Sex Tips & Advice

Blowjob Tip: How To Make Her Want To Give You More Oral Sex

Men want blowjobs – it’s a fact of life. Some women enjoy giving blowjobs, but others don’t. What if you’re a guy with a gal who you wish would give you more oral sex? Does she not do it enough? Does she not do it at all? Either way, you wish she would go down on you more. How do you get her to want to give you head?

Most guys just wish there girl would give them more oral sex – call it a blow job, giving head, or going down on him – fact is there are a lot of women out there who just don’t do it. Here are some things that you can do to actually help her enjoy the process so that she’ll want to do it more. Come on… You’ve just got to give a little to get a lot!

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Getting Her To Want It

That’s the key statement right there – getting her to want to give you a blowjob. There’s nothing that turns a woman off more than a man who wants to “make” her give him oral sex. Have you pressured your woman into giving you a blowjob? Have you tried to make her do something she doesn’t want to do? We bet you didn’t get very far, did you? The trick is to help her to want to give you oral sex. Pressuring her to do it, or complaining or whining about how you don’t get enough oral sex…well, that’s just not going to get you very far.

Lead By Example

The best way to get your partner to give you good oral sex is to give her good oral sex first! There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman, and if you give her the orgasm of her life by going down on her, it’s only natural that she’ll want to return the favor. Read a few female orgasm tips to help you get in the mood to give her oral sex, and try some of the new, fun techniques that she’s never experienced before. She’ll be putty in your hands before too long! After you’ve given her excellent oral sex, relax and let her take the bull by the horns.

Make Blowjobs For You Fun For Her Too

A woman won’t give a blowjob twice if it’s not good for her too. That doesn’t necessarily mean pleasuring her while she’s pleasuring you (although that’s not a bad idea sometimes), but it does mean that you have to make giving you a blowjob less like a chore and more like something fun for her to do to pleasure you. Make sure you’re clean – a sweaty, smelly penis is no fun to go down on. Trim if you’re hairy, or shave if you want to give her a real surprise. The best way to make a blowjob fun for her is to let her know how crazy she’s making you! Give lots of good feedback. Before she gives you a blowjob, make sure to tell her how excited you are that she’s going to do it, and how much it turns you on to think of her giving you head.

While she’s going down on you, give her plenty of verbal and non-verbal feedback, such as groaning, shifting your hips, grabbing her head (if she likes that) and really getting into it. Don’t fake it – she’ll be able to tell. Just let yourself go in a way that you might normally do. After the blowjob, make sure to tell her how good it was for you, how much you love her and how happy she made you. She’ll definitely want to do it again!

Foreplay 101 for HIM

By jessicaperez

When it comes to foreplay, most articles out there are on foreplay tips for the benefit of women. However, you should know that if you treat your boyfriend/husband/lover to some great foreplay tricks of your own, you’ll be a sex goddess in his eyes because his orgasm will be extremely more powerful than before!

So, the next time you guys have sex, don’t be one of the women out there who ‘nag’ they don’t get enough foreplay. Instead, surprise him with pre-play moves that will make him treat you like a sex queen.

Foreplay Tip #1: Peak-a-Boo

Men are such visual creatures. Show them a nude photo, and blood gushes to their member. Hmmm, so what about presenting him with not just a nude photo of yourself but simply you, 100% nude.

How best to do it: Let us count the ways… try any of the tips below.

Just as he’s nice and comfy in bed, walk into the room in your birthday suit. (By the way, make sure your nipples are erect when you do this. Instant hard on!)
While fooling around in bed, straddle him and then slowly but surely, take off pieces of your clothing. You can torture him further by say, removing your bra, giving a glimpse of your nipples and then covering yourself up again. Agony!
Give him something to REALLY look at. Why settle for WALKING around naked when you can bend, twist, and turn yourself in various ways that he won’t believe what he’s seeing even if you’re right in front of him.

For the last tip be sure he gets to see everything but won’t be able to touch. Feed his eyes and maybe even his sense of smell… but don’t let him touch you. At least, not until he begs for it.

Foreplay Tip #2: Breathe On It

I bet you didn’t know how sexy and arousing your very own steamy breath on his exposed skin can be. The reason behind this is that your warm breathe will cause a temperature change on his skin, which in turn increases sexual arousal.

How best to do it: Engage in foreplay. When he’s already warm and aroused, go down and position your slightly parted lips to a sensitive area of his body such as his inner thighs, belly button, or the side of his neck, and then exhale your warm breathe on that spot.

You can also try the link-and-breathe approach. For example, lick the side of his neck and then exhale lightly on it. (Personally, my boyfriend loves it when I lick his lips and then exhale on it.) Another thing to try this trick on: lick his nipples and blow on it!

Now, go down and with his erect manhood standing mighty proud in front of your face, blow a steady jet of warm breath on his penis from top to bottom. Mind-blowing!

Foreplay Tip #3: Hustle!

Ok, so by now you know that both men and women will benefit greatly with a lot of foreplay. However, there is a difference; while women tend to go for slow seduction foreplay techniques; men tend to want more vigorous pre-play sessions.

I guess this is because most men tend to look at women as the ‘shy’ or ‘less animalistic’ one in bed. As such, if you unleash a more ‘raw’ you in bed, your man will be turned on all the more by this new, slightly more sexually aggressive you. You see, men take female aggressiveness in bed as assign of pure lust, which further fuels their desire. Besides, it’s A LOT of fun to be the one in control in bed every now and then, right?

How best to do it: Tonight, don’t be the timid one. Be the one to approach him and initiate sex. Be the one to kiss him roughly. And last, but definitely not the least, be the one to command what sex positions you guys should engage in.

For example, if he’s angling to go down on you, change sex positions and go down on him instead! OR maneuver in bed in such a way that he doesn’t go down on you but you sit on his face instead. Further, if he’s angling for the missionary, go ahead and beat him to it by going woman-on-top. And don’t just do the usual woman-on-top (where you face him), do reverse cow-girl where you face his feet.

I guarantee he won’t know what hit him in bed… but he’ll like it!

Foreplay Tip # 4: Tantalizing Touch

True, all men desire to have your lovely hands on their members but your lover can also receive a few other types of touches not just down there but all over his body. You see, men require a lot of hands-on stimulation and it should not necessarily all be focused on his penis.

How best to do it: Tonight, mix up your touchy feely moves. Flatten your palms and grope him all over. The warmth of your palms should make him feel warm all over too. Feel free to grab him too. For instance, run your palms all over his chest, reach down, reach back, and then grab a handful of his buttocks!

When he’s already undressed, run your palms slightly roughly across his chest and then very gently caress his erect nipples with your flat palms. The rough and then gentle approach will surely drive him wild!

You can also opt to need his back with long hand strokes or graze his sides gently with your fingernails. Mix up the sensations and he’ll be sexually dazzled he won’t know what to expect.

Foreplay Tip # 5: Push Him to the Brink

Nothing can be more sexually mind-blowing than ALMOST reaching a climax, ebbing, and then being brought up to that ‘almost there’ high again. Yes, tease your man tonight until he literally begs you for release.

How best to do it: Show him how romantic you are by drawing an imaginary heart shape over his groin with your lips! Trace the outline of his groin slowly by planting kisses and/or using your tongue. This will make him focus and pay sole attention to his groin. Now, perform fellatio. Just when you sense he’s nearing his release… let go of his member and go back to your lazy heart shape drawing again!

To up the ante, ride him for all you’re worth. And just when he – or you! – are about to come, let go and engage in some hot, passionate kissing. Then go back up on that horse again for the next round!

For Added Pre-Play Pleasure, Try These Toys

Following is a list of unusual sexual stimulants that you may want to try too to add more fun to your foreplay.

Snapshots. Let him play with is camera and snap a picture of you… naked… while on top of him.

Wigs. Walk into the bedroom with nothing on but a completely different wig. He’ll think you’re somebody else… and you get to be somebody else in bed too.

Stockings. Bondage sounds such a harsh word. Tonight, wear a sheer body suit and as he peels it off your body, whisper something like “honey, why don’t you tie my hands and show me who’s my daddy?”.

RED, very red lipstick. I know what you’re thinking, draw lazy circles and cute heart shapes all over his body, right? You can do that… OR write down dirty words all over his body. I bet your man prefers the latter!

What Does Abstinence Mean To You?

By loveandsex

If you’ve heard about sex ed, you’ve likely heard about abstinence. What is abstinence, anyway? Basically, it’s just a fancy word for not having sex. Believe it or not though, abstinence may not be as black and white as you think. Abstinence means different things to different people. What does abstinence mean to you?

We can all generally accept the idea that sexual abstinence means waiting for marriage to have sex… But here’s where it gets tricky – What does “Sex” mean to you? Is it sexual intercourse? Is it any sexually arousing experience? Is it oral sex? Anal Sex? Masturbation?

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The Definition Of Abstinence

Abstinence, in it’s most basic form, is to abstain, or keep from, doing something. Most people refer to it as refraining from having sex, but you can also abstain from alcohol, cigarettes, or anything really. In it’s most popular form, however, the definition of abstinence means to keep from having sex. In most cultures, the term abstinence refers to waiting until marriage to have sex, however, any couple can practice abstinence even if they’re married. Some married couples practice abstinence at a certain time during a woman’s monthly cycle as a form of birth control. In this article though, we’re going to explore how abstinence can mean different things to different people.

Defining Sex

To define not having sex, first you have to define the term sex itself. What does having “sex” mean to you? Does having sex mean only penetration, therefore abstinence from sex means oral sex doesn’t fall into that category? Or does having sex mean every type of sex, including oral sex, anal sex, masturbation and vaginal intercourse? Does your definition of abstinence relate to being a virgin? Is virginity still intact only if you abstain from vaginal intercourse, or is virginity intact if one abstains from the use of sex toys, or even tampons as well?

It Remains Undefined

The definition of sex, much like the definition of abstinence, remains essentially undefined. It means something different for everyone, and only you can decide what counts as sex and what counts as abstinence – no one else can or should decide for you. Abstinence, just like having sex, is a personal choice. Examine your own beliefs and morals, and do what feels right for you. Don’t let parents, a culture, society or your friends or family members pressure you into deciding to have sex or deciding to be abstinent – or even deciding what actions constitute sex and abstinence unless you’re sure that it’s what you want. It’s also not a one way street – just because you choose to be abstinent now doesn’t mean you can’t choose to have sex later if that’s what you decide. Similarly, if you decide to have sex now, that doesn’t mean you can’t decide to become abstinent later. While you may have lost your virginity in doing so, don’t assume that means you have to continue having sex if you’re not comfortable with it. Do what feels right to you!

Know Your Boundaries First

Before making your decision, know your boundaries. Think of the possible situations you might be in, and what you might decide if confronted with that situation. Really think about it – if you’re abstinent, does oral sex count? Does giving a handjob count? Do you want to be totally abstinent from every type of sex? Don’t be caught off guard – know what you want and what doesn’t coincide with your decision before you put yourself in a situation that might possibly make you uncomfortable if you aren’t prepared. Don’t forget sex education – learn about STD’s, pregnancy and birth control even if you’re being abstinent. You’ll be able to make smarter choices when you do decide to have sex. Ultimately, you’re responsible for your own sex education. You’re responsible for your body, right?

For Ladies Only: Can’t Reach Orgasm? Here’s A Secret…

By jessicaperez

It’s estimated that about 10% of women have never experienced the joys of reaching a climax. And it doesn’t matter what type of ‘lovemaking’ they engage in. Whether it’s with a partner or via masturbation, some women simply cannot seem to find the road to the Big O.

This has led countless women to seek sex counseling and in my practice, I’ve had the opportunity to share what some ‘secrets’ that have helped countless women get out of that 10% statistic.

The secret is actually all about tension and relaxation. It may sound like an oxymoron now but read on below to know more!

The Road To Climax Tip #1: Tense Those Muscles

On one hand, you can’t help but tense up during intercourse right? After all, all that stimulation gets the blood flowing, which in turn heightens sexual arousal. The problem is some women tend to relax the muscles or tissues that contract while making love. Why?

For one, some women tend to be passive in bed. But let me assure you the days of ‘lying there and receiving it’ are over. If you want an orgasm, you better get up there and participate! And yes, tense your muscles while you’re at it.

For example, while in the woman on top position, squeeze your pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). These are the same muscles you use when you try to stop the flow of your pee. By contracting these muscles, not only are you giving your man pleasure by gripping his penis, you are also increasing the friction between your genitals, thereby increasing sexual pleasure (which is supposed to push to you a wonderful climax).

The Road To Climax Tip #2: Relax Your Mind

The relaxation part comes in the form of letting go of your thoughts. We women can be so BUSY up there! Seriously, do you really have to make a mental note that you need to pick up something from the dry cleaners tomorrow while riding him now?!?

So free your mind, relax, and just let the erotic pleasures that sex bring you wash over you.

If relaxing is hard for you, take cue from the silent radio technique that’s employed a lot in area where people have to fall in line. Notice that electronic billboard that shows snippets of news from left to right? It draws your attention to it doesn’t it?

So, next time you make love, plaster that electronic billboard in your mind with sentences like “omg… his penis is REALLY hitting it now!” or “here it comes, here it comes, here it comes!”. By focusing your thoughts on the pleasures that are ravaging over your body, you’ll hopefully be able to finally experience a climax.

Rmember, to reach the Big O, tense your muscles but relax your mind. Doesn’t sound like an oxymoron at all, does it?

Female Orgasm Tip #2 – How To Build Sexual Excitement With Anticipation

By loveandsex

There’s nothing like teasing to get your partner going…and when we say teasing, we really, really mean it! Learn the importance of building anticipation before sex and how it can play a role in both your partner’s ability to have a great orgasm and her overall sexual satisfaction.

Now that she’s relaxed, it time to build her sexual excitement with ‘anticipation’. Watch this video to see exactly what we mean…

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Getting Her More Aroused

Your partner is relaxed and ready for sex. Do you just “stick it in?” Of course not! What a great way to spoil all of your hard work in getting her to relax! Now is the perfect time to build her anticipation for sex and get her completely aroused. Don’t just “go for the gold” and go straight down on her either – this is the part where you want to tease her and get her to absolutely beg for sexual release! Getting your partner properly aroused is essential to not only her pleasure, but yours! When a woman is aroused, she secrets vaginal lubrication, making sex more pleasurable for both you and her.

The Art Of Teasing

Going for the gold without getting her aroused is a great way to turn your partner off. Not only is it a mental and emotional turnoff for a woman (especially if you’ve spent all that time relaxing her and showering with her only for the actual sex to be over so quickly) but it can also be a physical turnoff. If her clitoris isn’t properly aroused and her vagina isn’t properly lubricated, direct clitoral stimulation can actually become painful.

To tease your partner, touch her on every area of her body but her clitoris. Of course you don’t want to ignore it completely, so give it a good lick or gentle rub every minute or so. However, it is better to spend most of this time massaging her breasts, licking her nipples, kissing her mouth and neck deeply, licking her thighs and letting your tongue rove in and out of her vaginal folds. Take your time during this part and your woman will become incredibly, inconsolably turned on – so much so that it would take a great deal to turn her off!

Make Your Move

Once you’ve gotten her completely aroused, feel free to proceed with sex as you please. Finish going down on her until she has a mind blowing orgasm, or have penetrating sex where you reach her g-spot. Either way, once your partner is not only relaxed, but sufficiently aroused and warmed up, your partner will be closer to an incredible orgasm than you or her could possibly imagine.

While the occasional quickie is something that shouldn’t be forgotton, use this sexy technique any time you want your partner to be totally, 100% involved in sex and thinking of nothing else. This is a technique you can use all the time – women rarely get tired of having a man focus totally on them and their arousal and pleasure!

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