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What You Need To Know About Double Penetration

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Double penetration, known in the trade as DP, is when two objects are put inside of a woman. This could be anal penetration and vaginal penetration or two objects per one orifice. If you are thinking about double penetration and you would like to try it out, there are a few things that you need to know before you get started. Being safe with is essential. Choosing how you are going to get DP’d can be one of the biggest safety issues with the activity. If you are newbie to this sex position, here are a few concerns that you must take into account.

Use Plenty Of Lube

Lube is essential for making your double penetration as comfortable and pleasurable as possible. When you are choosing a lube, make sure that it’s water-based. KY and Astroglide work best with toys and with a real penis. Apply the lube to your vagina and your anus, not just the men or the sex toys. Make sure that you’re not just adding lube to the exterior of your vagina and anus. The walls need to have a lot of lube on them prior to the objects entering you.

Relaxation Is Key

Relaxing the muscles in your anus will make the experience much more pleasurable. The muscles in your anus will naturally contract when the sex toy or the penis starts to go in. You need to learn how to relax the muscles so the toy or the penis can go deep. You will not get the same sensations if the penetrating object can only go in a half inch. Remember to breathe through the experience while keeping all of your anal muscles relaxed.

Consider Using Sex Toys

Sex toys can be one way that you have double penetration yourself. Using dildos, vibrators or butt plugs can make your first experience easy. Sometime it’s better to start out by yourself so you know what you like and how it’s going to feel. Bringing a partner or two partners into the mix when you don’t know if you’re going to like it could make the situation a little awkward. When using sex toys, make sure that you’re using the smaller toy for anal. If you have had a lot of experience with anal sex then you might not need to do this. However, if you’re a newbie to anal you could find a larger dildo very uncomfortable.

MMF Threesome

Many women find it extremely hot to have two guys taking her from both entrances. When you have two guys giving your double penetration, you must be safe. Condoms are a must and the best thing about them is that the condom will offer less resistance than an unprotected penis. When a penis is entering your body it could contract bacteria from your anus so do not allow the men to go inside your ass and then into your vagina. They must stay in the same hole to keep you safe. If you’re going with two penises in your vagina or anus, remember that there is an exponentially higher risk of the condoms breaking. You will need to use a lot of lube if this is what you want to do.

Consider Safety

As stated before, you must wear condoms when having double penetration. It’s also best to be on the pill and have the guys you are having sex with get tested before hand. If you are with your boyfriend and a sex toy, you probably know that he’s clean. It’s best to use a condom on the toy before you put it inside you just to keep the toy safe. Whether your boyfriend is going to enter your vagina or give you anal, it’s always recommended to use a condom with toys. If you aren’t too sure about having a sex toy in your ass, you can always lube up your boyfriend’s fingers. His fingers are going to be much smaller and can easily fit inside you comfortably.

Little Known Fact

Double penetration is reliant on muscle relaxation. One little known fact is that the muscles in your vagina and anus will be more relaxed after having an orgasm. If you are looking for an easy way to make the experience much more pleasurable on the first try, have your boyfriend finger you or give you oral sex before he gives you double penetration. This can also come in handy if you are going to be with two guys because it will cut down on the risk of the condoms breaking while they are inside you.

Anal Sex Orgasm: Myth Or Fact?

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Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable for some women. Others don’t like it at all. However, you might have seen or heard of girls that can climax from anal stimulation. But is it really possible to have an orgasm from anal sex alone?

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Is It True?

Can you have anal orgasm? Yes, you can. “Can” being the operative word here.

Theoretically, all people can have anal orgasms. Some think it’s from the excitement of anal sex, and while there are people who can orgasm from anal sex only, most people will require additional genital stimulation to get off.

Anal Play For Guys

For men, anal orgasms typically are achieved through prostate massage or stimulation. Ladies, that entails you giving him the finger while blowing him. If you don’t feel comfortable with that for safety or other reasons, you can use sex toys specifically designed for that.

Ladies, be gentle. Some men may be tough, some men may like it rough, but nobody likes a finger (or toy) jammed up their bum without some warning first. Everyone loves surprises, unless it’s a finger up the butt. So people, please, talk about this before hand. Use ample amounts of communication and lube before you put your finger up there.

Anal Play For Girls

If you want your girl to have an anal orgasm, try slipping your finger in her anus while giving her oral sex. Sneak it in – sort of. You don’t want to sneak it in, literally, but you need to gradually introduce it while giving oral sex, especially if it’s the first time you’ve done it in the relationship. You can’t just ram a finger in there and expect the magic to happen. This isn’t porn. Or Vegas. This is real sex in real life.

A great technique for anal stimulation for women is placing one finger in the vagina and one finger in the anus, and you manually stimulate her that way.

Getting Off On Anal Sex Only

How do you get that point where you get off on anal by itself? Well, you’ll need to start with equal parts anal and genital stimulation in the beginning, and gradually decrease the genital stimulation while increasing the anal stimulation. By this point, your partner will (hopefully) be very used to getting off this way, and then they will have a postive mental pattern associated with anal play. This is super important.

Why? Because despite what porn or sex tips magazines may have you believe, sex begins and ends in the mind. If you think it’s impossible or difficult to have an anal orgasm, you’re right. But if getting off solely by anal play is a common, regular, every day occurrence in your world, guess what? You’re right too. That’s why it’s super important to create that positive mental connection first.

Other Things To Keep In Mind

What else can you do to create anal orgasm? Eat lots of fiber, so you can clean your pipes on a regular basis. Who wants to talk about this? Nobody. Despite the fact that Oprah did an entire episode on poo, the subject still leaves a nasty taste in people’s mouths. An enema is also a good option to keep things clean down there.

Also, do NOT forget to use lube and LOTS of it. There is no other option. Go slow. Rushing can cause discomfort, pain, or damage.

Using sex toys with big bases are critical so you don’t get anything lost up there. Plenty emergency rooms are filled people who lost toys up there. Yes, we are serious. No it wasn’t us. But trust us, this happens a lot. Friends don’t let friends lose anal toys in someone’s butt, so make sure you and anyone else you know is using the right ones.

Above all, don’t force anything. Forcing sex in any way is always bad, but with anal sex it’s super duper bad. Worst case scenario, someone gets injured or has to go to the hospital. Best case scenario if you force anal? Your partner feels used or angry or hurt. None of which are good and you might as well count yourself out of doing whatever you did ever, ever again. So talk about it first! Agree on everything first! Go slow, use a safe word, and again, lots of lube.

Best Anal Sex Secrets Of 2011

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Anal sex can be fun, but only if you know what you’re doing. You can’t just go in there blindly! The anus doesn’t work like the vagina does – you can’t just stick something in there and expect it to feel amazing. You need to go slow, use lots and lots of lube (as in, when you think you have way too much, you probably have just enough) and start small. The person receiving anal pleasure isn’t going to be getting “pleasure” at all if you rush into it without taking some things into account first and making preparations for a positive experience.

Check out our greatest tips of the year.

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our best tips ever!

We’ve looked long and hard for good resources for you this year, and have had a tough time finding ones that not only offer the truth about anal sex (that you need to be safe, safe, safe) as well as highlight how it can actually feel really incredible! So without further adieu, our favorite resource of the year is:

  • Anal Pleasure For Her (this guide includes pretty much everything you want to know about backdoor action – and some things you probably didn’t – so if you’re looking for an all in one type of guide, this is the one you want to get!)

Make Her Beg For Anal Sex!

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Anal sex is something that women hate, but only do because it makes men happy right?

Wrong!

Tons of women love anal sex. And when you know what you’re doing, they may even request it more than traditional vaginal sex.

Here’s exactly what you’ll need to know in order to get her to beg for anal sex anytime you want.

Lube Is Your Best Friend

Anal sex can be painful to women, and the skin around the anus is exceptionally thin and can tear easily. A good quality oil or water based lube is an absolute must if you are going to go down the Hershey Highway.

Don’t worry if you are using too much lube. It’s better to use half the bottle and ensure that she is comfortable, than to have her jump up in paid and end the sex all together, simply because you were being cheap with the lube.

Start Small At First

Before getting carried away with anal sex, it’s important for her anus to become relaxed and loosened up enough to comfortably fit your cock.

Your best options would be to either use your finger (coating in lube of course) or to use small anal sex toys. Just about every sex store in the world should carry an anal sex starter kit, and these are perfect to help you get things going on the right path.

These kits include toys that start off as tiny as your pinky finger, and get larger and larger in size. This will allow you to gently help her to loosen up enough, so that she will feel nothing but pleasure when it’s time for you to insert your cock.

Sh!t Happens

Listen, there is a good chance that things might get pretty messy during anal sex. In adult films, what you don’t realize is that women usually use at least 1-2 enemas before they ever start shooting an anal sex scene.

In real life however, things can and (most likely) will get messy from time to time.

The best advice I can give you is “low lights and baby wipes!” Make sure to keep the lights down low. Candles are perfect in this case. And also remember to have a supply of baby wipes near your bed. Keep in mind, that if the idea of a tiny bit of fecal matter bothers you, then anal sex might not be for you.

Remember The After Care

After the sex is over, don’t just roll over and go to sleep (or ask her to make you a sandwich). Instead, help her to get cleaned up, or even join her in the shower. Let her know how much you enjoyed the sex, and how much you appreciate her letting you put it in her back door.

If you skip the after care, then prepare for her to never allow you to get really dirty with her again.

How Much Anal Sex Is Too Much?

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Anal sex requires some gentleness to begin with – you’ve really got to be aware of how hard you’re going, how fast you’re going and how much lube you’re using (probably not enough!) If you follow all of the anal sex “rules,” you should be pretty safe – but what if you’re doing it pretty much non-stop? Sure, you’re observing all of the precautions, but how can you tell if you’ve gone overboard with the backdoor action?

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Taking Precautions With Anal Sex

If you’ve read anything about anal sex at all, you probably already know that you have to take precautions. It’s not at all like vaginal sex. The anus doesn’t lubricate itself, so you want to make sure to use plenty of lube when you do engage in the backdoor fun. Also, going slow, communicating and working your way up in size (do not start with a giant dildo) is in order when it comes to anal sex. The tissue of the anus is very tender and thin, and can tear easily, so always be gentle and slow!

Make Sure You’re Relaxed And Aroused

A vagina can often be penetrated at any time – lube or no lube. There have been countless women who have succumbed to their partner’s wishes for a “quickie” and got it on without being relaxed or aroused – but the sex still took place, right? Not so with anal sex. The receiving partner must be relaxed and aroused for this to work properly! If the anus is not relaxed, it is going to be much, much more difficult for anything to be inserted – if it is possible at all.

Also, lube is not optional for anal sex! You may think it is for vaginal sex (and in some cases it is, but lube is always handy), but it is absolutely MANDATORY for backdoor action! Use a good, thick lube that doesn’t get sticky or dry out easily.

Starting With Sex Toys

A lot of people like to start anal play by using sex toys. This is because they can start small and work their way up (often, starting with just the fingers or a penis is too much at first) – and that’s a good thing. You can start with a tiny butt plug (they make ones that are really small) and graduate to larger objects as you become accustomed to the feeling. Always make sure that your anal sex toys have a flared or ring style base, or they can get lost in there!

When To Stop

It’s not hard to tell when you’ve had enough anal sex – in fact, knowing when to put the brakes on things is relatively easy. If you experience pain at all, it’s time to stop! Plain and simple. There’s no grey areas here – if it hurts at all, find something else to do! Other reasons to stop may be if you notice any bleeding, or if you just feel like something isn’t right. Listen to your body and when it tells you that it’s had enough, you should know it!

The “amount” of anal sex that crosses the line varies from person to person. One person may not be able to tolerate as much as another, so only you will know what the right “amount” is for you. Again, let your body guide you. If you feel discomfort, pain or just want to stop, go ahead and stop!

A Note On Desensitizing Lubes

Never use a desensitizing lube on your anus during any type of anal play. This actually “numbs” the area from feeling pain – which can seem like a good thing, but it’s not. If you’re not aware of any pain during anal sex, it’s likely something could go very wrong and you wouldn’t be aware of it until later. Pain is your body’s way of saying “Stop!”

Symptoms Of Anal Sex That Is Too Intense

If you’re having anal sex that is too intense or goes overboard, you may notice these things:

  • If you’ve been using big sex toys, such as a large butt plug (or your partner has a really big penis), you may notice that your anus stretches and it becomes more and more difficult to control your bowel movements
  • Pain or discomfort that goes beyond just when you’re having anal sex
  • Bleeding or hemorrhoids

Communicating With Your Partner

Communication is essential for successful anal sex. You want to be in constant communication about what feels good, and more specifically, what doesn’t. If something hurts, don’t be tempted to just “endure it” or “push through it” just because your partner enjoys it. And if you’re the giving partner, you definitely want to be asking your lover if everything is going okay on a regular basis.