Sex Tips & Advice

Who Doesn’t Want Better Sex?

Sex is the most gratifying thing that a man and a woman can share. It’s supposed to be filled with excitement. Everyone has an idea of what great sex is, but there are times when sex isn’t as great as you want it to be. Maybe it’s because your partner is not in the mood and she was sort of just going with the flow because you wanted it so bad. Maybe it’s because you’re always thinking of ways to pleasure your girl but you end up failing every time. There are so many things that affect your performance in the bedroom. Read on to discover what these factors are and how you can make sex better for you and your girl.

Prepare Your Room

Lack of preparation will kill the mood.

Before you even go out on a date with the girl you want to have sex with, have a plan in mind. This will help you prepare for the eventuality that she will come back with you to your place. No girl will find pleasure in making love inside a pig sty so make sure you tidy up, buy some condoms, arrange the bed and clear the clutter. Ironically, doing these things will help you become more spontaneous. Imagine not having to worry about where you can go after your date.

Preparing your room, and yourself, for the inevitable will help with escalating from the normal date to a full-blown hook up.

Try Something Different

Great sex is almost always defined as “something different.”

To a woman, this means you should surprise her by doing something else other than the usual man-on-top position. Learn some kinky sex positions, or put a mirror near the bed. If you’ve never tried sex while still wearing clothes, this is the best time to try. You never know; you might even discover a hidden wild side just by trying something kinky like bringing out a sex toy or asking the girl to roleplay with you.

Dirty Talk

Verbal seduction is a great way to improve sex.

Dirty talking has always been a “feature” of kinky sex, but believe me, I know a lot of men who won’t go there because they think it’s disrespectful to women. However, if your girl enjoys it, you should try it out.

How do you know she’s into that? One way to know for sure whether the girl likes it or not is to ask her leading questions such as, “do you like it when I do this to you” and watching for signs that she likes it when you talk that way. A girl is very sensual, and erotic talk tops the list of “major turn ons in bed.”

If you want to be better in bed, here’s a final reminder for you. Whatever you do, don’t think about your past failures to perform in bed. Just relax and make it work by always keeping tabs on what the girl is feeling, and more importantly, how she is responding to your actions while you’re making out.

The Best Way To Please Your Man Sexually

By jessicaperez

I often read about couples struggling with sexuality issues. In particular, I often encounter situations wherein the man gets blamed for the woman’s inability to reach orgasm during sex. Sometimes, the man passes blame on the woman by calling her frigid or a “dead fish” (ugh, I hate that term, it reminds me of something smelly). The truth is, both parties contribute something to the sexual encounter, and they should work on pleasing each other rather than coming up with reasons why sex wasn’t good.

One of the biggest challenges for women is how to be great in the bedroom. The modern woman knows that she should not be lying there waiting for the man to please her if she really wants hot sex. In a sense, sex is only good if you’ve done your share of pleasing. And, that’s what this article is all about.

Use Your Hands

Have you ever tried blowing your man and feel like your neck is going to give after a few minutes of bobbing up and down? So many women don’t realize that there’s an easier way to set the rhythm when they’re going down on a man. Letting your mouth do all the work is not the best way to do it.

Use your hands to set the rhythm. Grasp the base of his shaft with your dominant hand and slowly pull up and down, or use a twisting motion. When giving him a handjob, tightening your grip around the base of his penis is both exciting and pleasurable.

Your rhythmic movements, as well as the creative way you use your left hand (stroke his balls, play with his nipples etc), will make him climax faster.

Use Your Tongue

Your tongue is the wild card in the blowjob equation. When you’re using your hands to establish a good rhythm and your mouth is simulating the moist warmth of your vagina, your tongue can be used to increase stimulation from the inside.

Without missing a beat, dart your tongue across the head part of his penis. Repeatedly do this whether or not you’re taking him in your mouth or you’re just giving him a hand job.

Control Your Sucking

Too much sucking can be painful during oral sex, believe it or not. You see, a man is used to the gentle sucking movements of your vagina during penetration, and if you suck too hard during blowjob, it will hurt him bad. Moreover, if you suck to hard that the most sensitive part of his penis hits your teeth, he will bleed.

Use a soft sucking motion to draw him in, then continue to increase the sucking pressure gradually as you caress him with your hands and your tongue.

When you’re in bed with your man, watch out for instances when he moans loudly, or when he’s extra pleased with what you’re doing. Your man may not be the most expressive type of guy, so you have to rely on your intuition and power of observation to figure out what works for him.

How To Introduce Your Girl To Bondage

By loveandsex

Introducing your partner to bondage – if that’s not something she’s already into – is tricky business. If you bring it up in the wrong way, or try the hardcore stuff first, you might just turn her off of bondage and BDSM for good. Here’s how to slowly introduce your partner to bondage so you have the best chance of allowing her to get into it!

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When To Bring It Up

Bringing up new things to try in the bedroom is not the best thing to do when you’re already in the bedroom. Never bring up new sex topics during sex, right before sex or right after sex. Also don’t bring it up during a fight or when you and your partner are tired and stressed out. So if you want your girl to get into bondage, when do you bring it up? Try talking to your girlfriend about light bondage during dinner, or after you both have had a couple glasses of wine. Bring the topic of BDSM or bondage up when you and your partner are both relaxed, stress free and are open to new ideas.

How To Bring It Up

If you have a fairly open and honest relationship with your partner, putting it out there as something you’d like to try may work well for you. However, if you’re not sure how your partner will react to your interest in bondage, you may want to be a little more creative on how you introduce the topic to her. Try telling her you read an article about bondage, or you have a friend that tried it with his girl and gauge her reaction to the information. If she seems interested, it’s probably okay to move forward with the conversation. If your girlfriend seems nervous, upset or even disgusted with the idea of BDSM or bondage, you can take that as your cue to zip it. Don’t get too hung up on your partner not wanting to try bondage, because there are lots of other fun ways you and your partner can connect in the bedroom!

What You Need

Assuming you and your partner have both agreed to try bondage, it’s best to start with light bondage rather than going straight for the hardcore handcuffs. There are a variety of products available online and at your nearest adult toy store that make bondage much more fun for both you and your partner. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on adult toys to start out with, but definitely get a few things such as a beginner’s fetish kit or japanese bondage rope. Don’t try to use regular rope you bought from the store – talk about ouch! You’ll have more success with getting your girlfriend to actually enjoy being tied up and tying you up if you have a few things that were actually made for what you want to do. If you and your partner really like the lighter stuff, you can consider graduating to some more hardcore bondage and BDSM. Remember to always have a safe word, and always stop whatever you’re doing immediately if your partner uses the safeword.

(Ladies) How To Masturbate In 10 Easy Steps

By loveandsex

Masturbation for women is not at all like what masturbation is for men. Men often learn to masturbate at a young age, whereas many women have never tried masturbation before at all! Masturbation is a great way to satisfy your sexual curiosity and needs if you’ve never had sex before or in between sexual relationships. It’s also an excellent way to connect with yourself spiritually, emotionally and sexually. Here’s how to masturbate in 10 easy steps!

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Get Yourself In The Mood

For most women, trying to orgasm when you’re stressed out or thinking about your daily to-do list is much like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. It’s not going to happen. When you’re ready to start masturbating, spend some time to get yourself in the mood. Lock your door so you’re not worried about someone walking in and catching you in the act, take a bath, drink a glass of wine if you’re of age and just take some time to de-stress and let the thoughts of the day float away.

Fantasize

What makes you hot? Think about what turns you on and then do just that – think about it! Don’t be afraid to use props, such as erotic magazines, books or videos. Put on something soft and silky, or go naked if that’s what you like. Light candles with scents that relax you or turn you on. Whatever you choose to do, it just has to turn you on and get you thinking about pleasure.

Explore Your Body

Instead of just heading straight to your vulva, take some time to explore your entire body. If you’ve put on something soft and silky, try rubbing that across your skin. If you’re nude, take a silk scarf and rub it across your nipples. Touch your body, from your neck to your legs. When you touch somewhere that feels good, keep doing it! Try touching two places at once, such as touching your nipples and caressing lightly in between your legs.

Touch Yourself

When you’re ready to move to your vulva, begin touching yourself softly and slowly. Use one or two fingers to slowly massage your clitoris. Try using your palm too, and experiment with different pressures and speeds to find out what feels the best. This is where you’ll want to start using lots of lube! Many women don’t realize how much even just a little lube can make a difference in how masturbation feels. Try tickling yourself, tugging gently on your labia, or even inserting a finger or two in your vagina. Most women, however, will get more pleasure from clitoral stimulation during masturbation than they will vaginal.

Build Up The Sexual Tension

When you start feeling really aroused, back down a little bit and use a softer pressure or less speed to slow down and let the sexual tension build. Make the pleasure last as long as possible by not rushing to orgasm. When you feel like you’re on the brink, stop and do something else. When you’ve felt the pleasure subside a little, start building up again until you’ve reached the brink again. Keep doing this until you just can’t hold back anymore!

Remember To Breathe

A lot of women hold their breath when they start feeling pleasure, when they should be doing the exact opposite. Remember to breathe deeply and let the sexual energy flow through your body instead of trying to fight against it. Start building up a rhythm by rocking your pelvis against your hand. Try clenching your PC muscles (the muscles you use to stop the flow of urine) in tandem with rocking your pelvis and touching yourself.

Reaching Orgasm

When you’re at the brink of reaching orgasm but just can’t seem to make it over the edge, try giving yourself a little extra stimulation. Think about a really, super hot fantasy or use your fingers or a toy to insert into your vagina. You can also try pinching your nipples or caressing your anus.

Letting Yourself Go

When you begin to orgasm, continue doing exactly what you were doing when the orgasm started. Don’t stop! You’ll begin to feel waves of pleasure, and you may want to lighten your stimulation a little to feel the individual orgasmic waves. If this is the first time you’ve had an orgasm, it may feel like a blast of pleasure that seemed too short, but the more you masturbate and experience orgasms, the more you will begin to feel the different parts of an orgasm.

Practice, Practice, Practice

When it comes to masturbation, practice makes perfect. You may not reach orgasm on your first try, or you may not be quite satisfied with the first experience. Don’t give up! Try using a vibrator or dildo that will provide intense stimulation, or try rocking your pelvis against something like a pillow, a stuffed animal or even the corner of your bed. Try lots of different things and when you find something that you like, keep doing it! If something isn’t working for you, it’s time to give it up and try something else. With practice, you’ll find the masturbation methods that get you hot and bring you to orgasm every single time!

A Review Of Love Making Methods That Are Sure To Please Your Woman

By leejenkins

As silly as it may seem, a lot of men tend to forget the basics of lovemaking when the urge to release takes over. Imagine you’re with a girl and you’re really turned on. You start out slow then the desire to release takes over and you start focusing only on what would feel good to you. It happens to every man, so don’t think that you’re the only one who does this during sex. However, if you really want to be the girl’s best lover ever, you’d better not forget the basics of how to please a woman.

When you’re about to lose it, take a deep breath and recall all the fundamental methods of lovemaking that I’ll list here.

French Kissing

Every time you make out with a girl, you should never forget to kiss her lips. In fact, kiss her whenever you can, even when you’re already in the middle of sex. A kiss is more than just a physical gesture to get her aroused, it builds an emotional connection with the girl you’re having sex with.

Eye Contact

Not many women will admit this, but one secret fear that every woman thinks about during sex is that the guy could be thinking of another woman. Keeping eye contact will make her feel that you’re with her, you’re not just using her for your pleasure and that she’s the only one you’re thinking of during sex.

Fingering

I’m sure you know the basics of fingering, but it helps to remember that proper fingering technique involves imagination and sensitivity. Just remember that you can do more things with your fingers than you can do with your member. For starters, you can crook your finger, move it around more often and you can use it to reach every nook and cranny of your partner’s hot spots.

Oral Sex

Oral sex on a girl is not a thirty-second affair. Even if you’re not into it (because of the smell or because you’re just squeamish about going down on a woman), you’d better make it a point to stay there for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Remember, you don’t have the right to ask for a 30-minute blowjob if you can’t promise to return the favor.

Sex Positions

If you stick with the same old sex positions every time you make love, your lover will get bored quickly. Make sure you know at least 3 more sex positions besides the Missionary. Some girls are quicker to climax with certain positions, which means you need to experiment with a lot of them to find those that work for your girl.

Any man can stick it in and be done with it. It takes a certain type of guy to consistently create magic during sex. Be the guy who can rock a girl’s world every time by never forgetting the fundamental things that really get women off.