Sex Tips & Advice

The Difference Between Sex And Making Love

Sex is sometimes just sex and other times it’s “making love” – this happens when you really open yourself up to someone you care about.

How Do You Best Distinguish Between The Two?

“Just sex” usually takes place outside the context of a loving relationship – one-night stands for example. People get horny – so they get laid, it’s that simple. Men and women use each other to get an orgasm or two. Motivation is mostly physical and very little, if at all, emotional. In fact, emotional entanglements are avoided and little consideration is given to the partner’s enjoyment.

“Making love,” as especially seen by women, is more romantic – more tender, respectful and considerate. It’s what lovers do. The people involved have feelings and emotional investments on each other. Motivation is both physical and emotional.

If lust shoves the penis down her throat, love slides it in while caressing her cheek.
If lust ejaculates on her face, love is kissing her tenderly.
If lust is fast, short & furious, love is sensual, slow and romantic.
If lust is purely physical, love is largely emotional & psychological.
If lust is penile penetration, love is penetration – and more.

Are There Any “Gray” Areas?

Although at first glance, the two may seem like night and day, but there are actually a lot of gray areas between the two. Differences can be very subtle and one could argue that they’re really one and the same. The two cannot be objectively evaluated in terms of actions, and it’s not as if they are mutually exclusive. There isn’t really much difference in terms of actuations.

“Making love” can be passionate as well as fast and furious. “Just sex” can also be sensual and slow. People in loving relationships can have sex just for the heck of it. And even one-night stands can come with romance, albeit not very often.

Pay Attention To Your Emotions

It’s in the perception and interpretation of the players. It is FELT, not seen. It is in the individual to perceive whether what’s happening is simply lust, or a combination of lust, like and love or something else.

If a woman interprets things one way, then that’s what it is! If over time, she changes her mind, and develops feelings and sees the two of you as ‘making love’, then FOR HER, it’s making love.

If it’s “just sex” to you, then FOR YOU, it’s just sex.

What If You’re Not On The Same Page With Your Lover?

Unpleasant surprises arise when partners’ views don’t match. She’s making love, and he’s just in it for the sex. And because they have differing perceptions, they consequently have incongruous expectations and behaviors. She expects him to be generous and loving, but since they’re not on the same page, he might not be those things at all!

A great lover avoids unnecessary complications by making sure they’re both on the same page. Playing with women’s emotions is NOT cool!

Mastering Her G Spot Review

By loveandsex

Mastering Her G Spot is yet another guide claiming to teach men the secrets of giving women incredible, earth shattering g spot orgasms. However, the one difference between this book and all the others is that this one actually teaches you those secrets! Amazingly well done, visually intriguing and packed with information, Mastering Her G Spot rises far above the rest in quality and quantity.

The Good

Like all of Gabrielle Moore’s guides, there is no shortage of information here! Mastering Her G Spot is laid out in an exceptionally organized format, is very visually intriguing and is easy to skim. You can simply scroll to the section you’re looking for, or read through the whole book (but probably not in one sitting!) Gabrielle covers pretty much everything there is to know about the g spot here, and you’re not left for wanting much when the book is through. The information is presented in a well formatted, easy to digest manner, making it easy for anyone to benefit from.

The Bad

There’s not much bad to point out with Mastering Her G Spot, because the book is so well put together and thorough. If you’re looking for a short, concise tips guide, then you might be disappointed at the volume of this one, but you’re more likely to be happy that you got what you paid for – and much, much more!

The Bottom Line

Mastering Her G Spot is one of the better done g spot guides out there. It’s perfectly put together and easy to read, so you can get every tidbit of information without having to work too hard for it. With both beginner’s and advanced tips, sex positions, foreplay techniques and how to use sex toys (all of which are specifically related to inducing g spot pleasure), anyone who is looking to either learn the basics to help them get started or brush up on already learned skills will truly enjoy this guide. This is one of the books you keep on hand to reference back to again and again!

The Full Mastering Her G Spot Review

The g spot is an elusive area of spongy tissue inside a woman’s vagina that when stimulated, is said to give a woman intense (and sometimes even squirting!) orgasms. The problem is, a lot of men can’t seem to find this little guy and therefore their partners often end up going without the incredible pleasure they know they can have (and have had before).

Many guides on how to find the g spot and what to do with it when you do are lacking in many areas. Mastering Her G Spot, however, is lacking in none. From the well written introduction that eases you into g spot theories and techniques to the actual red hot, play by play techniques, you’ll learn everything you could possibly want to know about the g spot and in all honesty, probably more. The abundance of information here is almost unreal, especially considering that lots of scientists nowadays are suggesting that the g spot doesn’t even exist. Gabrielle Moore is here to prove them wrong!

While many people may underestimate the need for good formatting and enticing pictures in a sex tips guide, they are actually exceptionally important aspects of a good book – or else no one is going to get through it! A reader (especially if he is male) must feel visually, emotionally and mentally intrigued if they’re ever going to get past the first few pages. No worry about that with Mastering Her G Spot – there is plenty of eye candy, bold headlines and easy to read “blurbs” to keep your eyes and brain busy while you learn.

Fortunately, this is also one of the few guides that doesn’t beat you over the head with female anatomy. Learning where the g spot is may be one of the times where visualizing a woman’s anatomy is exceptionally important, however, the few diagrams are very unique and well done, and they show you exactly where to go.

Another awesome aspect to Mastering Her G Spot is that the information is not only going to help you discover your partner’s secret orgasm zone, it’s also going to help you understand your relationship better. (Guys who just want to learn how to access the g spot so they can bang a bunch of women are going to find all the relationship stuff tiring, but oh well! The far majority of men who use this book are going to benefit in multitudes from it). After reading, you will understand more about your partner, her sexual arousal, her body, your body and your intimacy with each other than you ever thought possible. Although Mastering Her G Spot focuses specifically on g spot pleasure, this guide is absolutely going to improve your sex life overall!

As you continue to read through the chapters of Mastering Her G Spot, it becomes clearer and clearer that Gabrielle Moore really did her homework for this one. Between elaborating on her personal experiences, discussing surprising statistics, and presenting information gleaned from her thousands of subscribers, you can tell she really knows what she’s talking about.

And who wants to read a sex tips book from someone who doesn’t have a clue?

BDSM Basics: How To Get Started

By kendallashley

BDSM is a sex activity that incorporates bondage, domination, submission and masochism. If you have been interested in BDSM for a while, but don’t know how to get started with it, there are a few things that you can do to ease into the scene.

BDSM is very kinky and can be a lot of fun. However, your comfort level might not be the same as your partner’s. It doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie or a veteran of the scene, you should always know what you are comfortable with and what is going to be beyond your limits. Here is a quick guide to help you get started with BDSM.

What Are You Into?

As mentioned before, there are a lot of subsets with BDSM. Whether you’re into bondage or domination, you need to determine what makes you hot. Some men are really into dominating their partner while others would rather be the submissive. If you are into being whipped or incorporating a little pain into the relationship then you must be careful.

Telling your girlfriend or wife to bite your nipples is a little different than being chained to a bed and flogged. Determine what you are into and what is off limits before you ever bring this up with your partner. Knowing your limits will help define what is acceptable and what is not.

Master Vs. Slave

“Master” and “slave” are a very common terms in BDSM. In this scenario, one of you will be the master and one of you will be the slave. The master controls all aspects of the slave’s life. This means they control their privacy, what they do and when they can perform certain tasks. In many cases, the slave will wear a uniform and a collar. Some slaves do not feel comfortable wearing a collar, but others prefer it. In this form of domination, the actions do not always have to be sexual.

A master can designate certain tasks for the slave to complete. These tasks could include housework or sexual actions. The master is in charge of the slave and the slave must abide by the master’s rules. If you are interested in either of these roles, it’s recommended that you get direction from an experienced dominatrix or a slave.

Experimenting With Bondage

Bondage is another form of BDSM that you can get into fairly easily. The most intricate of bondage equipment will involve chains or bed straps, but you can easily improvise. Using neckties or pieces of satin fabric will not break the skin but can restrain easily. Rope is not recommended unless you are experienced because it will irritate the skin during movement.

Handcuffs work well and can be found at local adult stores or at toy stores. It’s recommended that you buy a good pair of handcuffs as plastic can break easily. If you are the one being restrained, make sure that your partner secures the restraints so you cannot move easily. Bondage allows you or your partner to relinquish control, which a lot of people find sexy.

What Is Masochism?

Masochism is another aspect of BDSM. Masochism is a consensual agreement between you and your partner involving the giving and the receiving of pain. There are different levels of masochism. There is extreme pain and then there is just a little pain. If you have ever enjoyed your girlfriend or wife scratching you with her fingernails then you have experienced a very tame form of masochism.

Masochism is enjoyed in the realm of sexuality. In order words, slamming your hand in a door is not the same as getting whipped by your girlfriend. Start off slow with masochism. Getting too much pain at once can ruin the experience quickly. Start out with a bullwhip and then work your way up to other tools.

Always Keep Safety In Mind

Safety is a must when it comes to BDSM. You must keep safety in the forefront of your mind so you are not only comfortable but also safe from any diseases or puncture wounds. It’s all too easy to get over-enthusiastic and wind up with a lash across your back that hurts for days or even scars. Have a safe word in place with your partner and research any methods that you are going to use before you implement them into the bedroom.

Make sure that all of your restraints are secure so they don’t come flying off the bedposts while in use. Also make sure that your restraints aren’t going to damage your furniture. Discuss any rules beforehand with your partner so they know what is off limits. Use these guidelines and you should be off to a great start with your first BDSM experience.

Simultaneous Orgasm Vs. Taking Turns – The Winner Will Surprise You!

By loveandsex

Simultaneous orgasm has long been touted as the be all and end all of great sex. But can you have incredible sex without a simultaneous orgasm?

A destructive myth running rampant among couples today is the belief that: Great sex has to be characterized by simultaneous gratification.

A lofty standard, don’t you think?

The pursuit of simultaneous orgasms, as one consequence of this mindset, has partners on the ever frustrating hunt for this phenomenon. But no matter what they say, synchronized orgasms are rare, and only a few couples ever achieve them on a consistent basis.

How This Myth Can Ruin Your Sex Life

This can create a stigma for the partner who climaxes first – whether it’s the man or woman – especially when they think that if sex is a race, and orgasm, the finish line, the ideal is for both partners to finish together. After all, they started at the same time, right? So they should climax as a couple!

However, the physical and psychological differences between men and women make this rarely achievable. Men are aroused faster than a speeding bullet, women are not so. Penetration has more orgasm potential for men than women – who have their clitorises only indirectly stimulated by the invading penis. This usually leads to the man peaking first. And if ‘great sex’ for you means simultaneous climaxes, then you’re going to have some problems.

Sexual syncronicity doesn’t necessarily mean the couple orgasming exactly at the same moment. Climaxing together may be highly sought after, but the practical and more realistic way of doing things is to take turns!

Why It’s Better When You Take Turns

Sexual pleasure needn’t be concurrent for partners, a give & take view is much better — with a time for giving and a time to be on the receiving end.

Yes, both pleasures may coincide and there are lots of instances when this happens. Kissing and hugging are examples. Enjoy them, but don’t make them the standard. Pleasure doesn’t have to happen simultaneously; sometimes it’s even better that way.

Take the ‘69’ position for example. Though erotic, it’s frankly not so effective because so much is going on at once. Your brain has to decide if it’s going to focus on the pleasure received, or the pleasure given.

TAKE TURNS. When you both try to lead and put on a show, sex will feel like Greco-Roman wrestling. Sex is EQUAL & MUTUAL, but not necessarily simultaneous. There will surely be moments when you do most of the work and she’ll just lie there, with eyes closed, enjoying you. Other times, you’ll be still and she’ll be riding you like a veteran cowgirl.

Switching off gives both the chance to completely focus on what’s happening. When she’s receiving, she can just relax as your tongue explores her innermost sanctum. She doesn’t have to do anything while you’re at it. Although you’re getting satisfaction by seeing her enjoyment, your role is primarily that of a giver. And when it’s her turn, she can focus on what she wants to do, instead of giggling or writhing about as a result of your maneuvers.

The Hidden Truth About Prolonging Male Orgasm

By lloydlester

A male orgasm is something that can come too quickly for a lot of guys, so to speak. Here’s how you can control it and last longer in bed!

It is an undeniable truth that the vast majority of men are not born with superior stamina in bed. In fact, sexual surveys have consistently shown that up to 40% of guys regularly ejaculate within 4 minutes of having sex. But if premature ejaculation is putting a damper on your sex life, fret not!

Premature Ejaculation Is Largely A Conditioned Response

Many men suffering from premature ejaculation are habitually pre-conditioned from young. What do I mean? You see, most guys in their teenage years or early 20s masturbate with the aim to climax quickly. There are many reasons for this. Among them is the inherent fear of getting caught in the act. Thus quick masturbation and ejaculation reduces the chance of being embarrassed. Unfortunately this has a carry-on effect when a man starts to have a sexual relationship.

But here’s the good news…

Premature ejaculation is usually not due to a medical or physical condition. And since it is mostly a habitual response cultivated from young, PE CAN be reversed with the right strategies.

For instance, there are specific male enhancement exercises that are aimed at increasing penis size. But did you know that some of these exercises are extremely effective in fixing premature ejaculation?

That is true. Exercises such as Kegels or PC contractions have been proven to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscles (or PC muscles for short) located in the pelvic area. These are the muscles responsible for ejaculatory functions. Exercises like Kegel are extremely easy to do, require very little time and can be performed anywhere without anyone noticing.

Practice Is The Key To Sensational Stamina

Many men do not know that premature ejaculation can be fixed permanently. Many resort to using the myriad of commercial PE solutions – desensitizing creams, sprays, even specialty condoms – in their bid to improve their endurance.

Worst still, some guys mistakenly think there is nothing they can do to reverse the embarrassment in bed. They do NOTHING about it and choose to accept PE as a sad fact of their sex lives.

But nothing is further from the truth! Sexual stamina is a LEARNED trait. And like all things in life worth doing, improving your endurance through simple exercises takes time, effort and most importantly – PRACTICE.

But once you develop that natural ability to delay an ejaculation, it becomes a new-found strength that stays with you for life. And your embarrassment of finishing too soon in bed will become a distant memory!