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Dirty Talk Basics – What You Need To Know!

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Dirty talk is an exceptional way to bring the heat back into the bedroom. Just don’t get started without reading these essentials first!

What Is Dirty Talk?

The purpose behind dirty talk is to show you a new way of communicating with your spouse.

Some call it pillow talk, sexy talk, erotic talk or bedroom’s mother tongue, but regardless of what dirty talk is referred to, it is simply honest and open communication with your partner while enjoying sex with one another. It is something that both men and women can use to bring more excitement and pleasure to their sex life.

Open lines of communication are expected for successful marriages when it comes to finances, children and other areas, yet communication in the bedroom still often remains an “off limits” area to many couples.

Why is it that a wife can tell her husband every single detail about an incident involving one of their children or a story involving one of her best friends, but when it comes down to talking with each other, one on one, about what they feel and yearn for in the bedroom they clam up?

Why Use Dirty Talk?

The most important thing to remember is that YOU control the amount of excitement, eroticism and passion that occurs in your bedroom (or elsewhere, for that matter). By using this form of expression together, you can choose to NOT settle for the ordinary!! After all, do you want to have an “off the charts” exciting sex life, or an all too common, sleepwalk through the motions, predictable routine?

Consider dirty talk as a new “spice” in a recipe you have been preparing for years. Maybe you have made the same homemade salsa for decades but you have recently heard about a new way of making it, so you decided to add in some black beans and fresh cilantro just to see if it would really give It a ‘kick’. The results? NOTHING SHORT OF FANTASTIC! You’re not sure why you never thought of adding something to the recipe before. Same basic ingredients (you, your mate and some incredible sex) – but adding in a brand new spice and voila!

Dirty Talk Isn’t Dirty

The main purpose of dirty talk, or as I prefer to refer to it: a ‘very sexy verbal exchange’ between you and your spouse, is to enhance the level of excitement and to help build the intensity between you and your mate.

It is simply an erotic use of the English language (or any language you use) and is an easy way to take your love making to an even more intimate level.

Some women will need to be persuaded that it’s okay and SAFE to have a vocabulary they maybe have deemed ‘trashy’ or felt like mimicked the ‘mouth of a sailor’ when they, in public, are sweet and demure. For most men, there isn’t much sexier, than that lovely, prim and proper, soccer mom wife of his, who chairs the PTA and sings in the choir, but is still his – all his – and VERY vocal about how he makes her feel when it’s just the two of them.

Dirty Talk Done Right

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Dirty talk can spice up your sex life, but it’s hard to know what to say and when to say it. If you say the wrong thing, it’s easy to turn a woman off or offend her. Sometimes you can rectify a mistake like that and sometimes you can’t. It’s much better to avoid the blunder in the first place. Here’s how to do dirty talk – the RIGHT way!

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Girls Love Dirty Talk

Believe it or not, almost all women love dirty talk. They may blush or shy away, but in all honesty, they really do like it! Some women may prefer a more romantic style, while others want to hear hardcore details and expletives. Regardless of what style a particular girl prefers, almost all women love hearing something while doing the dirty.

The right language in the bedroom will help a woman to open up mentally and emotionally, which is necessary for her to become really turned on and reach orgasm. So learning the right things to say to a woman while you’re getting it on is going to benefit both you and her!

How To Tell What She’ll Like And What She Won’t Like

Not every girl is going to like the same thing when it comes to dirty talk. In fact, some phrases that will turn a woman on without you even touching her may be something that another girl is completely offended by. Don’t assume that the dirty talk phrases that worked for one woman is going to work just as well for another.

Get To Know Her

This is one of the biggest benefits to a long term relationship or marriage. When you really get to know a girl, you start to understand the way her mind works. You’ll begin to understand what she does and doesn’t like in the bedroom and why. This will help you to find the right things to say when using dirty talk during sex.

How Does She Normally Talk?

Pay attention to how she speaks. Does she use a lot of expletives or does she talk more demurely? Does she speak differently to you than other people? Does she show you a side of her that is different than what she shows her parents or co-workers? Take your cues directly from her. If you’ve never heard her say a swear word, she’s probably going to be pretty offended if you drop the F-bomb in the sack. However, if she likes to get a little wild with her language sometimes, she’s not going to enjoy you talking about what you’re going to do to her “vagina.”

How To Get Started

Experiment with different words in the bedroom (or wherever else you like to have sex) and gauge her reaction to them. If you’ve already gotten to know her and have taken your cues from the language she usually uses, you’re probably not going to strike out here. Still, you want to gauge her reaction to see if what you’re saying to her is actually turning her on, or if it’s turning her off.

A great way to get started is to tell her what you want her to do to you. Lead by example first, and describe to her what you’d like her to do – either with soft or explicit language, whichever you feel she will respond best to. Then later, you can try flipping the tables to see if she will do the same for you. After you lead her into it, she may get incredibly turned on and start talking dirty too!

Does She Like To Talk Or Listen?

While most women do enjoy dirty talk, not everyone is going to enjoy both talking and listening. She may just enjoy one or the other. Get to know her to determine what she likes better, or if she really does like both. This is part of feeling it out as you get started. You’ll notice her respond better either when she’s doing the dirty talking or when she’s listening to you describe in detail what you want her to do to you or what you’re going to do to her.

Take The Risk

Dirty talk is a lot of fun and if you pay attention to your girl and really read her, it’s unlikely you’re going to say the wrong thing. It’s definitely worth the risk – so take it! You’re never going to know how much you can turn your partner on with dirty talk until you actually take that first step and do it!

Dirty Talk Secrets Review

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Dirty Talk Secrets is a complete guide to learning how to talk dirty in the bedroom. Dirty talk is a great way to spice up your sex life! Unfortunately, many people are uncomfortable with dirty talk or aren’t sure how to get started. Dirty Talk Secrets is a comprehensive guide on how to get started with talking dirty in the bedroom and also has tips on how to take it to the next level once you’ve passed the beginning stages.

The Good

Michael Webb, author of Dirty Talk Secrets, gives us yet another amazing guide to add satisfaction and sexiness to sex lives that are lacking heat. Not only does Michael tell us why dirty talk can be incredibly exciting in the bedroom, he gives us specific examples of what kinds of things to say to get started. This book is great for both couples that are new to dirty talk or couples who already love talking dirty to each other in the bedroom and want to take it up a notch or two.

The Bad

The introduction is a bit long, and those who want to get straight to the “dirty talk” may be tempted to skip ahead. Don’t, however, because the introduction contains a few jewels of knowledge, especially for couples who consider dirty talk to be “sinful” or wrong. While the beginning of the book is definitely worth reading, you may want to go back and read it after you’ve sunk your teeth into a few dirty talk tips. Don’t jump into bed without reading the intro though! The section on trust and communication is a must read before employing any of Michael’s dirty talk secrets.

The Bottom Line

Dirty Talk Secrets is a complete guide to learning how to talk dirty in the bedroom, why dirty talk can enhance your sex life and how to watch out for the ways that dirty talk can actually hurt you or your partner. If you want to start learning how to talk dirty in the bedroom, Dirty Talk Secrets is most likely the only guide you’ll really need.

The Full Dirty Talk Secrets Review

Michael opens the book with information on why dirty talk can really enhance your sex life, but he also gives a word of warning as well. Dirty talk, when not used properly, can actually offend and hurt your partner. Dirty Talk Secrets encourages you to explore the realm of salacious words in the bedroom, but with open communication and trust between you and your partner. While all couples and even singles can get quite a bit out of this book, it is definitely intended for married couples or those who have been in a long term relationship with each other for some time.

Included in the book are a few “case studies” or stories about couples who have used dirty talk to their advantage and have taken their sex life from boring to fun almost immediately. While these stories may not be absolutely necessary in a “how to” guide like this, it certainly is interesting and even endearing to read about other couples that are very similar to the rest of us in their sexual needs, likes and dislikes.

Probably one of the most powerful things about Dirty Talk Secrets is that Michael not only tells you why talking dirty can be such a turn on for you and your partner, he also tells you WHAT to say and HOW to say it. Couples who are very shy and have a difficult time thinking up what to say in the bedroom by themselves will appreciate Michael’s efforts here. While you may not want to call your partner’s member a “mushroom of immortality” as suggested in the Asian/Poetic section, there are plenty of other excellent examples on what you can say to get started.

Of course, Dirty Talk Secrets wouldn’t be complete without a section on hardcore dirty talking and Michael certainly doesn’t disappoint here. You’ll learn tons of phrases so sexy, so dirty and so naughty that we can’t even put them in the review! Of course, these tips are definitely for more advanced dirty talkers, so start small if you’ve never done it before and work your way up.

Not only does Michael give lots of phrases that can be used in the bedroom, he lists hundreds of different words that you can mix and match to create your own dirty talk phrases. Some of the words you may not want to use (Man-Ranch Dressing, anyone?) however, the majority of these words will give you excellent ideas on what next to say to your partner in the bedroom. Also included is a list of sexy songs that you can play to get your partner in the mood!

Of course, what download wouldn’t be complete without bonus materials? Michael doesn’t let us down here either, and gives us three amazing bonus manuals that are almost as good as Dirty Talk Secrets itself!

53 Sexy Coupons

Enhance your sex life even further by giving your partner sexy coupons for anniversaries, birthdays or just because. Some of the coupons are very romantic, and others are so sexy they’ll blow your partner away. It’s the perfect complement to dirty talk in the bedroom. Also, once the coupons are gone, you’ll have introduced tons of new ideas into your sex life that you can try again and again.

101 Romantic Ideas

Being romantic with your partner both in and out of the bedroom is just as important as learning how to talk dirty and turn them on. Michael includes his amazing manual of romantic ideas, with fun yet inexpensive (or totally free) ways to let your partner know they’re special to you. Forget buying flowers or taking them out to dinner. 101 Romantic Ideas gives you new and better ideas to make your partner feel like they’re your number one – because they are!

How To Give Your Partner Great Massages

Everyone knows that a massage is a great prelude to sex, especially for a woman. Instead of giving your partner what you think is a great massage, use this book to actually learn how to give a great massage! Before you start talking dirty in the bedroom, give your partner a sexy, titillating massage to help them relax and open up to pleasure.

Sexting: How To Evolve From Dirty Texts To Pictures

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Sexting is a great turn on, but what do you do when you want MORE? Men enjoy visual stimulation as opposed to mental, which is why women love getting dirty texts but men want to actually see something sexy. Here’s how to get your partner interested in sending you something more visually engaging.

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Sexting Turns Her On – But What About Him?

Sexting is a great way to engage a woman and get her so turned on, she’s pouncing on you and ripping your clothes off as soon as you walk in the door. In fact, it’s one of the best foreplay techniques and you don’t even have to touch her to do it! Women respond very well to imaginative words, and when you send her naughty texts, you’re literally speaking her language. You’re bypassing her inhibitions and directly stimulating her mind – which is where arousal starts for a woman.

But where does it start for a guy?

Men are visual – meaning, words just don’t do that much for them. Sure, you’re going to love a text from your partner talking about how much they want to go down on you tonight, but is it going to make you crave her like a dirty text is going to make her crave you? Not exactly. But what if she sent you a picture of her breasts? Now THAT will turn you on! Problem is, what if she’s too shy to send you a picture or movie?

How do you get her to do it?

Slowly Introduce Your Partner To Sending Pictures/Videos

Just like with anything sexual that is new or that you and your lover have never tried before, it’s important to start slow and work your way up. You don’t want to approach your girl and ask her to send you a picture of her vagina if she’s never even sent you a dirty text before. So start with the basics!

Start by sending her flirty text messages. Tell her how pretty you think she looked before she left for work this morning, or let her know how much you can’t wait to see her when you get home. Once you’ve got her hooked to the surprise messages you’re sending to her, start sexting. Make your texts a little more naughtier each time. For example, tell her that you thought she looked great this morning and when she says “Thank you,” lead into telling her what she was wearing made you wish she wasn’t wearing it!

Don’t expect to get her texting you pictures and videos of her in just one day, especially if you and your partner have never sexted before. It’s going to take time to get her involved, and you want to make sure she enjoys it every step of the way. Make her feel cherished, sexy and beautiful first (both on the phone and in person) before you ever try to bring up her sending you pictures.

Once she’s responding well to your sexting, you can start thinking about taking it to the next level.

How To Get Your Lover To Send Naughty Pictures

A great way to introduce her to the idea of sending naughty pictures back and forth is to first send her a sensual picture of you! No, not a penis shot, because that will probably just offend her. You’re looking for a sensual picture. Something that gets your partner’s imagination working without showing too much. A woman isn’t going to be turned on by a picture of your cock erect and stark naked. Girls respond much better to sexual innuendo instead of porn. Instead, send her something like this:

  • A picture of your erection inside your jeans
  • A shot of your happy trail with your fly unzipped
  • A photo of your chest all wet and soapy in the shower

You get the idea. Send her something that intrigues her without showing her too much and possibly offending her. The great thing about sending her a sensual picture of yourself is that she will most likely respond with something sensual for you!

Introducing Your Partner To Sending Videos

Once you’re successfully sending sexy photos of yourselves back and forth, you may be chomping at the bit to see even more. You want to see your lover in action, but how do you get her to graduate from sending stills to sending something that you can actually masturbate to?

Start by letting her know how much her photos turn you on. Give her lots of encouragement and let her know that she looks beautiful and extremely sexy in every photo that she’s sent you. Tell her that you would love to see some of that in action!

You can also entice her with the idea of making a homemade porn for you by telling her how much it would turn you on to masturbate to HER instead of to some other random woman. Let her know that you care about her and she’s the one that turns you on the most – this may very well be all you need to convince her to make you a movie. She’ll love the idea that you’d rather be watching her than someone else.

You can start by making a movie of you both having fun together. If you’re both on film, she may not be as apprehensive about it. Make sure the lighting is flattering and tell her that she doesn’t have to get naked if she doesn’t want to. Sexy lingerie can be just as titillating as full nudity and sometimes even more so!

Giving Your Lover Positive Reinforcement

Make sure that you’re giving your partner encouragement and positive reinforcement when she does send you photos or makes a movie with you or for you. If she’s not getting any positive feedback, she’s not going to get into it and she’s certainly not going to keep doing it. Don’t be afraid to tell her just how much seeing her in photos or movies gets you hot!

Make sure that when you do have sex with your partner that you take the time to give her at least one good orgasm, if not more. If she’s sending you the photos and movies that you want to see, make sure that she’s getting what she wants as well.

The Dirty Talk Handbook Review

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The Dirty Talk Handbook is a complete guide on how to talk sexy to a man and have him begging for more in just minutes. It’s written by a man, so there’s no question about what phrases REALLY turn a man on – and which ones don’t. This book is easy to read and starts with the basics, so it’s a perfect guide for ladies who have never experimented with dirty talk before.

The Good

Unlike many dirty talk guides, The Dirty Talk Handbook offers a number of pages with actual, real life examples of dirty talk that any woman can use on her man. That’s not the best part though – each phrase is written three ways. Pick the phrase that you want to use depending on your mood, whether you’re feeling sweet and sexy or down and dirty.

The Bad

Advanced users may find the introduction to The Dirty Talk Handbook a little long winded, simply because this guide really is geared towards girls who are just getting their feet wet with talking naughty to their partners. Some of the phrases on the example pages might work well for experienced women, but that’s about it. Also, there is SOME hardcore talk (depending on your views of hardcore) but most of it is mild to medium in spice.

The Bottom Line

The The Dirty Talk Handbook is an excellent beginner’s guide for ladies who want to understand more about dirty talk, why it turns men on and how to do it the right way. Well worth the money not only for the expert tips and unique dirty talk examples, but also for all the bonus material you get when you download the product!

The Full Dirty Talk Handbook Review

The Dirty Talk Handbook is a beginner’s guide for ladies who want to explore talking dirty in the bedroom and driving their men absolutely wild! Men love sex – they love to see it, feel it and hear it. They love to have every single one of their senses involved in the act of having sex! It’s easy for a man to see and feel sex, but he’s not going to hear it unless you start making some noise. Dirty talk is a way of engaging their sense of hearing into sex, as well as involving their imagination by describing things that turn them on!

While it sounds simple, a lot of girls struggle with the concept of how to dirty talk without feeling self-conscious. This guide eases girls into the idea of talking dirty to their partners, slowly introducing them to the concept by discussing why men love it and how you can use it to improve your sex life.

There are seven simple secrets to delicious dirty talk according to The Dirty Talk Handbook, and the author wastes no time in delving into these tips so you can get started working on your game right away. Newbies will appreciate the in depth discussion on the overall concept of talking dirty, however, girls who have tried it before may be too excited to stay there and will probably skip ahead to the juicy stuff.

That doesn’t mean that this book isn’t good for advanced dirty talkers though – because there are a lot of really good tidbits inside that can help any woman improve the skills she already has. For example, ladies will learn to control their tone of voice, their facial expressions and their body language to make it even more powerful.

One of the biggest problems that girls have with talking naughty in the bedroom is knowing beforehand what their guy wants to hear. What if they say something wrong, or embarrass themselves in some way? Thankfully, this guide addresses the huge problem of knowing what to say at the right time by teaching a woman to determine what kind of personality their guy has – and thus, what naughty things he wants to hear come out of her mouth.

Of course, probably the best thing that this guide has to offer is actual examples of what you can say. What is unique about these examples is that the author actually puts a three different spins on the same phrase, so you can choose whether to say something in a slightly nicer way, or let it all out and be as naughty as you can. There are tons of real life examples (some sound a little corny, but most of them are either super sweet or really hot) and even mock conversations that illustrate how you might say a particular phrase.

If you don’t want to use the author’s pre-made suggestions on what to say, there’s a section with several “hot” words you can use to build your own dirty talk phrases. This section could be a little bigger for more variety, however, it’s definitely a decent sized list that will get you started.

Some priceless things you will learn from this guide are:

  • How to make him constantly want more. And more. And more.
  • How to avoid saying the wrong thing and getting embarrassed.
  • How to make it sound completely natural, like you’ve been doing it forever.
  • How to make your words more powerful with body language and facial expressions.
  • How to take it to the next level with role play ideas.

Overall, The Dirty Talk Handbook is a worthwhile investment for any woman who wants to try dirty talk, but especially for ladies who are new to the concept. You’ll definitely utilize almost all the information in the book – and you can also get some useful information out of the many bonus products that are included with the download:

  • Pillow Talk 101
  • How To Have Sizzling Phone Sex
  • The Top 100 Sex Secrets
  • 1o1 Romantic Ideas
  • The Secret To Great Sex
  • Classic Kama Sutra
  • The Guide To Great Road Head