Foreplay isn’t always easy – use these easy suggestions in mind when engaging in foreplay with your lover to give her the most amazing orgasms!
Because you are entering the “full sex zone,” you will need to make sure you know just how to please your lady sexually. The more you go out of your way to ensure a pleasurable sexual experience the better. The following are some important tips to use for the sake of your lady’s sexual experience.
What Foreplay Is All About
When it comes to foreplay, think Monopoly: Before you can pass go and collect your $200, you have to make your way around the board (and hope you don’t get sent to jail along the way). So when it comes to your woman, don’t even think about touching her vagina or her breasts until you’ve made your way across her neck, breasts, stomach, thighs, and other less-intimate portions of her body.
When you do make your way to her vagina, if she’s not already wet, then lubricate the area with some personal lubricant or your own saliva. Once she’s fully aroused, her natural lubricant should kick in and make the vagina moist. However, this depends a lot on her age and what part of her menstrual cycle she’s in. So always be ready to apply your own lubricant if needed. Remember: do not use the massage oil as lubricant!
Also make sure to apply the three golden rules: Be gentle, go slow, and have a steady rhythm. Having a steady rhythm over a lengthy period of time (even if your touch isn’t perfect), will do you better than switching back and forth from one technique to another. Although she can slow down, speed up, and even stop to tease you, doing the same to her might just frustrate her enough to want to close up shop.
Fingering
Many women enjoy being penetrated with a finger (those fingernails need to be trimmed). Be sure to start with one finger and don’t add another until her vagina becomes more receptive through her arousal. Move your finger in and out of the vagina very gently. If your lady likes it deep and hard, be sure to do it slowly. Her vagina will be wet inside, so be sure to apply lubricant to her clitoris. Continue stimulating the clitoris while you penetrate her with your finger, dipping it in and out.
Many times you might find you have one hand working the inside of her vagina with your other hand stimulating the clitoris. However, when you have one hand free, use it to stimulate her nipples.
Many women thoroughly enjoy having their clitoris stimulated with the head of their man’s erect penis—a very sexy alternative, so keep this in mind!
Also know that when a woman is on the verge of having an orgasm, she will often grow very still, her body dramatically tense, butt cheeks tightly clenched, and as quiet as a mouse. This is the most crucial point, so it’s imperative that you continue doing what you were doing. Don’t stop or change a thing! While she’s coming, continue going but slow things down and ease up on the pressure just a bit. She’ll push you away when she gets to a point where she can’t take it any more.
Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make
Knowing how to provide your partner with a pleasurable sexual experience is one thing. But just as important is to know what can turn a good thing down the wrong road. The following are some common mistakes that men make.
- You’re too rough. Regardless of age, being too rough is the #1 complaint among women when it comes to men.
- You don’t read her body language and get offended when she tries to guide you. Look—it doesn’t matter how many women you’ve had, every woman is different. So if your woman guides you, don’t take it as criticism. She’s simply teaching you what she likes. When it comes to her body language, if she’s pressing against you, it means she wants you to apply more pressure. When she pulls away, it means she wants you to ease up and be gentle.
- Inconsistent rhythm. Just as she’s climbing her way to an orgasm, you change your technique, sending her sliding back down to the bottom.
- You rush and penetrate her with your fingers too soon. Be sure to stimulate the lips and clitoris first.
- You stop at the worst possible moment. A woman’s orgasm tends to last longer than a man’s. Even when you think your lady is done, she could still be climaxing. If you stop what you’re doing when she’s still climaxing, her orgasm will continue but it will not be anywhere near as pleasurable and cause her to feel horribly robbed.
So keeping all of the above in mind, let’s explore the many pleasures of erotic massage techniques and really get her fire going!