Sex Tips & Advice

An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex for a woman. Give her clitoris lots of attention during sex and she’ll be putty in your hands!

The three stages of building an incredible orgasm with her clitoris are as follows:

1. Early Goings (Disarming)
2. The Build-Up Stage
3. On the Edge

Let’s talk about stages 1 & 3 first. Notice the clear distinction between stimulation in the Early Goings and On the Edge.

Early Goings vs. On The Edge Of Orgasm

In the Early Goings, don’t be overly intent on the clitoris itself – instead, pay attention to the areas surrounding it – they’re gold. In some cases, the surroundings may even be more sensitive than her bud.

And when you do come to provoking the clit itself, start off with soft, slow, palm, indirect (via clitoral hood) stimulation. It’s gentle & sweet, disarming but exciting. This settles her down but also creates an expectant eagerness for things to come.

Clearly, a different set of stimulation is required when she’s on the edge, you have to do better than gentle and sweet if you’re going to push her all the way. Stage 3 requires harder, faster and more direct stimulation – a far cry from the innocent, slow maneuverings at the onset.

The Build Up Stage

It means a progressive increase in stimulation. Soft becomes a bit harder, slow gets a bit faster, the palm soon becomes the fingers, and indirect is replaced by direct confrontation. This increases the sexual tension flooding her brain.

During Stage 2, you’ll hear sighs turn into moans, with her body beginning to writhe in exquisite pleasure. She’ll begin squirming seriously as she’s feeling hotter and more thrilled by the second. You’ll hear panting as her pulse shots triple time. If you’ve really done well, tiny beads of sweat will perceptibly well out. She’ll start gyrating with your hands, her pelvis moving to get as much action going. Her eyes will almost always be closed, she will even forget that you exist!

How does one actually go about stage 2?

This is the time to invest in the push & the pull.

That means you start from slow and begin to go faster. From light, you go harder. Pulling is when you tone down and go the other way.

So for example, instead of a continuous, rhythmic stimulation, you might STOP for a few seconds. Resume, and then stop again. The pull is the harder of the two, because it’s as if you’re purposely squandering what has been gained, wandering away from the goal. But know that this is as vital as the push.

Instead of increasing pressure on the clitoris, you slacken a bit and take it easy for a while. Then increase pressure again. Instead of going faster, ease off and coast along. Then build up speed again. Remember, teasing always comes in pairs – the push and the pull – bringing her down and bringing her up to an even more scintillating height.

This naturally takes more time, but this is definitely a worthwhile investment.

Getting Closer

Now, this is the point where I want to make something very clear: As she gets closer to orgasm, gradually phase out the teasing.

That means the longer you are into the process, the pauses, breaks and easing off become shorter in span and less in frequency. There comes a point when the teasing entirely disappears and you simply bring your woman to orgasm without bringing her down. The pull becomes useless at some point, you simply go forward and never look back.

That means you become more aggressive with the clit, giving it faster and harder provocations. You increasingly focus on it until you deal with it exclusively – never giving it rest and forsaking the rest of her body. A few seconds of this type of stimulation and she will orgasm, big time.

Of course, it will be your call when to do away with teasing altogether. I can’t tell you exactly when to do this. Gauge her and decide.

After her first blow, unlike men, she doesn’t dive to non-arousal – she remains horny still although she is quite sensitive. It really becomes easy to usher in those multiple orgasms because after she starts exploding, she can keep going as each subsequent orgasm get easier.

After she cums, this is what you do: Leave her clitoris alone for a minute or two and do something else. Her clit gets extra-sensitive after an orgasm, just as the head of your penis gets extra-vulnerable after ejaculation. (By the way, this is not a refractory period, women don’t have them.) After a minute or two, simply reinstate the last thing you were doing that pushed her off, and keep at it.

Not long after, she will orgasm again.

Many guys never discover the multi-orgasmic capacity of their woman simply because they don’t give her a second shot. While a soulful climax may be enough for a lot of couples, know that both of you can opt for more.

An orgasm is easy for some girls to fake, and fake it they do for various reasons. This can really hamper your sex life. Here’s how to get her to stop.

A woman is sexiest during those precious few seconds when she has an orgasm. But, did she REALLY, or was it something else?

Here’s news for you – if you’re not a virgin, chances are, you’ve been faked a couple of times. You can accept that and be a little easy on yourself, or you can continue on the path of denial. “Oh, she came man, I swear she really did!”

Whatever!

Did She Actually Fake Her Orgasm?

I’m saying that IT happens and you most probably have been an unwitting recipient – that’s just how the cookie crumbles. A lot, and I mean A LOT of women fake pleasure and orgasms, they’ve done it for millennia, and they’re quite excellent at it. They own it! They own the character, and have all the moans, whines and pelvic thrusts down to an art. They know exactly how to flutter those dreamy eyes – all in the name of “Let’s get this over with.”

Oh, those women! They deserve an Emmy on a nightly basis. ($200 says you’ve fallen for it a few times.)

Of course, men play a part in this grand conspiracy. With their lame moves and misguided notions of great sex, how can guys expect a woman to orgasm? And it doesn’t take much effort from a tired woman to make any guy believe he’s the king of the world. I mean, how hard is it to ooohh and ahhhh? Even a drunken, demented kitty can do that. Women are amazed at how easy it is to fool guys, most can’t tell the difference between a screaming elephant and a faking woman.

Not only that it’s easy, the motivation for faking is pretty high. Imagine a sleepy woman, with a numb vagina, expecting to drive two hours across state for a big meeting first thing in the morning. Think about her motivations to fake her clueless stud.

She won’t likely school him into an all-night discussion on how to do her. She’ll simply get into a moaning routine, a little thrust of the pelvis here and there, a little swing of her head from side-to-side then BINGO! Some peace finally.

Why She Really Does It

Granted that it’s so easy, so tempting, and more than being sleepy & bored, why do women fake orgasm? Why?

It’s because there is pressure on all sides to have an orgasm.

First of all, men expect their woman to cum – yes, even at totally sub-par methods. No matter how shallow it may be, making a woman reach her peak gives us a sense of accomplishment. “I made her orgasm. Ha!”

Failing to do so causes the opposite emotion and strikes a blow to male ego. He’s lost – no matter what he did, no matter how hard he tried, it seemed to have no effect on her. In our “Who’s Your Daddy?” world where men bet their masculinity not only on the number of women they bag, but on the number of orgasms they give, a woman’s climax can be a pretty big deal.

So women, bless their souls, fake to protect men’s egos – especially for the man they care about and the man who pays the bills. The choice to fake is easy to make. They want their man to feel like The Man. As one woman would comment, “Men like it when they think they’re in control.”

But this is no altruistic act.

Women also fake it for their sakes. Besides the fact that they want the poking to end, and their heads have nudged the headboard too many times to recall, women also bet their femininity on orgasms.

When she fails to climax, she not only blames his small penis but also her defective equipment. Why couldn’t she orgasm? Something must be wrong with her! Women could easily blame their bodies, treating it as if they have an anatomical problem. “My clitoris must have been broken from overuse during my early years.”

So she fakes it – not only for the man but also for her sake. There are in fact times when she doesn’t know if she really had an orgasm or not. It felt good, but it wasn’t a definitive orgasm, she wasn’t sure. “I sort of came.” When this happens, she often consciously decides that she did indeed came, and so leave both the man and herself secured.

How To Avoid Getting Faked

If you’re asking for a definitive method so you can be 1000% sure that your lady came, there is nothing of that sort. Nobody is under any messianic delusion to make every woman cum every time, or spot every faker on the face of this earth.

Sure, there are signs of an orgasming woman. But know that all these things can be faked, yes, even the very contractions of the vaginal walls. You can’t avoid getting faked! Quit making it your night job to catch fakers. If you do catch her, then what?!

Instead – learn, practice and master how to effect powerful orgasms. Run with what you’ve learned in this series and trust that women won’t need to fake with you. As you develop better sexual skills, you’ll realize that spotting fakes becomes a useless affair.

The woman has, of course, a say on this – you can only do so much. If she does fake you, then it’s one less orgasm for her. She’s got more reasons to worry than you. But if she’s honest, then you two could begin an interesting journey of discovery, learning each other’s ropes. No matter how bumpy the ride is at first, through clear communication, the ball can start rolling.

As a final word, why don’t you do something very sensible. Stop tying your self esteem and masculinity with the number of orgasms you give. Secure your self-esteem somewhere else – where it’s more stable, not tossed to and fro depending on an evening’s performance.

How ludicrous it is to let one’s sense of worth hang on something that doesn’t even last more than 20 seconds.