Sex Tips & Advice

Does Your Woman Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Try These 2 Powerful Tips…

I think you will agree with me that there is nothing more frustrating and tiring when you know you have done everything right in helping your partner achieve an orgasm, yet she still never reaches it.

It is frustrating because you have no idea what you have done wrong in terms of technique, and it is tiring because your hands, jaw or any other part of your body is aching from the never ending rubbing, licking or sucking.

In the end, nobody is having fun, and the whole ordeal turns into a nightmare.

Here are two tips to help your woman achieve any type of orgasm without difficulty;

She Must Be In The Mood

This is one of the biggest obstacles that will stand between you and your woman when it comes to helping her easily achieve an orgasm. If she is not in the mood, and is only having sex to end your begging and moaning, helping her achieve any type of orgasm can become very difficult.

Your woman needs to be in the mood for sex. It should never be a chore for her. Think about it; if she gives in and says yes so that you can stop your whining, she will want to get it over with as soon as possible.

Because of this, your woman will be trying very hard to orgasm, hoping that she can satisfy you and get it over with as soon as possible. Unfortunately, the opposite effect occurs. Because your woman is trying so hard to orgasm, she develops a mental block, thus finds it difficult to orgasm. In the end, nobody wins.

How Do I Get Her In The Mood?

Well, you could try the “ seduce her during the day” routine. This can be achieved by spoiling and flirting with your woman. Take your woman out for a romantic dinner. Give her a romantic gift. Charm your woman by telling her how beautiful she is. All of this might or might not work , because at the end of the day, it is up to her whether she truly feels in the mood, or not.

The best way to get your woman in the mood is by letting it happen naturally. Unlike men who generally get horny at the snap of a finger, women get horny for sex at certain times of the month. These “In the mood” days usually occur between ovulation and menstruation. This is somewhere between the 14th and 28th day of their cycle.

Knowing When That Occurs

The trick is to find out when these days occur. The only way to know this is by waiting and watching. If you pay attention, you will soon notice when she is feeling hornier than usual. When these days occur, make a mental note of it.

Not every woman is the same. While some women admit that they feel horny just before their period starts, other’s report to feel at their horniest right after their period ends.

During the days when your woman is in the mood, it will be a lot easier for you to seduce and make love with her. She will become more sensitive and responsive to every type of touch, thus stimulating her hot- spots to reach orgasm becomes a lot easier as well.

Do Not Go Faster Or Change Direction Just Before She Orgasms

The reason many women fall short of having an orgasm is because their partners believe they should go faster or change the direction of movement when their woman is just about to orgasm. This is a big mistake.

If your woman signals you that she is about to orgasm by moaning or breathing faster, just keep doing what you were doing at that point to get her to this stage of arousal. Do not change a thing. Don’t go faster. Don’t change direction of movement, and for crying out loud, don’t friggin stop. Continue doing what ever you are doing until she has totally completed her orgasm.

By keeping these two powerful points in mind, helping your woman achieve an a-spot, g-spot or clitoral orgasm will be very easy task. Instead of your lovemaking sessions being frustrating and tiring, they will be a lot more enjoyable and satisfying for you and your partner.

Help! Anal Sex Is The ONLY Way His Penis Stays Hard!

By loveandsex

While a great number of people prefer not to have anal sex or never even bother to try it, many others enjoy anal sex as a part of their sexual repertoire.

Anal sex can be fun and intriguing if you’re smart about it, but what if your partner becomes addicted to anal sex? What do you do?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My boyfriend and I have a wonderful emotional relationship as well as a wonderful physical relationship. He recently convinced me to try anal sex. I hated it at first but after giving it a few extra shots it was ok. He loves it so much! So most of the time I let him finish there. Lately I’ve noticed that if we skip the anal and just stick to vaginal, he can’t finish and just ends up loosing his erection. Am I not tight enough anymore in comparison?? I am 20 and he is 32… Is there a possibility that he is loosing his drive?

— Frustrated Girl

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Is This A Medical Issue?

Enjoying anal sex is nothing to be ashamed about. Lots of people enjoy anal sex! However, if your partner is wanting to have a lot of anal sex, you might be concerned. Even more so, if your partner is losing their erection if they’re not having anal sex, you might wonder what you’re doing wrong or if there’s something wrong with your partner.

Talk to your partner about it. Find out how they feel. They might not know that you don’t want to have as much anal sex as they do, so you need to talk about it with them. You might be able to find a compromise between anal and traditional sex.

If your partner is consistently losing his erection, that could be another issue altogether. If this is the case, consider seeing a medical doctor and even a sex therapist to find out what might be the issue.

Out, Not In

Remember that the anal canal was created to be an exit, not an entrance. That doesn’t mean you can’t have a little fun with it now and again, but you certainly don’t want to make a huge habit out of it. The anal canal is not self lubricating meaning you will need to use lots and lots of lubrication during anal sex.

Avoid using sharp or large objects during anal sex, or the anus could tear or perforate, causing you lots of trouble in the long run. Having anal sex means being safe about it, and respecting the fact that it wasn’t designed for the purpose of sex.

When Enough Is Enough

There might come a point where you feel like your partner is asking you for more anal sex than you’d like to have. That’s okay, but it’s important that you speak up about it! If you find through your doctor that your partner has no medical issues that would cause them to want anal sex more often, try to find ways to sexually satisfy your partner without anal sex.

There are lots of different sex toys on the market, ranging from the tame to the extreme. Visit a toy store together and browse through things until you and your partner find something you might like to try. You might even find something you like better than anal sex!

All in all, anal sex can definitely be fun if you and your partner both enjoy it and you’re safe and smart about it. While you probably don’t want to be having anal sex all the time, you can certainly save it for that special occasion or for times when you and your partner are feeling especially frisky.

There’s nothing wrong with it as long as you’re both on the same page about your wants, needs and expectations as far as anal sex is concerned!

Why Consistency Is The Key To Real Penis Size Gains

By rogermiller

Without consistency, very few self-improvement programs work. Can you bulk up and get seriously well built and muscled without consistency? No. No you can’t.

This fact applies no where more than with the subject of natural penis enlargement. This self-improvement discipline isn’t as well documented as body building or fitness training. You won’t find any books about it in the bookstore. It’s a growing (yeah) subject.

This means that, more than with any other sport or hobby, you need to take total control over your growth journey. You need to be the one keeping track of your gains and deciding when you need to switch your routine to encourage new growth.

But you aren’t alone. Other guys, who also have the privilege of knowing about natural penis enlargement, are treading the same path, and they’re seeing big success.

Here are some powerful tips for gaining a lot of size as quickly as you can using the theory of routine and exercise consistency.

Kegels

A kegel is a simple exercise that you can use to strengthen your PC muscle, which plays a central and vital role in controlling the health and status of your erection and overall sexual health. I cannot overstress the importance of doing kegel routines regularly.

They absolutely suck when you start out, because they’re hard work. Your PC muscle isn’t used to being exercised, so it will ache and feel tired. You need to push past that. No pain, no gains.

Start a simple kegel routine today. Three times a day, do 25 kegels that each last 5 seconds. Squeeze as hard as you can. Don’t go easy on yourself. Push past the temptation to quit early or leave more than 10 seconds between each rep.

Dry Jelqs

A dry jelq is an exercise you can do anywhere, as long as you’ve got some privacy and about 10 minutes. When the conditions are right, get a 40% erection by, well, doing what you need to do, then do 10 dry jelqs that each last 4 seconds.

Take a couple minutes’ break, maintaining the 40% erection, then do 10 more. Pack up and carry on your day, safe in the knowledge that you’ve just done a light routine that will encourage girth gains in a big way.

Routine Days

Never skip a day. If you skip a routine day, the next one will only be half as effective. No matter how you feel or how much you doubt you’re gaining length or girth, you need to perform your routine. Make it part of your life. Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays you do your natural penis enlargement exercises. No one has to know except you.

Be Ready For the Expected

For your first month, don’t think too much about the possibility of not gaining. To be honest, you’re very, very likely to gain half an inch in your first 6 weeks, but even if you don’t, stay casual. Don’t fret!

Know that it isn’t unusual to not gain for a while. You need to find the routine that works for you; the one that is the right intensity. So, after 2 or 3 weeks with no gains whatsoever (as long as you’ve been doing kegels as well), change your routine by mixing around the exercises, rep times, and rep numbers.

If you combine the 4 tips you’ve just learned, then you’ll be performing natural penis enlargement exercises with consistency, and with consistency come gains in length and girth. Visualize that extra inch. You can get that with work. So get working!

Why Have I Lost All Interest In Having Sex?

By melody

Losing interest in sex when you’ve been in a relationship for awhile, and even if you haven’t, can be frustrating and even embarrassing. You want to experience your partner intimately and of course, your partner does too!

If you’ve lost interest in sex, how can you find out what is behind it? What can you and your partner do?

Why am I no longer interested in having sex with my husband?

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Physical Reasons

There are a multitude of reasons that a woman, or a man, can lose interest in having sex with their partner. The first issue to explore is if there’s a physical reason for this.

For example, if a woman’s testosterone level is low, she may lose interest in sexual activity. The first thing you’ll want to do if you’ve stopped finding sex enjoyable is to check with your doctor.

Emotional Reasons

Many women and men suffer physical, emotional and sexual abuse as children and even as adults. Even if these issues are past, they can affect how you feel about sex and intimacy in the here and now.

You might not even realize it! If you’ve suffered any kind of abuse and you think it’s possible that the emotional after effects of it could be affecting your relationship and your sex life, it’s time to bring in a professional.

Talk to a therapist or a counselor. They can definitely give you the tools you need to push past these emotional issues and get your sex life back on track.

Life Balance

In today’s busy world, it’s common for both men and women to get up at five or six in the morning to get the kids ready for school and go to work, and not hit the sack until it’s 11:00 or 12:00 at night. That’s quite a long day!

It’s really no surprise that by the time you and your partner crawl into bed after a hard, busy day that you would have no interest in sex. Work on your life balance and find ways to rest and relax so you can recharge your batteries.

Get a little more sleep and maybe give up an activity or two that isn’t necessary. Work together with your partner to make these changes so that you both have the energy to experience each other sexually.

Discord With Your Partner

If you’ve been with your partner for awhile, and in some cases if you’re in a new relationship, you might not be feeling emotionally safe or connected with them. Contrary to popular belief, sex and intimacy has everything to do with feeling emotionally connected and safe with someone.

If you don’t feel connected and safe, it’s likely that you’re not going to be interested in sharing yourself sexually. You can help bring your relationship together so you can have a better sex life by doing a number of things. If your relationship is really distant, you can consider seeing a relationship counselor or a therapist.

You can also start by talking to your partner and sharing yourself with them. Take time out of your day for each other! You’d be surprised at how many men and women feel like they’re roommates rather than partners with their partner after awhile. Taking time out to spend with each other is something that can really help bring you together sexually later on.

Multiple Orgasms – Did You Know That It IS Possible For Men Too?

By carlatara

Tantra is such a vast subject that it’s fascinating and awe-inspiring. It includes so much that it can be very confusing to the beginning student. Tantra is an art, a science, a way of life that is honest and courageous. It includes and faces squarely our sexual energy, this awesome force that some religions fear and want to suppress.

It can be used to help us reach our highest potential of pleasure, and union with the divine. To achieve this, it offers a series of exercises in breathing, tone vibrations, the use of certain muscles, and concentration on certain symbols representing the energy centers of the body.

One of the techniques it teaches allows men to have an orgasm without ejaculating, which makes it possible for him to come again and again.

How is This Possible?

Well, by using tantric principles, such as breathing, visualizing, and squeezing the love muscles to draw sexual energy from the sex organs up the spine to the back of the brain, a man can learn to ride the waves of orgasm and start coasting along the crest of those waves like a skilled surfer.

He can go down in the valley of the wave and enjoy playing more safely in a sweet and intensive romantic/spiritual space, absorbing the benefits resulting from the heightened pleasure he just achieved. He feels as if he’s buzzing with energy, more open and tender toward his partner and himself.

They can look into each other’s eyes, exchange gentle caresses, or simply breathe together to expand the state of bliss. All this can be done without the man losing the precious life-force contained in his semen.

Then the couple can proceed to make love actively, and reach several peaks in one love session. After having reached several peaks and experienced several body orgasms, the man can choose to have an ejaculatory orgasm if desired.

Controlling Ejaculation

How quickly a man can learn to control his ejaculation response depends on how much he practices, and the attitude he practices with. It’s almost a paradox: The more patient and loving you are with yourself, the less in a hurry to achieve quick results, the faster you’ll learn.

That’s because relaxation is the key, and you can’t be relaxed if you’re very goal-oriented. When you’re goal-oriented, you’re tense and usually judgmental. Ideas like, “I don’t know if I’ll ever learn this stuff…..Perhaps it’s not for me….I’m wasting my time….” or similar discouraging thoughts will retard the process of learning.

Be Positive and Loving

Start with self-pleasuring sessions as though you would pleasure the body of a god, or a person you love and admire. In such a case you wouldn’t care how long it takes that person to learn ejaculation control, or anything else. It helps if you set the mood by lighting a candle, burning your favorite incense, and perhaps having some of your favorite flowers or inspiring pictures in view.

The right kind of music can help set the right atmosphere for relaxation as well. Each time you pleasure yourself and feel an ejaculation approaching, try to become more consciously aware of all the signals your body is sending you. With practice, you’ll be better able to anticipate, and then regulate, your reaction.

Regulate Your Reaction

By the way, the more I work with clients concerned about ejaculation control, the more I realize that the word “control” is not really appropriate. It’s rather a redistribution of energy throughout the body. With breathing techniques and the use of your PC (pubo-coccyceal) muscles, you engage your imagination.

Visualize that you’re bringing the very hot energy that has collected around your genitals to the rest of your body, especially to your heart, mixed with a feeling of love for yourself. It’s almost as if you’re opening up a dam and letting the flow of water run along the river. Imagine that it’s a river of warm energy, love and light, spreading throughout your body.

Most men need to try more than one session before they can actually own the techniques that will extend their pleasure by postponing their ejaculation.

While reading about these techniques can point you in the right direction, it really helps when someone knowledgeable can guide you through the experience, and this is one of the areas where an experienced Tantric practitioner can aid you immensely in your practice.