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Sex Secrets For Men – Unlock The Secrets To Giving Her Wild, Pulsating Sex (97% Of Men Are Clueless)

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What are the sex secrets for men? Look, if you are reading this article with the hopes of learning about the best sex position, the best way to give her G-spot orgasms or great oral sex tips to seduce your girl, then I would advise you not to read further. Why? Well, if you are looking for ways to improve your sex life, these things will not help you a bit.

When it comes to having great sex, there is no sneaky trick you can pull out of your bag. It is all about the fundamentals, the basics of sex, mindsets, so to speak. If you get this right, believe me, your enjoyment in sex will increase multiple folds.

The Paradox Of Man’s Greatest Strength

Most men are focused on results. We are by nature very action-oriented. Results are what we care about; the end goal, so to speak. We set targets in the boardroom and get things done. Sadly the same mentality carries over to the bedroom:

(a) undressing yourself and her

(b) begin intercourse

(c) reach an orgasm (you NOT her)

(d) end of sex

So where does this perpetual male strategy leave a woman? Empty, unfulfilled, disappointed. You see, for women, sex is not so much about the end goal per se. They really care more about the journey; how you arrive at the end goal. Women love to savor the sexual experience moment-by-moment, from foreplay all the way to intercourse.

Getting The Foundations Right

You see, sex would be a monotonous and lackluster affair if you use sex techniques without a proper understanding of how and why they work on women. Think about this: What makes a great lover in bed, a Don Juan who can seduce and bring any woman to the elusive heights of sexual ecstasy? It is not the repertoire of techniques he has learned, but the way he USES them.

Many men make the terrible mistake and assume that women are aroused the same way as they are. Men are visually stimulated; women are not. Men can reach a climax within 2 minutes; women need at least a good 15 minutes on average to reach orgasm. Women need good old-fashioned love, affection and attention to detail.

Read that again. This means the way you touch her, the way you seduce her verbally, the mood you bring into the lovemaking, all play vital roles in your sex life.

Do You Know Her Emotional Underpinnings?

For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, emotions carry huge weight. This means you should never grope her right away. You need to value how she feels and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level. It is all well worth your time, because when you give her an amazing time in bed (and mind-tingling orgasms to boot!), you will be rewarded with much more from her!

So make her feel wanted and appreciated. This means when you kiss her, look into her eyes and run you fingers down the back of her spine. Spend quality time on slow, tantalizing foreplay and you will build up her sexual anticipation in a hurry. When you penetrate her, acknowledge her presence and ask if that feels great for her. Above all, be a man and focus on her needs exclusively FIRST. You will emerge a far better lover, one that she will be proud to brag to her friends the next morning!

Q&A: The Best Condoms of 2010

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Condom shopping isn’t exactly easy. With literally hundreds of different styles, sizes and materials available, it can be really hard, so to speak, to find the right one for you and your partner. While we have our personal favorites, we went to the pros at Condom Depot for the answer to this question. So here are the world’s best condoms for 2010!

Question: What are the best condoms and the best flavors?

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The Truth About Flavored Condoms

Flavored condoms, such as strawberry, mint or chocolate, are made to both taste and smell good. However, anyone who has ever used flavored condoms for oral sex will notice that these condoms taste a little bit like flavored plastic – because they are! Flavored condoms aren’t ever going to taste so great that you will want to eat them up, but they do make giving a blowjob a little nicer. Perhaps the best part about using a flavored condom is that they smell absolutely divine! If you’ve never tried a flavored condom before, don’t expect great things when you put it in your mouth. You and your partner will, however, really enjoy the different scents! Buy a sampler pack of different flavors so you can find the ones you and your partner like the best.

Crown Skinless Skin Condoms

Crown Skinless Skin Condoms, manufactured in Japan, is the clear winner of Condom Depot’s 9th Annual Condom Awards. In fact, this particular condom has won first place all nine years in a row! This condom is favored by the adult film industry and is tinted a slight pink that makes it look like you have nothing on. The best part? They’re so thin, you don’t even feel like you have anything on! This condom clocks in at a mere 0.00185″ and is officially the thinnest condom available. Plus, no latex smell!

Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms

Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms have ranked second place in the Condom Depot awards, however, it actually ranked first place five years in a row in the Consumer Report. This is Durex’s thinnest condom, and is made to help both partners feel more sensations during sex than any other condom made by Durex. The official thickness of Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms are 0.019.” Even though this condom takes second place in the awards, it is actually about 10 times thicker than Crown Skinless Skin Condoms!

Beyond Seven Condoms

Made by the same company that manufactures Crown Skinless Skin Condoms, Beyond Seven Condoms rank third place in the 9th Annual Condom Awards by Condom Depot. This condom is made from a special latex material called “Sheerlon” and are made thinner and stronger than most condoms. They’re the same thickness as Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms, but they’re a tad narrower at the top to fit the penis like a glove.

LifeStyles SKYN Condoms

For those with latex allergies, it’s time to chuck your non-stretchy and irritating polyurethane condoms. LifeStyles SKYN Condoms are made from a revolutionary new material called “polyisoprene” and is thin and can stretch to accommodate different penis sizes just like latex. It is thinner than polyurethane condoms and transfers heat unlike latex. This condom has been FDA approved to help prevent pregnancy and the transmission of STD’s so if you’re allergic to latex but still want great feeling protection, try LifeStyles SKYN Condoms.

Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms

Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms are ribbed for her pleasure, so sex ends up feeling great for both him and her. A two time Condom Depot Annual Condom Award winner, this condom is very popular among fans of textured condoms. This condom, however, is considered “average” in size, but will stretch to accommodate a variety of penis sizes. Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms also offer a low latex odor for people who just don’t like that “condom” smell.

These are only the top five best condoms in the world – the list goes on! Visit Condom Depot to learn more about the best condoms of 2010 as determined by the 9th Annual Condom Depot Annual Condom Awards. You’ll find many more condoms on the “best of 2010 list,” including condoms for larger sized men. Condom Depot is actually an excellent website for finding the best condoms to use, because you can search for condoms several different ways, including by condom manufacturer, style or size. Each condom on the website includes a picture of the actual condom, size specifications (including how thick it is) and actual consumer reviews for each condom.

Sex During Pregnancy – Is It Safe?

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Sex during pregnancy is a touchy topic. Pregnant women may be afraid that rough sex will hurt the baby, while men may be just plain weirded out by the idea of sharing his sacred space with another being. So will sex during pregnancy hurt an unborn child, or do you have the green light to make like rabbits until the baby’s born?

Body Changes During Pregnancy

A woman’s body goes through huge changes while she is pregnant and everything feels different. Her breasts may hurt, her vagina may feel swollen or she may feel too tired to have sex at all. On the other hand, she may be rearing and ready to go! She may be more aroused than you’ve ever seen her before and it will be all you can do to keep her from tackling you when you walk in the door. A woman’s vagina will increase the amounts of lubrication it produces during pregnancy, and may make sex feel better for both you and her than before she got pregnant. Some women who have never had orgasms before or have struggled having multiple orgasms report that they were able to while they were pregnant simply because of the increased blood flow to the vaginal area. So sex can be great during pregnancy, but is it safe for the baby?

Don’t Worry About The Baby

During the first trimester, the baby is small enough that pretty much no amount of thrusting is going to harm it or dislodge it from its comfy surroundings. The second and third trimesters are a different story, but not because the baby is in any real danger. The bigger a woman’s belly gets during pregnancy, the harder it can be to find sex positions that are comfortable and pleasurable for both you and your partner. As far as physically hurting the baby goes, it’s pretty much impossible in a healthy pregnancy. The amniotic sac and uterine muscles protect the baby regardless of which stage of pregnancy she’s in. The baby will definitely feel movement and may even enjoy it (say, being rocked to sleep) but you’re not going to poke its eye out with your penis.

When NOT To Have Sex During A Pregnancy

That said, there are some instances in which you should avoid having sex while you’re pregnant. First off, if your doctor says no sex, it really means NO SEX! Your doctor has his or her reasons for putting a stop to sex during your pregnancy and they’re to keep your baby safe. Usually, this happens if there’s something going on in the pregnancy that isn’t normal. For example, if you have a history of premature babies or going into labor early, you may want to avoid rough sex or sex at all. If your water has already broken or you are experiencing bleeding, definitely don’t have sex and see your doctor right away. If you’re concerned that it might not be safe for you to have sex with your partner during pregnancy, ask your doctor. He or she can either put your fears about sex during pregnancy to rest or let you know that you really do have something to be concerned about.

Sex Positions To Use When You’ve Got A Big Belly

Sex during the second and third trimesters is tricky, because your growing belly can definitely get in the way. Finding sex positions that are better for pregnancy isn’t hard, but it can require some experimentation. Doggy style is a favorite of many pregnant couples, but can be painful if he thrusts too hard. You can also try woman on top or spooning, which keeps your belly out of the way but still allows you to experience pleasure from sex.

How To Become More Sexually Confident

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Everyone has insecurities, worries and apprehensions about sex. The first step to reducing your insecurities is realizing that you’re absolutely normal, you’re not alone and no one is 100% smooth and confident when it comes to sex. But does that mean you have to bumble your way around the bedroom? Of course not! You can start reducing your sexual insecurities now and stop being a sexual dud – it’s time to learn how to become a master of sexual pleasure and become confident about your skills in the sack!

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Accepting Your Insecurities

Everyone has insecurities about sex, even if they seem confident. People might be worried about the way they look naked or how they compare to their partner’s other lovers. They might be unsure that they will last long in bed or that their sexual skills will be up to snuff. Insecurities and worries plague everyone, so if you’re not totally and completely confident when it comes to sex, you’re certainly not alone. This goes for men and women who have had multiple sex partners or have never had sex before at all. Start accepting your sexual insecurities as being a perfectly natural part of being human. Once you do, you’ll start move past them. If you stay focused on your worries, you’ll never be able to be sexually confident!

Learn Sexual Skills

Sexual skills don’t come naturally to everyone – if anyone! How to please someone sexually is something that must be learned rather than something that just happens. If you haven’t taken the time to research and learn different ways to please someone in bed, it’s time to start! Whether you’ve never had sex before or have had multiple sex partners, there are always things you can learn about oral sex, anal sex, sex positions and how to blow your partner’s mind. There are tons of great resources on how to give a woman an orgasm, find the g-spot or send a man through the roof by giving him an amazing blowjob. As you learn more and more ways to pleasure your partner, you’ll become increasingly more confident in your ability to give someone an orgasm. The more skills you master, the more confident you’ll be in the bedroom!

Practice Makes Perfect

Sure, reading a book on how to give a blowjob or how to go down on her is great, but you’re never going to get really good at it unless you’re able to put the techniques you’re learning into practice. If you want to get good at anything – whether it’s baseball or sex – you have to practice what you learn regularly. If you’re expecting to become absolutely great at sex overnight, it’s not going to happen – it takes time. Of course, sex practice is a lot more fun than sports practice! To become a real sex master, have sex as much as you can and put your skills to the test again and again. Your partner will really enjoy having sex more often, as well as being the subject of your practice! Both you and your partner will notice your improvement the more that you have sex, and you and your partner can even have fun learning how to pleasure each other together!

Increase Your Sex Drive – Viagra Alternatives For Women

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You may or may not know this, but for women, sex is 50% physical and 50% mental. If we don’t feel balanced and healthy in both of those areas — the desire for sex just falls to the wayside. If we’re tired, stressed, or overwhelmed, we know that having sex will help us feel better, but often times, we just can’t get past the other “stuff” to want it much less enjoy it. This is where natural herbal supplements can help. They can help balance our hormones levels so that we feel more balanced, energized, and sexy. Here’s how women can increase their sex drive naturally – without harmful side effects.

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Sex For Women Starts On The Inside

It’s easy for day to day stresses to really take a toll on a woman’s psyche. After a long day at work, she’s probably not going to feel very sexy. Of course not! She’s tired – well, exhausted really – and her mind is going over a thousand things at once. She may be rushed and not eating balanced meals, which is going to make her body feel even more tired and worn down, and she may not have had time to get her hair and nails done or even get her eyebrows waxed. The point is, women can often feel very run down because of simple daily stresses and when this happens, they don’t feel very sexy at all. For a woman to feel really sexy, her body needs to be in balance. She needs to get the vitamins and nutrients she needs, as well as enough rest and enough time for personal hygiene.

How Natural Supplements Can Help

Natural supplements for female libido can actually make a huge difference in a woman’s life. Natural supplements don’t have the same side effects as pharmaceutical libido enhancers (such as Viagra or Levitra), and often include lots of things that woman needs in her body on a daily basis anyways. Many natural libido supplements contain vitamins and minerals that will help a woman’s body function properly, as well as containing all natural herbal ingredients that will help balance hormone levels and make a woman feel, well, like a woman again.

Feeling Better, Naturally

If a woman’s body is balanced, she is better equipped to handle the daily stresses that would normally get her down. She’ll feel less tired after work (even though nothing has changed at the office) and she’ll feel better about herself in general. She’ll naturally feel more sexy and womanly, which translates directly into more sex for both her and her partner. Instead of focusing on treating the symptoms of a decreased sex drive like pharmaceutical remedies do, herbal libido enhancers to increase sex drive focuses on the real root of the problem.

When a woman’s body and emotions are out of whack, everything is out of whack and there’s really no way that she can fully let herself go to have great sex. Herbal supplements for female libido might not only increase her sex drive naturally, but also help her to feel better about herself all around because her body is more balanced and it’s working properly. Her mind, emotions and sexual needs are all on the same level and she will feel better in almost all respects, including but of course not limited to – sex!