Sex Tips & Advice

6 Super Naughty Fingering Tips

Fingering isn’t played out – at least these hotter than fire tips aren’t! Here’s how to engage in fingering with your girl and give her a WET orgasm!

1. Stirring The Pot

Another great all-round stimulator, this little trick allows you to stimulate the circumference of the vaginal wall at just about any depth, and is another type of sensation she may have never before experienced.

With one or two fingers inserted, slowly begin to make clockwise circles around the entire vaginal canal – bottom, left side, top, right side. You can change which direction your finger pads point to mix things up, or switch directions. Try to keep it up while thrusting!

2. Twist & Shout

A very special move using two to three fingers, this one allows you to stimulate her G or A-Spot, her clitoris, her urethra, her inner and outer labia; her entire vulva, in fact. A favorite in our house, this one has just the kind of sensations that are guaranteed to bring me over the edge after some stimulating massage and stretching.

Using your index and possibly your middle finger, penetrate and find the G-Spot, (or A-Spot, depending on how deep it is and how long your fingers are) thereby creating a “C” shape out of your hand, so that your thumb curls around to cover her clitoris. The sensitive inner webbing of your hand will cover her inner labia, and can stimulate her U-Spot here as well.

Once in position, slowly begin to twist your wrist from side to side, keeping your arm stationary. Not only will this rock back and forth inside her, causing her to lubricate and possibly squirt, but the changing pressure on her clit at just the right rhythm is certain to be a show-stopping favorite.

3. Upping The Ante

If you’re feeling extra frisky, you can add a second digit to any of the moves described above, either massaging her perineum and anus or fingering her clitoris. If you can figure out using multiple fingers and your tongue at the same time, you’re golden!

4. Three, Four And More

As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two. As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation, which is where these more complex moves come in. If you are still learning to read your wife’s reactions, take your time here to work up to them. She needs to be communicative; not just to ensure her pleasure here, but to avoid any unwanted pain.

5. The Three-Way

You can modify the Twist & Shout position above, with two fingers inserted to hit her G-Spot and A-Spot at the same time, along with her clitoris and possibly her urethra. Doesn’t that sound like the kind of party you want to get in on? As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two.

As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation. With your two fingers inserted deeply, trace your middle finger toward you, along the front wall of the vagina, until you find the A-Spot. Keep the finger in place as you crook your index finger closer yet, finding the G-Spot just inside the vaginal opening. Now that you have both spots in hand, you can reach your thumb for her clit.

In this position, you can both twist at the wrist as I mentioned earlier, and thrust very gently with your inserted fingers in the come-hither motion to stimulate all her special spots!

6. The Pubic Press

This movement actually puts a bit of pressure on her uterus and ovaries, giving you an opportunity to stimulate these internal reproductive organs from inside her vagina. Some women may find this a bit uncomfortable, if they aren’t used to it, so go slowly and gently and get lots of feedback. With your fingers inside her, let the heel of your other hand find her pubic bone.

Just above her mons and below her abdomen, you can press down to gently move her internal reproductive system closer to the vaginal canal, and the clitoral tissue that surrounds it. Thrusting in this position can be incredibly pleasurable.

How To Get Him To Reign In His Pubic Hair

By loveandsex

Shaving for a guy can often be an afterthought, but if you’re giving him head, he needs to keep his pubic hair under control. Here’s how to get him to do it.

While being clean is the first step to preparing for a great blowjob, you don’t want to completely overlook pubic hair. Wild, unkempt pubic hair can ruin fabulous oral sex, so make sure you and your partner agree on what kind of down there grooming he needs to do.

While you don’t want to have a conversation about how much he stinks and needs to take a shower because this can put a big nick in his self esteem, the same is not true of the pubic hair conversation. It is perfectly appropriate to discuss how pubic hair affects you when you’re giving him head and your opinions on how he can handle his bush.

Talking To Him About It

Don’t broach the subject right before sex. Even though it’s fine to talk about what to do with his pubes, it’s still not a conversation you want to be having right before you’re about to get it on. So talk about it after sex, or while you’re having breakfast the next morning. Choose a benign time to bring it up and don’t be critical about it. Simply tell him that it would make giving oral sex easier for you if he had more control over the growth of his pubic hair.

Remember though, you’re only offering opinions on what he could do with it that would make giving him a blowjob better for you. You are not the decision maker, nor can you force him to shave or wax if he’d prefer to go au natural. The end decision is his, but you certainly have the right to weigh in, considering it’s your face down there, not his.

Trimming

Trimming is probably one of the most popular male pubic hair grooming options. Trimming is easy and fast, and makes a guy feel less vulnerable than shaving or waxing does. To be honest, most men trim. All he needs to do is take a beard trimmer (works better than a hair trimmer because it is smaller and can more accurately trim angled areas) and use an attachment that will trim the hair at the length he wants. If he likes a lot of hair, you can compromise by using a longer trimming attachment that still keeps his mane under control without making him feel like he’s getting ready to slide into a Speedo.

If you would like his penis completely bald but he says there’s no way he’s going there, compromise with a close trim. A close trim is actually a favorite among couples, because it’s virtually impossible for a woman to get a pube stuck in her teeth during oral sex if he’s trimmed almost down to the skin, and men like it because the closer the trim, the larger his penis looks. If you have trouble convincing him to groom, let him know that it’s a proven fact that a penis looks smaller when it’s drowning in pubic hair.

If he gets his bush under control, he could easily add 2” to his visible penis length. This is usually all it takes to sell a guy on keeping his pubic hair trimmed. While many men are going to prefer trimming themselves, there are going to be a few hard to reach places. Offer to trim for him, but don’t be surprised if he turns you down.

Shaving

Shaving is another option, one that many guys couple with trimming, depending on how they like their pubic hair to look. Shaving is totally up to him – because many guys don’t like it. Shaving can cause wicked shaving bumps (sound familiar?) and it can be super uncomfortable when it grows back. And no, men won’t consider what they prefer on a woman during cunnilingus when they’re taking their own pubic hair status into account. He’ll never sympathize with you on shaving bumps, razor burn and itchy regrowth. He’ll still want you to shave.

If your man does shave, it’s unlikely that he’ll shave it all off, although some guys do prefer to do that and like the completely bald look. Or, he may shave everywhere except for a patch of hair in the front, like a woman’s “landing strip.” Either way, shaving is a lot of upkeep for a guy and doesn’t make that much of an impact on giving head, unless you want to lick and suck him from top to bottom and plan putting everything from his cut lines to his anus in your mouth. Then, you might want him to shave. But it’s still his call.

Waxing

Almost no guy will wax his pubic hair. Guys aren’t usually into taking pain for the sake of perceived beauty the way women are. Women are raised to believe that if it makes you look better, it doesn’t matter if it hurts. Not so with guys – they’d rather look like Chewbacca than pull all their pubes out by the root in one fell swoop.

So don’t suggest waxing to your guy – just don’t. He’ll probably look at you like you’re nuts or think you get off on causing guys immeasurable pain. However, if you are with one of the few guys who do prefer waxing as their means of pubic hair grooming, good for you. Be thankful he cares that much.

Once your man has completed his grooming ritual, do not forget to let him know how much his newly manscaped genitals turn you on. Lavish them with lots of attention, and don’t skimp on the praise. And of course, make sure you’re groomed too when he goes to return the favor. If you want him to trim or shave, you’d better not look like you stepped out of a time machine from the 70’s when he takes your pants off.

The REAL Truth About The G-Spot (And How To Find It!)

By loveandsex

The g-spot is often considered the holy grail of sex – if you can find her g-spot and get her to orgasm with it, you’re in for a wild ride! Here’s how.

Who Invented The G-Spot?

Nobody! It has always been there, silently awaiting discovery.

In the 1950’s, Dr. Grafenberg (hence the term “G”-spot) discovered the zone. Of course, he was ecstatic to write about it, but like most great finds, his work has to undergo the painful process of gathering dust in the bookshelves. For the next 30 years, nobody paid it much attention. Then came 1982. Dr.’s Whipple, Perry and Ladas did more extensive study on the area, and it was with the publishing of their work on the G-spot that consciousness really caught on.

Where Is It?

The G-spot is located between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. That means you’re dealing here with the TOP WALL of her vagina.

Unlike the clitoris, the g-spot is stimulated INTERNALLY. Hunting for it is best done when a woman lies on her back, bringing her knees to her chest. Here’s what you do: Palms up, slowly and teasingly insert your middle and index fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina. Then point your fingers up, remember the area is behind the pubic bone. Now, imagine you’re beckoning somebody to come to you. Simulate that “Come Here” finger motion by curling your fingers back towards the wrist.

You’ll know you’ve hit the spot because the texture there is different from the adjacent areas. It feels rough and you may find a raised spot or ridge. On average, it’s the size of a pea. You’ll feel it become firm & engorged when the lady is aroused. She’ll know when you’re there because she’ll feel something different.

While performing all this hunting inside, position your other palm a few inches below her belly button. Gently but firmly press towards your fingers inside. This bearing down helps isolate the G zone and results in more intense sensations.

How To Find & Stimulate The G-Spot

Do not consider the it as merely a pea-sized locale – it’s better to think of it as a zone or region. Begin by fingering her and let your fingers play around and stimulate areas adjacent to the rough spot itself. This indirectly stimulates the g-spot and animates your partner as you go nearer and nearer the post.

You may utilize 1-3 fingers, but more than that, when it comes to curling, you could execute simultaneously or serially. Again, these will seem trivial to you, but these simple variations have profound effects on the woman whose core you’re invading. A woman notices the tiny details men couldn’t care less of.

Do vertical and horizontal firm sweeps of the area. Run circles around the spot. You may also execute a 2-finger squeeze using the forefinger and the middle finger.

But I Still Can’t Find It!

Let’s make this clear, the G-spot is not found inside the vagina, it is accessed through the vagina. And if you would have any chance of finding it, you need to apply FIRMER, DEEPER PRESSURE. Firmer than the ones you use for the clit – do not baby the G-spot.

Simply rubbing the area won’t work, as pressure is needed to get THROUGH the vaginal walls. No matter how many thousand curls you administer, doing it with insufficient pressure won’t result in any heavenly experience. Men who have been stirring the same zone without result suddenly struck gold just by making the wonderful mistake of increasing pressure. They were dead-on all this time, but the pressure just wasn’t enough.

You don’t want weak, tentative fingers curling back and forth. You want well-trained marines to get in and get the job done, troops that are confident and know exactly what they’re doing.

It’s not a cavity exam, but be firm with it.

Unfortunately, for women with very thick vaginal linings, access to the G-spot may not even be possible.

I Swear Man, My Girl Doesn’t Have One!

She has one, they all have one. You just expected her reaction to be “Oh Danny that feels so good. Don’t stop. Please don’t stop!”

All eyes may be for seeing, and ears for hearing, but stimulating the G-spot has DIFFERENT EFFECTS for DIFFERENT WOMEN. Some love it and orgasm only through it, some don’t. Some are very sensitive, others couldn’t care less.

When a guy plays with a woman’s G, she will typically feel the need to pee. Why? Because the area you’re dealing with runs alongside her bladder, that’s why. (Just to be sure, make her pee before proceedings begin). When you continue with the stimulation, that need to urinate will gradually turn into a feeling of pleasure. And that pleasure, nurtured will soon result into a raging, wet and possibly squirting orgasm.

OR, stimulation may get you nothing. A woman may simply feel NOTHING. That’s right, NOTHING. In that case, you stop and watch “Friends” reruns instead.

But that doesn’t mean you’ll go nowhere with her every time. Her sensitivity and your skill will improve as you clock in several sessions. For all you know, she may feel zilch that evening, but on a different night, it’ll be gold. She can have different reactions on different occasions, so don’t give up so easily.

OR, a woman will hate every irritating minute of it. That’s right, it can have a negative effect on her. In that case, stop stimulation, turn on the TV and watch “Seinfeld” reruns instead.

Women can have different G-Spot reactions. When people expect it to work in the same manner, for all women, every time, that’s when the debate on its existence and purpose really heats up.

People have been conditioned to think that G-Spot stimulation will always shoot her through the stratosphere. Truth is, sometimes it’ll work, sometimes it will work against you. Sometimes she’s crazy about it, sometimes not so much. There will even be times when you’ll think her spot has disappeared or will doubt if you’ve actually found the real deal when she’s not as responsive as before!

You may have to awaken and train her G-spot in the first place – over a period of several sessions. Such is the nature of the Grafenberg Spot. So when dealing with it, better check your ego at the counter.

The Best Sex Tips You’ve Never Heard Of

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips are often things you see over and over again – the same ones, literally beat into your brain. But here are some incredible sex tips that are brand new!

Everyone could always use a really great sex tip, regardless of your skill level. From passionless missionary sex to oral sex that is more paint by numbers that porn star wild, you may need a few tricks of the trade to spice things up. Or maybe things are hot and you want to make them even hotter.

What She Said:

There are so many sex tips out there when it comes to pleasing your man, but what about you? Below, I offer some sex tips specifically for women to use on themselves.

Sex is a mental thing for women, we have to shut out the outside world and ignore our to-do list. You have to silence your inner critic and all those voices in your head. One way to help silence them is to prep your mind for sex. Think sexy thoughts throughout the day. Why not wear sexy lingerie under your normal work clothes. No one has to know what you are wearing under there and that makes it all the more sexy! Another tip is to watch a sexy movie or read some erotica before you get busy with your man. There is such a wide array of porn that is catered to women that you are bound to find something that helps light your fire.

Now that you have spent some extra time getting yourself into the mood, the next step is to get it on. My next tip and one of my favorites, is to TAKE CONTROL! Make the first move or show him what you like. In order for him to please you he needs to know what you like. So many women just go through the motions of sex without speaking up or showing their lover what they like. So get on top of him and use him as your own personal sex toy.

While you are on top, lean forward so your clitoris gets all the delicious contact it needs. While on top you can also control the pace and depth. Make it a game, tell him he can’t come until you have. A woman who can own her sexuality and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants in bed is the sexiest sex tip of all!

What He Said:

The best sex tip I can offer is to look good naked. Working out is great. It boosts your libido, your mood and when you look great naked, you want to be naked more often. It also can help you attract the hottest lovers of your life!

Any kind of exercise will do, at the end of the day it’s what works for you. Yoga is great, because it’s basically porn already. Don’t believe me? Go to a yoga class. There are strippers and porn stars who wear more clothing. And you’ll get all hot and sweaty with sexy people bending over, twisting like pretzels, it’s hot.

You have to own it too. Sex starts and ends in the mind. If it’s not there to begin with, it won’t happen in your naughty bits. Meditation is good, but also just stand naked in front of your mirror butt ass naked and really get comfortable in your skin. You are hot to someone and someone will want to have hot steamy intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, or whatever the hell else you’re into but first you have to feel good about you. That’s first.

Assuming you’ve got that taken care of, let’s get down to the brass tacks. Make your fantasies a reality. You may need to get creative. If you’ve always fantasized about a three way and you’re in a monogamous relationship, try getting a vibrator and using it in your backdoor while you have intercourse with your husband. If you want to be with a girl and you’re afraid or not ready (and you’re a woman) go to a strip club. Get a lap dance. If you’ve always wanted to be in control, buy handcuffs and handcuff your man to the bed. If you want to be dominant, be dominant. If you want to be submissive, be submissive.

I’m a big believe that the greatest sex tip is to find a way to have the vacation sex you love in your every day life. You may have to schedule it. Like married people with kids schedule sex or old people schedule their last glass of Ovaltine before the big Matlock Marathon. Just be consistent and be patient.

How To Give Her Great Sex And Make Her Orgasm

By lloydlester

An orgasm is sometimes elusive, leaving many men frustrated. Find out how to give her incredible sex and the best female orgasm of her life!

If you want to give your woman the most powerful orgasms that she has ever had, you have to understand how to seduce her to the point where she cannot take it any longer and begs you to take her. Many men never learn the art of teasing which is necessary in order to please a woman to the point where she quivers in anticipation and reaches an explosive climax.

Here are 3 hot and teasing moves that will enable you to get into a woman’s sexual psyche and help her reach the ultimate in female sexual ecstasy!

1. Tease Her Verbally

Drop hints on what you plan to do with her and start early, even during the day. This can be through a quick phone call or you can just brush up against her body during breakfast and tell her what you have in store for her that night. Women are “emotional beings,” so getting into her head is the KEY to getting her sexual temperatures soaring through the roof.

Women are also very much turned on by words – much more so than men. So start early by telling her a few naughty things and see where that gets you. Chances are, she will be hot before nightfall!

2. Tease Her With Caresses And Kisses

Instead of falling all over her with kissing and caressing, give her some of this necessary foreplay and then hold back. Continue to do this, going ever so close to her most erogenous zones such as her nipples and her clitoris before pulling back. This form of “strategic holding back” is extremely powerful, and creates a sense of heightened sexual anticipation that will make a woman hunger for more. Eventually, you will want to follow through what you are doing but not until you have teased her into begging you for more.

3. Tease Her With Your Manhood

Instead of plunging right into her during intercourse, take your time. By delaying your own gratification, you will reap greater rewards later on. Try teasing her by entering with just the head of your penis and then pulling out. Then do it again to build up the sexual anticipation within her. Shallow penetration will hit all the sensitive nerve endings located near the entrance of the vagina. Build up the anticipation and momentum. And pretty soon she will be arching her back towards you, beckoning you to finish what you started and priming her for the big “O”!