Sex Tips & Advice

Sex Acts That Will Scare Her Away – For Good

Sex with your girl can be super fun – or it can be super scary for her if you aren’t careful to keep things from going too far. It may seem like common sense to stay away from anal sex or rape fantasies the first several times you have sex with a girl, but you’d be surprised at what guys will try without thinking about how a girl will react to it. While some chicks dig a little BDSM in the bedroom, there are a few things that you’ll want to avoid if you don’t want to scare her away for good.

Scary Looking Sex Toys

Some sex toys are fine to use with a woman you haven’t been with for very long, such as slender or bullet style vibrators, lubes and feather ticklers. These are fairly benign and probably won’t freak a girl out or offend her, even if she’s never used sex toys before. What a girl doesn’t want to see in your bedroom are huge dildos, anal beads or whips. Large contraptions that look like they could service several people at once will definitely scare your girl off. Until you really get to know her and talk to her about what sex toys she likes, keep the scary stuff in the drawer of your nightstand.

Forced Sex

It’s true – some girls have rape fantasies. Granted, they are few and far between but there are women out there who enjoy the idea of forced sex. However, these women are generally only comfortable having fun with their fantasies with someone they know well, trust a lot and have been with for a long time. Don’t assume that any girl will enjoy forced sex, because it’s much more likely that she won’t – and she may assume that you’re really trying to date rape her. At best, your partner is going to be scared away – and at worst, you may face rape charges.

Dirty Talk That Goes Too Far

Most girls like to know that they’re pleasing the guy they’re with. That means, don’t be shy on the sexy moans, noises and gasps that let her know you’re really into what she’s doing. Even a little dirty talk can be acceptable for many women, if you’re telling her what a good job she’s doing sending you over the edge to orgasm. What is not okay when it comes to dirty talk is when you call her names (such as “bitch” or “slut”) or when you talk about doing really strange or scary things (such as wanting to pretend she’s your sister or that she’s an animal).

Anal Sex – If She’s Not Expecting It

While a lot of girls are into anal sex and anal play, it’s definitely a line you don’t want to cross until you talk to the girl you’re with about how she feels about anal sex. Some guys think that it’s hotter if they surprise a girl with a finger up her bum, but in truth, it will probably just freak her out and may make her want to stop having sex with you all together. If you really want to try anal sex with a girl, wait until you’ve done it with her several times and talk to her about it beforehand.

Hitting Or Choking Her

It is almost never acceptable to hit or choke a woman during sex. Light slapping is sometimes okay if you get permission first, but actual hitting is something just about every girl is going to find absolutely detestable. The same goes for choking – erotic asphyxiation is dangerous and will definitely scare your woman and possibly hurt her if she’s not expecting it. Hitting and choking are just two things that need to be kept off limits for you and your partner’s safety.

Fetish Play That You Haven’t Talked About First

While pretty much everyone has a fetish of some kind or another, some people find other fetishes (ones beside their own) very strange and weird. Don’t break out your fetish supplies until you’ve discussed them with your partner, and definitely don’t spring them on her without asking her permission first. Avoid dirty talk about your fetish, and keep it under wraps until you’ve been with her several times and have gotten to know her well. For her to want to try a fetish with you, she’ll need to trust you and feel very comfortable around you sexually. It usually takes a while for girls to warm up to guys this way, so cool your heels on introducing her to your fetish for awhile.

Want A Better Sex Life? You Don’t Have to Break Up To Get It

By loveandsex

Sex is an essential component in every intimate partnership and without it, the partnership can suffer. Whether you’re just having a dry spell, or you’ve recently discovered that you and your new love interest aren’t physically compatible, it’s no fun when the sex is bad.

What if everything else is going great, though? Should you end things in the pursuit of better sex? Should you suffer through the subpar sex as long as everything else is peachy? Believe it or not, if you’re willing to put in some effort on your own part, you may find you’ll have to do neither.

Does Bad Sex Equal A Break Up?

If the sex is bad and you’re not that compatible elsewhere, then breaking up makes perfect sense. If everything else in your relationship is good, though, you can’t let a bad sex life ruin things for you. Discussing the state of your sex life can be uncomfortable, but you owe it to yourself and your partner to talk openly about it.

If you’re not having sex at all, you should just flat out address it with your S.O. Depression and stress can significantly lower people’s libido, so your partner may just be preoccupied. Don’t take that as an affront, but work with your mate to get back into the habit of having more sex. Tell them that you miss having sex because you really enjoy it, and see if you can’t start having sex a little more often.

Don’t be pushy, and allow them to ease back in. The funny thing about having more sex is that the more you have it, the more you want it. Over the course of a few weeks, you could find you’ve both gotten back into the swing of things.

Give Your Partner Pointers

What if you are having sex, and it’s just terrible? How do you create a better sex life? You don’t have to be as straightforward about this at first. The next time you’re doing the deed, playfully suggest that you try something new, like oral sex or anal sex.

Our partners, whether male or female, typically do want to satisfy us. They’re never more open to receiving a few gentle pointers than when you’re both in the heat of the moment. Be careful not to be critical of what they’re doing wrong.

Just steer them away from whatever they’re bad at by giving them new ideas. If subtle hints don’t work, then you will need to sit down and have a serious discussion about it. You may even want to seek out a therapist together. At the very least, you might want to research better sex tips online and in books. Discuss your findings together, and try to be open minded. Don’t be surprised if your mate offers up some criticism of their own.

They may become defensive and get upset when they find out that you’re not having the good time they thought you were. On the other hand, they may be relieved and admit that things haven’t been going well for them, either. Most importantly, you need to make sure that they understand that the reason you want to improve your sex life is because you love them and want to make sex better between the two of you.

Communication Is The Most Important Tool You Have

When it comes to having better and more sex, communication is the key. If you can handle things diplomatically, you’ll probably get the results you want. Keep the mood light and word things as kindly as possible. If there’s anything that your partner does that you do enjoy, such as oral sex, point it out.

Compliment them where you can, and the more negative remarks won’t seem as hurtful. Try to put yourself in their shoes and tell them in the way you’d want to be told. Be tactful, and remind them of how much you love them. If you both really care about each other, you’ll find a way to make it work.

The Best Sex Advice In The World!

By lloydlester

Amazing sex is one of the best gifts a woman can get.

In this article I am going to let you in on what is possibly the best sex advice in the world. It is without a doubt the single most powerful way to drive any woman completely wild in bed.

But first, why would you want to be amazing in bed? Is it to flame your own ego? Is it to impress your partner with the most incredible romp she’s ever had? Or are you concerned about your lover straying away if you don’t perform to par in bed? It’s none of these.

The ability to give the woman you love the best sex of her life will make you feel just incredible. It will bond the both of you in a very deep and profound manner.

The most effective sex tip in the world will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy you might be mentally unprepared for. There is a certain level of responsibility that comes along with it.

Are you ready for this one little secret that will totally change your sex life? Here it is…

Make It All About Her

Pay attention to HER.

This technique is incredibly powerful, because:

Every Woman Is Different. What works on one woman may utterly fail on another. Some women may prefer clitoris stimulation while others may prefer penetrative sex. One may like things fast and furious while another is into slow and anticipatory lovemaking. One may love lots of foreplay, yet another may want to make love right out of the bolt. There is no universal lovemaking technique that works for all women. That is why paying attention to what your woman wants in bed is critically important.
You Convey Sexual Confidence. A sexually confident man is a huge turn-on for any woman. Women simply adore men who know what exactly they want in bed and who feel assured about their own sexuality. And paying attention to your woman conveys exactly that image of you! When she feels complete involvement from you during sex, she can feel the total sexual confidence in you. And for you, because you are so focused on your partner, you will naturally forget about all your own insecurities and inadequacies in bed!
It Builds An Emotional Bond And Intimacy. The reason is simple. A woman’s ultimate sex organ is not in the genitals (sorry, guys!). Your partner’s head and beating heart are. You see, when a woman is completely connected and comfortable with you, she will allow herself to totally surrender to you. All the inhibitions will melt away. Know what this means? When she achieves an orgasm with you, it will be far more powerful and intense than anything she has ever experienced. It will create a very powerful emotional bond that will endear your partner to you, and only you!

This is the stuff that women’s sexual fantasies are made of. This is the stuff that the best sex tip is made of. You will create an amazing bond, trust, intimacy and delirious sexual pleasure. Use it well, and use it responsibly!

Sex Tips For Your First Time Having Sex

By loveandsex

Sex for the first time is a nerve wracking experience. You’re afraid of getting everything wrong or not being able to give your partner an orgasm. You’re worried about your inexperience, what to do and when to do it. It can be hard to relax and go with the flow when you’re having sex for the first time, but here are some excellent suggestions to help you make it fun and memorable.

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Inexperience Is Okay

Doing it for the first time means that you’re inexperienced – and that’s okay. You don’t have to know everything there is to know on how to please the opposite gender before you ever have sex, and no one expects you to. You’re going to fumble around a little bit and be a little unsure of exactly what you’re doing. This is perfectly normal! The most important thing is to laugh it off and move on.

What makes someone great in bed and able to give their partner an orgasm again and again is time, practice and trial and error. No guy or girl ever got it completely right the first time, but learn from your mistakes and let them help you get better at making love. Repeating the same mistakes over and over isn’t a good thing – but making a mistake and learning from it and using it to help make you a better lover is!

Relax and remember to have fun. Your first time may be awkward, but it’s your first time and that’s okay. You’re never going to have another chance at doing it for the first time, so enjoy it for what it is. Enjoy the discovery process!

Get A Sex Buddy

Your first time is meant to be special, and saving it for that special someone is a great way to make sure that it’s memorable and fun. However, as the second, third and fourth times roll around, you may want to consider finding yourself a “sex buddy,” or a friend that you can be intimate with so you can learn the ropes. Make sure you choose a friend that you’re completely comfortable with!

The benefits of having a “sex buddy” is that you can practice things like oral sex or giving a blowjob without having to worry about someone judging your skills in the sack or embarrassing yourself in front of someone you want to have a relationship with (or at least want to have really hot relations with). Having a friend like this will allow you to practice and practice some more until you really get the hang of things. That way, when you meet someone super special, you’ll have had at least a little experience in that department and you can be more confident in the bedroom.

Safe Sex

Of course, with any partner, safe sex is of the utmost importance. Using a condom will not only help protect against unwanted pregnancy, it will also help protect against most sexually transmitted diseases. You may think that getting busy for the first time (especially if you and your partner are both virgins) means that you don’t have to worry about protection, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Unless you and your partner have had a clear STD test and haven’t had any new partners since the test (and are monogamous with each other), a condom is necessary to protect yourself and your partner. It’s also a great way to keep from getting pregnant without the side effects of some birth controls. Remember that safe sex is always in style!

Being Emotionally Mature Enough For Sex

Before hopping in the sack for the first time, make sure that you’re emotionally and physically mature enough to do it. Rushing into it because you think you’re ready or because someone is pressuring you to do it are the wrong reasons for losing your virginity. Make sure you’re with someone you’re comfortable with and not someone who you will regret your first time being with later. Don’t be afraid to take it slow and really make sure it’s something you’re ready for before you actually do it.

Remember that you can’t re-do losing your virginity and if you rush through it just to get it over with, you may end up regretting it. If you’re not ready, that’s okay too! Never let anyone tell you when you’re ready or when you’re not, because only you can make that decision for yourself. If you want to wait, that’s okay and if you’re ready, that’s okay too!

Should You Jump On The Brazilian Wax Bandwagon?

By dicksinthecity

Sex is often referred to as “bumping uglies.” A brazilian wax is a daring way to remove pubic hair, but is everyone bald these days? I prefer to keep some “hair down there” – carefully groomed, of course. However, I’ve been getting a shocked reaction from guys when they learn I haven’t “visited Brazil.” I don’t want to be shamed into waxing everything off – it’s not my sex style!

What She Said

I haven’t taken a poll, but it’s safe to say you’re not alone in preferring to hang onto your body’s natural inclination to grow hair for your pubic region. It’s funny but true – we are all susceptible to trends, even when it comes to pubic hair. There’s nothing wrong with going against the tide, especially if it’s truly your preference for sex and personal comfort!

Stick To Your (Pubic Hair) Guns

I’m not sure where you’re hanging out that the shaping of pubic hair is a topic of discussion. No judgment, I’m just curious! That said; don’t let anyone shame you into anything – regardless of what that thing may be. A guy who is ready for sex and into you will most likely appreciate what you’ve chosen to do with your vagina. If not, show him the door and wait for someone who appreciates you exactly as you are!

What He Said

No one likes hairballs, so if you like having your man perform oral sex on you, some sort of trimming is in order. I disagree with my counterpart. I don’t think anyone likes a girl with 70’s bush. It shouldn’t look like you’re rocking the Jew-Fro down there. It shouldn’t be an untamed wilderness. If your next door neighbor didn’t mow their lawn regularly, would you let it slide? Not so much. Landscaping is in order.

Alternatives To Going Completely Bald

I personally advocate a full Brazilian, but if you’re not okay with that, there’s nothing wrong with rocking a landing strip or some unique design (I’ve seen hearts, stars, and an arrow pointing to the ‘promised land’ or ‘mecca’ as I like to call it).

If you’re all about penetration (anal sex or vaginal), and not about receiving oral sex, then it’s a non issue, but if he’s going to go down there, he should have a certain degree of say because everyone does a better job if you enjoy the view.

Try Dating Guys Who Enjoy A Nice Bush

But there’s a larger issue here. Why are we even talking about this? Are you insecure about your baby maker? If you’ve been dating guys who are into the Brazilian landscape, it might be time to change your approach. Most guys I know don’t like the idea of a woman having hair ANYWHERE except on her head. A quick internet search, however, will let you know there are a plethora of men out there who are into dating women who have hair ‘down there’ and it might be worth your while to see if there’s a dating site out there who can put you in touch with these guys.

Then again, you might want to show your vajajay to some female or gay friends to get feedback. Maybe there’s a way to trim the hedge to make both you and your man happy with it during sex.