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Do Women Really Want Multiple Orgasms?

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The pressure is on – give your girl an orgasm, give her more than one and give them to her now. Society says that for men to truly please their partners, they need to give her multiple, over the top orgasms and become a master lover. How realistic is this? Do women actually want multiple orgasms? Or are some women okay with just one, or none?

A Woman’s Climax Pattern

When a woman climaxes, it is true that she remains in the climax “zone” for some time before coming back down to her pre-aroused status. When men have an orgasm, however, he immediately relaxes and his body goes back to normal and must stay in a non-aroused state for a period of time before allowing him to become turned on again. In Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray, Ph.D. compares a man’s climax pattern to a “blowtorch” – which quickly heats up, fires and quickly burns down, while a woman’s climax pattern is more similar to an “oven” – taking more time to warm up and cool down. But because a woman’s body allows her to be primed for multiple orgasms after the first one, does that mean she really wants one?

If The Orgasm Is Good Enough…

Men are obsessed with quantity. The more, the better. The bigger, the better. Therefore, men feel like the more orgasms they give their partner, the better the sex and the more satisfied she will be afterward. However, a woman doesn’t necessarily need multiple orgasms to have satisfying sex. In fact, some women are satisfied with just one orgasm while a few women don’t necessarily need an orgasm to enjoy sex with their partners. Some women feel pressured by their partners into having multiple orgasms, and therefore the orgasms become more forced and less pleasurable each time. Many women are more focused on the quality of the orgasm rather than the quantity of orgasms. If the orgasm is good enough, it’s entirely possible – and even plausible – that she will be completely and utterly blissed out with just one.

How To Give Her THE Orgasm

Make sure she’s relaxed, both mentally and physically. Like the oven, she needs time to preheat and get warmed up before the action starts. For a woman, this means she needs to be both emotionally and physically warmed up. Give her a massage or draw her a hot bath and let her stress from the day melt away. She will be more open and receiving to your efforts. Sexually speaking, when you get started, take it slow. Focus on her and don’t jump the gun. Don’t just go for the gold and expect her to have an orgasm right away. Show her that you are really into her, and enjoy being intimate with her. When you’re pleasing her, listen to her feedback – her body language and vocals will let you know what she likes and what she wants more of. A combination of all of these things can help your partner reach THE orgasm she wants and has been craving, and this time, it will be so good that just one will be enough.

Super Sexy Ways To Use Your Mouth On Him That He Won’t Expect

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Men want you to use your mouth on them. A LOT. Here are some super sexy ways to use your mouth on him.

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Men love blow jobs! Like no lie, this is one of their most favorite things, right up there with beer and football.

But your mouth can do so much more than just suck! So how can you keep it exciting and different?

Whether you are a pro or a newbie it doesn’t hurt to work on your skills in the oral department. Below are some super great ways to keep your man happy, keep blow jobs exciting and try some new moves on your man with your mouth. Although, just having your wonderful lips wrapped around his rod IS exciting enough.

Variety Is The Spice Of Life

When it comes to putting your lips on his penis or anywhere on his body, it is the spice of life.

Use different suction strengths on him going from light sucking and harder sucking to keep things exciting.

Find a way to vary the temp in your mouth. Some girls choose to keep ice near the bed and a cup of warm water close at hand too. It can be a little odd “prepping” for sex but if you make the night all about him you can easily set aside some props. And once you have them use them!

Start with the ice but make sure you don’t put the ice directly on him, keep it under your tongue to cool your mouth. After some ice action take a sip of water and do it all again, make sure the water is not too hot! He should get a nice temperature variation that will drive him nuts.

Talk To Him

Use your mouth to utter some dirty words and phrases. Also gasp and grunt along with him if you feel moved and inspired. Don’t fake a porn star noise just don’t be afraid to moan if you are enjoying it too. That being said let your mouth be noisy even if there are no words, let him hear you suck and gag and slobber. It can get hot.

Lick Him

Although there is a good chance that the whole time you are licking his body that he would be waiting and praying for you to just get to the meat of the matter and put his meat in your mouth. Make him wait for it!

  • Use your mouth to caress and stroke and just adore his body.
  • Lick his face and neck too.
  • Trail your tongue down his belly to his thighs and back again.
  • Pay some attention to his balls! Many women forget about these jewels but a lot of men like to have their twins in on the action. So feel free to lick and even take one or two in your mouth.
  • Men like to have their nipples licked and necks sucked!

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I don’t care how freaky you are ladies, you have a pattern of moves. A “greatest hits collection as it were.” Not to sound like Archer or anything, but you probably could use some new super sexy moves with your mouth to liven things up and make him a bit surprised.

Texture And Taste Matter

There’s nothing that says that the velvet tongue (a blow job given to a man with honey/yogurt in the woman’s mouth) has to be the only taste additive in your mouth based sexual bag of tricks. You can try experimenting with all sorts of tastes: you could blow him with a bit of BBQ sauce in your mouth, or pour it on him and lick it off. You can put a flavored condom on his dick and then blow him, or use a flavored dental dam to give him a rim job he will never forget.

Talk Dirty

This one is just not used enough. Either woman don’t do it, or they don’t take it far enough. If you don’t talk naughty to your man, you need to. And if you think you are talking way too dirty to him, you aren’t talking dirty enough. Take it farther than you feel comfortable with. That will be a great way to use your mouth to shock his brain. He won’t expect it. And mystery is good for the relationship.

How To Make Car Sex More Comfortable

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Comfortably having sex in your car can be pretty difficult depending on the kind of car that you drive. Whether you drive a stick shift, SUV or a 4-door sedan, there isn’t much room for comfort. Luckily, there are a few moves that you can use to make car sex much easier and much more comfortable for the both of you.

Here are a few ideas to help make car sex more comfortable.

Get A Blanket

There are a few reasons that you need to use a blanket for car sex. The first season is that no matter what kind of interior you have, it’s going to get uncomfortable very quickly. Cloth can cause irritation of the skin and leather is going to stick to your body once you start to sweat. By using a blanket you can combat these irritations. Try to use a blanket that is going to cover the entire backseat.

If you aren’t going to use the backseat, put the blanket down anyway. This will be much more comfortable on your body. The second reason you want to use a blanket is for ejaculate. People have to sit there and they don’t want to sit in your stuff. Sex has a way of getting out of control sometimes so you need to take the necessary precautions and put down a barrier.

Put The Seats Down If You Can

Not all cars will let you do this, but if you can, put the back seat down. SUVs are the best for this. By putting the seats down you’re going to get more room to maneuver around. One of the primary concerns with car sex is the fact that there is not much room to work with. This can inhibit the different types of sex positions you will be able to use. By putting the seats down you will be able to sprawl out and use a multitude of sex positions.

If you can’t put the seats down in the back, push the seats in the front all the way back to give you a little more room. Most cars will allow you to push the seats back fairly far so take advantage of this. Some people like to even forgo the backseat and simply use the passenger and driver’s seats. This is all dependent on the type of car that you have. Comfort is key. The last thing you want is to get really close to that special moment and then get a cramp in your leg.

Use The Hood For Car Sex

I know that we’re supposed to be talking about having sex in a car, but the hood counts, right? The hood of the car can be one of the best places to have car sex. You can stretch out and get a lot of different sex positions out of it. Doggy Style, Missionary and girl on top are just a few that you can use when you are having sex on the hood of the car. Be sure to wait a little while before you use the hood. It can get pretty hot while you’re driving and you might run the risk of burning your girlfriend’s back if you use it too fast.

You can also open the tailgate if you have an SUV. This gives you more room and you can use different sex positions. Make sure that you’re in a secluded area before you have sex on the hood of your car or with an open tailgate. Park rangers and campers have a way of sneaking up on people so cover your bases.

Utilize Oral Sex

So many people think about traditional car sex, but they fail to see the convenience of oral sex. A car is the perfect place to have oral sex because it puts both parties into a position to give and receive. Many guys love when their girlfriends give them road head. This is just as good, except you don’t have to worry about running off the road. For girls it’s just as good. Have your guy put the driver’s seat all the way back and then climb on top of him. Get him to eat you out while you lean up against the steering wheel. Just make sure that you aren’t pressed up against the horn.

How To Get Your Girl To Want To Watch Porn With You

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Getting your girl to WANT to watch porn might seem like a very difficult task, but it doesn’t have to be. Men tend to forget that women have the same sexual urges and crave affection, whether this is through physicality or emotional connections. It is also important to remember that a lot of women and men have self-esteem issues. When you want your girl to crave watching porn you must make sure that she knows there is zero chance of cheating.

Here are some easy to follow steps to get your girlfriend or wife to love porn and want it in your love life without emotional distress.

Get On The Same Page

There is a lot of emotion that goes into watching porn. For women, porn can be a great way to boost the passion in the bedroom, but some can get turned on by the different scenes and sex positions. It’s not usually the scenarios or the actual acts that turn women off. Most have a naughty side that loves peeking into the sexual escapades of others. What can turn them off is their own self-confidence.

When you want your girlfriend to crave this type of material you have to make sure that you are on the same page with your relationship. Some women think that men watch porn because their girlfriends and wives are not enough for them. While this could be true in some circumstances, it’s usually not.  Talk to her and tell her that you think it could enhance your sex life, but that you are committed to her.

Get Porn That She Likes

If you are going to get her to like porn then you need to get porn that she will actually find hot. It’s counterproductive to buy porn that you think is hot and she thinks is disgusting. Take a trip to your local adult store or get online to find porn that she thinks she’s going to like. Porn is getting so inexpensive these days that you can easily get a lot for very little. If she’s not sure what she is going to like, just try to make an educated decision. Does she think that lesbian porn is hot? Get a few different DVDs and try them out. There is such a huge variety out there that literally everybody can find something that will turn them on.

Let Her Watch It By Herself

One of the biggest mistakes that men make is forcing their girlfriends and wives to watch porn while they are in the room. This can promote a few problems.

The first problem is that they are not going to react to the porn the way that would if they were alone. They might not be comfortable watching porn with you in the room if this is their first time out.

The second problem is that there is an expectation that the porn is going to turn them on. If they don’t find it hot then it can put a damper on situation and she might react differently than if she were alone.

The third problem is that there is an expectation of sex when you are in the room. Let her watch the videos by herself to see what she thinks. She will feel much more comfortable bringing this into the bedroom once she has tried it out in private.

Turn The Porn Off!

As stated before, porn can really enhance a relationship, but it can also hinder it. Women that watch porn can easily become offended by the images and the portrayal of women within the different scenes. While some women get turned on by two women giving each other oral sex, others do not. A little bit of porn can turn a woman on, but the instance of keeping it on while you have sex can promote a huge problem in the relationship. This is where feelings of low self-esteem and “being not enough” can come into play.

Once your girlfriend or wife has gotten turned on, it’s time to turn off the porn. Only if she insists on keeping it on should you actually do it. The main theme here is that you don’t want to cross the line. Once she feels comfortable watching porn with you she’s probably going to crave it the next time it’s available during sex. If you do cross the line then there may not be any coming back.

6 “Innocent” Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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Dirty talk is an excellent way to get your lover turned on and ready to take you all in. Use these six “demure” dirty talk suggestions during foreplay tonight!

“I Love How Wet You Are”

If she’s already wet, this dirty talk phrase will make her even wetter. A lot of women are self-conscious about being too wet – especially women who are able to ejaculate during orgasm. You’re probably thinking, “Yeah, right – that’s totally hot!” However, she may feel differently about it. Many women are self-conscious about their vaginal secretions, and they may even think that their ejaculate is urine and be embarrassed about it.

Let her know that you think that her wetness is arousing to you – tell her how hot it makes you when she soaks the sheets! This will make her feel sexy for letting go – which actually increases the chances of her squirting when she has an orgasm.

“It Feels So Good To Be Inside You”

She wants to know that her vagina feels good to you. She wants to know that she’s tight and that you love being inside her. Tell her how good her vagina feels against your penis! If you’re a little dirty talk shy, this can even be shortened to “You feel so good!” This should be a real, guttural response and it is best used when you first penetrate her. You can also use eye contact as you’re saying this (and as you’re penetrating her) to give it the maximum effect. Don’t be surprised when she wraps her legs around you and pulls you in deeper, gasping with pleasure!

“Wow, You Really Know How To Do That!”

Women put a lot of work into giving a great blowjob, handjob or whatever else skill your girl has mastered. If she’s halfway decent at giving head, commend her on her great skills! The same goes if she has just given you a handjob that rivals your own masturbatory skills.

Not only will this make her feel really great about what she’s doing to you, it will make her want to do it that much better. An added bonus is that she will automatically think that means she’s better at whatever she’s doing than every other girl you’ve been with – which works out great for you because you can make her feel that way without actually coming out and saying it (and possibly fibbing a little).

“I Don’t Want This To Stop”

Use dirty talk to make her feel like you want to be with her all night long. Of course, don’t use this phrase if you plan on having a quickie or are the kind of guy that gets yours and gets off. Telling her that you don’t want to stop must be accompanied by a long night of sensual lovemaking, where each step – from kissing to foreplay to oral sex to penetration – is elongated and more drawn out. Not only will she hear that you never want this night to end, she’ll feel it as you take your sweet time with each and every move you make.

“I’ve Never Been This Hard Before!”

Again, this makes your girl feel like she’s the best sex you’ve ever had – not only that, but that she’s also better than what you can give yourself (okay, maybe you are fibbing this time). Either way, this phrase calls attention to your erection (which she’s totally excited to have given you) and makes her feel like she’s turned you on more than anyone ever has before!

Don’t be surprised if after you use this dirty talk phrase that all she wants to do is lavish your penis with attention by giving you a slow, sensual blowjob!

“I Want To Eat You All Night”

So many guys make girls feel like going down on them is a chore. A lot of girls walk away from getting oral sex feeling like their partner didn’t like it, it was gross to him or he just wished it was over so he could get his orgasm and go to sleep. Don’t be that guy! Make her feel like licking her clitoris turns you on just as much as it turns her on!

This is another one of those things that you want to reserve for when you actually do want to go all night. She’s going to feel jipped if you say that and go down on her for ten seconds! So tell her you want to eat her all night and then actually do. Go slow, like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted before!