat out tell you that it turns her on, doing it in the bedroom, in the heat of the moment, will bring her out of her shell.

Here are 5 sex fantasies she’s dying to try, but will never tell you.

1. Submission

There are a lot of women that are submissive by nature. She might be the cute, sweet, friendly girl that smiles all the time, but she probably has a very naughty side stashed away. Submission means that she is submissive to your dominance in the bedroom. This means that she will do everything that you tell her to do without question.

Obviously this doesn’t encompass the entire sexual realm. She’s not going to break the law or perform anything weird, but she will not obstruct your dominance when it comes to changing positions. Women love a guy that his dominant in the bedroom because it shows that he can take charge.

2. Domination

The antithesis of submission, domination puts her in control of everything in the bedroom. There are a lot of women that have a sex fantasy about taking control and turning their guy into their own sex slave. When the girl takes control, she is living out the fantasy of empowerment.

Making a guy bend to her will can be extremely sexy and most women will at least give this one a try before they realize whether or not they like it. The problem with this fantasy is that most men try to take control out of sheer natural instinct. If your girlfriend is trying to take control in the bedroom, let her. It might be something that she has wanted for a very long time.

3. Roleplaying

Roleplay sex fantasies are the most common among women. As stated before, most women keep their sexual fantasies hidden from their partners because they do not want to be seen as weird or strange. They don’t want to be rejected. However, when a couple engages in roleplaying, they have the ability to be someone else.

She might have a fantasy about being a sexy schoolteacher and her partner is the guy that does not do his homework. Whatever her fantasy is, roleplaying is a great way to take some of the boredom out of the same old sex. Women want to feel sexy and a great way to boost this is through roleplaying.

She can be as slutty or as sexy as she wants within the confines of a committed relationship. Ask your partner if this is something she has ever wanted to try. You may be surprised by the answer.

4. Lesbian Sex Fantasies

Another major fantasy for women is to be with another woman. Don’t get your hopes up just yet though. The majority of the time, this fantasy does not include men. Have you ever wondered why women get turned on so much by lesbian porn, but can’t stand watching porn with a guy and a girl?

Women are sexy. It doesn’t mean that she’s a lesbian just because she secretly wants to make out with or even have sex with another woman. These are fantasies because they will probably never come true. She might not even have the guts to admit that she finds women attractive. If you want to indulge her in this, the best way to do it is through lesbian porn.

5. The Stranger Fantasy

Most women have had one-night stands. One of the reasons that some many women have had a one-nighter is because of the stranger fantasy. This basically gets your girl turned on by the mystery of the stranger. She wonders how he makes love to women and the fact that she might not have to see this guy every again turns her on even more. If you want to help her live out this fantasy, meet her on the street or in a bar and pretend that you’re going to have a one-night stand with her.

This can also be a roleplaying fantasy, but it works well by just sticking this scenario by itself.

How To Find The G-Spot

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Just about everyone has heard of the g-spot. It’s supposedly the “holy grail” of all female sexual stimulation – so why can’t anyone find it? If you do get lucky and find a woman’s g-spot, how to heck are you supposed to stimulate it? Here’s a quick and easy guide to simple, g-spot stimulation that works flawlessly each time and every time.

It’s amazing how many men and women don’t know how to find the g-spot! Read on to find out exactly what the g-spot is and how to find it!

What Is The G-Spot?

The g-spot is a ball of nerve endings inside a woman’s vagina. Similar to a clitoris, these nerve endings pick up sexual stimulation and allow women to have orgasms. The g-spot is important, because most of the inner vagina doesn’t have nerve endings – which is why most women can’t feel a tampon if it’s inserted properly. So to truly stimulate your partner’s vagina, it’s important to find the g-spot and learn how to stimulate it to give your partner a great internal orgasm. It also allows you to vary the types of orgasms you can give your partner, instead of relying only on clitoral orgasms.

How To Find The G-Spot

Contrary to popular belief, the g-spot isn’t terribly hard to find. It’s located just inside a woman’s vagina, on the top, right behind the pubic bone. To find the g-spot, all you have to do is insert one or two fingers inside your partner’s vagina, with your palm up. The g-spot is about finger length away from the opening of the vagina, so once your fingers are in, feel along the top of her vagina and behind the pubic bone for a spongy, bumpy spot. Most of the vagina is smooth, so you’ll probably be able to distinguish the g-spot from the rest of her vaginal tissue. If your partner is turned on, however, the g-spot will be swollen and a little easier to find. Many men who couldn’t find the g-spot probably tried to do so when their partner wasn’t turned on mentally or physically, so the g-spot was much smaller and more hidden. If you want success the first time, make sure you kiss your partner, fondle her, stimulate her nipples and turn her on before you start searching for her “holy grail.”

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Stimulating the g-spot is actually quite easy too – after you’ve located it with your fingers along the top wall of her vagina, simply move your fingers towards you and back in a continuing “come here” motion. You can also tap the g-spot, or move your fingers from side to side for additional stimulation. If you really want to get your partner going, try giving her a blended orgasm by combining g-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation. This is most successful if you can provide her with oral sex while you finger her g-spot, but you can use your other hand or even a toy if you want to give her unexpected sensations.

Think you understand Female Orgasms? Take the Orgasm Quiz and find out!

Dirty Talk: The 5 Hottest Words To Say During Sex (For Her)

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Dirty talk is something that every woman can do, but some women have to get over their shyness in order to do it effectively. But the whole process need not be too forced, and you don’t have to memorize a line or two to say during sex. It’s the spontaneity of the act of dirty talk that makes the sex hotter.

If you think about it, there are things that you usually say during sex, which means you’re doing this unconsciously. But even moaning out your partner’s name could get old, especially if it’s all that you utter every time you make love. You can increase your arsenal of ‘sex words’ right now.

“Ram It In”

Ramming is a word that brings to mind a forceful action. Just the mention of the verb ‘ram’ reminds you of a huge timber being pounded on a medieval castle’s entrance (i.e. a battering ram). Instead of saying ‘f—- me,’ you can say ‘ram me.’

The F-word is not all that when it comes to dirty talk, particularly if you live in a place where this word is used quite often as a cuss word or as a part of a normal conversation.” Therefore, you should think of another word to describe what you want your partner to do during sex.

“Yes”

Said in a certain way, this word takes on a sexual meaning that is so profound it makes a man go at it harder. Saying “yes” during sex makes your partner feel that he is doing something good and that you want him to keep doing it. If you simply cannot think of anything to say, use this word to express your delight and to alert him that you’re about to orgasm.

“My Pussy”

Hearing you refer to your vagina as ‘cunt’ or ‘pussy’ will excite your man, particularly if you’re not the type to swear or cuss on a regular basis. Instead of saying ‘touch my vagina,’ say ‘touch my pussy’ and instantly turn an ordinary request into dirty talk.

“Let Me Suck You Dry Tonight”

When you say this line, your man will instantly think of a prolonged blowjob session in which you will diligently stroke and lick him until he reaches orgasm. This is best said before sex right after a particularly long kiss, or while you’re sliding down his body with the intention of giving him head.

“You’re Making Me Horny”

Saying this line brings out the naughty personality of your man. Just knowing that his teasing is producing the desired effect makes him more excited.

It’s not that difficult to start dirty talk, especially when you’re with someone you care about. Just remember to act natural so that he won’t feel like you’re forcing yourself into dirty talk for his sake. Moreover, saying these words will convey your willingness to become more adventurous in bed, particularly if you have always been shy about your sexuality.