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6 Hot New Sex Tips To Try Tonight!

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Sex tips are a great way to keep your sex life inspired. Whether you’re getting tired of the same old missionary style, or you’re looking to expand your already amazing sex life, sex tips can take you over the hump. If you and your partner are looking for a way to increase the amount of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship, these sex tips can easily help you out. Here are 5 hot new sex tips to try tonight.

1. Roleplay With Your Partner

Role play isn’t for everybody. There are of men and women that get embarrassed over putting on a costume or having to improv sexy talk. If you and your partner are comfortable with it, role playing can be a great way to put some new kink into your sex life. Some of the most common forms of roleplay involve one partner being dominant and the other being submissive.

Before you start to role play, you should always determine who is going to be dominant and who is going to be submissive. If you want to switch it up in the middle of the role playing then this is fine too. The key is to find a healthy balance so the both of you are satisfied in the end.

2. Set Up Barriers

This is something that is commonly found in the pick up artist community, but it works well with couples also. Barriers are basically used to increase sexual tension. Pick up artists use this to increase sexual tension in an environment that cannot be used for sex. For instance, talking dirty to a girl in a restaurant or getting a her turned on in a nightclub.

You can’t have sex in a nightclub or in a restaurant, so the girl feels safe and more likely to respond in a positive manner. Go out to dinner with your partner and use the barriers to your advantage. Get the sexual tension so high that you can’t wait to get home.

3. Switch Up The Dominance

There are a lot of guys and girls that love to be either dominant or submissive in the bedroom. One of the best ways that you can get out of your comfort zone and experience something different is to switch up the dominance. Instead of always having your boyfriend or girlfriend being the dominant one, take control.

If you’re the one who always takes control, be submissive. In the middle of sex, switch roles so that you are either dominant or submissive. This will not only increase the sexual tension and create a really fun environment for experimentation, it can also expose you to new and creative ways of taking or letting go of control.

4. Use Sex Toys

There are too many couples who rely on their bodies for sexual pleasure. If you haven’t tried sex toys yet, do it. Take a trip to the adult store together and pick out a small vibrator or dildo for your girlfriend. You also might want to try out a cock ring or a vibrating condom. Sex toys are there to enhance your sex life, not replace it.

So many couples think that sex toys are a form of “cheating” or “copping out.” Just because you have a really intense orgasm with a vibrator doesn’t mean that your guy isn’t a good lover. Try out some sex toys to get things rolling or to take your orgasms to the next level.

5. Remove Anxieties

With kids, work, housework or whatever else you have in your life, the last thing that you or your partner wants to do is have sex. Sex is about having fun and it can be an escape from life, however, there are things that your sexual urges can’t overcome. Remove the anxieties from life so you can focus on your sex life. Try to help your partner out on a daily basis so you both have less stress and anxiety in your lives. This will go a long way with your sex life.

6. Double Down On Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for having great sex. While this is not secret, so many men and women tend to forget it when they are in a long-term relationship. It’s way to easy to get to the big show immediately. Take the time that you normally spend on foreplay and double it. If you normally spend about 5 minutes on foreplay, extend it to 10 minutes.

Mix up what you normally do so your partner is surprised. Going from kissing to oral sex is a staple. Mix it up so you are kissing and then giving oral sex and then back to kissing or just fingering. This will make a big difference in the way that your partner gets turned on.

8 Sizzling Foreplay Techniques

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Foreplay is a must for incredible sex, but it’s important to mix it up. Check out these super hot foreplay suggestions for a night of amazing passion!

1. Cup Her Vulva

Using the heel of your palm as your guide, place it on her mons so that the upper palm (the inside of your lowest finger knuckles) is directly over her clitoris, and your fingers curl down over her lips. Just this light pressure should feel very good for her and the warmth from your hand may be enough to begin to arouse her.

You can take it one big step further from here with a light massaging motion. First, press with the heel of your hand, then the palm, then the fingers. This stimulates her mound, clitoris and labia in a continuous wave. Explore different pressures and speeds to gauge her reaction.

2. Beat Of The Drum

From the same position as described above, raise your palm up and slide the heel of your hand back just a bit so that it rests on her pubic bone. With your fingers curled, drum your fingertips gently along the mound without touching the clit or labia directly.

The vibrations from your light tapping will stimulate her entire vulva and wake up her skin, sending a signal to her clitoris to prepare for the more intense vibrations to come. Hopefully, this elicits some sighs or moans from her, but if not be sure to keep an eye out for signs of swelling, redness and lubrication to indicate her arousal.

3. Rumble In The Jungle

This impressive move could literally convince her you’ve brought a vibrator to bed, especially if she’s blindfolded – and is likely to be a favorite for getting her close to her first Big O. You might even be able to take her right over the edge with this, so if she is multi-orgasmic (or wants to be) you should try this one on for size.

Based on the last two moves, this is an extra intense technique that you may not be able to do for very long at one time, so make sure she’s already turned on before you whip this out.

Once you are in the cupping position described above, you are going to keep light pressure throughout your whole hand and wriggle it back and forth. You can start slow, but you want to warm up to a good speed. Don’t move your arm at all. Your hand should move very little and if you aren’t used to the muscle movements, you may tire out quickly. To avoid cramping up, practice your moves beforehand so you have an idea of what muscle groups you are going to be working out and how long you can keep it up.

4. Her Easy Button

Turn around to face her. From between her thighs, you have full access to her genitals and can bring her to orgasm with a great view! This first move might not be enough to bring her to a clitoral orgasm, but it will stimulate the shaft buried deep inside and help open her up for penetration. If you want to try for a vaginal or combo orgasm, this is a great way to get started.

Without opening her lips, reach your thumb between them and find the clitoral hood, at the top of the cleft of her inner labia. With your thumb above the clitoral hood you should be able to feel her clitoris through its protective covering.

If she is very turned on, it might swell or pulse under your touch. Briefly, but firmly, press the pad of your digit directly on top of the clitoris, for no more than four seconds or until she starts to squirm or squeal. Release and give her some time to recover.

The building pressure under your thumb stimulates the internal stem of the clitoris.

5. The Metronome

Playing some sexy beats in the background can be a big help during sex, especially for techniques like those I’ve already mentioned. It works particularly well for this one as well. Regular rhythms allow her to tune in to the resonant frequency of your movement and ride it all the way to orgasm, so when you are tapping, drumming, pressing or pumping at regular intervals, use some tunes to keep rhythm, so she can really get into your groove.

This particular tip involves tapping on the clitoris with the index or middle finger, rather than pressing with the thumb.

6. Wax On, Wax Off

A great way to ease into parting the vaginal lips, so as to get a closer look at the clit, is with labia massage. Curl your hands and rest the backs of your fingers against the cleft of her inner thighs. Turning your hands slightly, slowly stroke the entire length of the outer labia, back and forth,using the pads of your thumbs along.

As she becomes lubricated, you can blow lightly on her vulva, cooling the wet areas with shocking pleasure. If she doesn’t get lubricated enough to wet her inner lips and clit, use your tongue to get her nice and slick, before giving her a puff of intense air to send a shiver down her spine.

7. Ring Around The Rosie

You can try this vulva massage technique using your thumbs, or your index and middle finger together like a little wand. Massage in an oval around the top of her mons, which will stimulate her clit, then down one side of her outer labia, across her perineum (don’t penetrate her just yet) and back up the other side of the labia.

The second time around, imagine her vulva is differentiated like the face of a clock, and at each “number” along the way, pause and make three small circles. Try again with more circles and see if you can determine where – say 2 and 10 o’clock – she really responds to stimulation. This is the perfect way to find her hottest spots for touching later, with fingers or tongue.

8. U-Turn

The U-Spot can be an incredibly sensitive spot, so you don’t want to go touching it with your bare fingers until she is well lubricated. Make sure you have some lube on hand if you want to try this technique.

Spread her outer lips apart from above while facing her directly. Use your other hand to gently separate her inner labia and look for her urethra, the small spot between her vagina and her clitoris. If you can’t see it immediately, lick her with just the tip of your tongue over this location, without touching her clit or penetrating her. When stimulated, this little spot may become erect, but if not you will be able to tell when you hit it by her squeals of delight!

4 Erotic Places To Make Out

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Kissing can be a super hot prelude to sex, but you can’t make out on your couch all the time and expect it to be good. Move the party to one of these sexy places!

Making out on the bed is a top choice for most couples. It is convenient, offers plenty of privacy and makes cleaning up easy if the bathroom is just a few steps away. But if you want to enjoy truly mind-blowing, uninhibited sex, there is no better way than to let your imagination and creativity take over. If you need a little help, these are 4 of the best places to have sex – outside of your own home, no less! Push your boundaries and give your girl the most wondrous, passionate sex she has ever imagined!

1. In The Car

The back seat of the car isn’t the most comfortable place to make out. But it is nonetheless an ultra hot place for an afternoon (or night) of romp, simply because it gives a glimpse of the great outdoors while still offering a little privacy of sorts. Did I also mention car sex is one of the most sought-after sexual fantasies of women? Enough said.

Bonus Tip: The drive-in makes for a perfect excuse to get away for the night and have a good time right in your car. And you have plenty of time before the end credits start rolling, for sure!

2. The Great Outdoors

There is something about having sex outdoors that turns women on. It is the added thrill that someone else may just swing by and catch both of you in the act. Just make sure you are in a relatively secluded spot, where you can enjoy nature and the cool night sky in their splendor.

3. In The Pool

If you have a private swimming pool, great! Sex and water goes really well together. Water offers total freedom of movement and the added buoyancy can make kissing and sex a truly exhilarating and extremely sexy experience for her. And well, when both of you are in the pool, most of your clothes are already off!

4. A Date With The Movies

If you are a couple in a stable relationship, why not add some spice to your sex life by going out on a movie date and making out? Of course you should get into a theater that is NOT showing the latest blockbuster. You want some privacy, so choose one that is not crowded and find a place right at the back of the theater. And when the lights go dim, the action will start. Yours… not the movie.

How To Thrust The Right Way

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Sex tips can help you sharpen your game so you’re always getting better at sex. Check out how to penetrate correctly and give your girl incredible orgasms!

There many variations to penetration, thing, but all strokes hang on 3 basic elements of style.

  • Speed
  • Angle
  • Depth

1. Your Speed

Speed, which is very much related to power, is prime consideration for the male orgasm. Going at it hard and fast is the standard masturbating procedure – probably the only pace most men have been working with all their lives. It has been proven to work and many will find it awfully hard to operate any other way.

But since we are not unwitting agents to this whole thing, we can choose to dial the speed up or down. Speed doesn’t control you, you control it.

There are reasons, as you already know, why it’s good to give that “fast” button a rest once in a while. Again, if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll burn out too early or finish with a prematurely blown load. How can you hold off ejaculating when you’re stroking her like there’s no tomorrow?! Be realistic.

Instead, add variety to your style by patterning into different thrusting speeds.

For example, you can do 5 quick strokes followed a slow & deep one. Or 3 slow ones followed by 5 quick dips. Have fun and play around with a variety of speeds, mix it up. Slow it down and speed it up. Create an amusing rhythm or thump to the beat of your booty-music.

2. Your Angle

Stroking isn’t a straight in & out affair, another way of adding sexual variation is through the angle of your penetration. There may be just one point of entry, but there can be different angles of thrust.

Those different sex positions are ultimately about different angles. You’ll find for example, that Doggie is good for the G-spot because it allows you leg support and aim to thrust at the zone where it resides. Missionary Position, on the other hand, has difficulty fully engaging the spot, because in this configuration, the penis is usually angled down. The Woman-on-Top can be a good G-spot position as long as a woman angles her pelvis so you can stroke into it. Different angles of attack result in various sensations for the lusty pair.

When you stroke, you employ the combined efforts of your arms, hips, pelvis, knees and legs. Having physical endorsement as much as this allows you stuff other than simply dart in and out. Your hips and pelvis can do more than straight-up thrusting, and you might not be a great dancer, but you can definitely move those hips around. I’m sure that when you boogie on that dance floor, you also roll them to the sides and in circles.

So WORK IT! The bed is certainly not the place to go shy and timid. Grind into those hip and pelvic maneuvers as you stroke in – go left, right and round & round. And when you’re in deep – wiggle & grind some more, brushing your pubic bone against her clitoris. Try SCOOPING thrusts by pointing your pelvis up as you dive deeper into her. It’s playful, fun and a happy detour from the all too serious jackhammer classic.

3. Your Depth

This refers to how deep into her your equipment goes. Profound, isn’t it?

Women love “full and deep” – but it’s not the only thing they adore – they also love to be made wanting. You don’t need to fire everything all the time and be balls deep with every thump. Going in at various depths automatically creates variety.

You may start by thrusting just the head of your penis – then pull out. Kiss her. Caress or sweep the vulval area. Thrust the head, and pull out again. Do this several times. Go back in, and go deeper each time. Continue to progress until you’re all in. After which, you can really start pounding.

Get the idea? You don’t need to perform full strokes all the time.

Now, a shout out for those endowed with humongous equipment (say, anything 8” and longer). You’ll be lucky to find a woman who can take the fullness of you, your thing may simply not fit her. Don’t get me wrong, large penises rock, but paired with a petite and timid vagina, it’ll just be a waste of meat. She can’t take all of it in with pleasure. It’ll be like running an extra-large catheter up your thing.

So for guys who pack a horse of a penis: Make sure the lady is really aroused before you penetrate. Otherwise, you’ll just really wreck her cervix.

Remember the cervix? It’s the last point where penises go, a dead end of some sort. When a woman is highly aroused, her cervix will rise, giving your schlong more thrusting space. But when you start pounding before the arousal mechanisms kick in, there’s a good chance you’ll bump into her cervix.

It’ll hurt…a lot.

So give her arousal allowance so you’ll have more elbow room to play with. You feel me? OK. After these penetration details, we’ll look at the bigger picture and talk body arrangements. No erotic discourse will ever be adequate without venturing into the wonderful world of Sexual Positions. (Notice that sexual poses are considered primarily for their thrusting potential?) You’ll soon learn that there’s more to these anatomical configurations than meets the eye.

4 Ways To Make Tonight SIZZLE

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Sex tips can help you liven up your sex life and make it hotter than ever! Check out these four sex tips that will turn the heat up on your love life.

Tonight is the night! Well, maybe not, but you and your partner want to make tonight a hot, sweaty, erotic good time! How do you fan the flames of passion and make tonight really, truly hot? You’ll be surprised to learn it takes a lot less than you think.

1. Make Plans For Sex

If you’ve been together for any decent amount of time, you know the “relationships take work” saying. It’s like being young. When you’re a teenager, you can eat whatever you want, barely exercise and you’ll still be in good shape, limber and virile. In your fifties, if you so much as look at a donut, it will make your ass expand like the national debt.

Same is true for relationships. When you first start dating, she’s always ready to go and he’s harder than Chinese arithmetic. The sex flows like wine. Every little thing she does is magic, every move he makes make her feel like he’s a god.

Then reality sets in. You move in, you get jobs, a mortgage, kids, and then you only see your partner at dinner or communicate via the occasional text message. She becomes the one who doesn’t appreciate him, to her he’s just the schmuck who pays the bills.

Maybe it doesn’t get to that extreme, but you see the point. It’s different, the longer you are with someone. The relationship will need more TLC as time goes by. Give it that TLC.

That starts with planning. If you want to make tonight super sexy, you need to set up a plan of attack to make that happen. Single people who just started dating can leave things to chance. People who are married (with or without kids) or people in long term relationships can not.

2. Go On Dates

I know there are tons of studies that say married people have more sex than single people. This is a crock. Married people may have it more regularly, but single people more of it, and it’s usually way hotter. Why? Because they’re dating. People who are dating usually date because they want to get laid. It’s that simple. People who date and get laid usually stop getting laid when they get married. Why? Because they aren’t dating. I’m not saying don’t get married, I’m saying don’t stop dating. If you do tonight won’t be hot or tomorrow.

3. Have Naked Sunday (Or Any Other Day)

Nothing says “make tonight amazing” like easy access. Nothing says easy access like “naked Sunday.” It’s pretty simple. You and your significant other stay home, and stay naked the whole time, whether or not you’re doing anything sexual.

It’s funny how just being naked makes the most innocuous, non-sexual activity go from mundane to fun and flirty to hot and sweaty naughty couple time. You obviously can’t have sex the whole day, Viagra or not, but it will make you and your partner flirt more, touch each other more, snuggle and cuddle more. It’s really good for helping you and your partner embrace your bodies, but the really benefit is the sizzle factor.

So how do you use “naked Sunday” to make tonight incredible? Instead of making it just a date night, make it a ‘naked date night.’ Order takeout, or make dinner at home (an apron is required for cooking. Yes, it’s not ‘naked date night’ 100% but it does prevent burns in highly sensitive places) and rent a movie, or Netflix it. Sit their on the couch, cuddle, play words with friends, or whatever else you two do. But do it naked. That’s hot. You know what’s even hotter? Having other couples over for naked date night. That’s another column.

4. Give A 60 Second Kiss

Start your night with a 60 second kiss. It’s only a minute, which seems like a short, maybe insignificant amount of time. Until you try making out for that amount of time. Trust me. It’s longer than you think, and that’s a good thing. You’ll be making out like teenagers, and that always leads somewhere, and that place is usually deliciously naughty and well worth it.

I recommend starting your night off with the sixty second kiss, especially if you have an evening’s worth of events planned. Why? Because it’s going to be so hot to make out for sixty seconds, and then you can stoke the flames of passion all night long, letting it build over the course of the evening. The anticipation will act like gasoline on the fire and if you feed it just right, that fire will last all night long and well into the morning, and beyond.

I’m all about the sixty second kiss, and I recommend it be done on a daily basis. Doing so keeps the passion going, and builds a reserve tank full of passion and heat, which will not only make tonight size, but many nights in your forseeable future.