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How To Get Your Girl To Want To Watch Porn With You

By loveandsex

Getting your girl to WANT to watch porn might seem like a very difficult task, but it doesn’t have to be. Men tend to forget that women have the same sexual urges and crave affection, whether this is through physicality or emotional connections. It is also important to remember that a lot of women and men have self-esteem issues. When you want your girl to crave watching porn you must make sure that she knows there is zero chance of cheating.

Here are some easy to follow steps to get your girlfriend or wife to love porn and want it in your love life without emotional distress.

Get On The Same Page

There is a lot of emotion that goes into watching porn. For women, porn can be a great way to boost the passion in the bedroom, but some can get turned on by the different scenes and sex positions. It’s not usually the scenarios or the actual acts that turn women off. Most have a naughty side that loves peeking into the sexual escapades of others. What can turn them off is their own self-confidence.

When you want your girlfriend to crave this type of material you have to make sure that you are on the same page with your relationship. Some women think that men watch porn because their girlfriends and wives are not enough for them. While this could be true in some circumstances, it’s usually not.  Talk to her and tell her that you think it could enhance your sex life, but that you are committed to her.

Get Porn That She Likes

If you are going to get her to like porn then you need to get porn that she will actually find hot. It’s counterproductive to buy porn that you think is hot and she thinks is disgusting. Take a trip to your local adult store or get online to find porn that she thinks she’s going to like. Porn is getting so inexpensive these days that you can easily get a lot for very little. If she’s not sure what she is going to like, just try to make an educated decision. Does she think that lesbian porn is hot? Get a few different DVDs and try them out. There is such a huge variety out there that literally everybody can find something that will turn them on.

Let Her Watch It By Herself

One of the biggest mistakes that men make is forcing their girlfriends and wives to watch porn while they are in the room. This can promote a few problems.

The first problem is that they are not going to react to the porn the way that would if they were alone. They might not be comfortable watching porn with you in the room if this is their first time out.

The second problem is that there is an expectation that the porn is going to turn them on. If they don’t find it hot then it can put a damper on situation and she might react differently than if she were alone.

The third problem is that there is an expectation of sex when you are in the room. Let her watch the videos by herself to see what she thinks. She will feel much more comfortable bringing this into the bedroom once she has tried it out in private.

Turn The Porn Off!

As stated before, porn can really enhance a relationship, but it can also hinder it. Women that watch porn can easily become offended by the images and the portrayal of women within the different scenes. While some women get turned on by two women giving each other oral sex, others do not. A little bit of porn can turn a woman on, but the instance of keeping it on while you have sex can promote a huge problem in the relationship. This is where feelings of low self-esteem and “being not enough” can come into play.

Once your girlfriend or wife has gotten turned on, it’s time to turn off the porn. Only if she insists on keeping it on should you actually do it. The main theme here is that you don’t want to cross the line. Once she feels comfortable watching porn with you she’s probably going to crave it the next time it’s available during sex. If you do cross the line then there may not be any coming back.

Filed Under: Porn & Adult Movies

How To Convince Your Girl to Make A Sex Video

By loveandsex

How to get her to make a sex video for you? This is a question that almost every guy on the planet has pondered at point or another during a relationship. Homemade porn can be a huge turn on for guys and girls, but getting your girlfriend, wife or “friend” to make a porno with or for you can be like pulling teeth if you don’t approach her the right way.

There are a lot of girls that will find this extremely hot, but for others, there are many issues that you’re going to have to discuss before hand. Making sure that your girl feels comfortable is only the beginning.

Here is a short guide on how to get her to make a sex video for you.

Address The Issue Head On

The first thing that you have to do when you are bringing this up with your girl is addressing the issue head on. How is she supposed to know that a homemade sex video is something that you would enjoy? Yes, this would turn on most guys, but you should bring it up with your girl so that she knows it’s something that you would like to explore with her. She might have even thought about this at one point or another herself so you need to discuss it honestly. Many women fantasize about seeing themselves on video with their lover so keep this mind if you’re afraid of rejection.

Deal With Digital Age Concerns

We live in a digital age. With everything from cell phones to tablets to the innovation inside our desktop computers, almost every girl is going to have the same concern. “What if it gets on the Internet?”

This is going to come up and you need to be prepared when you are trying to get her to make a sex video for you. Whether you are just trying to get her to masturbate for you on camera or you want to be in the video yourself, the concern is legitimate and you have to reassure your girl that it’s only going to be for private use.

Don’t even joke about putting her sex video on the Internet or she is going to lock up and you will never your have your fantasy fulfilled.

Talk About What Will Be On The Video

If there is anything that a girl is going to be more concerned with than having the video hit the net, it’s what’s going to be on the video. Some girls are going to have to work their way up to the total package. She may want to start off with a handjob or a blowjob before she puts intercourse on digital record.

Talk to your girl before you even hit that record button and she will be much more open about everything. Don’t pressure her into going all the way the first time. She might be testing you to make sure that you’re responsible enough to have a video of her performing sexual acts.

Get The Right Equipment

One of the biggest problems with making a homemade sex video is the fact that people don’t have the right equipment. While cellphone cameras are becoming more and more advanced, it’s kind of hard to get crystal clear images when you’re holding a 4-inch device in your hand.

If she’s going to make a sex video she’s going to want to the look as good as she can with the right angles. She going to want the video to reflect her in the best way possible and you can’t really do that if you’re holding a phone in your hand during the entire process. Consider using the webcam from your computer over a cell phone camera or buy a real camera with a tripod for stability. If you’re going to do it, do it right!

Give Every Copy Of Your Sex Video To Her

It’s so easy for people to share information nowadays that you shouldn’t even trust yourself with a copy of your girlfriend having sex on video. Make the video and then burn it to a DVD. After you have burned it to a physical disc, delete every digital copy that you have the video. This is going to put her at ease and could possibly lead to future videos. Having the footage on a physical disc can squash any concerns that the video will make it to the Internet, coworkers, friends or even an unsuspecting family member.

Filed Under: Porn & Adult Movies

50 Shades Of Grey – The TRUTH About “Girl” Porn

By loveandsex

50 Shades Of Grey is one of the best selling books of all time – and you’ve likely heard about the darker sexual plot. Is erotica about to become mainstream?

Scores of women, all over the world are obsessed with 50 Shades Of Grey – an S&M related erotic thriller. It’s given birth to an entirely new genre of literature: “girl porn.” But what does that mean, exactly? What does it mean to women? To men? More importantly, what does it mean to you?

Sorry, It’s Not “New”

The whole “girl porn” thing isn’t new. Books like “My secret garden” have told stories of female centered erotica for years, and the concept is as old as time itself. It’s just becoming more and more prevalent and mainstream. Why? Part of it is feminism, partly due to relaxing social attitudes towards sex and sexuality, but mostly it’s due to one thing: technology. It used to be if you were a woman and you wanted to get your girl porn on, you had to buy a book, and carry that book around wherever you wanted to go and read it.

Everyone likes a little naughty reading time, but nobody wants to really be outed as doing it. Enter smartphones. And tablets. Amazon and Apple sell the tablets simply to drive purchases of digital content through the mediums they rule with an iron fist. conspiracy theories aside, this allows you to buy as much girl porn as you can stand, read it wherever you like and no one will no about it.

You might be asking yourself “Tony, are you saying that woman on the subway who looked way too happy to be there was getting her girl porn on? Am I really to believe that she was reading 50 Shades Of Grey?” Yes grasshopper. She was and you should. The explosion that is 50 Shades of Grey is directly related to the explosion of iPads, Kindle Fires, iPhones, Android phones, android tablets, and the like.

Girls Like It Dirty!

Here’s another truth: women are dirty. They talk dirty and they want dirty things. Chris Rock has this joke: “your woman is nastier and dirtier and more sexual than you ever imagined. She’s dying to do it. But anything you mutter ain’t getting done.” Women have always been this sexual. They’ve always been into porn. They are just into a different kind of porn than men are. Don’t believe that women are pervs too? Two words: Magic Mike. Women losing their minds over have naked shirtless men who are ripped and in great shape. They eat that up. Literally.

Women have always been massively sensual creatures, but they’ve been bread to repress that. Times are changing. That repression is being peeled away layer by layer. Thanks to technology and the internet, women in particular have access to any kind of sex and relationship type they could possibly want, and access to any kind of girl porn they want. They know it’s out there, and that helps them know that it’s okay, whatever that it is.

The Domination Factor

50 Shades Of Grey also reveals and increasing desire for women to be submissive and dominated. Often the women who exhibit the strongest desire to be dominated in the bedroom are the ones who are most dominant outside of it. It may seem a bit screwy, but it’s not. It actually makes quite a bit of sense when you think about it.

There is so much pressure on women today, most of it put on women by themselves and other women. They are obligated to “have it all” whatever that means. They are earning more than ever, having more responsibilities than ever. There’s an ever increasing number of roles women are having to play and as they take many of the leadership and powerful roles that men have traditionally played, they begin to feel the same pressures.

With all the hats women wear today, it’s no wonder that they want to throw them all off (in addition to their clothes). Being submissive allows you to surrender control and not have to worry about anything. You can use it as an excuse to give into any number of secret sex related desires you’ve long held (orgies, swinging, anal sex, lesbianism, bondage, etc), and in your mind you’re totally in the clear because you were “forced” to do it, but really, that isn’t true at all.

You were simply creating a scenario where you could finally allow yourself to have the kind of pleasure you’ve long desired, but do it in a way that’s safe for your mind and body. And for a woman, that’s an incredibly appealing proposition. That’s what these girl porn books offer.

Filed Under: Porn & Adult Movies Tagged With: bdsm, bondage, domination, kink, kinky sex, porn, sex tips

Is Porn Actually Bad For You?

By loveandsex

Porn can be a way to get any guy through dry spell or to spice up the love life between a couple. However, the most common questions is whether or not adult movies are actually bad for you. While it does allow people to indulge in their fantasies, there can be several repercussions to bring pornography into any relationship. If you are a single guy, it can also have detrimental effects to the expectations of future lovers. Here are a few ways that adult films can actually be bad for you.

It Raises Your Expectations A Little Too High

Porn is the equivalency of fantasy. When you start watching it, it is very easy to fall into the trap of living out your sexual fantasies through the characters in the movie. Lusting after porn stars that are willing to do anything can easily be detrimental to relationship that you have been in for a while or a relationship that might just be starting out. When your partner sees women that have an insatiable appetite for sex, it can put a lot of pressure into the relationship.

Guys who are single can also expect new lovers to try different positions or activities based on the adult movies they have watched. This expectation for a lover to live up to the porn stars in the movies can also create tension that would not have been there otherwise. The reality is that most women do not have the libido that men have. Not all women are shaped to the way that they are in pornography.

When men watch too much porn, they can easily push women into doing things that they do not feel comfortable with. They can also start to believe that certain sex acts are universally loved by all women.

It Desensitizes You To Sex

Porn can easily desensitize you to actual sex, leaving you with an unsatisfying feeling when you have real sex. Sex is not about getting off as hard or as fast as you can. Sex should be about the love between two consenting adults. The problem with pornography is that it will subconsciously leave you with a feeling of wanting more. This can easily turn into a vicious cycle to lowers the amount of pleasure that you feel when you are not only watching porn, having sex in real life.

If you have been watching it for a long time, you will start to see just how desensitized you have become. A video that got you really turned on two years ago may not do it for you now. Before there were things like the Internet, guys had to rely on things such as magazines or old-school pinup pictures of women. Now that the Internet is a full-fledged information machine and you can basically watch any kind of movie you want after just a few clicks, the desensitization can easily get out of control.

Porn Objectifies Women

Probably the worst thing about the adult industry is that it caters to men by objectifying women. Although there are videos that show women in control, they are not in control because of their mind or because of their physical abilities. They use their sexuality to get what they want. Pornography turns women into things that are pretty much there to satisfy the man’s sexual urge. Women should be loved because of who they are and not because of what they can provide a man sexually.

It’s Easy To Become Addicted To It

Because of all of these reasons, porn can easily become addicting. Anything that offers instant gratification can become addicting, however, pornography is becoming more and more accessible. With the invention of mobile internet, a lot of porno websites are starting to launch mobile versions of their site. While this can be great for mobile commerce, this can lead to temptation for men finding it hard to resist their addictions.

Porn is a different beast than alcohol or drugs. Porn is not illegal if you are of age. It is not even bad for the body in a physical sense, so it’s hard to regulate this for the normal male. Watching too much porn can lead to porn addiction when masturbating.

Porn, like alcohol or sweets, can be fun and harmless in small doses. However, if you start to go overboard, you might find it difficult to form a healthy relationship with a woman who is not as kinky as you. Talk with your partner or any potential partners about their views on the subject before you expose them to the kind of porn that you like.

Filed Under: Porn & Adult Movies Tagged With: adult movies, masturbation, porn, sex tips

Why Women Hate Men Who Love Porn

By david

Porn has a way of ruining the sex lives of men. If you have recently met a woman that you’re attracted to, you should try to cut adult movies out of your life immediately.

Does This Sound Familiar?

So you’re out one night, you’re in a bar, and you’re talking to this absolutely incredibly sexy woman.

She’s one of the hottest women you’ve met in a long, long time. As you’re talking to her, you’re absolutely fixated on her lips. She’s touching you, flirting, pushing you away.

You order one more drink. She accepts. All of a sudden you’re drinking and you start kissing her a little bit, and then your mind flashes.  Your penis gets hard and you think to yourself,

“This would be the perfect time to have sex in the parking lot. It would be so awesome to have her legs up above her head as I pound her in the back of my Dodge Durango.”

And then you think, “But wait a second, that’s not as exciting as putting her on the hood of the car—spread eagle—where everybody else can see us in the parking lot.”

You’ve actually seen that online.  You’ve seen that in porn and the woman looked like she was having the greatest time in the world.  She looked like she was absolutely having the time of her life and you thought to yourself, “It’s time that I can make my porn fantasies come to reality with this girl. She’s drunk enough; she ready; we’ve already been kissing a little bit.”

Women Don’t Watch Porn Like You Do

This is not going to happen. They don’t want to be banging on the hood of your Durango, nor do they want to do you in the parking lot after getting smashed at the bar.

Sure, maybe the drunken skanky woman, stumbling, falling down, coming on to every guy in the bar.  You might not be aware of this, but the one you’ve been talking to is actually investing time in you. She could be touching you ever so slowly, kissing you a little bit. She wants to be with you, but she wants it to be real.

She’s investing time and moments in you, she just doesn’t want to be thrown on the hood of a car with your dick inside her, and banged at 100 miles an hour for 2.3 minutes.  She actually probably wants to go home with you at that moment and have you go down on her and have you please her and have you figure out how to give her an orgasm.  She’s got other ideas.

She may just enjoy teasing you at that moment.  This may just be a moment of foreplay for her so that all of a sudden you can hang with her another night and have sex.

Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life

I live in Los Angeles.  I have friends who work in the adult film industry. Los Angeles is the capital of the  industry.  I’ve got friends that are cinematographers for adult movies.  Every single porn writer is a man who masturbates too much and thinks of fantasies.

Women will watch porn once in a while with you, enjoy it, and pick up new positions. But the bottom line is, most women don’t want to have sex like sex in the porn movie.

It doesn’t work that way guys. Porn is warping your perception of sex.  If you want to know what women really want when it comes down to sex, read a little bit.

Porn is going to ruin your sex life, guys.  This is the reason you don’t have repeat encounters.  That’s the reason why so many of you are one-and-done with them.

Filed Under: Porn & Adult Movies Tagged With: adult movies, foreplay, porn, sex tips

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